So I am sure that we have all had the funky dreams that just leave us wondering where did that come from. Ok for the last 5 nights I have remembered my dreams and they have been really weird. What is funny is I almost never remember my dreams but these were interesting. Although I would have to say that my favorite dream ever was not during this series of dreams it was about a year ago. I had a dream that someone broke into the house and Seth got so mad that he pulled a 2 by 4 out of the wall and beat the guy with it. Now that was a dream!!! This series was not that cool. It was the kind where people that I love were getting a divorce. Or weird things like that. I have been thinking about that recently because there are some people that I know that are having problems in there relationship. It is so sad. I can't imagine not waiting for the very second that Seth comes home....Which is the best part of the day besides snuggling in bed about as long as you possibly can even if that means he might forget to brush his teeth or shave before he goes to work. Or the laughing at silly things just because you can. Dancing silly dances in the house. (If any of you have seen Seth's silly dance you know what I mean) Or my personal favorite your husband comes home singing a song that he was listening to on the radio that reminded him of you and as soon as he gets ahold of you he takes you into his arms just so he can dance with you while he is singing the song. I love being married and I am so thankful for a wonderful husband. It is so fun just to do little special things that will make him grin!!!! So because that has been on the brain I have decided to give little tid bits of advice....because even if we are very happy in our marriage we can also have bad days....so here goes....
1. One of my favorite pieces of advice is if you fell like fighting with your husband or wife eat first.....I know when our house is hungry we are grumpy folk!!!
2. Surprise....try to make life an adventure. If that be you eat dinner on the floor with a table cloth because you want to have a picnic even though there is snow on the ground do it!!! Find something to do or make to make life a fun adventure.
3. Don't for get the alone time!!!!........That means without kids.....without cell phones....without other people.....Just you and your spouse!!!! That is so so sooooooo important. I can always tell when seth and I have not had enough just us time. Go to the temple, to a random store like furniture store and talk, to and empty parking garage...it doesn't have to be somewhere spectacular but somewhere alone where you can talk about your dreams and hopes together.
4. Take time to develop yourself....everyone likes to be married to someone that is awesome. Find something that you don't know how to do and do it. Also take time to do the little things like read your scriptures or pray or exercise. You will be amazed how much confidence you have in yourself and you will also be more willing to give more of yourself to your relationship.
5. Remember to put first things first.....that means make sure that god is first, husband or wife second, children, extended family, then others. Make sure that your spouse is on the top of the kids not second in line!!! They have to be the most important and your kids need to know that!!
Don't make the other mistake of leaving your husband or wife lots to hang out with others so that they don't feel like they are on the top!!!
6. Keep the love alive.....Keep dating...Keep pinching bums or flirting....keep winking....Keep kissing....Keep hugging...Keep teasing...Keep XXXX....etc...whatever it may be that you have done keep doing it because it is fun and sometimes people get caught up in the rush of life to enjoy the little things.
Ok so I am no marriage councilor but I love being married and even though the dreams were not real it was sad enough to get me thinking.
Got to love those crazy dreams!!!!
