"Sister, Christensen, how come when we fasted and prayed for my brother Sam, he didn't get better?"
It felt like time stood still.
I was teaching during a combined meeting at church for the children ages 7-11. We were discussing the gospel principle of fasting and prayer. I didn't intend to have a deep philosophical conversation about it and frankly, I was struggling with something deep in my heart...an "unanswered prayer" as it were.
So, I wasn't in the best frame of mind to instill faith in some of God's youngest and most impressionable. In that moment, I couldn't answer Gavin's question. I knew all the "right" answers. But, I didn't have the REAL one.
"Well, Gavin, what do you think?"
"I don't know."
"Maybe you didn't fast long enough?" I heard myself say.
"No, we fasted for a long time."
"Hmmm...maybe you didn't pray hard enough." I responded.
"No, we prayed hard a lot."
"Maybe you didn't really want it." I questioned.
"No, we do. We want him to get better."
"Well, maybe, God isn't listening." I'm sure the other adults in the room were wondering where I was headed with that risky statement. Frankly, I was wondering too.
"No, He is listening. He's always listening." Gavin faithfully replied with a little catch in his voice. Oh, I remember that little catch in his voice.
"Well, Gavin, if you fasted long enough and prayed hard enough and you really want it and God is listening, maybe God just doesn't want Sam to get better."
"No, he has to want Sam to get better. He has to."
It was as if time stood still and as I heard Gavin say those words, I knew in my heart my Father had heard my prayer too...and wanted me to "get better"...he wanted to heal my heart. But, I was at a loss. I stood there paralyzed not sure where this discussion was now going or what I should now say.
"Please, Father. Please." I silently cried out deep in the quiet private spot in my heart. "Please, help Gavin...please help me."
And then my little spirit asked the all important question:
"Can anyone tell us why Sam isn't getting better even though Gavin and his family are fasting and praying?"
Well, that's what came out of my mouth, but my real question was,
"Can someone please tell me why the Lord hasn't answered my plea yet? My heart is breaking. I feel alone. I'm at the edge of my faith. Please...someone..."
And, for as long as I live, I will never forget little 8-year-old Jonathan.
"Sister Christensen?" Jonathan said while raising his hand.
And then, as if speaking for the Lord Himself, Jonathan spoke right to my heart:
"Because sometimes the answer is 'no'."
And in that moment, time DID stand still.
I know it did.
The room froze.
And the spirit infused in my heart a profound truth about my life and God's dealings with me...and His love for me.
"Did you hear that, Laurel?" God seemed to say.
"I heard you. I was listening. I know what you wanted. But it was not to be. And the answer is 'no'. And it doesn't mean I don't love you or that I've left you alone. I've been here all along. You just didn't want 'no' for the answer. And I'm sorry. But, someday you'll see that it's all okay. Someday you'll see. I promise."
When time began again, my spirit stood resolutely before those who were God's youngest and most impressionable and said, "That's right, Jonathan. Sometimes the answer is 'no'."
And then, I cried and looked right at Gavin and shared my simple testimony that
God lives.
He hears every little prayer.
He loves us.
He wants us to be happy.
And sometimes, just like Jonathan said...
Sometimes the answer is "No".
It's been several years since that moment in time.
But, a comment at church this past Sunday brought it all flooding back as if no time had passed at all.
And I found my little heart so grateful for the "no" answers of my past...
...and I will trust in the "yes" answers of my future.
Because sometimes the answer
IS
Yes.
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A few years ago I shared this experience with my friend Cherie Call, one of my all-time favorite songwriters (and woman). She wrote the song "No" based on that conversation. I think it's brilliant. Take a listen and read all the lyrics.