Timing

I read this article on Timing by Dallin H.Oaks and was so impressed with it, I thought I would share it with you. Hope you had a wonderful Sunday!   So here it is, enjoy!

TIMING

The most significant talks changed the listeners' way of thinking about an important subject.. I will attempt to change some listeners' ways of thinking about an important subject--the matter of timing.

I begin with a story I heard many years ago at the inauguration of a university president. It illustrates the importance of timing in university administration. One university president had come to the end of his period of service, and another was just beginning. As a gesture of goodwill, the wise outgoing president handed his young successor three sealed envelopes. "Hold these until you have the first crisis in your administration," he explained. "Then open the first one, and you will find some valuable advice."

It was a year before the new president had a crisis. When he opened the first envelope, he found a single sheet of paper on which were written the words "Blame the prior administration." He followed that advice and survived the crisis.

Two years later he faced another serious challenge to his leadership. He opened the second envelope and read: "Reorganize your administration." He did so, and the reorganization disarmed his critics and gave new impetus to his leadership.

Much later the now-seasoned president encountered his third major crisis. Eagerly he opened the last envelope, anticipating the advice that would provide the solution for his troubles. Again he found a single sheet of paper, but this time it read, "Prepare three envelopes." It was time for new leadership.

The familiar observation that "timing is everything" surely overstates the point, but timing is vital.

In all the important decisions in our lives, what is most important is to do the right thing. Second, and only slightly behind the first, is to do the right thing at the right time. People who do the right thing at the wrong time can be frustrated and ineffective. They can even be confused about whether they made the right choice when what was wrong was not their choice but their timing.

I. The Lord's Timing

My first point on the subject of timing is that the Lord has His own timetable.

Faith means trust--trust in God's will, trust in His way of doing things, and trust in His timetable. We should not try to impose our timetable on His.

II. The Agency of Others

The achievement of some important goals in our lives is subject to more than the timing of the Lord. Some personal achievements are also subject to the agency of others.

III. Applications to Our Lives

Someone has said that life is what happens to us while we are making other plans. Because of things over which we have no control, we cannot plan and bring to pass everything we desire in our lives. Many important things will occur in our lives that we have not planned, and not all of them will be welcome

So what should be done in the meantime? Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ prepares us for whatever life brings. This kind of faith prepares us to deal with life's opportunities.

I return to the subject with which I began. Do not rely on planning every event of your life--even every important event. Stand ready to accept the Lord's planning and the agency of others in matters that inevitably affect you. Plan, of course, but fix your planning on personal commitments that will carry you through no matter what happens.

"LIFE IS ALL ABOUT TIMING...THE UNREACHABLE BECOMES REACHABLE, THE UNAVAILABLE BECOMES AVAILABLE, THE UNATTAINABLE...ATTAINABLE. HAVE THE PATIENCE, WAIT IT OUT IT'S ALL ABOUT TIMING."  ~ Stacey Charter

 

"And what did you do for someone today?"

I think now that I am putting up my Christmas decorations that my heart can't help but turn to Jesus Christ and all that He has done for me. How grateful I am for my knowledge and testimony of Him. It makes Christmas extra special.

Jeff and I went out on a Date night tonight and we went to the movies. Now there are few and movies that I really feel are decent enough to even go to, but this one was great. The moral of the story was just one person who took time out of her busy and full life, to touch the life of someone else. Someone who came from a whole different world than hers and yet she saw past the color of his skin, the clothes on his back, the circumstance which he came from and saw the person. This person felt like he helped her change her life more than she did him. I love those movies that make you feel like being a better person when you leave.

I read an article by Thomas S. Monson. He talked about a man who was taught this very principle every day, by words and example. His name was Jack McConnell, MD. He grew up in the hills of southwest Virginia in the United States as one of seven children of a Methodist minister and a stay-home-mother. Their circumstances were very humble. He recounted that during his childhood, every day as the family sat around the dinner table, his father would ask each one in turn,  " And what did you do for someone today?" The children were determined to do a good turn every day so they could report to their father that they had helped someone. Dr. McConnell calls this exercise his father's most valuable legacy, for that expectation and those words inspired him and his siblings to help others throughout their lives. As they grew and matured, their motivation for providing service changed to an inner desire to help others.

Besides Dr. McConnell's distinguished medical career---where he directed the development of the tuberculosis tine test, participated in the early development of the polio vaccine, supervised the development of Tylenol, and was instrumental in developing the magnetic resonance imaging procedure, or MRI--he created an organization he calls Volunteers in Medicine, which gives retired medical personnel a chance to volunteer at free clinics serving the working uninsured. Dr. McConnell said his leisure time since he retired has "evaporated into 60-hour weeks of unpaid work, but (his) energy level has increased and there is a satisfaction in (his) life that wasn't there before." He made this statement: "In one of those paradoxes of life, I have benefited more from the Volunteers in Medicine than my patients have." There are now over 70 some clinics across the United States.

The Savior taught his disciples, "For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: but whosoever will lose his life for my sake, the same shall save it." I know in my life personally, I am the happiest when I am losing myself in service to others. It helps me keep my problems in perspective and it also makes me feel a warmth and happiness that I just can't find any other way. So tonight I would like to challenge all of you to make this question of "What did I do for someone today?" a daily part of your life, I know that I am going to try and make it more of a habit in our home. Yes, it is the Christmas season, not a better time to start a Christ like tradition in our homes. Good night dear friends!

"Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness."  ~Seneca

"The best portion of a good man's life - his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love."  ~William Wordsworth

"You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late."  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Thank you!

Well, what a wonderful Thanksgiving celebration we had today. We invited two dear families over (that are far from home) so that made it fun! I told Jeff it is weird because most of my life (it seems) like I could remember going to my grandma's house for Thanksgiving and then as I got a bit older then we went to my Mom and Dad's house and since then everyone has passed away or gotten older....now we are the grandparent's house for others to come to. Just can't figure out where all that time went?

I know everyone is busy,tired and stuffed so I won't write much. I just read this quote and thought of all the people who have had such an incredible impact in my life. I thought on this Thanksgiving Day that I wanted to say thanks to all of you. Thanks for believing in me, for never giving up on me and for being there EVERY time I have needed you. I am so grateful to have you in my life!

Happy Thanksgiving!

"In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit."
Albert Schweitzer

It's almost here!

Well, it is getting late and I still have a lot to do ...to get ready for Thanksgiving tomorrow. I am excited, because we get to share it with some dear friends that are coming over. I am also excited because my lungs feel pretty clear and I am breathing better than I have in a couple of weeks.I am also grateful that I am in such a better place than I was a year ago. I was in a lot of pain from my mastectomy and I was also so fearful of what the future would bring. I still worry some but ...I know that I have to do all that I can and just have faith. What will be...will be, and I am just thankful to have another Thanksgiving Day to celebrate.  I will leave you with some sweet and thought provoking Thanksgiving Day quotes that I found. Have a wonderful day tomorrow dear friends!

"Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them,
is the true measure of our thanksgiving."
W.T. Purkiser

"When asked if my cup is half-full or half-empty
my only response is that I am thankful I have a cup."
Sam Lefkowitz

"Thanksgiving, after all, is a word of action."
W. J. Cameron

Be Thankful

I was tired last night and when I went back today, to look at my blog I was disappointed on my writing abilities. I should have gone back a third time and proof read it last night, but I didn't. So tonight I am thankful that you guys like me even if I am not the world's best writer. I read this poem today and really like the idea of looking at our lives in a different way and realizing what our blessings really are!

I had high hopes in getting out Thanksgiving day cards to many of you but since I was down with the flu for over 2 weeks...that didn't happen. But I do want to personally thank you for being my family and my friends. You mean the world to me and truly make my life better by being in it. So just imagine you read this from a very classy homemade card! :) Good night!

Be thankful that you don't already have
everything you desire.
If you did, what would there be
to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don't know something,
for it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations,
Because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge,
Because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes, They will teach you valuable lessons. Be thankful when you're tired and weary,
Because it means you've made an effort.
It's easy to be thankful for the good things.

A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.
Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles, and they will become your blessings.

Unknown

Broken

When I was in Indiana I met a man who after he retired took up the art of carving birds and painting. He said that he just started trying his hand at it because he now had a lot of time on his hands and when he went to a show once, he saw some birds that someone carved and he immediately wanted to take lessons. He also took painting classes. I was amazed as I looked around him and his wife's home that was adorned with all of his beautiful art work. He even took us in his workshop and showed us the blocks of wood the paint, the drawing...I could not believe how incredible his talent was. He also said to me " I never knew I had this talent in me".

So when I read this article by Boyd K. Packer, I immediately asked if I could have a few of the photos of the birds that he had carved, it went perfect for this post. Thanks Jack!  I hope you enjoy this article, I didn't copy the whole story but I love the message that it teaches.

A Broken Bird

 

Over the years, as a diversion, I have carved
wooden birds. Sometimes it would take a year to
complete one. I would get specimens and measure the
feathers and study the colors and then carve them. I
would carve a setting for them. It was very restful.
Sometimes when I would get unsettled, my wife would
say, “Why don’t you go carve a bird!” It was a very
calming thing in my life.

A friend and I were going into
town one day. I had one of the carvings. I was taking
it in to show someone. We had put it on the backseat.
At an intersection, he slammed on the brakes, and the
carving tipped upside down on the floor and broke to
pieces. He pulled over to the side and looked at it. He
was devastated. I was not.
Without thinking, I said, “Forget it. I made it. I can
fix it.” And I did. I made it stronger than it was. I
improved it a bit.

Now, who made you? Who is your Creator? There
is not anything about your life that gets bent or broken
that He cannot fix and will fix. You have to decide. If
some of you have made mistakes and you think you
are broken and cannot be put together, you do not 
understand Christ's mission . You do not know
what the Atonement was about and who the Lord is
and what a power He is in your life. 

 

I really thought this was a very hopeful message and something very important for all of us to remember. How grateful I am for the Savior in my life and for the opportunity to be able to change and be forgiven when that is needed. I  pray all of us will remember that we are all sons and daughter of God and have great potential.

Have a great night!

"And we have seen and do testify that the Father sent the Son to be the Savior of the world."

"Lay the burden at the feet of the Savior." ~ Richard G. Scott

Gratitude for our bodies

Sometimes I think I forget to thank God for this body of mine. I do pray often to keep it moving, going and healthy... but fail to remember what an amazing thing it is. I was reading in the book called STANDING FOR SOMETHING by Gordon B. Hinckley and in there he talks about how we should be grateful for our bodies. Since this is the month that reminds us to be more thankful, I thought I would share an excerpt from his book.

"TO BEGIN WITH, I AM GRATEFUL FOR THE WONDERS OF THE HUMAN BODY AND THE MIRACLE OF THE HUMAN MIND AS CREATIONS OF THE ALMIGHTY. I HAVE IN MY HOME A REASONABLY GOOD SOUND SYSTEM. NOW AND AGAIN I SIT QUIETLY IN THE SEMIDARKNESS AND LISTEN FOR AN HOUR OR SO TO MUSIC THAT HAS ENDURED THROUGH THE CENTURIES BECAUSE OF ITS REMARKABLE QUALITIES. EVERY TIME I LISTEN TO BEETHOVEN'S CONCERTO FOR THE VIOLIN, I MARVEL THAT SUCH A THING COULD COME OF THE MIND OF A MAN. IN MANY RESPECTS, THE COMPOSER WAS MUCH LIKE THE REST OF US. HE GOT HUNGRY, FELT PAIN, AND HAD MOST OF THE PROBLEMS THAT WE ALL HAVE--AND PERHAPS SOME THAT WE DO NOT HAVE. BUT OUT OF THE GENIUS OF HIS MIND CAME A TREMENDOUS BLENDING TO CREATE RARE AND MAGNIFICENT MASTERPIECES OF MUSIC.

HAVE YOU EVER CONTEMPLATED THE WONDER OF YOURSELF, THE EYES WITH WHICH YOU SEE, THE EARS WITH WHICH YOU HEAR, THE VOICE WITH WHICH YOU SPEAK?  NO CAMERA EVER BUILT CAN COMPARE WITH THE HUMAN EYE. NO METHOD OF COMMUNICATION EVER DEVISED CAN COMPARE WITH THE VOICE AND THE EAR. NO PUMP EVER BUILT WILL RUN AS LONG OR AS EFFICIENTLY AS THE HUMAN HEART. WHAT A REMARKABLE CREATURE EACH OF US IS! WE CAN THINK BY DAY AND DREAM BY NIGHT. WE CAN SPEAK AND HEAR, SMELL AND TASTE AND FEEL. WE CAN STORE WHAT WE EXPERIENCE AND LEARN IN A REMARKABLE RETRIEVAL SYSTEM UNMATCHED BY THE MOST SPECTACULAR COMPUTER. WE CAN LEARN AND GROW AND PROGRESS AND BECOME BETTER TOMORROW THEN WE ARE TODAY."

I loved the way he talked about the wonders of our bodies. Some times we are quick to remember what our bodies CAN"T DO ANYMORE ( me included ), but forget to be thankful for all the wonderful things IT CAN DO! I need to remember this more often. I still have so much to be thankful for and this was a wonderful reminder for me. I think when we see a little baby we always acknowledge the wonder and beauty of their little bodies but some how we lose that wonder as we get older and take for granted all that it can do. So tonight, I am grateful for my body, even with all it's illnesses and pains ...I am grateful for it. I hope you will be too. Good night!

"Begin to see yourself as a soul with a body rather than a body with a soul."
Wayne Dyer

"OUR BODIES COMMUNICATE TO US CLEARLY AND SPECIFICALLY, IF WE ARE WILLING TO LISTEN TO THEM."  ~Shakti Gawain

"Wisdom is to the soul what health is to the body."
De Saint-Real

Gratitude

Gratitude Begets Gratitude… "Feeling grateful or appreciative of someone or something in your life actually attracts more of the things that you appreciate and value into your life."--Christiane Northrup

Well I read this quote this morning and thought... I hope this is true. Today I am missing our youngest daughter Lauren, who flew out today for Idaho for Thanksgiving. She has been like a personal... nurse, care giver and friend to all of us, and so it was hard to see her leave. Lee is going to be lonely without her for a week too, because they are only 2 years apart and have been buddies since they were little. She couldn't wait to go though and be with her brother and her sister-in-law. As a mom, it does your heart good that your kids love each other and get along. I believe one of the greatest gifts is to have them be friends with each other.

So I am hoping that if I acknowledge her and all my kids, that they will come back home. What is it about the holidays for a mom? All we really want... is to have our kids all together, that is our GIFT!  My mom's favorite Christmas song was "I'LL BE HOME FOR CHRISTMAS", now as a mom of grown children, I certainly understand why. And the most exciting thing about this Christmas is... that I do get them all home this year!

I am sitting here trying to figure out what I am going to do for the next few days now that I am home bound? When I had my doctor listen to my lungs yesterday, he said that my lungs didn't sound as clear as they did on Wednesday. He doesn't think that is is pneumonia, but I just know that I have to be real careful because it wasn't that long ago that I had pneumonia. I just need to be careful not to catch anything else, I am not contagious he said but very likely to catch something else with my immune system compromised right now. So I am in for the long haul. I am not going to take any chances.

Now that I feel a bit better from the flu, at least my mind is starting to think of things I can do while I am staying home, stockings, quilts, baby gifts, ornaments, gifts and more. No, I am very rarely ever bored! So now that my radio station is playing non-stop Christmas music, I am a happy camper and definitely have MUCH TO BE GRATEFUL FOR!

I hope we all can take more time to stop, think... and acknowledge our many blessings. Thanks for being a blessing to me! Good night!

“You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given you.” — Sarah Ban Breathnach

Getting rid of the splinters in our lives

I loved this article I read about splinters. It is so true that we all have splinters in our lives that are causing us pain or holding us back. We would rather put up with the pain and suffering...than try to get it out and have a healthier life. I hope that when you read this, you will ask yourself the same question as I did ..."what splinters do I need to take care of in my life?". Then I hope we all will have the determination and courage to just do it! Good night dear friends

Get Rid of the Splinter.
By: Sue Dickinson

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Is there something that you already HAVE in your life that is holding you back? The other day, I saw my four year old was limping noticeably. I asked him if something was wrong with his foot, but he replied "no". This happened three or four times before he finally admitted that he had stepped on something and it had gotten into the bottom of his foot. If there is one thing Douglas does not like, it’s mommy or daddy having to remove splinters. He was willing to put up with the pain of the splinter rather than admit that he had a problem. It was hard for me to understand why he preferred the pain of the splinter to the solution. But, he was in denial. He had talked himself into believing that the splinter wasn’t that bad, that it would go away, and that the pain would get better.

We laugh when we see a child behave this way. But do you have a splinter in your life that you are ignoring?

Maybe your health isn’t so great, or you owe too much money. Maybe you are having family problems or are afraid to fly in a plane. I’ll bet almost everybody has something that they are choosing to ignore.

I have a splinter. But I’m not going to tell you what it is. And I won’t ask you about your’s. Because I think the thorns in our life are too personal. It is easy to talk about our goals, our dreams and our schemes. It’s fun to share with people our hopes for the future, especially when we have set solid resolutions to see them to fruition. But, the splinters in our life are different.

For one thing, for a long time, we just choose to ignore our splinters. We behave like Douglas did with the real splinter. We tell ourselves that it’s not so bad, that it will go away. We can handle it. So, although it’s there, we don’t even recognize it.

But then, there is a point in our life when we face the splinter. We realize it won’t get better unless we leave our denial behind, stop ignoring it, and act. Maybe we discuss it with people close to us. Maybe we seek guidance from a doctor or a support group. In fact, sharing the splinter with loved ones or professionals can be very helpful in dealing with the sorrow we are feeling. But, ultimately, when it comes down to the final solution, it is all up to us. With splinters, we can’t expect anyone else to solve it for us. We have to admit it is there, that it needs to change, and that we need to change it.

Brian Tracy said in his book "Focal Point" that one of the great life lessons we all have to learn is that "your life only gets better when you get better". It seems such a simple statement, but has a tremendous impact to our lives when we accept it.

It’s the time for making resolutions, and we should all do that, looking forward to achieving our dreams. I have made several this year. But, I have decided that this is the time to finally deal with my splinter, as well. I’m not looking forward to it. It will be much more difficult, and much more painful than going for my goals. But, I think that unless I do face it, I’ll never be truly happy even if I do achieve my goals. Maybe, in order to achieve our destiny, we have to find the courage to first eliminate the splinters in our lives. Once they are removed, we are free to fly!

"THEY ALWAYS SAY TIME CHANGES THINGS, BUT YOU ACTUALLY HAVE TO CHANGE THEM YOURSELF"  ~Andy Warhol

"THINGS DO NOT CHANGE;WE CHANGE"  ~Henry David Thoreau

 

Motherhood is the best job ever!

When I read this sweet poem I smiled, because I have been where this mother was...many times in my short 27 years of motherhood. I will tell you that I have had the same reaction even at times and yes, later regretted it. The hardest thing about motherhood is, although you have to be everything to everyone, it doesn't mean that you were highly trained in any of those areas. Much of your training is ON THE JOB, so no wonder there are mistakes that are made! :)  You only have to mention certain things to get my kids started on "remember the time when Mom did this or that?" How they can remember those things I will never know but...they do and no matter what ages they are, they make sure to remind me of it ever now and then. I just smile and know that some day, they will be in my very situation and then, and only then... will the LIGHTBULB MOMENT happen to them and all of a sudden I will become a little bit wiser! :) Hope I am not too old to enjoy that moment when it comes! ( I hope my kids are reading this post! )

So enjoy the poem and remember ...those sweet little ones of yours will grow up fast, so try to savor the moment if you can. The nice thing is, that when you are all grown up and a grandma ( NANA ) then your grandkids will be perfect and you won't have worry about things like this any more anyway!  Good night!

"If I had known how wonderful
it would be to have grandchildren,
I'd have had them first."   ~ Lois Wyse 

 

Handwriting on the wall   ~Author Unknown

A weary mother returned from the store,
Lugging groceries through the kitchen door.
Awaiting her arrival was her 8 year old son,
Anxious to relate what his younger brother had done.

While I was out playing and Dad was on a call,
T.J. took his crayons and wrote on the wall
It's on the new paper you just hung in the den.
I told him you'd be mad at having to do it again.

She let out a moan and furrowed her brow,
Where is your little brother right now?
She emptied her arms and with a purposeful stride,
She marched to his closet where he had gone to hide.

She called his full name as she entered his room.
He trembled with fear--he knew that meant doom
For the next ten minutes, she ranted and raved
About the expensive wallpaper and how she had saved.

Lamenting all the work it would take to repair,
She condemned his actions and total lack of care.
The more she scolded, the madder she got,
Then stomped from his room, totally distraught

She headed for the den to confirm her fears.
When she saw the wall, her eyes flooded with tears.
The message she read pierced her soul with a dart.
It said, I love Mommy, surrounded by a heart.

Well, the wallpaper remained, just as she found it,
With an empty picture frame hung to surround it.
A reminder to her, and indeed to all,
Take time to read the handwriting on the wall.

 

"If your baby is 'beautiful and perfect, never cries or fusses,
sleeps on schedule and burps on demand, an angel all the
time,' you're the grandma."
~Teresa Bloomingdale

Or I could add to this quote by saying...or maybe you are the Aunt!"

Because I am a very proud Aunt Lynn too!

It was a long night and day

I have prayed many times since becoming a mother that my kids will be healthy, and if anyone had to be sick...let it be me, rather than them. Actually I do believe that God took me up on that deal most of my life!  :)

But last night Lee got real sick and had stabbing pains in his stomach. I stayed up the whole night watching and praying that I would know what to do. I had a lot of memories when I had the same thing before I had my gall bladder taken out. We tried every home remedy that we could think of but yesterday when the Dr was checking him out, I had a feeling that there was something more than what we thought. We all were up most of the night and then by dawn, I was on the phone with the Doctor.

Jeff stayed home because he was worn out too, plus he knew that I was too sick to take Lee any where, especially the hospital. Ended up that Jeff took him to get blood work done, then an ultrasound and still they had questions so...he ended up with a CT Scan ( those are nasty tests, I remember mine last year). When I talked to the DR earlier in the day, he thought for sure Lee had appendicitis, which would mean surgery. That was a concern for a number of reasons, but one was that he is so sick from this flu that I was hoping not to have  him do surgery while his immune system was so compromised. Finally after a lot of worry and a lot of Prayer ( ok pleading ) we found out that Lee has an infection in his colon, that is why the terrible stabbing pains and  upset stomach. They got  him on an antibiotic and then we have to really watch his diet. He hadn't really slept in almost 48 hours so ...Rest is a must too!

I prayed today that Lee would have the courage and faith he needed to get through the tests today and the results he would be given. I talked to him on the phone a few times and he was  pretty scared. As a mom you always wonder if you have taught your kids everything they will need to know when handling struggles in life? You wonder if  they have in them what it will take to handle these things too.

You know this parenthood stuff is just tough, to watch one of your kids suffer is one of the hardest thing. I am grateful that he did well and that tonight he seems to be in less pain. I am hoping that we all get some sleep tonight.  I need to try and remember this quote when I go to bed....
"EVERY EVENING I TURN MY WORRIES OVER TO GOD. HE'S GOING TO BE UP ALL NIGHT ANYWAY"  ~ Mary C. Crowley

Thanks for all of your thoughts and prayers on the behalf of our family, they truly do make a difference. Reminding some one that they are loved and thought about... is also reminding them that they are not ALONE! And that is an important thing to remember, during some of the toughest challenges in your life. I keep thinking that the next day, month or year ...is going to get better. We have had some really tough challenges all in a row it seems. I feel worn out!   Good night dear friends!

"A day of worry is more exhausting than a day of work."  ~John Lubbock

"CHARACTER CANNOT BE DEVELOPED IN EASE AND QUIET. ONLY THROUGH EXPERIENCES OF TRIAL AND SUFFERING CAN THE SOUL BE STRENGTHENED, VISION CLEARED, AMBITION INSPIRED AND SUCCESS ACHIEVED." ~ Helen Keller 

P.S.  Today was certainly a CHARACTER building days and some times those really HURT!

I need to be thankful!

After 6 days of the flu, I finally got a bit of relief today. My head is still congested, my throat is still sore, my chest is still tight, my breathing is still labored but.....my body aches are gone sooooooooooooooooooooo I need to be thankful! I just got back from the Doctor to make sure that I didn't have pneumonia. I don't but, he still is concerned about my breathing and so he wants to listen to my lungs again on Friday. So I am still going to be home bound for awhile and very careful not to overdo. But another thing to be thankful for is that my knees are  not hurting, why? Because I am doing absolutely nothing! Guess that is the answer, just lay around and do nothing all day, what a life.

Actually my surgical consultation was yesterday for my knees. The results are in, I have 2 torn meniscus on each knee, I have arthritis in both knees and I also have no padding left behind both knee caps so... it is bone on bone when I walk and that is why it hurts so bad. We are trying to decide now if I am going to have the surgery soon or after the holidays. Probably in January some time, that will be a great way to start off the new year....more surgery! :)

So I am trying hard today to be thankful for the little things like....no more body aches, having at least ONE nostril open to breath with, thankful that even though I have the flu, it is not SWINE FLU, and feeling like I might live to tell about this.

I will close with this quote which seems appropriate for me today

"Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful." ~Buddha 

 

 

“Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be.” ~ Grandma Moses

 

"Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it"  ~ Charles R. Swindoll

Living Abundantly

I liked this story because it tells about a man who changed his life when he was 39 years old. We have all heard of people who at all different ages, finally understanding what they wanted in life and they lived a happier and a abundant life ever since.

Why is that? I think many of us just keep going, same old thoughts, jobs, habits, relationships and because we aren't happy, we just figure we need to trudge along and put in our time. What this story reminded me, was to live more abundantly. Learn what I need to do and do it. Find out what makes you  happy! When you find that something you are passionate about...it is like recharging  your batteries. You can hardly wait to get up each day to get started. I know that is much easier said than done. Many times the hardships of life seem to cloud of vision but, I do believe that if each of us tried a little harder to find out purpose then we would live with more intent, we would love our lives! Hopefully this story will make you start thinking about your purpose and when you can get started living it!

As soon as I get over this terrible flu, I am going to get back to my life. I haven't done anything but lay around for 6 days, I am a mess. Hopefully I will start getting better soon!  I pray that each of you, are staying healthy and strong. Good night!

Run With Intent

Buckminster Fuller once said, "The minute you choose to do what you really want to do it's a different kind of life." And it's not about what you're getting PAID to do! If you want to live abundantly, decide what you really want and figure out a way to do it. Be clear and live with intent.
You may have heard of Fred Lebow. Fred complained to his doctor that he lacked energy. His doctor advised him to take up running in order to increase his stamina. He fell in love with it! He was 39 years old when he entered his first race -- and did horribly. He beat only one other contestant…a 72-year-old man. But he loved it!
Fred decided what he really wanted to do -- and he did it in his spare time. He joined the New York Road Runners Club and organized New York City's first marathon race. But what Fred truly wanted to do, even more than run, was to bring people together. And that is what he did. He believe that anybody should be able to run -- people of all ages, any background, professional or amateur, and of any country. Today, more than 28,000 people of all backgrounds and nationalities compete in the NYC Marathon.
Not everyone in New York was excited about people running through their neighborhoods. Fred was approached by a youth gang that warned him that nobody had better run through their turf. "That's great," Fred enthused. "I need someone to protect the runners in your area, and you look like just the fellows to do it." He gave them each a hat, shirt and jacket and that year, when the marathon went through their neighborhood, these young men proudly guarded the runners along their way.
Fred decided what was truly important to him and he found a way to do it. He lived with intent. That single decision made his life remarkably different.
In 1990, Fred Lebow found he had a brain tumor. In 1992 he ran his final race. He crossed the finish line holding the hand of his friend and Norwegian Olympic medalist, Grete Waitz. A bronze statue was created of Fred in his running clothes, checking his watch. It is now placed at the finish line of every race. Fred died in 1994. But as one sports writer said, "Fate handed him a short race. With his gall, with his love of life, Fred Lebow turned it into a marathon."
Fred would say that it's not about how long you live, but how you run the race of life. Do you run it with intent?

~ Steve Goodier ~

"The question is not whether we will die, but how we will live."   ~ Joan Borysenko
Borysenko, Joan

"THE MINUTE YOU CHOOSE TO DO WHAT YOU REALLY WANT TO DO IT'S A DIFFERENT KIND OF LIFE!"  ~Buchminster Fuller

"I don't know what your destiny will be, but one thing I do know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve."   ~ Albert Schweitzer

PS Not sure why this font is little, tried to fix it but... it didn't work. Sorry!

Once again....

I am still very sick and don't have a lot of energy to think, much let write. But as always when I try to think about what to write, I usually feel impressed about certain subjects. Today, I have really felt impressed to repeat my entry from Friday; maybe because I am so tired or because I feel so passionate about the topic, either way here it is ...ONCE AGAIN!

I have been talking to a lot of people lately, who are sad about choices that their kids have made. I do believe as a mom that is one of the hardest things to watch. It doesn't seem to matter what age they are, it still hurts a parent to see their child suffer physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually. I was sewing tonight and listening to Delilah on the radio. Even though she is a radio disc jockey, she sure seems to be a lot more than that. She is a voice of reason, voice of compassion and a voice of "been there, done that...don't follow my bad example." She counsels people in their lives and she isn't afraid to tell it like it is, of course they call her for the advice.  She is honest but loving, and is not afraid to acknowledge God and everyone's need for Him in their lives. I don't know her personally, but I have to admit ...I do believe she is trying to do a lot of good in the world and I could only hope to have that much impact for good.

Tonight she got a call from a young teenager, who wanted a song dedicated to her mom. Her mom jumped into a 2nd marriage without knowing the guy, he turned out not to be what he said he was, and now because of the divorce and the financial burden...they are going to lose their home. The home that she was born in. I personally thought it took a lot for that girl to call and dedicate that song to her mom and to tell her that she loved her very much and together they would make it through this trial. That daughter seemed wise beyond her young years, it seemed that she could have had good reason to be bitter or angry.

So just as hard as it it for us parents to watch our kids make mistakes, I know there are times that our kids look at us and question why we make some of the mistakes we do? Habits and pride seem to have a lot to do with it. The bad type of PRIDE, the one that has to always be right, the one that is defensive, the one that is controlling. Yes, PRIDE can be a terrible thing. Habits are just what the dictionary says... AN ACQUIRED BEHAVIOR PATTERN REGULARLY FOLLOWED UNTIL IT HAS BECOME ALMOST INVOLUNTARY.  CUSTOMARY PRACTICE. A DOMINANT OR REGULAR DISPOSITION OR TENDENCY; PREVAILING CHARACTER OR QUALITY.  

We all come from different backgrounds and life's experiences, and that usually is what we bring into our families. The bad part is ....if it is toxic, harmful and dangerous, we have no business carrying it on to the next generation. I remember well the first day that Jeff went back to work when Amy was born ( our oldest ), my first thought was..."don't live me alone with her, I don't know how to be a mother, there were no instructions that came out with her"...yes, I was terrified when I looked at her and felt the full weight of my responsibility as her mom. It didn't take long to realize what baggage I had carried from my past and that it was threatening to ruin Amy's life. I had come from Abuse and I was scared of everything and everybody. How could I ever go any where with her, what if some one tried to take her or hurt her? Yes, I was a bag of nerves and quickly fell into a deep depression. A few months later I confessed my mental state to Jeff, and together we went to counseling.

I am the first to say that it was the hardest thing I ever did, to face my past and deal with it. But honestly every time I looked into Amy's eyes...I got a renewed strength and determination to give her the safest and best life a girl could have. I found a fight in me that has continued for over 27 years, I would protect my kids and family with my life. However, there is this thing called AGENCY and that is something even a mother... can't control. We can only be the best example to them and then pray like mad, that they will not have to learn too many things the hard way.

Another song that came on tonight made me think of this very subject. I will leave the words with you. I really don't know anything about the artist, but I did love the words and I would sing  them to each of my kids, my nieces, nephews, granddaughters, friends and everyone else I love....if I could.

I pray that each of us will look at our lives and the lives around us that we are effecting, and honestly ask ourselves... are there habits in my life that are unhealthy? Am I happy? Do I love myself? Do I take offense easily? Am I living the type of life that my kids would be proud of and would be safe to follow? Do I have anger that needs to be addressed? Can I look in the mirror and say I am proud of what I see and that I am doing all that can to be my best ...or could I do more and am I willing to CHANGE?

Look into  your sweet children's eyes ( no matter how old they are ) and recommit yourself to try a little harder, forgive a little more and to work hard at overcoming habits that are toxic for you and your family. I promise you it will be worth it!  They deserve it and you deserve it!

"COURAGE IS SIMPLY THE WILLINGNESS TO BE AFRAID AND ACT ANYWAY." ~ Dr. Robert Anthony

Yes, when you're feeling lost in the night
When you feel your world just ain't right
Call on me, I will be waiting
Count on me, I will be there
Anytime the times get too tough
Anytime your best ain't enough
I'll be the one to make it better
I'll be there to protect you, see you through
I'll be there, and there is nothing, I won't do
I will cross the ocean for you
I will go and bring you the moon
I will be your hero, your strength, anything you need
I will be the sun in your sky
I will light your way for all time, promise you
For you I will, yes yeah, yeah
I will shield your heart from the rain
I won't let no harm come your way
Oh, these arms will be your shelter
No, these arms won't let you down
If there is a mountain to move
I will move that mountain for you
I'm here for you, I'm here forever
I will be your fortress tall and strong
I'll keep you safe, I'll stand beside you right or wrong

Lay my life on the line, for you I will fight, oh
For you I will die, with every breath, with all my soul
I'll give my word, I'll give it all
Put your faith in me, put your faith in me
And I'll do anything...oh...
I will... oh...

Too sick to write

I am going to have to just enter a poem or thought tonight because I still have this terrible cold and my whole body hurts to even move at all. I know this too will pass but for now, I just need to lay low and try to get my immune system to kick in here soon.

I read this quote a while ago and liked it, there is a lot of wisdom in it. So enjoy!

AFTER A WHILE    ~unknown

"After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul,

And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't mean security,

And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't promises,

And you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes open, with the grace of an adult, not the grief of a child,

And you learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrow's ground is too  uncertain for plans.

After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much.

So plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.

And you learn that you really can endure...

That you really are strong,

And you really do have worth! "

I promise you!

I have been talking to a lot of people lately, who are sad about choices that their kids have made. I do believe as a mom that is one of the hardest things to watch. It doesn't seem to matter what age they are, it still hurts a parent to see their child suffer physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually. I was sewing tonight and listening to Delilah on the radio. Even though she is a radio disc jockey, she sure seems to be a lot more than that. She is a voice of reason, voice of compassion and a voice of "been there, done that...don't follow my bad example." She counsels people in their lives and she isn't afraid to tell it like it is, of course they call her for the advice.  She is honest but loving, and is not afraid to acknowledge God and everyone's need for Him in their lives. I don't know her personally, but I have to admit ...I do believe she is trying to do a lot of good in the world and I could only hope to have that much impact for good.

Tonight she got a call from a young teenager, who wanted a song dedicated to her mom. Her mom jumped into a 2nd marriage without knowing the guy, he turned out not to be what he said he was, and now because of the divorce and the financial burden...they are going to lose their home. The home that she was born in. I personally thought it took a lot for that girl to call and dedicate that song to her mom and to tell her that she loved her very much and together they would make it through this trial. That daughter seemed wise beyond her young years, it seemed that she could have had good reason to be bitter or angry.

So just as hard as it it for us parents to watch our kids make mistakes, I know there are times that our kids look at us and question why we make some of the mistakes we do? Habits and pride seem to have a lot to do with it. The bad type of PRIDE, the one that has to always be right, the one that is defensive, the one that is controlling. Yes, PRIDE can be a terrible thing. Habits are just what the dictionary says... AN ACQUIRED BEHAVIOR PATTERN REGULARLY FOLLOWED UNTIL IT HAS BECOME ALMOST INVOLUNTARY.  CUSTOMARY PRACTICE. A DOMINANT OR REGULAR DISPOSITION OR TENDENCY; PREVAILING CHARACTER OR QUALITY.  

We all come from different backgrounds and life's experiences, and that usually is what we bring into our families. The bad part is ....if it is toxic, harmful and dangerous, we have no business carrying it on to the next generation. I remember well the first day that Jeff went back to work when Amy was born ( our oldest ), my first thought was..."don't live me alone with her, I don't know how to be a mother, there were no instructions that came out with her"...yes, I was terrified when I looked at her and felt the full weight of my responsibility as her mom. It didn't take long to realize what baggage I had carried from my past and that it was threatening to ruin Amy's life. I had come from Abuse and I was scared of everything and everybody. How could I ever go any where with her, what if some one tried to take her or hurt her? Yes, I was a bag of nerves and quickly fell into a deep depression. A few months later I confessed my mental state to Jeff, and together we went to counseling.

I am the first to say that it was the hardest thing I ever did, to face my past and deal with it. But honestly every time I looked into Amy's eyes...I got a renewed strength and determination to give her the safest and best life a girl could have. I found a fight in me that has continued for over 27 years, I would protect my kids and family with my life. However, there is this thing called AGENCY and that is something even a mother... can't control. We can only be the best example to them and then pray like mad, that they will not have to learn too many things the hard way.

Another song that came on tonight made me think of this very subject. I will leave the words with you. I really don't know anything about the artist, but I did love the words and I would sing  them to each of my kids, my nieces, nephews, granddaughters, friends and everyone else I love....if I could.

I pray that each of us will look at our lives and the lives around us that we are effecting, and honestly ask ourselves... are there habits in my life that are unhealthy? Am I happy? Do I love myself? Do I take offense easily? Am I living the type of life that my kids would be proud of and would be safe to follow? Do I have anger that needs to be addressed? Can I look in the mirror and say I am proud of what I see and that I am doing all that can to be my best ...or could I do more and am I willing to CHANGE?

Look into  your sweet children's eyes ( no matter how old they are ) and recommit yourself to try a little harder, forgive a little more and to work hard at overcoming habits that are toxic for you and your family. I promise you it will be worth it!  They deserve it and you deserve it!

"COURAGE IS SIMPLY THE WILLINGNESS TO BE AFRAID AND ACT ANYWAY." ~ Dr. Robert Anthony

Yes, when you're feeling lost in the night
When you feel your world just ain't right
Call on me, I will be waiting
Count on me, I will be there
Anytime the times get too tough
Anytime your best ain't enough
I'll be the one to make it better
I'll be there to protect you, see you through
I'll be there, and there is nothing, I won't do
I will cross the ocean for you
I will go and bring you the moon
I will be your hero, your strength, anything you need
I will be the sun in your sky
I will light your way for all time, promise you
For you I will, yes yeah, yeah
I will shield your heart from the rain
I won't let no harm come your way
Oh, these arms will be your shelter
No, these arms won't let you down
If there is a mountain to move
I will move that mountain for you
I'm here for you, I'm here forever
I will be your fortress tall and strong
I'll keep you safe, I'll stand beside you right or wrong

Lay my life on the line, for you I will fight, oh
For you I will die, with every breath, with all my soul
I'll give my word, I'll give it all
Put your faith in me, put your faith in me
And I'll do anything...oh...
I will... oh...

Self Test!

This part of an article and these quotes made me stop and think. I do feel that it is good to do some Self Tests once in awhile, to see how we are doing. Try them out yourself!

Respect for Others and Ourselves

“Ask yourself these questions: Am I an example of respect in my home by the way I treat those I love the most? What is my demeanor during a sports event? If my child has a disagreement with a teacher, coach, or peer, do I listen to both sides of the issue? Do I show respect for the property of others as well as take care of my own? How do I respond to others with whom I disagree in matters of religion, lifestyle, or politics? “As parents and leaders exemplify and teach respect for others, we confirm in the hearts of our children that each of us is truly a child of God and all are brothers and sisters through eternity. We will focus on the things we have in common—on the qualities of heart that bind the family of God together, rather than on our differences.”

" You are who you are when no one is looking!"

These make you think!

“ Ordinary riches can be stolen, real riches cannot. In your soul are infinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you.”
— Oscar Wilde

“ I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence, but it comes from within. It is there all the time.”
— Anna Freud

“ Maturity begins to grow when you can sense your concern for others outweighing your concern for yourself” -John MacNaughton

I hope these gave you a chance (like me) to reflect on your life and your choices. Good night!

A year ago today!

I didn't write last night because I went to bed early with the beginning of a cold. My sweet little granddaughter is sick and I guess my immune system isn't as good as I thought it was.

It was a year ago today that I had my mastectomy. That is hard to believe. It has been one of the longest and hardest years I have ever had! But at the same time, there has been much learning, growing and blessings that have come too! I am entering my post from a year ago to those who are going through it for the first time and also to let you see my progress and to remind us... that time does heal things.

It was an emotional ride and I have to say that even today, it is still a bit emotional. Why?  Well, I am glad that I can finally accept what I see in the mirror ( it is hard, but I can ). I am glad that I want to be among people again (that took me a long time before I felt confident enough to go out in public). I am glad that I am slowly beginning to look and dream of the future. I am a bit sad though, to still be struggling with the side effects of the surgery and treatments. I am sad to still have to worry about my check ups and any thing new that happens to my body. Yet, I am grateful for the inspiration that I received to develop my RECNAC GIFTS and how they have been able to help many other survivors ( and hopefully that will grow and develop till they are available to all cancer patients out there). I am blessed to have met so many wonderful people along the way, (I know it was no accident that our paths crossed and for that I am grateful). I am grateful for the love and strength it has taught our family, I am so lucky to have such an incredible family.  I am also grateful to have had the chance to get closer to my Savior during this whole experience.  Yes, I have been blessed! So it has been a year to forget and yet, a year to remember.

Thank you for all of your help, cards, letters, gifts, meals, and prayers along the way, I couldn't have made it without you.

November 2008

The women that helped take care of me from the first procedure to the last, were amazing and some how I felt like it was meant to be ...that our paths crossed. Jeff teased me today and said "HOW MANY BEST FRIENDS HAVE YOU MADE, SINCE YOU HAVE BEEN HERE?" I did feel well taken care of but was shocked to meet so many women who were in there for cancer and to hear their stories. We all instantly connected and wished each other luck, it was sad, touching and humbling to say the least.

My spirits were high until I got ready to leave the hospital and first took a look at myself in the mirror, what a shock. My whole chest is wrapped with ace bandages so I actually couldn't see the effects of the surgery but my body still looks deformed already. I couldn't help but cry when I looked again in the mirror. How could this really be happening to me and how will I ever feel normal and good about myself again? I know there are many women who have gone through this and worse, but for today I am just talking about me. How can such a routine surgery now days, leave someone feeling so ugly, empty, sad and doubtful?

I am sorry to be so honest, but I know I need to keep writing  these thoughts to make sure that I just keep feeling things. Today every time the phone rang or there was a knock on the door, I kept saying"I just can't talk to any one right now and I don't want any one to see me like this." My sweet family act like I look just the same but wow that must be hard for all of them too. Jeff just keeps holding me and reminding me that these feelings are all normal and that we will all get through this together, but I can't even imagine that right now. Dear Shirley, my sister-in-law who has been with me through this all, has been a real trooper helping me get dressed, emptying my drains and trying to make sure I rest and get all the supplements I am suppose to take.

I wish I felt better and had a more uplifting entry today but this was my day and personally I am glad that it is over and pray that tomorrow will be a bit brighter.

"WHAT SEEMS TO US A BITTER TRIALS ARE OFTEN BLESSING IN DISGUISE" ~ Oscar Wilde

"MAY YOU HAVE ENOUGH HAPPINESS TO MAKE YOU SWEET, ENOUGHT TRIALS TO MAKE YOU STRONG, ENOUGH SORROW TO KEEP YOU HUMAN AND ENOUGH HOPE TO MAKE YOU HAPPY"

Veteran's Day

I am proud to be an American and grateful for all those who have served our Country, my dad and brother were some of them. I was only a small girl when I began to understand what that sacrifice truly meant for our freedom. My oldest brother got seriously hurt in Vietnam and then as a 10  year old, I saw what all the worry and fears of my parents were all about. He only had a 10% chance of living, but after 18 months in the hospital and with a lot of pain, tears,  faith and prayers, he made it and went on with his life and has been an inspiration ever since. So please take time tomorrow to say thanks and pray for all those men, women and families that sacrifice so much to protect our freedom.

John McCrae lived from 1872 to 1918. A Canadian physician, he fought on the Western Front in 1914. Soon he was transferred to the medical corps and assigned to a hospital in France. He died of pneumonia while on active duty in 1918. He is perhaps most remembered for his poem about the famous poppies concurrent with the soldiers who had died. He wrote his famous poem In Flanders Fields the day after presiding at the funeral of a friend and former student. His poem is now a memorial to all Veterans.


In Flanders Fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below.
We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
Loved, and were loved, and now we lie
In Flanders fields.
Take up our quarrel with the foe
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch, be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.

"It is easy to take liberty for granted, when you have never had it taken from you."  ~Author unknown

"Freedom is never free."  ~Author Unknown

Keep the faith and drop the fear

Today I tried to stay busy because I knew I would go crazy just waiting by the phone for the MRI report from my Doctor. After noon, I did call to see if the reports had even come in and they had. So instead of worrying every minute about what the results are about my knees, I tried to keep myself occupied. After 5:30 p.m. I realized that I wouldn't get a call today, so I just hope that tomorrow will bring information with it. I am trying to be positive and keep the faith. I need to remember to keep a perspective on things and count my many blessings. Fear can take all that away if you let it. So tonight, I will share this sweet story, that a dear friend sent to me. What perfect timing!

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: "I am blind, please help." There were only a few coins in the hat.

A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.

Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?"

The man said, "I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way."
I wrote: "Today is a beautiful day but I cannot see it."

Both signs told people that the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people that they were so lucky that they were not blind.  Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?

Moral of the Story: Be thankful for what you have. Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively.

"When life gives you a 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have 1000 reasons to smile..  Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear. Keep the faith and drop the fear. "

"The most beautiful thing is to see a person smiling...
And even more beautiful is, knowing that you are the reason behind it!!! "

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the times that you have supported and lifted me, to help keep me smiling... when I thought I couldn't go on another day. I am smiling, and it is because of such wonderful family and friends like you!

What's most important!

Jeff came home the other day and told me that his work will be doing more lay-offs in December. I know with many of our friends they are in that position already. We are not for sure if it will effect us, but of course we need to start sending out resumes soon to start covering all the bases. We need to also make sure that all the things in our home are in order too.

The story below reminded me of what is most important in situations like this. I hope you enjoy it and are reminded of how blessed we all are. Good night dear friends!

 

From Chicken Soup for the Soul: Count Your Blessings ~Christina Dymock

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.
~Mignon McLaughlin

We thought we had it all--a beautiful house, three healthy children and one more on the way, two cars, a couple of four-wheelers for entertainment--and we loved it. We spent money like it was going out of style. Then, the market turned and my husband's job as a bigwig at a construction company was gone. The company had declared bankruptcy and was closing down for good.

We both started looking for jobs right away, but there weren't any to be found. With each passing day our panic increased and we continued to work together in order to pull our family through. The more we pulled together, the closer we got. I felt feelings of adoration for my husband that I hadn't felt in years.

That's why it was so hard for me to watch him blame himself for our current situation. I knew that he had no control over the economy, however, he constantly degraded himself and his spirits sunk lower with each snide comment. I continually asked him to stop, but he seemed to want to punish himself for not having a job.

Finally, one afternoon I pulled him aside and said, "We have four healthy children and each other. That's what's important. That makes you a rich man."

"But what if we lose the house? They'll hate me--you'll hate me," he replied.

I smiled at him and put my hands on both sides of his face to make him look me in the eye. "If we live in a cardboard box on the empty lot across the street I will be happy--as long as I have you." I smiled again as I realized that I wasn't just saying it. Somehow, in all the struggling together I had found that deep abiding love for him that I had on the day we said "I do."

I could see relief wash through him as his shoulders and neck relaxed and the tension left his body. He held me close and we were able to talk and plan and dream together in a way that we hadn't in quite some time. It was a turning point for us as a couple and a family.

We are still struggling financially, but I consider us well-off because we have something that money can't buy and no one can take away from us.

Starting a little early!

When I was a little girl, I remember standing in line for a long time with my mom at the Sears and Roebuck store, to get the chance to see Santa. My mom also had a bad back and I remember her hurting as we stood there for what seemed to be forever before it was my turn. As soon as it was my turn and Santa motioned for me to come up and sit on his lap, I grabbed my mom's leg and began to cry. She did her best to convince me that it was alright but I wouldn't budge, then she reminded me how long we had been waiting for me to go see him ( guilt was her next line of defense) and still that didn't work, I was terrified. Really all I wanted was a candy cane and the neat Santa ring. I never did go up and see him but I remember my mom not being very happy (probably because she was hurting)  but some how I did get the candy cane and that cool Santa ring?

Today Jeff and I took Angie (our 3 year old granddaughter) to see Santa at the Hallmark store. I know it is early, there used to be a day that you didn't see or hear anything about Santa until after Thanksgiving, but that has been long gone. Now don't get me wrong, we love Thanksgiving and my whole house is decorated for it but, like I said before....I wish Christmas was all year long.

As we walked in the store this morning Angie saw Santa standing there and began to talk about the reindeers and presents and then as soon as he motioned for her to come to him, she went behind my leg. We did go over with her long enough to get a photo; but it is me who is beside Santa, not Angie. He showed her the Jingle Bells from the sleigh and a toy that he had, she liked him but definitely at a distance, it was cute and since it brought back those memories of me, I knew to let her keep her distance. We only went for a little bit but it was still fun as grandparents to do something like that. Yes, I do have Christmas music piping through my house and I am already watching Christmas movies but... I guess there could be worse addictions! :)

So enjoy this sweet story and don't forget to continue to BELIEVE IN THE MAGIC!

Why I know there is a Santa Claus - by Robert Fitzgerald

About 20 years ago, I was chosen to be one of Santa’s helpers in a small and rural southern town. I was only about 23 at the time and quite slim. But, with the help of some padding I filled out the costume worn by the big man quite nicely. The day of the Christmas parade arrived and I took up my perch atop the fire truck, with a basket of candy to throw to all Santa’s children lining the street. The parade circled the town and arrived back at the court house where his elves escorted him into his little hut where the towns children could come and pass on their lists of Christmas wishes and I in turn would pass them on to Santa himself in time for his Christmas Eve delivery.

On about the 3rd or 4th day before Christmas, two young ladies came in to the hut with a young man no more than 4 years old. I invited the gentleman to sit with me and proceeded to ask him what he would like to have that year. “Nothing” came his reply and it really set me back! Everybody wanted something. For two weeks I had everyone in town from 2 years old to 22 providing me with lists so long that the total logistics of UPS, the post office and The National Guard would be hard pressed to fill them, let alone one friendly old man pulled in a sleigh by a handful of reindeer!

“Are you sure”, I asked. “There must be something I could get for a fine gentleman like yourself, I pressed.

“No. I just wanted to come and thank you for my new mommy.”

I was stunned! I said you’re welcome, gave him an extra bag of candy and a coloring book and he climbed down from my lap.

He walked outside with one of the ladies and the other stayed behind to explain.

“We are just baby-sitting today. His mother was killed in a car wreck about a year and a half ago. Last Christmas he came here and asked Santa for a new mommy a few months ago his father remarried. As we drove by he saw your little house here by the road and started crying and screaming until we came back, just so he could thank you. Good-bye, Santa.”

I talked to 3 or 4 more children, then closed and locked the door from the inside and fell to my knees, thanking both God and the true Spirit of Santa for giving me this opportunity to see love in a child's eyes. I have never forgotten this experience and tell the story nearly every year. I am now 46 years old and I believe in Santa more now than ever, thanks to that boy. Son, I hope that wherever you are, you have never given up your belief in Santa. I haven’t.

 

'"Christmas, children, is not a date.  It is a state of mind."  ~Mary Ellen Chase

"Christmas waves a magic wand over this world, and behold, everything is softer and more beautiful."  ~Norman Vincent Peale

FAITH, FAMILY AND FRIENDS!

Once again, no matter what happens in my life...my dear family and friends rally around to support me, how can you ever say thanks enough for that?  I may have a body that can't hold together more than 5 minutes at a time, but I truly believe I am one of the richest women in the world... to have such a great family and hundreds of BEST FRIENDS. So I will try not to be too discouraged by this recent set back and try to find out what I need to learn from all of it.

Today was my MRI, before I even left this morning I cried in the shower of just the thought of going back into that arena of Doctors, MRI's and all of that stuff. I know that I am lucky if this is all that is wrong with my knees but... still I was struggling just to go today. It was a long process, hard on my back to lay that long...but 3 hours later I was heading home. We won't get the results back until Monday or Tuesday and then we know more information and what decisions we have to make.

I have to say like always, I met incredible people along the way. The tech and other workers were amazing and had such a positive and sweet spirit about them. I was grateful for their compassion and kindness, it eased my fears some. I am always amazed at how many wonderful people there are in the world. Too bad that media doesn't focus on them and all the good they do, verses all the mean ones and all the terrible choices they make. It sure would make me more apt to turn on my television if they did.

So once again we wait for results and have FAITH that everything will work out the way it is suppose to. In the meantime, I will keep reading stories like the one....( my sister-in-law sent me) and remember to try and find the good in every situation around me. Thank you for your kindness, love and prayers.

This is an amazing story!

This dog was born on Christmas Eve in the year 2002. He was born with  2  legs -
He of course could not walk when he was born. Even his mother did not want him.

His first owner also did not think that he could survive and he was thinking of 'putting him to sleep'.
But then, his present owner, Jude Stringfellow, met him and wanted  to take care of him.
She became determined to teach and train this little dog to walk by himself..  
She named him 'Faith'.

In the beginning, she put Faith on a surfboard to let him feel the movement.
Later she used peanut  butter on a spoon as a lure and reward
for him for standing up and jumping around.
Even the other dog at home encouraged him to walk.
Amazingly, only after 6 months, like a miracle,  
Faith learned to balance on his hind legs and to jump to move forward.
After further training in the snow, he could now walk like a human being.

Faith loves to walk around now.
No matter where he goes, he attracts people to him.
He is fast becoming famous on the international scene and
has appeared on various newspapers and TV shows.
There is now a book entitled 'With a Little Faith' being published about him.
He was even considered to appear in one of Harry Potter movies.

His present owner Jude Stringfellew has  given up her teaching post and plans to take him around the world
to  preach that even without a perfect body, one can have a perfect soul'.

In life there are always undesirable things, so in order to feel better
you just need to look at life from another direction.
I hope this message will bring fresh new ways of thinking to everyone
and that everyone will appreciate and be thankful for each beautiful day.
Faith is the continual demonstration of the strength and wonder of life.

 

"FAITH MAKES ALL THINGS POSSIBLE...LOVE MAKES ALL THINGS EASY."

"FAMILY MEANS TOO MUCH, FRIENDS ARE TOO VALUABLE, AND LIFE IS TOO SHORT, TO PUT-OFF SHARING WITH PEOPLE, HOW MUCH THEY REALLY MEAN TO YOU, AND PURSUING WHATEVER IT IS THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY."

 

 

More Pain!

For the past 3 years I have been having some pain in my knees off and on, I have tried hard to not complain about it and try to ignore it. Then last year, I noticed that it hurt a bit more to go up and down the stairs and that my knees were making noise at the same time. The past few months the pain has seemed to get worse and then right before my trip back East, I started feeling a tearing sensation when I would squat down and then it would burn for hours right under the knee caps. This past week it has gotten even worse and weak and so today I went to an Orthopedic Doctor to find out what was going on? I tried to wish it away but I knew I couldn't. I was even worried that it may be some kind of cancer in my bones, I have to do an MRI tomorrow to see more details but we don't think it is that. ( that is a common survivor's worry ) The doctor told me that the problem is in my knee caps and it is a common thing with women. ( I don't know why, will think to ask that tomorrow ) It is called Chondromalacia Patellae, it is where there is something that happened to the muscles or ligaments that call them to pull too hard or not hard enough. When that happens, the kneecap no longer glides easily against the thighbone. Pressure may be spread unevenly on the back of the kneecap, causing wear and tear on the cartilage. My kneecap is located too far to the right and that he says throws off everything. My gate ( or my walk ) is effected by that and that too... could be adding to a lot of my back pain. He also said that I had a lot of arthritis in both knees. The good news is that it is a common problem and usually the treatment is nonsurgical but includes rehabilitation and taking anti-inflammatories. The bad news is...he thinks my knee problem is more severe than what rehab could improve, and that I will have to have some type of surgery to correct it, then rehab.

So tonight, I have to say that I am pretty down and discouraged. We don't know all the information yet, but we are pretty for sure that I am going to have to have more surgery. It hasn't even been a year since my mastectomy...how can I be falling apart this fast? I just want to stop hurting, I want to go on with life, I want to look forward to things....I am not sure where to go from here?

Thanks for listening, I will get through this too, but for now...I am hurting, sad and afraid of what else I am going to have to go through. Life is tough, certainly worth it, but tough. I  pray that once again I will be given the whatever it is going to take, to meet this next trial.

I wonder if the author of the nursery rhyme Humpty Dumpty was a kid who had a mother like me, :) it does seem like when we get one thing fixed ...something else falls apart. Maybe that is why I can relate to this nursery rhyme so much. Didn't say that I liked it but that I can relate to it!

Good night dear friends and thanks again for all your thoughts and prayers, heaven knows I need them.

I have to look at this card Lauren and Amy made for me and remember it is true!

"It is not a question of God allowing or not allowing things to happen. It is part of living. Some things we do to ourselves, other things we do to each other. Our Father knows about every bird which falls to the ground, but He does not always prevent it from falling. What are we to learn from this? That our response to what happens is more important than what happens. Here is a mystery: one man’s experience drives him to curse God, while another man’s identical experience drives him to bless God. Your response to what happens is more important than what happens." –Chip Brogden

"Adversity introduces a man to himself." --Unknown

Memories!

I read this morning in the Chicken Soup for The Soul a story called Quality Time. It was a story about a lady who sometimes would go to the beach after work just to clear her head. On this particular day she saw a little boy and his dad spending time together, here were her thoughts " there is a father and child sharing some quality time, no doubt, I thought to myself sarcastically, and then I felt a little depressed by my reaction. Such pleasant father/child scenes always made me a little sad, a little jealous, for what I never had as a child. But I sure didn't need these thoughts now, not after the day I'd had. I closed my eyes tightly again and turned back toward the sea.

But it was too late. Bits and pieces of unhappy childhood memories were already pushing their way into my mind,"

She goes on to remember all the terrible things about her dad and her childhood, how he was a drunk, about his outbursts of anger, her parents bitter divorce and his dying soon after that ....alone and far away from them. She mentions the feelings that came with those memories and how life just seemed hopeless and seeing this parent and child just reminded her of that, something she never had.

Then she goes on to say..." I shook my head sharply and opened my eyes, trying to stop this melodrama in my mind. My breathing began to relax as I focused on the sights around me. There were the waves, still crashing. There was the sand, still damp beneath my feet. And down the beach, there was the boy and the man. 

The child's laughter carried on the wind and drifted into my mind, echoing there, growing louder and louder until it seemed to fill my whole head. Such laughter! Such pure and simple joy.

Slowly, a new image began to form in my mind: a young girl propped up in bed, her pixie haircut framing a face lit up with joy and laughter. The image began to gain clarity, as if being focused by a giant mental lens. I could see a familiar pink bedroom trimmed in lace, stuffed toys long ago forgotten, and a plump, freckled face that I knew had to be mine. The laughter echoed again, and the image drifted back to include a dark-haired, handsome man sitting at the foot of the bed, telling a wonderful made-up bedtime story of friendly creatures, and a prince and princess who lived in a far-off and exciting kingdom. And as the story ended, the child realized that she was the princess and threw her arms around the man's neck and squealed, "And you were my prince, right, Daddy?"

She ends her story remembering good things, quality times that she did share with her dad but some how throughout the years, the good memories were pushed out of her mind and the bad ones remained and seem to take over completely. She then began to wonder what happened to her dad that made him drink and ruin his life, and her's for that matter? All of a sudden she felt sorry for her dad, compassion .... instead of bitterness and anger. She realized for the first time how much better she felt when she was able to think about and remember the good memories instead of all the bad ones. She now realized she had a choice, she actually always had the choice ...but the negative many times in all of our lives is much easier to entertain than the positive.

There were still those hard and terrible things of her past ...but she realized that the best thing she could do for her life is focus and remember the good times, the quality times, the good memories. She was thankful that she had even some and decided to keep her focus there, from now on.

I loved this story because I believe that I some times fall in that same circumstance. I wasn't really close to my dad. I was the only girl and I think he wasn't quite sure what to do with me?  I think many of my family members think that ! :) It does seem easier to remember us not being close, him being a yeller, and not sharing a lot together. I catch myself seeing other women now at my age, doing and sharing things with their dads and I can only imagine what that would have been like. I too even get a little jealous as I watch them.  But just like this story, I realize I did have some great memories with my dad, he was a great guy. He had a great sense of humor, he loved to serve others and he never met a stranger! He loved Christmas ...so I guess we did have some things in common after all.

I hope today, we will all try harder to push out the bad thoughts, the bad memories that truly don't serve us and focus on the good ones, even if there aren't a lot of them. Because being happy and having good thoughts can change anyone's day for the better. Plus, don't forget to make some incredible memories with your family and loved ones today, so that their good memories will last them forever! Take care dear friends!

'Memory is a child walking along a seashore.  You never can tell what small pebble it will pick up and store away among its treasured things."  ~Pierce Harris, Atlanta Journal

"It is never too late to have a happy childhood."  ~Tom Robbins

"Childhood is a short season."  ~Helen Hayes