The other day I was at target getting some things and as I was on my way out when I overheard a guy talking to what I think was his girlfriend or something rather. Anyhow I was just amazed at what he was saying to her. She had a magazine in her hands and he was saying that if she wanted to look a certain way it was more that she was trying to impress other guys or other people that she was fine in his eyes (yes this is my taking on it, because at my age you tend to forget word for word)... She was a fit young lady, nothing that in my eyes was wrong... but I was taken back at how he was talking to her. It was like hearing Doug talking to me. Telling me I was perfect to him. That he loved me for who I am. That I needed to "stop it" with my self doubt. It really made me laugh...
It just seems that no mater where we are in life with ourselves we are never where we think we need to be. That our size, weight, hair, clothing anything really is never quite right. We are consumed with this need to be "just right" in EVERYONES eyes, when in reality we don't. But how do we stop this obsessive need to be perfect? Why cant we learn to love ourselves and where we are in life. Why cant we let go of our imperfection, the ones we beat ourselves up on a daily basis?
You know its like the saying "everyone poops" so why are we embarrassed with even one person knowing we take a crap?
Ok, so with that I guess I'm trying to say why are we thinking we are alone in our thoughts of being not ideal when everyone feels this way? It really is silly if you think about it. Everyone has some gripe about themselves... so why cant we let go and be real? We are who we are, we look like we do because we are meant to...it makes us unique. That cant be bad. If I looked like every other person in the world, I might as well label myself as a Barbie married to Ken... with Stacie, Kelly and Todd for kids.
Anyhooo...
I guess I too need to get off the mindset that has me trapped and start enjoying my life for who I am, the way I look, and know that my Husband and Children Love me for me...and I'm sure they wouldn't change a thing...
Monday, May 5, 2008
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