Marry Him? Truth #1

Maybe it's because I'm 37.
Maybe it's because I've been trying to close one door so another could be opened.
Maybe it's because my eyes are being opened to what I really need.
Maybe it's because I just feel something just around this corner.
Maybe it's because I want a "four questions" guy.

All I know is that the Marry Him article has really had me thinking.

And talking.

I've had a couple of conversations in the last 24 hours I really needed to have before I could share my take on things.
One of the conversations required my pride.
The other took some courage.

I had them both. (Yea, me!)
And now we can girl-talk.

I had all sorts of off-the-cuff responses when I initially read the article. And, having spent the last few weeks trying to figure some things out in my heart, I'm uncovering a couple of truths for me that, at least for the time being, are going to be my dating guide posts.

(And these truths, without a doubt, are very much colored by my faith. Because I believe marriage, by its very nature, is eternal, the subject cannot be separated from the spiritual. I sense that is one big difference between me and Ms. Gottlieb.)

TRUTH #1: Woman (and man) was NOT meant to be alone.
Because I believe this (though I don't think I always have), I have an obligation to do my part to ensure I am not. If I'm being totally honest, I spent WAY too much time in my late 20's and early 30's totally "checked out" of finding a mate. Totally. Partially because I didn't think I was good enough then. And, partially because I had convinced myself I had found the love of my life. I was wrong on both counts and it wasn't until about 2 years ago that I checked back in. (Note to all girls younger than me..."check in" earlier.)

So, when Ms. Gottlieb poses the question, Is it better to be alone, or to settle?, if those are my only two choices, I would have to say "settle"...because it is not better to be alone (stay with me on this...)

And that takes us to Truth #2...