Nadia - A Victim of the Silent War in AfghanistanWomen in Afghanistan, victims of domestic violence, continue to struggle for their rights
Violence against women in Afghanistan is still a major problem. Being female - being a writer - and being a wife in Afghanistan is still an extremely perilous proposition. This is a story that is a couple months old, but was only discussed briefly on the blogs. Last November 4, following a fight with her husband, young Afghan poet Nadia Anjuman died. Farid Ahmad Majid Nia, 27, Nadia’s husband of 15 months, was arrested and charged with her murder. A lecturer in philology at Herat University, he has vehemently proclaimed his innocence. Nadia committed suicide, he insists. His story goes: She became angry, and cursed me, calling me names like ‘ass’ and ‘son of a bitch’. I slapped her,” he said. A few hours later, according to Farid, Nadia came to him and told him she had taken poison. [about.com]
Nadia’s family and friends did not believe her husband. “Farid called me and told me that Nadia had taken poison,” said Nadia’s mother, who did not want her name used. “But when I got to the hospital, I saw that Nadia’s face and neck were all bruised.
A close friend of Nadia said: “Nadia was very religious and she strongly condemned those who committed suicide. She said it was against Islam.”
This is not to publically try the husband, but to point out that violence against women should never be accepted or tolerated - not in any culture. What makes this even sadder is that Nadia and her husband had a six-month-old daughter. What will that little girl grow up to understand about her mother, whose face and touch she may never remember?
Three generations of women in Herat, Afghanistan
photo credit: Johns Hopkins University
Women are not seen as human beings in Afghanistan, but like commodities that people can sell, trade or buy. There are totally inadequate human rights for women in Afghanistan - they cannot study, they cannot work, they are married off at the age of tweleve or thirteen.
From Kabul, there came an open letter from the Afghan Women’s Network related to Nadia's murder:
Even though human rights issues are greatly discussed and cared for by the society and the government, protection of women’s rights has not been a priority. The murder of 25-year-old poet Nadia Anjoman by her husband, a university professor in Herat, is a symbol of this inhuman violence that has strongly affected people who care for and struggle to protect human rights and human values.
The United Nations condemned the killing as symptom of continuing violence against Afghan women four years after the fall of the Taliban. Afghanistan is a place that is rich in poetic tradition where the common people love to hear or read poems and often know quite a few by heart. The Sufi poet Rumi was from a village in what is now Afghanistan. Nadia risked torture, imprisonment, perhaps even death to study literature and write poetry in secret under the Taliban. She was becoming well known, especially in literary circles. She was widely praised for her first book of poems, titled "Gule Dudi," or "Dark Flower." A tip of the hat to Mah-mag for the translation of one of Nadia's haunting poems:
A poem by: Nadia Anjuman
Translated by: Mahnaz Badihian
No desire to open my mouth
What should I sing of...?
Me, who is hated by life,
No difference to sing or not to sing.
Why should I talk of sweetness?
When I feel bitterness.
Oh, the oppressors feast
Knocked my mouth.
I have no companion in life
Who can I be sweet for?
No difference to say, to laugh,
To die, to be.
Me and my strained solitude.
With sorrow and sadness.
I was borne for nothingness.
My mouth should be sealed.
Oh my heart, you know it is spring
And time to celebrate.
What should I do with a trapped wing?
Which does not let me fly.
I have been silent for too long,
But I never forget the melody,
Since every moment I whisper
The songs from my heart,
Reminding myself of
A day I will break the cage.
Fly from This solitude
And sing like a melancholic.
I am not a weak poplar tree
To be shaken By any wind.
I am an Afghan woman,
Makes sense to moan always.
There is a webpage dedicated to Nadia here.
I have seen no updates on the murder case, and I wonder if any will be forthcoming. Nadia's words call out for justice, in her own case and in the case of all women in Afghanistan today. It is said that terror will always be present where democracy fails to exist. If that is true, what can we say of the new "democracy" in Afghanistan? If women continue to be terrorized in the quiet places beyond the sounds of the warlords' guns and bombs, how has democracy succeeded?
When we hear our President speaking about "bringing terrorists to justice," we have to ask ourselves - what happens to the terrorists who are culturally empowered to abuse women?
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In other women's news, Ritu Sharma, president and co-founder of the Women's Edge Coalition, a Washington-based advocate for the world's poorest women, explains why she believes that investing in women and giving them a prominent voice and role in reconstruction is the most effective way to help a community recover from natural disasters.
At the Women's Edge Coalition website, there are updates on the Tsunami recovery.