Thursday, December 29, 2016

Merry Christmas, Everyone!

It's been a happy week around the household.  The college students came home, the weather was seasonally cool, Christmas lights around the neighborhood provided cheering color and light. The Advent penance service was cleansing and calming, with candlelight and incense, a Gospel reflection, meditative Advent music, and lines that weren't terribly long.  Christmas Eve Mass at Night was beautiful and moving.  Everyone was full of hope and good spirits. It has been a lovely week.

With no cross-country travel plans this year, the holiday preparations didn't seem quite so stressful. Cards were mostly sent by Christmas day. I caved this year on Christmas cards and ordered photo cards. But I had a special gift to go with them! Linoleum block prints of the Madonna and child made by my son!

 I didn't have to do any last minute shopping on Christmas Eve - by the 23rd I was done with buying odds and ends and even had the grocery shopping completed so that on Christmas Eve we had a relaxing day around the house and neighborhood.  Kids watched a movie while I tried to get a head start on wrapping. (Santa and Mrs. Claus were still at work at 3 am..., but fueled by cheap Champagne and chocolate.)
My shopping helper: she sniffs out Frozen merchandise from aisles away.
We had a few pre-Christmas celebrations, but declined a couple of invitations, and, with no kids in a music class this year, also had fewer school events to attend, so the number of scheduled events was just right to get us in the Christmas spirit without feeling overwhelmed.
The local Christmas parade - fun with friends.

Finale of the parade was lighting the Christmas tree 

Easy peasy Christmas cupcakes for a party. 



A friend's clever holiday decoration

Our Lady of Guadalupe celebration, a big event at our parish, which has a large Hispanic population


Post Christmas concert dancers

She's got rhythm

A school trip to the senior residence

Early morning sunrise on a walk with friends.

College kids are home!

Gizzie returns perhaps for the last time

California winter fun
 With the college kids at home the week before Christmas, we planned a few outings, most notable a long awaited trip to Legoland. I think they have wanted to go since they were about six.  We watched a few of the free movies on base, notably Hacksaw Ridge, although the kids saw Moana and Mysterious Beasts and Where to Find Them.  The older boys have been surfing daily.
Tree decorating fun on the last Sunday of Advent




Christmas vacation trip to Legoland. Some friends gave us their free second day tix, and we got another free second day!


Portrait in Lego









Trading minifigures


Handmade reproduction of Neville's wand for a friend

Shhh

Mass at midnight. Why didn't anyone tell me the baby was picking her nose?
Take with the timer back at home
ready to open sibling gifts
The theme this year was hats


Happy Birthday, Jesus!
Catholic beard balm, yum

    

Christmas dinner with cousins: the kids' table

The teenager table

Christmas sunset

Rock nativity

The Cousins' cousins' bus they drove from New York to Canada and down to southern CA.
The kids gave each other presents after Christmas Eve Mass and were very generous to each other. Opening one gift at night lessons some of the wakeful anticipation.  The Christmas morning gifts were a little underwhelming this year, but the kids were grateful and so excited about a trip to the cousins up the road a few hours for Christmas dinner that they didn't whine, but got right to devouring Christmas brunch and tidying up.  We spent a few days up north enjoying time with family and watching movies. I hung out with baby and my sister-in-law while the kids saw Rogue One and Sing.  The older kids got some good surfing in, and we all enjoyed an evening on the beach watching the sunset and seeking sea glass.  In the evenings, we've become lured in by The Crown, and I spent a few indulgent hours lost in an Agatha Christie novel.  

All in all, a very cheerful and satisfying Christmas. I offer my prayer that everyone finds the joy and peace of Christmas in their hearts and throughout the world.

Thursday, December 22, 2016

I finished something!


Christmas cards are mailed, and I finally finished this quilt for baby seven, before she turned three. Don't look closely; you'll see I don't know how to make corners match or the quilting smooth. I apparently need a different foot for my sewing machine to properly quilt. I'm debating ripping out the quilting and redoing it by hand, but then it won't be finished until she goes to college...




Sunday, December 11, 2016

A few links to remember

I linked last week to the article in The Paris Review about Ron Hansen's book.  I forgot to also link to this good article by Dana Gioia on "Poetry of Enchantment," which I originally saw on GretchenJoanna's blog.

I also appreciated this bit of trivia awhile ago from Amy Welborn's always informative blog  about the former poet president of Notre Dame, Fr. Charles O'Donnell, who apparently was born in the town that was the county seat of the county where I grew up.  Greenfield, Indiana, is also the hometown of another Indiana poet, James Whitcomb Riley, who is celebrated with a festival every summer around his birthday. I knew nothing of O'Donnell, but grew up listening to recitations of Riley's verse from my grandmother and ancient fourth grade teacher.  I suppose that part of the reason Fr. Charles O'Donnell is not as renowned as Riley in the county is because he was a Catholic priest and intellectual in a stolid, protestant region.  His poetry is less accessible than Riley's folksy, narrative verse.

For comparison, here are a couple of their poems for this season:

Advent

Hush! Dost hear a calling, Juda,

Like an infant's cry?

Juda, selling doves in market,

Only hears the winds go by.
Hark! Dost hear a footfall beating,

Or is it stir of wings?

Juda, busy tithing cummin,

Does not hear these things.
Lo, is yon a new light breaking,

Now the dark grows deep?

Juda, see, a star, a wonder—

Juda is asleep.
http://poetrynook.com/poet/charles-leo-odonnell

And from Riley:

Child's Christmas Carol:
Christ used to be  like you and me,
When just a lad in Galilee, -
So when we pray, on Christmas Day,
He favours first the prayers we say:
Then waste no tear, but pray with cheer,
This gladdest day of all the year:

O Brother mine of birth Divine,
Upon this natal day of Thine
Bear with our stress of happiness
Nor count our reverence the less
because with glee and jubilee

Our hearts go singing up to Thee.

and this;
Who Santy-Claus Wuz
Jes' a little bit o' feller--I remember still-- 
Ust to almost cry fer Christmas, like a youngster will.
 
Fourth o' July's nothin' to it!--New Year's ain't a smell!
 
Easter-Sunday--Circus-day--jes' all dead in the shell!
 
Lawzy, though! at night, you know, to set around an' hear
 
The  old folks work the story off about the sledge an' deer,
 
An' 'Santy' skootin' round the roof, all wrapt in fur an' fuzz--
 
Long afore
 
I knowed who
 
'Santy-Claus' wuz!
 

Ust to wait, an' set up late, a week er two ahead;
 
Couldn't hardly keep awake, ner wouldn't go to bed;
 
Kittle stewin' on the fire, an' Mother settin' here
 
Darnin' socks, an' rockin' in the skreeky rockin'-cheer;
 
Pap gap', an' wonder where it wuz the money went,
 
An' quar'l with his frosted heels, an' spill his liniment;
 
An' me a-dreamin' sleigh-bells when the clock 'ud whir an' buzz,
 
Long afore
 
I knowed who
 
'Santy-Claus' wuz!
 
... and it goes on for a few more verses.  Most likely both of them will be forgotten and neglected by readers before too much longer, and perhaps that is no great loss.  Riley's verse has much in common with Gioia's claim that poetry is an ancient art, universal in human experience, originally performed as a form of oral culture.  I admit I like reading out loud his poetry, which tries to capture the experiences, feelings, and dialect of the people of his time and place, although the dialect sounds nothing like what I hear in Indiana accents.

O'Donnell's poetry also captures universal feelings and experiences, but perhaps his audience is smaller. Here, for instance, is a poem that speaks directly to those who have walked the paths around the lakes at Notre Dame, but is less relevant to others, although walking in the woods is a common experience.
At Notre Dame
So well I love these woods I half believe
There is an intimate fellowship we share;
So many years we breathed the same brave air,
Kept spring in common, and were one to grieve
Summer’s undoing, saw the fall bereave
Us both of beauty, together learned to bear
The weight of winter. When I go other where —
An unreturning journey — I would leave
Some whisper of a song in these old oaks,
A footfall lingering till some distant summer
Another singer down these paths may stray —
The destined one a golden future cloaks —
And he may love them, too, this graced newcomer,
And may remember that I passed this way.
Rev. Charles L. O’Donnell, CSC

Now this poem makes me think about my two oldest boys, whom I haven't seen since August. They will be home this week!! I can't wait - this kind of hopeful expectation adds to the poignancy of the theme of Advent patience and preparation, akin to the meaningfulness of being pregnant of Advent.  I now have more sympathy now for my mom's desire to have everyone home for Christmas!

Tuesday, December 6, 2016

A few book reviews

I was excited to see this review of Mariette in Ecstasy, one of my favorite books by Ron Hansen, in The Paris Review. The link was shared from the Image update. Not only is the book good, but the review by Nick Ripatrazone captures one of the reasons why so well: the strangeness of Catholicism. As the culture becomes more and more secular, it becomes harder and harder to live in it without standing out and harder and harder to explain what it means to be Catholic. Reason seems to be a lost art. One of the few ways to evangelize is through beauty - and the strangeness of Catholicism is often beautiful in its union of mystery and doctrine and liturgy.

Also in the Image update: a review of my sister's CD, which is now out!

I just finished Blackout and All Clear by Connie Willis - over 1000 pages of reading in two weeks. Read about them via Melissa Wiley's blog.  Too many late nights I stayed up reading until my eyelids couldn't stay open. That's the kind of books these are: you have to race through and stay in the story until you reach the last page, the end of the journey. The books are about time travelling historians stuck in World War II London. At times the pace is slow - an editor might cut a couple hundred pages - but I enjoy long reads every now and again because the length allows time to attach to the characters more.  On the other hand, long books take over my life, and I shouldn't be spending time right now on novels with the to-do list growing.  Reading is a form of time travel itself - the reader becomes someone else in another place at another time during which time wrinkles and passes much more quickly.

I didn't mark too many quotes, but my favorite highlights from All Clear were the characters of Sir Godfrey and the vicar of Backbury and the references to Agatha Christie - makes me want to reread some of her mysteries. It's not a scientific science fiction book - the explanation of time travel is a little sketchy, with "the Net" acting as a kind of surrogate for Providence.   Definite religious overtones, especially with the central role of the picture of Jesus as "Light of the World" in St. Paul's and the repetition of the "All will be well" reassurance, but no overt discussion of God or faith, other than this one part, when the small town vicar gives a homily on hope at a bodyless funeral: "But the vital thing is that we act. We do not rely on hope alone, though hope is our bulwark, our light through dark days and darker nights. We also work, and fight, and endure, and it does not matter whether the part we play is large or small. The reason that God marks the fall of the sparrow is that he knows that it is as important to the world as the bulldog or the wolf. . . For it is through deeds that the war will be won, through our kindness and devotion and courage that we make the better world for which we long. So is is with heaven... By our deeds here on earth, in this world so far from the one we long for, we make heaven possible. We not only live in the hope of heaven, but, by each doing our bit, we bring in to pass."

My spiritual book this month was A Right to Be Merry by Mother Mary Francis, which I read again for book club. (2010 was the last time: http://backbayview.blogspot.com/2010/07/postcard-from-road.html)I love this little joyful description of cloistered life and the remarks on simplicity, which reminded me yet again of the importance of making do with less and the freedom of having fewer choices and a regular routine/habit/rule and the discipline of loving the irritable.  I wonder how many young girls now form such a deep love of Christ that they would consider cloistered life as a way of unifying faith and life?  Or am I projecting my own active charism, which in fact many young contemplatives still are discerning such a call?

The book is a great read for Advent, which we are marking with our same Advent traditions of lighting the wreath, opening the calendar, and pinning up a few Jesse tree items, but most of our Christmas stuff is still in boxes because of unexpected company this past weekend. Last night was the community's Christmas parade with the tree lighting on our main street after Santa's sleigh went by. Some of the kids were in the parade, but it was too dark to get good photos.

From A Right to Be Merry:
 "Laudate, pueri Praise the Lord, ye children!"

"Virginity is not only a giving, but a receiving" : a fruitful, obedient, noble surrender.

An interesting part on education: "Education worthy of the name is built on integration and correlation of knowledge. It has nothing at all to do with the ability to spout facts like a geyser. Real educations brings to flower the seeds of intelligence in the human mind. Intelligence is quite independent of education, it is true,,, but education is a cultivation of the intelligence; and the blossoms it produces are just as fragrant in the cloister as anywhere else, and just as necessary.  ...

"A cloistered nun who has been trained to relate one science to another will ordinarily be quicker to relate the unfolding mysterious of the spiritual life one to another, and also to recognize the superb paradox on which the interior life is built and in which all mysteries discover their integrity: Humility is exaltation, effacement is enrichment, death is life, and all the other facets of the one splendrous truth which is Love. - cultivated mind cuts through the clutter"

"The greatest grace that a man can have under heaven is to know how to live well with those among whom he dwells. - Br. Giles 

A Trappist wrote to Mother:  "When you are convinced there is no fault or sin, no matter how terrible, of which you are not capable, you will just have begun to understand humility." .. St Clare: "For anger and worry hinder charity in themselves as well as in others." 

Mother writes about the mortification of common life - paying attention to details of job - not selfish feelings, "for one may be more enfeebled by a passing indisposition than another by a grave and prolonged illness"  ... "Gertrude von le Fort wisely observed that we love one another across an abyss." -Everyone has secret pains- there is value in the effort to subdue those pains

"To anyone who thinks that the Gospel cannot be taken quite literally today, I can only borrow St. Andrew's words: 'Come and see!' Wild and sweet our Gospel rule of life may be, wild as the world considers voluntary penance, and sweet as the love of the Man in the Gospel" from Margery Kempe.

"All his life long, a man is walking steadily toward the gate of eternity, so he can never truly make an exit ... The joy of the enclosed contemplative life is stout-fibred and enduring precisely because its roots reach down deep into the rich soil of willing suffering. The choir doors are the binding on the diary of each nun's soul" 

And finally: "See what a small, poor, hidden Lord He is Who lay  unknown in Bethlehem, but held the whole world in His beating human heart. This is our season."  

Last month's book club read was Love and Salt: A Spiritual Friendship in Letters, by Jessica Messman Griffith and Amy Andrews, another good one I think I mentioned already, although our conversation at book club wasn't too in depth about the book. I enjoyed the exploration of Amy's conversion, her struggle with faith and complacency, and Jessica's experience with grief and presence. We were a small group last month, and not everyone had finished the book, and I had read it in the summer, so it wasn't fresh in my mind.  I do remember their letters seeming a bit overwrought at the beginning, but after the both have babies, they seem more grounded, less concerned with self and more concerned with the world and others. What a gift to have a friend with whom to share this thoughts and to be so matched in interests and spiritual inquiry and study!

Some good quotes: Jessica quotes C. S. Lewis: - "How can one be a Christian and remain properly depressed? There is always the threat of resurrection"
and St. Teresa of Avila: "the important thing is not to think much but to love much; and do that which best stirs you to love" Interior Castle.
and The Lord of the Rings : love what you are fitted to love - "you must start somewhere and have some roots"
and Middlemarch  about the fear of living "quiet lives, in unvisited tombs"

Meanwhile, Amy quotes Wendell Berry: "Religious faith begins with the discovery that there is no evidence"
and Steve Martin: "The  young are always beautiful"
and Marilyn Robinson: "Every single one of us is a little civilization built on the ruins of any number of preceding civilizations"
and finally Teilhard de Chardin "I am afraid of the future, too heavy with mystery and too wholly new, toward which time is driving me."

So many words, ideas, and reflections go unnoted.  Were we able to time travel and relive the small details that color our daily lives, would we do better about appreciating them?

Saturday, December 3, 2016

Thanksgiving review

December is here! What has happened since I last wrote? Every day I think I will sit down and put something up on the blog, and then the day disappears.  Part of this is because Baby no longer takes a good long nap. She only napped 2 days this week.  I really, really, really don't want naptime to go away.

We also had the excitement of having the cousins here for the long Thanksgiving weekend. The kids had the whole week off, but I can't really remember that we did much of anything, other than hang out. We had one fun day with friends, and another day of shopping, but we spent a good deal of time at home reading or cleaning or watching movies. On Wednesday, my brother-in-law and his girls came down (my sister-in-law is in Bali), and we went swimming in our pool and to the beach. We also went to the store about 8 times between Wednesday afternoon and Thursday afternoon.  We ate a lot of food on Thursday.  Our retired priest friend came over to bless the house and had the kids sing a Perry Como song - "Bless this House, O Lord."  It was very sweet, but I wanted to pinch all the kids for giggling when Fr. read from Colossians about forgiving your brother and obeying your parents.

After dinner we joined some friends for a pie party, and another friend came by in the evening because she and her kids couldn't come for dinner because they had a prior invite. We sat around sipping Sambuca, my favorite after dinner drink.  So it was a social day, but not a huge crowd day.  I had to suppress a comment when a friend from my exercise group was talking about the logistics of feeding nine. That's normal for us. Ten felt like a small group.

On Friday we went to a famous surf beach, San Onofre, also known as Trestles. We camped at the Marine Corps Base campground that is right on the beach.  I am not a huge fan of seaside camping, but I did finally have the opportunity to just sit and read and watch the sunset since the toddler played happily with her cousins.  We spent a good part of the day there and returned home in time to start laundry and eat leftovers, another wonderful part of the Thanksgiving weekend. Love my husband's turkey pot pie!
The second turkey the brothers fixed - they made a practice turkey Wednesday night. It disappeared in minutes. 

Cheers! Time to eat!
An activity for children waiting to eat. Not Instagrammable.


Beach portraits




This is looking toward the San Onofre Surf Club - you can't really tell from this picture how many people are in the water. A lot. Down by the palm tree are a few little picnic shelters and shower heads nestled in bamboo "rooms"


A flat day





My niece salutes the sky.

Not the prettiest campground, but people love it. This is California camping: RV's on the beach.

They are coming!


Beach ball in the sunset

Good night, sunshine.
Surfing day 2: Grey skies full of rain, but bigger waves

Oops! Some dishes were left in the dishwasher and grew a beard!
For your listening pleasure - to practice for the Epiphany house blessing:

Reading is one form of escape. Running for your life is another.
-Lemony Snicket