John Bytheway Keynote Notes

I am OCD about deleting stuff I want to find later... Maybe this way i'll be able to find my notes from tonight's meeting!

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John Bytheway fireside notes:
By small and simple things...
We can achieve great things at home.
The secret ingredient in a happy home is kindness, (not kind tasks)
Our children have been placed in our orbit for a reason.
Having the spirit in your home helps you grow and change
D&C 121-123 written from liberty jail
Mosiah 27 the angel comes to alma... Then the same angel comes again in alma 8
People don't change people. People change themselves or are changed by the Holy Ghost -Gerald Lund

Problems in the ward (marriages)
-Inability to forgive
-lack of expressions of love
-lack of priesthood leadership

"Criticism is extremely toxic to the human spirit. It is more likely to kill the desire for change than inspire it."-Gerald Lund

Most if my problems in life I either married or gave birth to. -Virginia Hinkley Pierce

Joni Hilton Blog?

Clarify expectations. Let him know what I need from him as far as leading the family. Sometimes I just need his support.

Julie b beck sang love at home as opening song every week. She finally asked, "why?" Dad said "when you learn lesson 1 I will teach lesson 2". They never learned lesson 2 but they love each other.
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Book: you just don't understand by Deborah tannen. : men talk for information women talk for interaction. 👍

Men look for exits.
Be specific in requests giving a time when help is needed and a time frame he is needed for.
"Why men don't listen and women can't read maps" by Barbara and Allan Peace

D&C 108:7

Which one feels better?
Appreciate
Expect
Demand

Johns brother in law talked to his mother in law about his wife (her daughter) while his little sister (divorced 3 times) cried. When they asked what was wrong she said,
"I'm just wondering what it would feel like to have my husband talk about me like that"

"I'm going to be delightful" (cruise couple) I want my spouse to love to be with me.

Love languages dr Gary Chapman
Quality time
Words of affirmation
Gifts
Acts of service
Physical touch

"His needs, her needs" Robert Harley (?)

Treat a man as he is and he will always be as he is. Treat a man as he can and would be..👍

"Mamas Romance night" woman organized a night where women talked about how to strengthen their marriage.

Those In a covenant marriage give 100%

A man brought his daughter before Jesus and asked him to put his hands on her and she would live.
Whatever Jesus lays his hands upon, lives. If Jesus lays his hands on a marraige, it lives.

A [gold medal] is a wonderful thing. If you're not enough without it, you'll never be enough with it.

You're enough

(FHE IDEA: Write everything others think about you...Other side, write what god thinks of you...Who will you believe?)