The Rocking Hijab

Cruising through Paediatric Dentistry, I found myself attracted to the subject of Developmental Psychology. One of the theories that I feel that I could relate to is the Psychosocial Theory by Erik Erikson or as it is known for, the '8 Ages Of Man'. The theory, in a nutshell, discusses of the development of emotion as a person grows up which is as follows : Basic Trust vs. Basic Mistrust (0-18 months old) Autonomy vs. Shame & Doubt (18m-3 years old) Initiative vs. Guilt (3-6) Industry vs. Inferiority (7-11) Identity vs. Role confusion (12-17) Intimacy vs. Isolation (Young Adult) Generativity vs. Stagnation (Adult) Integrity vs. Despair (Late Adult) To wrap it up in one sentence, this theory says that at a certain age you will develop a specific kind of emotion and if you did not develop the positive kind of emotion, you will tend to develop the latter.  E.g. If you did not develop trust due to maternal deprivation issues when you're a baby, you'l

I have a really horrible arabic handwriting TT TT Writing Arabic letters is super hard! Especially when you're just starting. I feel like a bunch of worms decided to wriggle their way in and settle down on my notebook. I really don't know how to write it and I keep getting it wrong. Thanks to this website I get to learn how to write it step by step.  I don't have extra time to attend classes and I never have been able to attend any since I reverted to Islam, which is since 2008. So I try my best to learn the basics on my own by asking friends and ustadz/ustadzahs to help me out. Solat, ablution, reciting the Quran, everything, I try my best to make do with what resources I have since I am not able to attend classes where you need to really sit there and learn for a long period of time.  I never thought of this as a handicap. I think the main point is whether you really want it or not. Of course, they did say 'where there is a will, there is a way'

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful, Praise be to Allah, the Cherisher and Sustainer of the Worlds, and Peace and Prayer be upon the Final Prophet and Messenger. Abdullah Yusuf Ali, The Holy Quran *** Through out life, I think I manage to understand when and why I am being tested, and at this moment, I am at one of those times.  It is hard to be sincere in doing something that you think should be done together. For instance, washing up after someone else's dirty dishes even when the used dishes are yours or even flushing after someone after they used the toilet and you're one of the people who actually cared about cleanliness. Sometimes I feel like a cleaner, and not so voluntary at that, and as I do those, I feel more and more hateful towards myself, for harboring such ill feelings in my heart. I am the type of person, who, even if the other do not consider my conditions, e.g. not putting out the light when they have a table lamp when I need to

Al-Anbiya : 41 - 104 41 . Messengers before you [Muhammad] were also ridiculed, but those who mocked them were overwhelmed in the end by the very thing they had mocked. 42 . Say, ‘Who could protect you night and day from the Lord of Mercy?’ Yet they turn away when their Lord is mentioned. 43 . Do they have gods who can defend them against Us? Their gods have no power to help themselves, nor can they be protected from Us. 44 . We have allowed these sinners and their forefathers to enjoy life for a long time. But do they not see how We are shrinking their borders? Is it they who will prevail? 45 . Say, ‘I warn you only through the Revelation.’ The deaf will not hear the warning call, 46 . yet if a mere breath of your Lord’s punishment touches them, they will be sure to cry, ‘Woe to us! We were wrong!’ 47 . We will set up scales of justice for the Day of Resurrection so that no one can be wronged in the least, and if there should be even the weight of a mustard seed, We shall bring

S ometimes after so long of disconnecting, you try to reconnect with those once close to you. Sometimes you succeed, sometimes you don't. And usually when I fall into the latter category, I sometimes wish I can at least convey my heart's feelings, so that they know that my heart is saying, "You're worth my time and I am sorry for not keeping in touch for so long. But the fact that I still want to contact you, doesn't that mean anything?" You cannot expect them to understand. If they do, perhaps things wouldn't be that difficult and reconnecting would be a breeze. They are drowned in their anger, and still, in their disappointment towards me. But I'll keep on trying, even if it will make me look pathetic. After all, stooping low is better than feeling all high and mighty. Through this I learn the meaning of loving unconditionally, because when rejected again and again, you might want to give up and exactly at that moment, perhaps you ma

I was watching Ustaz Nouman Ali Khan(NAK)'s talk on Youtube when he mentioned about this ayah. Has the time not come for those who have believed that their hearts should become humbly submissive at the remembrance of Allah and what has come down of the truth? And let them not be like those who were given the Scripture before, and a long period passed over them, so their hearts hardened ; and many of them are defiantly disobedient. {Al-Hadid, 57: 16} Know that Allah gives life to the earth after its lifelessness. We have made clear to you the signs; perhaps you will understand. {Al-Hadid, 57: 17} I really love this verse because I feel the word 'hope' emanating from these two verse. As NAK have said, notice that after Allah has said that the hearts of the people of the Scripture were hardened, Allah mentioned about His might of making the dry earth spout plants. Sometimes we may have transgressed beyond boundaries, even after we know that we s