Despite what readers sometimes encounters in historical romance novels, annulments and divorces in Regency England were not easy to obtain.
The idea that a couple could get their marriage annulled if they didn’t consummate it did not apply in Regency England, nor to my knowledge, at any time in England.
In truth, annulments in England in the 1800's were never easy, quick or painless. Consummation was not a requirement for marriage. However, a marriage could also be annulled if the husband were declared impotent. According to Regency Researcher Nancy Mayer, a leading expert on all things Regency: "1820 Hilary Term Norton vs Seton Reports of Cases in Ecclesiastical Courts Philimore has a long discussion of people who succeeded and failed in their requests for nullity due to impotence. Inspectors of the husband's organ of regeneration were surgeons etc." So if one of the couple was impotent or incapable of sexual intercourse, they could ask for an annulment on those grounds but this had to be proven by a medical examination which few people would succumb to having (not to mention, they'd have to be willing to admit to this problem). During earlier eras, this was determined by "Trial by courtesan" a medieval concept that used a panel of three high-ranking courtesans to render judgment. By the Regency era, doctors, not courtesans, were used. If one party refused to consummate which was considered the same as impotency. This could also be determined if there were a visible physical abnormality.
There was one interesting case about a man who went through the embarrassment of being declared impotent and getting an annulment, then later married and had a child. Reportedly, one of the judges wanted to overturn the annulment, but another said that it was possible that a man could be aroused by one woman and not another. According to Ella Quinn: "This is [case is] listed in one of the comments in Haggard's or Philmore's reports on cases in the Ecclesiastical Courts."
Marriages that could be annulled
if they were invalid from the beginning. These included when either person was already
married, when one of them was under age without proper permission, or if a person was insane or so
feebleminded she did not know what she was doing. Some couples received an
annulment due the following: errors in names or because the couple was too closely related
and were prevented from marrying due to consanguinity. Also, if one of them was deceived as to who he/she was
marrying, that may be grounds for annulment. I used that as a potential loophole in The Stranger She Married because
the hero wore a mask and wasn’t entirely honest about a
great many things :-)
There was one interesting case about a man who went through the embarrassment of being declared impotent and getting an annulment, then later married and had a child. Reportedly, one of the judges wanted to overturn the annulment, but another said that it was possible that a man could be aroused by one woman and not another. According to Ella Quinn: "This is [case is] listed in one of the comments in Haggard's or Philmore's reports on cases in the Ecclesiastical Courts."
In the case of one of my favorite books/movies, Jane Eyre, the husband couldn't divorce his wife or annul the marriage because the wife was considered insane when she married. Her husband would have to prove she did not know what she was doing at the time she married. As he did not know there was anything wrong when they married (her symptoms did not fully develop until later) there were no grounds for annulment or divorce. The courts of England believed that insane people often had lucid intervals during which they could marry and would have known what they were doing, which means the marriage was valid.
If you've read a lot of Regency romance novels, you've probably encountered some favorite plots in which a woman is forced to
marry a man. In the novels, she usually learns to love him. However, even if she wanted out, she could not sue for annulment or divorce to due marriage under
duress. Basically, the law says that she said her vows, she did not say no, and no one he was holding a gun on
her during the ceremony.
If a woman’s marriage was annulled, she was reduced from the
status of wife to concubine, and any children resulting from the union were
illegitimate. Nice, huh? And worse, her husband was not required to support her or
pay her alimony if their marriage were annulled.
In Regency England, there were two different actions called divorce. One
was what today is called a legal separation because the people remained legally married. A man could decide to live apart from his wife if he wanted to
but a wife had a harder time just deciding to live apart from her husband. He
could have the sheriff force her to return to his house and bed. If they just decided to live apart, the wife had no protection and no claim on his financial support, but a legal separation required the man to pay alimony to the woman. If the woman had an affair from which children resulted, the legal separation protected the man from having to claim and support his wife's illegitimate children. Either way, husband and wife living apart was considered scandalous, especially
for the wife—she usually had to curtail her social life. But it doesn't seem to have affected the man too much. It's that kind of double standard that takes some of the magic out of historicals, doesn't it? Plus, there was no way they could re-marry if they didn't get a divorce.
Divorce was expensive, messy, a huge hassle, and scandalous. Only the very wealthy
and well-connected could get a divorce because nobody else could afford it, and
it was never amiable. If a man sued for divorce on grounds that his wife was
unfaithful, he had to sue his wife’s lover in regular court for crim.con (adultery)
and collect damages. A man seeking divorce also had to sue for a church divorce which was separation
from bed and board. Then, if he got the decision he wanted from these two different courts, he
had to petition parliament for a bill of divorce. This was handled just like
other bills with public arguments—with three readings and three votes. Court
and filing fees all cost money. In a divorce action, the women is basically convicted
of having committed adultery and so has no right to the children. A man could gain sole custody of the children and she may never see them.
No amount of money could get a couple a quiet divorce. All bills
of divorce which reached were treated exactly as any other bill in that they were
public and reported in the newspaper. The trials in church courts for annulment
or divorce were also public. The cases were also collected and printed in
reports of the courts. Divorces were in Church court and the Church still
adhered to the belief that marriage was forever. For many, it was still a
sacrament.
There was no way to save their reputations and have an annulment or a legal separation or a divorce. I've heard of other authors having their characters divorce in
foreign countries, such as revolutionary France, but I find the accuracy is suspicious. Even if it were true, the result would still be permanent scandal, at least in England.
So the next time you're reading a Regency romance novel where a married couple's troubles are so bad that you wonder why they don't give up and get a divorce or an annulment, now you know. And furthermore, they just didn't think that way. Until the last fifty years or so, marriage was a lifetime commitment, for better or worse. This forced them--at least in the romance novels--to work through their problems and find happiness together. In a way, I find that admirable. Yes, I'm a dreamer, but hey, it works for me. And I always believe in that all powerful happily ever after.
Thank you to Nancy Mayer, April Kilstrom, Ella Quinn, and the members of the Beau Monde Regency RWA group for helping provide information for this post.
So the next time you're reading a Regency romance novel where a married couple's troubles are so bad that you wonder why they don't give up and get a divorce or an annulment, now you know. And furthermore, they just didn't think that way. Until the last fifty years or so, marriage was a lifetime commitment, for better or worse. This forced them--at least in the romance novels--to work through their problems and find happiness together. In a way, I find that admirable. Yes, I'm a dreamer, but hey, it works for me. And I always believe in that all powerful happily ever after.
Thank you to Nancy Mayer, April Kilstrom, Ella Quinn, and the members of the Beau Monde Regency RWA group for helping provide information for this post.