Showing posts with label college. Show all posts
Showing posts with label college. Show all posts

Sunday, August 2, 2015

It takes more than just lemon juice!

I loved this story and was once again reminded that we all have room for self improvement, if we only would  examine our lives more often.
I love Sundays and the things that I learn on how to be a better daughter, wife and Mother!
Good Night dear friends!

"Some years ago there was a news story about a man who believed that if he rubbed lemon juice on his face, it would make him invisible to cameras. So he put lemon juice all over his face, went out, and robbed two banks. Not much later he was arrested when his image was broadcast over the evening news. When police showed the man the videos of himself from the security cameras, he couldn’t believe his eyes. “But I had lemon juice on my face!” he protested.3
When a scientist at Cornell University heard about this story, he was intrigued that a man could be so painfully unaware of his own incompetence. To determine whether this was a general problem, two researchers invited college students to participate in a series of tests on various life skills and then asked them to rate how they did. The students who performed poorly were the least accurate at evaluating their own performance—some of them estimating their scores to be five times higher than they actually were.4
This study has been replicated in numerous ways, confirming over and over again the same conclusion: many of us have a difficult time seeing ourselves as we truly are, and even successful people overestimate their own contribution and underestimate the contributions that others make.5

It might not be so significant to overestimate how well we drive a car or how far we can drive a golf ball. But when we start believing that our contributions at home, at work, and at church are greater than they actually are, we blind ourselves to blessings and opportunities to improve ourselves in significant and profound ways."

Friday, March 13, 2015

Goodbyes!

I have never liked Goodbyes!
When the kids come home to visit from college, I cry so hard when they leave. I am very grateful for the time we had, but always miss them before they even get out of the driveway.
I cried at the airport when I left Brad, Krystal and Kai! I knew it would be awhile before we see each other again and I am sure Kai will grow quite a bit between that time, hard to miss that!

Today, I went and spent the day with Amy and the girls. As I was saying goodbye tonight Angie, asked me when we could see each other agai :) I realized that just like this quote says... I am very lucky to have many people in my life, that makes saying goodbye hard!
Yes, I am very blessed!
Good night dear friends, so glad I don't have to say Good Bye to you, just Good Night!


Tuesday, June 10, 2014

A time for all Seasons!

I liked this article by Jason Wright about his daughter getting ready to head off to college.  I well remember when Amy was getting ready to leave for college. I remember feeling like my heart was going to break. Even though I am not sure she felt the same way at the time. She was the oldest and ready to head out the door and have some new life experiences. Although I felt like I was losing one of my best friends, my right arm and my baby ( who grew up way too fast ). I remember wanted to make a slide show or something with a song that would tell her how much we loved her and yet have photos of all of us together, so she would know her family would miss her terribly. I guess now I am glad that I didn't make that slide show...it probably would be the big JOKE of the family. But still to this day when I hear that song, I think of Amy! She was a big part of my world, my first child and I couldn't hardly comprehend having her go. 
Now years later, I am grateful that I did let her go, did let her experience life and the choices that she needed to. I am thankful for the education she got. I am grateful for all the learning experiences that she had and for the great Mother and Wife she has become. The hard thing is...I felt the same way with all four of my kids. Yes, my heart has taken a beating with these kids. But what a blessing to see what wonderful adults they have become and how much better the world is ...with them in it! I am proud and like I said...I totally know where Jason and his wife are coming from. I know everything has it's time and season but it doesn't make any easier on a parents heart. 
This advice to High School Graduates, is great advice for actually all of us. 
Good night dear friends!

5 Things every High School Grad should do this summer!

This week my oldest child Oakli graduates from high school. Where did the time go?
Last year she was learning to walk; now she’s walking across the stage.
Last week she was in the 3rd grade; now she’s 3rd in her class.
Yesterday she answered everything we said with one word: “Why?” Now she’s heading to the “Y” – as in BYU.
As you might guess, I've thought a lot about this transition and I’m not sure which one of us is less prepared for it all. (Oh, who am I kidding? It’s the guy on the byline.)
With summer here for my daughter and several million other graduating seniors across the country, I've been considering the must-do items before we pack her for Provo. Perhaps these suggestions might work for your grad, too.
First, every child leaving the nest this fall should spend as much time as possible with s, iblings. Take them to lunch. Read them books. Push them on the swings. Grads, your relationship with them is about to change - forever. Savor summer afternoons with them while you can. If you don’t have siblings, get permission and borrow the neighbors. They won’t mind.
Second, if you don’t already have a few go-to meals to cook in a pinch, find them. Even if you’ll be living in a dorm and eating in the cafeteria, spend time with mom or dad in the kitchen learning how to make a few things that remind you of home. Take long breaths at the oven. Wear your mom’s ugly apron. Stick your finger in the bowl. Learn the recipes and discover that the experience really isn’t about cooking.
Third, make a list of people who've impacted your life for good and write them a letter. No emails, texts or Facebook messages will do. Splurge for stationary or “borrow” from your mom’s stash, sit at your dining room table and write them by hand. Knock out a few every week and you’ll be done in no time. Let them know what you've learned and how they've been a blessing in your life. Tell them you love them and recognize their role in your long arc to heaven will never be forgotten. If there isn't a minimum of ten people on your list, try harder.
Fourth, learn to really listen to your Heavenly Father. If you’re like most teenagers, you've done a lot of talking to God through the years. “Bless the food. Help us to drive home safely. Help me get an A on this Geometry test. Please make my parents less crazy.” You’ll still do plenty of asking, but use this time to really listen to your Father in heaven’s plan for you. With diligence, sincerity and by investing real time on your knees, you’ll discover that prayer isn’t a monologue. It’s a conversation.
Finally, when your mom and dad look you in the eyes, put their hands on your shoulders and take advantage of yet another teaching opportunity, just listen. Because, hypothetically, when your dad was young, he might have rolled his eyes at those moments. When his own father offered a loving course correction, too often that petulant kid may have thought he already had life all figured out. But now, as an adult with kids of his own, he’d give anything to go back in time and have his dad, smelling of grass clippings and hard work, wrap his big arms around that boy’s scrawny frame and turn the most mundane moment into a life lesson.
Don’t leave home with a list of what ifs. Remember that regrets are the permanent tattoos of emotions, and you know how parents feel about tattoos.
There is no guarantee these five suggestions will reduce the torrent of tears for anyone when the rental car pulls away from the crowded dorm parking lot. But if you give them a try, you just might have the best summer of your life.
And even if you don’t, your family sure will.
You can read more of Jason's articles HERE:
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Thursday, May 22, 2014

Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy!

Heard this story on the news the other day...I couldn't believe it. Can you just imagine this happening to your college students; or happening to yourself while you were in college? All I kept thinking during that news report was of two things! One how grateful that woman and her family must have been, and two ...how proud their parents must be of them. That is an amazing story and so the old saying is true. "Honesty is always the best policy!"
Good night dear friends!
PS Ok the 3rd thing that I was thinking about after reading this story and seeing their couch was (as a Mom ) I hope they took some of the gratitude money and got a cleaner couch! :)

New York Roomies Return $41,000 Found In Thrift-Store Couch
(CNN) Many of us find money in our couch. A few quarters here and a few dimes there. If we're lucky, maybe enough to buy a drink.

Imagine finding enough to buy a small coffee stand.

Three New York roommates, investigating the cause of their thrift-store couch's lumpiness, discovered $41,000 hidden in envelopes tucked in the old sofa.

Lara Russo said she and roommate Reese Werkhoven were sitting on the couch, watching a Harry Potter movie, when he unzipped one of the cushions to see what was making it uncomfortable and found a small package.

"It was just in a bubble-wrap container," Werkhoven told "Erin Burnett OutFront." "We were like, 'Oh, my God. This might be drugs, it might be money; we're getting scared about it."

It was money, a stack of $100 bills an inch and a half high. The two started "freaking out" and went into a bedroom to show Cally Guasti. Her first impulse was to lock the doors in case it was drug money and the owner wanted it back.

The roommates found more envelopes in the couch, which they had bought at the Salvation Army for $20. One of the envelopes had a name on it.

Like many a wise man, Werkhoven turned to his mother for advice. She investigated the name and texted her son a phone number to call.

He said he hung up the first time when an older woman answered.

He called back, according to CNN affiliate WCBS, and told the woman he had "found something that I think is yours."

What is it? she asked.

A couch.

"Oh my God, I left a lot of money in that couch," the woman told Werkhoven.

The woman told the roommates that family members had mistakenly donated the couch, where she had been stashing the loot.

"This was her life savings, and she actually said something really beautiful like, 'This is my husband looking down on me, and this was supposed to happen,'" Guasti told WCBS.

Russo said at first they played around with the idea of what to do with the money, but the thought of buying new stuff gave way to doing the right thing.

"I think all of us were under the understanding that even if we spent it, we wouldn't feel good about it," she told CNN. "We would have felt we took something that was not ours. It didn't make sense -- it was her money, she deserved it."

According to WCBS, the woman, who wants to remain anonymous, gave the roommates a reward of $1,000.

They didn't rush out and get a new couch. After all, this one might smell, but it is pretty lucky.

By Steve Almasy
Found the story HERE:
Sitting on a goldmine: Roommates Reese Werkhoven, Cally Guasti and Lara Russo, pictured, bought a smelly secondhand couch, seen above, from a charity store for $20 they had no clue about its real value
Found their photo Here:

Tuesday, April 29, 2014

A better way!

Neat story of some college student, that wanted something better.
Fifty years later, successful entrepreneur remembers the dirty laundry
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Jim Yates of Flint Hill, Va., has fond memories of dirty laundry.
Fifty years ago, Yates learned a lesson a midst soiled shirts, skirts, slacks and socks. It was a simple observation that over time fueled a wildly successful business career: In both your personal life and in business, you can either complain about problems, or you can find solutions.
In 1962, as a young college student in rugged and rural southwest Virginia, Yates quickly grew frustrated with the dysfunctional campus laundry. The facility was run by members of the football team as a requisite of their scholarship package, and doors were scheduled to open each evening after classes. Naturally, students were eager to get it done and get on with their nightly routines.
It might have sounded like a good idea in a campus conference room or scribbled on a coach’s notepad. But in practice, it was a triple-X mess.
Players were almost always late to unlock the doors and power up the equipment. While they took their time eating dinner or relaxing before work, grouchy undergrads waited outside in lines that seemed longer each day.
Yates was one of those students standing in the heat and humidity or cold and snow. As his friends stood and steamed, Yates knew there just had to be a better way.
So, he found one.
Doing his homework and beating the streets, Yates discovered a professional laundry 16 miles away and struck a deal to borrow their truck to haul clothes from campus to their facility. In exchange for bringing the business, Yates would handle the billing and earn 25 percent of the revenue.
Knowing it would be difficult for him to gather dirty laundry from students across all of the dormitories, Yates recruited a laundry captain in each building and promised a small percentage of the revenue their dorm generated.
Also recognizing that students didn't always have cash and might use the service more if they didn't have to pay right away from their own pockets, Yates developed a credit system. He meticulously tracked each item and sent the bills to mom and dad.
When others were content to grumble and gripe about a flawed system, Yates created a solution that earned him a healthy five figures during its run. He’d done more than build an extremely successful business; he’d hammered a noticeable dent in the college’s bottom line.
Later, during his senior year, one of the deans summoned Yates to his office and threatened to expel him from school and withhold his degree if he didn't relocate his operation to campus and give a healthy percentage to the school. Yates has never forgotten the dean’s stunning pronouncement. “It’s not right that you’re making more money than some of our professors.”
Valuing the finish line more than the fight, Yates’ days of competing against the college were over. He chose to cooperate, move his business on campus, finish school and get out of town. He left college with much more than a degree.
Five decades have passed and Yates has repeated that problem-solving success many times over. As his wife, Rosemary, likes to say, “Jim can’t necessarily make the gravy, but he sure can make anyone’s gravy better.”
In a recent interview at his home in Virginia’s gorgeous, rolling Rappahannock County, Yates explained that at every stop along his entrepreneurial journey, he’s remained doggedly determined to make respect and complete honesty his calling card. “Don’t ask me what I think,” he says with a smile, “or I’ll tell you.”
When invited more than once to identify a larger theme to his life, no matter how the question is phrased and regardless the context, his answer is always the same. “The Lord’s hand is in all things.”
“Even when the occasional venture floundered or failed?”
“The Lord’s hand is in all things.”
“Even after the heartbreak, the trials, the dozen or so near-death experiences?”
“Yes,” his infectious smile returns.
Over and over through a winding career from cabs to cattle, Yates credits the heavens for the lessons and clings to that mantra with a relentlessly positive attitude. Whether making millions, losing millions or forgiving more debt than most could accumulate in a lifetime, he recognizes the hand that guides his life.
After all these years and all he’s accomplished, Yates’ friends, family and business associates say he’s still just a college student standing outside and thinking of a solution.
But that’s not all he’s thinking. He’s probably wondering why the rest of the world doesn't try the same thing. No complaining, no selfishness and no finger-pointing, just every single one of us recognizing the Lord’s role in our lives and looking for solutions.
He’s right.
There’s got to be a better way.

 You can read more of Jason'a articles HERE:

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Saying good bye again!


I remember when all my kids were little and I wondered how I would ever get them raised and on their own. Shoot, I was just excited when they were potty trained or could buckle their own seatbelts! :) And now here I am, crying off and on all day today. Watching them pack their bags and get all the their stuff collected from the house. How could they be leaving again? Jeff and I will be Empty Nesters again. We did this exact thing last year for 4 months, and were just getting adjusted when Lee came home sick from college. It was so great to have someone home again and now look...we are doing it again! I think that is the one for sure thing  you can say about family life...it is always changing and it always tugs on your heart. 
So I hope I will hold up better tomorrow than I did last year. I should be getting used to this huh? Just ask my kids...good byes are not a good thing for me. But I am glad Lee is  healthier and that both of them are ready to get back to school, for that we are blessed. 
The only thing that would make me feel better tomorrow is if I were having Amy and the girls coming over (but they can't because Angie's in school ). The second thing that I can could think of that would make me feel better...would be if I I go by the Quilt Shop and just touch all the beautiful fabric! :) It's a sickness.... I know! :) But I always tell Jeff there could be worse addictions! :)
And for those of you who still have your little ones at home...trust me, enjoy every minute because they will grow up too fast!
Good night dear friends

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

The power of touch!

When our daughter Amy graduated from Ashmead College for massage, our eyes were opened up the power of touch. As she learned more and more about the body...so did we. The only bad part is when the family gets together, poor Amy is the one every body goes to for their aches and pains! :) She is amazing though.
 For the last few weeks I have been getting massages since I got rear ended. It really helps out a lot on the pain of my neck and back. I am always amazed at our bodies and how everything we need has already been provided for us. So tonight I need to rest some, because the massages wipe me out! It releases toxics from your body and some time it takes a bit for you to get that all cleared out.  But I listed what the benefits are...just in case some of you haven't ever tried it for yourself! If any of you have stress in your life... you have got to try a massage!


The Benefits Of Massage
What exactly are the benefits of receiving massage or bodywork treatments? Useful for all of the conditions listed below and more, massage can:
  • Alleviate low-back pain and improve range of motion.
  • Assist with shorter, easier labor for expectant mothers and shorten maternity hospital stays.
  • Ease medication dependence.
  • Enhance immunity by stimulating lymph flow—the body's natural defense system.
  • Exercise and stretch weak, tight, or atrophied muscles.
  • Help athletes of any level prepare for, and recover from, strenuous workouts.
  • Improve the condition of the body's largest organ—the skin.
  • Increase joint flexibility.
  • Lessen depression and anxiety.
  • Promote tissue regeneration, reducing scar tissue and stretch marks.
  • Pump oxygen and nutrients into tissues and vital organs, improving circulation.
  • Reduce postsurgery adhesions and swelling.
  • Reduce spasms and cramping.
  • Relax and soften injured, tired, and overused muscles.
  • Release endorphins—amino acids that work as the body's natural painkiller.
  • Relieve migraine pain.
A Powerful Ally
There's no denying the power of bodywork. Regardless of the adjectives we assign to it (pampering, rejuvenating, therapeutic) or the reasons we seek it out (a luxurious treat, stress relief, pain management), massage therapy can be a powerful ally in your healthcare regimen.

Experts estimate that upwards of ninety percent of disease is stress related. And perhaps nothing ages us faster, internally and externally, than high stress. While eliminating anxiety and pressure altogether in this fast-paced world may be idealistic, massage can, without a doubt, help manage stress. This translates into:
  • Decreased anxiety.
  • Enhanced sleep quality.
  • Greater energy.
  • Improved concentration.
  • Increased circulation.
  • Reduced fatigue.
Furthermore, clients often report a sense of perspective and clarity after receiving a massage. The emotional balance bodywork provides can often be just as vital and valuable as the more tangible physical benefits.

Research continues to show the enormous benefits of touch—which range from treating chronic diseases, neurological disorders, and injuries, to alleviating the tensions of modern lifestyles. Consequently, the medical community is actively embracing bodywork, and massage is becoming an integral part of hospice care and neonatal intensive care units. Many hospitals are also incorporating on-site massage practitioners and even spas to treat postsurgery or pain patients as part of the recovery process.


"It is more important to know what sort of person has a disease than to know what sort of disease a person has."  -Hippocrates (460-377 B.C.)

"I started practicing yoga. I started learning some hands-on healing stuff. And I found really good chiropractors, really good massage therapists, and what I found is I've been able to actually peel off layers of trauma on my body and actually move better now than I did.~Ricky Williams

Monday, July 26, 2010

I must have a lot of Character!

Today I went to my new Spine Physical Therapist. She was very nice and seemed very knowledgeable. She mostly worked and tested my back and tail bone area. That was the first place to start today, when she read all the notes and asked me about my injuries or surgeries...she just shook her head on what all I have been through. Some days it feels like I have been through a lot and other days it doesn't seem that overwhelming. It is tough though, when you see it written down or when I try to explain all the problem areas or scars that she was asking me about. I read this quote and thought that I must have a lot of character, if that it true! :)

"Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved."  ~ Helen Keller

I will survive, so don't worry about me. Of course I would like to look like my daughter ( in this survivor photo ), as I survive, but I don't that that is going to happen! She is home now for 5 months, hope she survives our quite and slow life? It is nothing compared to college life ( like bridge jumping, repelling cliffs and such )...she is already looking for a job! :)

"Oh, I'm a survivor. My whole life has been surviving."    ~ Eddie Bracken

"Crises refine life.
In them you discover what you are."
    ~ Allen K. Chalmers

"Never never never give up."   ~ Winston Churchill

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Families

Well today was a wonderful day, because our youngest daughter Lauren came home from her first semester of college. She only gets to stay for awhile but oh..................how wonderful it is to have her here and actually to have all the kids together again. For a MOTHER, it doesn't get much better than that! :)

I am so pleased to see how she has adjusted to all  the new things that come with being on your own for the first time, she did very well. She looks so healthy and happy! We are going to have a hard time going to bed tonight because, no one is going to want to miss a minute with each other.

 

"A man travels the world over in search of what he needs, and returns home to find it." ~ George Moore

As soon the kids got together tonight, they started swapping stories about the 4 months that they have been a part and even stories about each other in the past. This story I found in a joke book reminded me, of all of them tonight.

Hearing a scream from the playroom, the mother rushed in and found her infant son pulling the  hair of his four-year-old sister. After separating them, the mother said to the daughter, " Don't be upset with your brother, honey. He didn't know he was hurting you." No sooner had the mother returned to her chores then she heard more screaming. This time she rushed in and found the baby crying. " Now what happened?" she asked.

"Nothing," said the girl, "except that now he knows."  ~ Great Clean Jokes  by Jennifer Hahn

 

I feel so blessed to have my family. Oh we have our problems and struggles, like everyone else but oh...how grateful  I feel to be their mom!

Family 2_edited-1 

"Family life is full of major and minor crises -- the ups and downs of health, success and failure in career, marriage, and divorce -- and all kinds of characters. It is tied to places and events and histories. With all of these felt details, life etches itself into memory and personality. It's difficult to imagine anything more nourishing to the soul."   ~ Thomas Moore

"Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family: Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one."  ~ Jane Howard

"A happy family is but an earlier heaven."  ~ John Bowring

Saturday, January 30, 2010

Not quite the same

While living on my own, going to college and working two jobs I became best friends with one of my roommates. It seemed like even though we came from totally different backgrounds, there was a connection we made ...that was one of a kind. I got a brilliant idea that if I wanted to keep her in my life that I should introduce her to my brother. Long story short...it worked and she has been my sister ever since. I was so excited the day they got married, because I knew then I finally had a SISTER...after having 4 brothers! Now we don't look like sisters but she is from West Virginia and we do sound an awful lot alike and for some reason ...just being around her makes me laugh and happy.

Not only has she become my sister but my personal  nurse. Every time I have had surgery, Shirley has come to be with me. Some how she has made a scary situation more tolerable and no matter what was ahead of me, we would find something to laugh about, that is why this surgery was harder than normal for me ( although is wasn't a terribly tough surgery compared to my others) because Shirley wasn't able to come and be with me. I understood why but for some reason I was dreading the fact that she wasn't going to be with me.  I realized the day of my surgery how very much I had depended on her and how much I appreciated all that she sacrificed to be with me. So when I read this poem, I thought of her...except her name is Shirley.

I really have been blessed with many friends who feel like my sisters and for that I am terribly grateful! Thanks to all of you for your calls, emails and prayers. Today was even a better day, it only hurts when I stand up or sit down! :) So I think things are looking up!

Sister, we've been there through life's sorrow and pain
But together we have always endured the strain
We've argued and bickered and made each other mad
But if you weren't my sister, life would be so sad
We've cried till we laughed and laughed till we cried
Sometimes for no reason we didn't even know why
When we're not together our bond is just as strong
Because we are sisters we know when something is wrong
We've whispered our deepest secrets only sisters could share
I love my sister dearly because she really cares
So whether we are together or we are far apart
Helen,( Shirley) you're my sister, my friend and forever in my heart.  ~ Cyndi Moore

"THERE CAN BE NO SITUATION IN LIFE IN WHICH THE CONVERSATION OF MY DEAR SISTER WILL NOT ADMINISTER SOME COMFORT TO ME."  ~ Mary Worley Montagu