This is just a little follow up that just happened right after my article was released.
We have been renting this house for 1 1/2 years and the owner decided he didn't want to own it anymore. Today it was auctioned off.
All week we have been cleaning and decluttering to prepare for the sale. We had to get up about 7:30 am to get ready by 9:00 when people would be allowed to walk through our house.
You know that out of the 6 of us only 2 do mornings well. We tried to go to bed earlier but it didn't work. I only slept from 3-6am, I just can't sleep when I know I have to get up early.
The kids only got a couple hours of sleep also. Everyone got up and got ready and had fun, well I wasn't having fun, I was miserable.
When the auction was over 2 kids napped, I laid down and went semi unconscious for an hour and the other 2 kids are doing fine.
I guess I'm just saying we got up, did what we had to do and moved on with our day.
This is an example of an outside force imposing on our natural sleep rhythms. It is difficult to go to sleep just because someone else deems it necessary. We had no say in the time of this auction and had to do our best to handle it.
As of now all of us have had a nap and some of us are really out of sorts. It will be nice to go to bed and wake up naturally.
Showing posts with label sleep. Show all posts
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Thursday, December 23, 2010
Sleep freedom
I've written about sleep and arbitrary bedtimes before.
This is just a little more insight into watching my children truly sleep when they are tired.
When they go to bed varies usually between 1am and 5am.
Lately Cassie has been all turned around. She was staying up all night and sleeping all day for a week or two. Now this past week, she has been sleeping around 5-6pm until 3-5am. So she has been up in the day and asleep at night. Actually last week it was something like sleep 2-6am, get up and then go back to sleep around noon, just really odd...
Tonight she went to bed at 5 and is sleeping now. She'll wake up sometime early in the morning.
She is on a growth spurt. The last time she switched her sleep around, she ate, slept and grew. I wrote about it in the post Late Night Life, no linky at the moment....
She is 11 and is preparing for womanhood, she has grown a couple inches already. They literally grow in their sleep.
I am just so glad that she can do this. When I was a kid I suffered migraines and exhaustion among other things because I had to get up and go to school even though I just fell asleep.
She is truly listening to her body and sleeping when she needs to no matter what the clock says.
Freedom is beautiful!
I still don't sleep right. I'll leave you with Holt:
"I can't help noting that no cultures in the world that I have ever heard of make such a fuss about children's bedtimes, and no cultures have so many adults who find it so hard either to go to sleep or wake up. Could these social facts be connected? I strongly suspect they are."
~John Holt~
This is just a little more insight into watching my children truly sleep when they are tired.
When they go to bed varies usually between 1am and 5am.
Lately Cassie has been all turned around. She was staying up all night and sleeping all day for a week or two. Now this past week, she has been sleeping around 5-6pm until 3-5am. So she has been up in the day and asleep at night. Actually last week it was something like sleep 2-6am, get up and then go back to sleep around noon, just really odd...
Tonight she went to bed at 5 and is sleeping now. She'll wake up sometime early in the morning.
She is on a growth spurt. The last time she switched her sleep around, she ate, slept and grew. I wrote about it in the post Late Night Life, no linky at the moment....
She is 11 and is preparing for womanhood, she has grown a couple inches already. They literally grow in their sleep.
I am just so glad that she can do this. When I was a kid I suffered migraines and exhaustion among other things because I had to get up and go to school even though I just fell asleep.
She is truly listening to her body and sleeping when she needs to no matter what the clock says.
Freedom is beautiful!
I still don't sleep right. I'll leave you with Holt:
"I can't help noting that no cultures in the world that I have ever heard of make such a fuss about children's bedtimes, and no cultures have so many adults who find it so hard either to go to sleep or wake up. Could these social facts be connected? I strongly suspect they are."
~John Holt~
Sunday, June 27, 2010
Late night life
I have always been a late night person, I feel better at night. Over the years my kids have been staying up later and later.
Our kids have never had a set time that they had to go to bed. We have evolved into really late nighters more and more.
It has been so hot lately that they are staying up all night and sleeping late in the day. I think this will pass as time goes on and the seasons change. Isn't that life? Growing and changing with the times and seasons literally and figuratively.
Lately we have been going out at night around the neighborhood, last night we went out at 10:30pm. I walk and the kids all ride bikes. It's a way to get a little exercise and fresh air when it's a little more tolerable. Did I mention we have been in the high 90's with heat indexes in the low 100's, it was 104 last I checked. So the weather is having a bearing on our activities and times we do them.
We have lots of late night talks. We discuss all sorts of things. We sometimes play games or watch tv, a few might be on a computer, or drawing or playing.
They get pretty creative and play and make stuff up. The other night they were drawing, looking up how to draw ____ on the computer. They made all sorts of cool pictures that were left for me to see when I got up.
Pretty much what you do during the day we do at night. Learning happens all the time, life is 24/7 you should choose when you want to be awake and sleeping. The world is always awake, we have 24 hour stores and people who work the night shift. We do need people who are night time people to help the world run smoothly.
I remember a time several years ago ( like 8 or 9 years ago) that we used to prompt Kieran to start winding down or head to bed around 10pm. It wasn't a bedtime it was just a suggestion. Well Cassie was a toddler and she was up well until midnight running around. One night he asked why he had to go to bed while his little sister didn't.
Well Hello! Lightbulb!
You don't HAVE to go to bed, you can go to bed when you want, I never thought of it, it was just a routine. What I think happened is he realized he wanted to stay up and so he did.
He would be asleep by midnight or earlier but because he wanted to. Actually Kieran still goes to bed before the younger kids, he is 15 now.
It is important to listen to our internal clocks. Mine is all messed up after years of getting up for school even though I couldn't fall asleep until late at night.
I suffered migraines and insomnia because I had to conform to something that wasn't natural for me.
Right now Cassie is going through changes, she has herself on a really different sleep/wake schedule. She has been staying up all night and sleeping all day. Then all this week she was getting up at like 7 am and going back to sleep around 10 or 11 am and then sleeping the whole afternoon. She has been really tired and requiring more sleep, I believe it is body changes, possibly the start of puberty?
What I do know is that she is tired and is requiring more sleep than usual so she is listening to her body and sleeping regardless of what time is on the clock.
My husband does have a day job and he goes to bed when he is tired and he gets up in the morning to go to work. He is a morning person but he also stays up later than most people who get up for work do.
Whenever daddy goes to bed that means it's time to quiet things down so he gets his sleep. Once in a while they will forget and get loud and wake him, but most of the time he sleeps undisturbed.
When they were babies they slept and woke on their own time, we never messed with that. So many people have kids and try to make them fit nicely into their lifestyle and schedule. Well I think that causes problems, babies know when they are tired and hungry or wet etc..... We need to continue to trust and foster that as they grow.
Why do we have to live on an 8-5 work/school/day, bed by 9pm, up at 6am. I guarantee you that only a small percentage of the population actually thrive on that schedule.
School has set our young people up to live on their schedule regardless of what is natural. I know we as unschoolers do not live on any type of school schedule.
We live and learn naturally, we sleep when we are tired.
"I can't help noting that no cultures in the world that I have ever heard of make such a fuss about children's bedtimes, and no cultures have so many adults who find it so hard either to go to sleep or wake up. Could these social facts be connected? I strongly suspect they are."
~John Holt~ Teach Your Own
Our kids have never had a set time that they had to go to bed. We have evolved into really late nighters more and more.
It has been so hot lately that they are staying up all night and sleeping late in the day. I think this will pass as time goes on and the seasons change. Isn't that life? Growing and changing with the times and seasons literally and figuratively.
Lately we have been going out at night around the neighborhood, last night we went out at 10:30pm. I walk and the kids all ride bikes. It's a way to get a little exercise and fresh air when it's a little more tolerable. Did I mention we have been in the high 90's with heat indexes in the low 100's, it was 104 last I checked. So the weather is having a bearing on our activities and times we do them.
We have lots of late night talks. We discuss all sorts of things. We sometimes play games or watch tv, a few might be on a computer, or drawing or playing.
They get pretty creative and play and make stuff up. The other night they were drawing, looking up how to draw ____ on the computer. They made all sorts of cool pictures that were left for me to see when I got up.
Pretty much what you do during the day we do at night. Learning happens all the time, life is 24/7 you should choose when you want to be awake and sleeping. The world is always awake, we have 24 hour stores and people who work the night shift. We do need people who are night time people to help the world run smoothly.
I remember a time several years ago ( like 8 or 9 years ago) that we used to prompt Kieran to start winding down or head to bed around 10pm. It wasn't a bedtime it was just a suggestion. Well Cassie was a toddler and she was up well until midnight running around. One night he asked why he had to go to bed while his little sister didn't.
Well Hello! Lightbulb!
You don't HAVE to go to bed, you can go to bed when you want, I never thought of it, it was just a routine. What I think happened is he realized he wanted to stay up and so he did.
He would be asleep by midnight or earlier but because he wanted to. Actually Kieran still goes to bed before the younger kids, he is 15 now.
It is important to listen to our internal clocks. Mine is all messed up after years of getting up for school even though I couldn't fall asleep until late at night.
I suffered migraines and insomnia because I had to conform to something that wasn't natural for me.
Right now Cassie is going through changes, she has herself on a really different sleep/wake schedule. She has been staying up all night and sleeping all day. Then all this week she was getting up at like 7 am and going back to sleep around 10 or 11 am and then sleeping the whole afternoon. She has been really tired and requiring more sleep, I believe it is body changes, possibly the start of puberty?
What I do know is that she is tired and is requiring more sleep than usual so she is listening to her body and sleeping regardless of what time is on the clock.
My husband does have a day job and he goes to bed when he is tired and he gets up in the morning to go to work. He is a morning person but he also stays up later than most people who get up for work do.
Whenever daddy goes to bed that means it's time to quiet things down so he gets his sleep. Once in a while they will forget and get loud and wake him, but most of the time he sleeps undisturbed.
When they were babies they slept and woke on their own time, we never messed with that. So many people have kids and try to make them fit nicely into their lifestyle and schedule. Well I think that causes problems, babies know when they are tired and hungry or wet etc..... We need to continue to trust and foster that as they grow.
Why do we have to live on an 8-5 work/school/day, bed by 9pm, up at 6am. I guarantee you that only a small percentage of the population actually thrive on that schedule.
School has set our young people up to live on their schedule regardless of what is natural. I know we as unschoolers do not live on any type of school schedule.
We live and learn naturally, we sleep when we are tired.
"I can't help noting that no cultures in the world that I have ever heard of make such a fuss about children's bedtimes, and no cultures have so many adults who find it so hard either to go to sleep or wake up. Could these social facts be connected? I strongly suspect they are."
~John Holt~ Teach Your Own
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
One hour
I don't know about you but this time change is bugging me.
My body and the clock are not in the same time zone.
One hour, big deal, right?!
Well actually it isn't too big of a deal because I don't adhere to some strict schedule.
Thank God, we don't have a schedule!
I do have a routine and so do the kids.
You all know we are night people.
Well I'm not going to bed until 4 am...
I'm doing everything an hour later... BWHAAA!!!!
Shit, it's 3 am right now, I need to go to bed.
My friend from TX is coming tomorrow, I hope I'm up and coffee'd and showered before she gets here.
You don't want to see me before that!
Actually I don't really *wake* up until much later, hours even.
I feel my best at night, daytime just screws with me.
We have had beautiful weather and tomorrow is supposed to be 80 and sunny.
I need Vitamin D so when the sun is out I am there.
Kind of reminds me of *There is a leer jet in Mobile and I AM ON IT!
The SUN is out and I AM IN IT!
We all need sunshine :)
Be breezy!
My body and the clock are not in the same time zone.
One hour, big deal, right?!
Well actually it isn't too big of a deal because I don't adhere to some strict schedule.
Thank God, we don't have a schedule!
I do have a routine and so do the kids.
You all know we are night people.
Well I'm not going to bed until 4 am...
I'm doing everything an hour later... BWHAAA!!!!
Shit, it's 3 am right now, I need to go to bed.
My friend from TX is coming tomorrow, I hope I'm up and coffee'd and showered before she gets here.
You don't want to see me before that!
Actually I don't really *wake* up until much later, hours even.
I feel my best at night, daytime just screws with me.
We have had beautiful weather and tomorrow is supposed to be 80 and sunny.
I need Vitamin D so when the sun is out I am there.
Kind of reminds me of *There is a leer jet in Mobile and I AM ON IT!
The SUN is out and I AM IN IT!
We all need sunshine :)
Be breezy!
Friday, January 09, 2009
After Midnight
This piggyback's off of my last post.
Thanks for the comments from my fellow night owl cyber friend's :)
It is the dawn of a new day, this is my new day, I am awake, I feel good after midnight.
Of course the hot bath helps a ton I have been going all day, work, work, work...
I used to believe that the time of day we were born coinincides with our sleep/awake patterns.
I have met many people over the years that do make that ring true, but some who didn't.
I guess that is true with anything, we can find enough evidence to make or break anything.
Nothing is absolute because people are people, we are unique even when we have many similarities.
I love being up at night, I shop at night, I clean at night, I ummm do things at night.
I am in such a fog most of the day, so I was born at 11:48 pm and I have always been a night person.
It is hard for me to fall asleep, it's been that way since day 1.
My husband has the ability to go to bed late and get up early for work, he also can take 20 minute naps and be refreshed.
If I try to take a nap it takes me a looooong time to get comfortable, I have to be in my bed for starters.
He naps on his lunch break if he is tired, I have read that people who power nap are able to recharge and be alert.
Well I can't do that, but I am alert now :)
Hey it's almost time for House of Payne...
The kids have summoned me :)
Thanks for the comments from my fellow night owl cyber friend's :)
It is the dawn of a new day, this is my new day, I am awake, I feel good after midnight.
Of course the hot bath helps a ton I have been going all day, work, work, work...
I used to believe that the time of day we were born coinincides with our sleep/awake patterns.
I have met many people over the years that do make that ring true, but some who didn't.
I guess that is true with anything, we can find enough evidence to make or break anything.
Nothing is absolute because people are people, we are unique even when we have many similarities.
I love being up at night, I shop at night, I clean at night, I ummm do things at night.
I am in such a fog most of the day, so I was born at 11:48 pm and I have always been a night person.
It is hard for me to fall asleep, it's been that way since day 1.
My husband has the ability to go to bed late and get up early for work, he also can take 20 minute naps and be refreshed.
If I try to take a nap it takes me a looooong time to get comfortable, I have to be in my bed for starters.
He naps on his lunch break if he is tired, I have read that people who power nap are able to recharge and be alert.
Well I can't do that, but I am alert now :)
Hey it's almost time for House of Payne...
The kids have summoned me :)
Thursday, January 08, 2009
The other side of the clock
I have always been a night owl, it was torture to get up and go to school for all of those years.
No matter what, I was up late and got very little sleep.
In highschool I used two alarm clocks, one by my bed and one on the other side of my room, so I had to get up to shut it off.
That was actually my boss' idea, I worked as a hotel maid and had to be there by 8am on weekends.
It didn't work though, I would just get up and go back and forth for at least 30 minutes most days.
When I did work, I worked the swing shift, I was in college and had morning classes, go figure.
My children have inherited my night owl tendencies.
You could say some is because of environment but if that were true I would have adapted to the dayshift.
Lately though we have gotten even later.
We have started a 2am ritual of watching House of Payne. We absolutely love it, it is hilarious, the kids get all excited when I stay up and watch it with them.
It seems that they have headed into going to bed at 4am, sometimes later.
I don't get as much sleep as the kids but I guess they need more.
I love the freedom we have to sleep when we want, it's important to find your natural rhythm.
I think it's detrimental to try and force sleep, just like it's detrimental to force anything on another person.
No matter what, I was up late and got very little sleep.
In highschool I used two alarm clocks, one by my bed and one on the other side of my room, so I had to get up to shut it off.
That was actually my boss' idea, I worked as a hotel maid and had to be there by 8am on weekends.
It didn't work though, I would just get up and go back and forth for at least 30 minutes most days.
When I did work, I worked the swing shift, I was in college and had morning classes, go figure.
My children have inherited my night owl tendencies.
You could say some is because of environment but if that were true I would have adapted to the dayshift.
Lately though we have gotten even later.
We have started a 2am ritual of watching House of Payne. We absolutely love it, it is hilarious, the kids get all excited when I stay up and watch it with them.
It seems that they have headed into going to bed at 4am, sometimes later.
I don't get as much sleep as the kids but I guess they need more.
I love the freedom we have to sleep when we want, it's important to find your natural rhythm.
I think it's detrimental to try and force sleep, just like it's detrimental to force anything on another person.
Thursday, May 29, 2008
Can you say freak?
I am recovering from being sick and the last 4 days we have been busy.
I'm really tired it's like my body aches and my energy level is low.
Since I didn't have anywhere to be today I stayed in bed until almost 2:00 pm.
I got up a little before noon but went back to bed, I fell asleep and had some vivid, wild, dramatic even violent dreams. I woke up exhausted and swirled in a fog all day.
I layed down after dinner and almost fell asleep.
Sleeping makes me tired and dreaming exhausts me.
Try to figure that out.
I am so NOT right!
It's after midnight now and I feel pretty good, go figure...
I'm really tired it's like my body aches and my energy level is low.
Since I didn't have anywhere to be today I stayed in bed until almost 2:00 pm.
I got up a little before noon but went back to bed, I fell asleep and had some vivid, wild, dramatic even violent dreams. I woke up exhausted and swirled in a fog all day.
I layed down after dinner and almost fell asleep.
Sleeping makes me tired and dreaming exhausts me.
Try to figure that out.
I am so NOT right!
It's after midnight now and I feel pretty good, go figure...
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Oh My Gosh!
Let's just say my hormones are telling me something!
I am just feeling indifferent, cranky, restless, crampy, I want to do things but don't feel like doing them, I'm short and easily agitated, my house is a mess, I'm not nesting yet.
I just went and bought some more chocolate, I have some wine left.
If anyone cares, I actually slept last night, well this morning for you normal people.
I went to bed around 3:45 am and the next thing I knew it was 7:15 am and I was still on my back with my eye pillow on my eyes. This means that I didn't move for 3 hours, wow. I even went back to sleep. First real sleep all week :)
Of course it doesn't matter because I have PMS and everything is 10 times worse than it really is!
Really it's just me, I just feel pissy.
I hope I get a good idea to blog about, I do my best stuff when I'm hormonal.
I am just feeling indifferent, cranky, restless, crampy, I want to do things but don't feel like doing them, I'm short and easily agitated, my house is a mess, I'm not nesting yet.
I just went and bought some more chocolate, I have some wine left.
If anyone cares, I actually slept last night, well this morning for you normal people.
I went to bed around 3:45 am and the next thing I knew it was 7:15 am and I was still on my back with my eye pillow on my eyes. This means that I didn't move for 3 hours, wow. I even went back to sleep. First real sleep all week :)
Of course it doesn't matter because I have PMS and everything is 10 times worse than it really is!
Really it's just me, I just feel pissy.
I hope I get a good idea to blog about, I do my best stuff when I'm hormonal.
Sleep is highly overrated
Forgive me if I have already blogged about this!
I have not slept all week, no I'm not kidding, I mean I fall asleep for a few and wake up or get woken up and can't go back to sleep.
It sucks, I think it is hormonal, I mean I don't sleep well as it is but it seems to be worse pre-menstrual.
It's like I am almost asleep and something keeps me from getting there, it's really ridiculous.
I'm tired, the other night I went to bed early, like midnight, my kids came in several times, dogs barked, I couldn't relax, oh then there was the earthquake...
I blamed the door rattling on Cocoa, poor dog.
I'm telling you the forces are against me, it's stupid, it's a wonder I function at the level I do.
Tonight Jason said I can sleep when I'm dead, so there you have it.
I'm alive and kickin and I just won't go down without a fight!
I have not slept all week, no I'm not kidding, I mean I fall asleep for a few and wake up or get woken up and can't go back to sleep.
It sucks, I think it is hormonal, I mean I don't sleep well as it is but it seems to be worse pre-menstrual.
It's like I am almost asleep and something keeps me from getting there, it's really ridiculous.
I'm tired, the other night I went to bed early, like midnight, my kids came in several times, dogs barked, I couldn't relax, oh then there was the earthquake...
I blamed the door rattling on Cocoa, poor dog.
I'm telling you the forces are against me, it's stupid, it's a wonder I function at the level I do.
Tonight Jason said I can sleep when I'm dead, so there you have it.
I'm alive and kickin and I just won't go down without a fight!
Wednesday, March 05, 2008
Daily Groove
This is very timely for me as I was woken up before I was ready and I layed in bed trying to go back to sleep. I struggle with this kind of exhaustion and it's definitely mental :)
THE DAILY GROOVE ~ by Scott Noellewww.enjoyparenting.com/dailygroove:: Easing Exhaustion from Within ::
Resistance is holding onto thoughts that block your experience of Well-Being. Worry, frustration,resentment, annoyance, etc. -- all are manifestations of resistance. Clinging to resistant thoughts takes a lot of energy-- energy that *could* be easing your path.
Ironically, parents often complain about (i.e.,resist) not getting enough sleep. When you resist that condition, the resistance drains your energy, causing you to need even more sleep! Of course it's good to get as much rest as you can when you're exhausted. But you can also balance the equation from the *inside* by releasing the resistance that creates the stress that makes you tired --including your resistance to tiredness itself.
Today (and tonight) notice how you talk and think about sleep and rest. Gently release any thought that feels stressful. Imagine that every time you release a resistant thought, it's like giving yourself an hour of sleep. :-)
http://dailygroove.net/exhaustionFeel free to forward this message to your friends!(Please include this paragraph and everything above.)Copyright (c) 2008 by Scott Noelle"Inspiration & Coaching for Progressive
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THE DAILY GROOVE ~ by Scott Noellewww.enjoyparenting.com/dailygroove:: Easing Exhaustion from Within ::
Resistance is holding onto thoughts that block your experience of Well-Being. Worry, frustration,resentment, annoyance, etc. -- all are manifestations of resistance. Clinging to resistant thoughts takes a lot of energy-- energy that *could* be easing your path.
Ironically, parents often complain about (i.e.,resist) not getting enough sleep. When you resist that condition, the resistance drains your energy, causing you to need even more sleep! Of course it's good to get as much rest as you can when you're exhausted. But you can also balance the equation from the *inside* by releasing the resistance that creates the stress that makes you tired --including your resistance to tiredness itself.
Today (and tonight) notice how you talk and think about sleep and rest. Gently release any thought that feels stressful. Imagine that every time you release a resistant thought, it's like giving yourself an hour of sleep. :-)
http://dailygroove.net/exhaustionFeel free to forward this message to your friends!(Please include this paragraph and everything above.)Copyright (c) 2008 by Scott Noelle"Inspiration & Coaching for Progressive
Parents"http://www.ScottNoelle.comhttp://www.EnjoyParenting.com 1044 Water Street, Suite 342Port Townsend, WA 98368USATo unsubscribe or change subscriber options visit:http://www.aweber.com/z/r/?LIxMLOyctCyMbGwMzKxMtEa0zIysTCwsHA
Sunday, February 24, 2008
But if I don't make them...
The mainstream response to many issues between parent and child. This is a little story about my always unschooled, never bedtimed little girl. This is not the first time this is happened and it won't be the last and 3 out of my 4 kids have done this, Jared hasn't only because he is 5 and is still attached to me.
We have all heard parents say "If I don't make them_____, how will they learn?"
Left intentionally blank because there are so many phrases I have heard and read online.
This is inspired by my little girl who usually is up until 3-4am and sleeps until 3pm. She is a night owl like me, if only I got to sleep that long...
Friday night she made plans to go to her friend's house on Saturday, we decided on 2pm. She has a hard time going to bed until she is good and ready otherwise she can't sleep, gee that's vaguely familiar. She knew she had to get up before her usual time, the issue with that is that she anticipates it and can't sleep. I am the same way, if I know I have to get up before my usual time, I can't sleep, it's really frustrating and causes exhaustion for me. She is 8 though so she bounces back much faster than I can.
So last night she went to bed around 3:30 am, I read her a story every night and tuck her in. I got online and was reading all your blogs :)
She came out at 4:30am, just when I was getting ready to go to bed and told me she couldn't sleep. It was obvious to me that she was asleep and woke up so I just told her she should just go back to bed.
Apparantly she woke up at 10am, she got herself dressed, she packed a bag of things she was taking, she fed herself and brushed her teeth. She did wake me up a few times but hey with the dogs barking since 8 am I wasn't really sleeping.
What's sleep? I forgot what it's like...
My point is that this child got herself up and ready to go without being told to do it. WHY? Well all her life whenever we go somewhere we get dressed, eat and brush our teeth, so she knows what to do before leaving the house. Simple? Yes! Model, live, this is real life ya know.
Now I was made to get up and go to school and I am 36 years old and I finally go to bed when I want. Don't call me before 1pm, don't make plans with me before at least 2pm, I haven't found anything important enough to get me up.
See the difference? When you force a child to go to bed, get up, go to school so that they learn how to go to work as an adult is really asinine. Force and coerision are counterproductive to real life, just set them up to be miserable and resent life, yep that works...
We have all heard parents say "If I don't make them_____, how will they learn?"
Left intentionally blank because there are so many phrases I have heard and read online.
This is inspired by my little girl who usually is up until 3-4am and sleeps until 3pm. She is a night owl like me, if only I got to sleep that long...
Friday night she made plans to go to her friend's house on Saturday, we decided on 2pm. She has a hard time going to bed until she is good and ready otherwise she can't sleep, gee that's vaguely familiar. She knew she had to get up before her usual time, the issue with that is that she anticipates it and can't sleep. I am the same way, if I know I have to get up before my usual time, I can't sleep, it's really frustrating and causes exhaustion for me. She is 8 though so she bounces back much faster than I can.
So last night she went to bed around 3:30 am, I read her a story every night and tuck her in. I got online and was reading all your blogs :)
She came out at 4:30am, just when I was getting ready to go to bed and told me she couldn't sleep. It was obvious to me that she was asleep and woke up so I just told her she should just go back to bed.
Apparantly she woke up at 10am, she got herself dressed, she packed a bag of things she was taking, she fed herself and brushed her teeth. She did wake me up a few times but hey with the dogs barking since 8 am I wasn't really sleeping.
What's sleep? I forgot what it's like...
My point is that this child got herself up and ready to go without being told to do it. WHY? Well all her life whenever we go somewhere we get dressed, eat and brush our teeth, so she knows what to do before leaving the house. Simple? Yes! Model, live, this is real life ya know.
Now I was made to get up and go to school and I am 36 years old and I finally go to bed when I want. Don't call me before 1pm, don't make plans with me before at least 2pm, I haven't found anything important enough to get me up.
See the difference? When you force a child to go to bed, get up, go to school so that they learn how to go to work as an adult is really asinine. Force and coerision are counterproductive to real life, just set them up to be miserable and resent life, yep that works...
Tuesday, February 05, 2008
The hours we keep
I am a night owl that is no secret but so are my kids. Some days I barely get a moment of silence where I do not have to do anything for anybody. Lately it comes after 4am, Jared just fell asleep, Cassie is still up, the boys are sleeping.
I have no idea how to turn us around a little. I do not do mornings and really have no desire to but I admit it was nice when the kids were asleep by 1am. I won't impose any bedtime on them because... well I won't. They still fall asleep when they are ready to fall asleep. Sometimes I go to bed before them but I don't sleep anyway so what's the point?
What is my point? At this point I have no point, LOL! I just need a few moments of quiet and well if I want it I wait for it :)
We have no reason to keep different hours, I never do anything before noon, I suppose it is what it is. If we have a good reason to change then we will. I'm just glad that stores are open at night and that life doesn't stop because it's dark :) I love the night, I come alive after midnight, it's just natural for me.
I have no idea how to turn us around a little. I do not do mornings and really have no desire to but I admit it was nice when the kids were asleep by 1am. I won't impose any bedtime on them because... well I won't. They still fall asleep when they are ready to fall asleep. Sometimes I go to bed before them but I don't sleep anyway so what's the point?
What is my point? At this point I have no point, LOL! I just need a few moments of quiet and well if I want it I wait for it :)
We have no reason to keep different hours, I never do anything before noon, I suppose it is what it is. If we have a good reason to change then we will. I'm just glad that stores are open at night and that life doesn't stop because it's dark :) I love the night, I come alive after midnight, it's just natural for me.
Friday, February 01, 2008
Why sleep?
I'm starting to wonder, I mean really wonder...Why?
If it is supposed to make you rested and refreshed then it's pointless for me. I do not ever feel rested or refreshed after sleeping. As a matter of fact on the nights I really sleep, I dream and I remember many dreams and I wake up totally wiped out like I got hit by a truck or something.
When I am tired I try to go to bed, like last night, I couldn't fall asleep for a few hours. I think it is just best for me to stay up until 4am before I try to sleep because I'm awake until then anyway.
Today I am really wiped out, it's obvious that I lost my spunk for a few days, you know it happens every month :)
I layed down just to take a break and you know I'm in pain... I literally relaxed and almost fell asleep before the kids came in. I felt 10x worse and more like a zombie after lying down.
I will probably keep trying to figure this stuff out ya know. I am my best late at night, it's like I come alive after midnight, it's just so bizarre.
I think it's just part of me and I need to stop trying to figure myself out. If I can't I don't expect anyone else to.
If it is supposed to make you rested and refreshed then it's pointless for me. I do not ever feel rested or refreshed after sleeping. As a matter of fact on the nights I really sleep, I dream and I remember many dreams and I wake up totally wiped out like I got hit by a truck or something.
When I am tired I try to go to bed, like last night, I couldn't fall asleep for a few hours. I think it is just best for me to stay up until 4am before I try to sleep because I'm awake until then anyway.
Today I am really wiped out, it's obvious that I lost my spunk for a few days, you know it happens every month :)
I layed down just to take a break and you know I'm in pain... I literally relaxed and almost fell asleep before the kids came in. I felt 10x worse and more like a zombie after lying down.
I will probably keep trying to figure this stuff out ya know. I am my best late at night, it's like I come alive after midnight, it's just so bizarre.
I think it's just part of me and I need to stop trying to figure myself out. If I can't I don't expect anyone else to.
Friday, January 25, 2008
The forces are against me
Getting any sleep, not really but it sure seems that way.
You know I have a hard time falling asleep as it is, but once I am asleep I seem to get woken up constantly. It takes me so long to fall back to sleep, it's a vicious cycle. I need to sleep, preferably 8 hours, in a row would be heavenly I don't think I've done that since I was pregnant with Kieran, boy did I sleep a lot...
Example, this is last night, I went to bed at 1:30am, I am trying to go to bed earlier that 4am :)
I was still awake at 3:30am, got up to pee, then the next thing I knew it was 5:46am. Then Cassie woke me up at 8:3o claiming she couldn't sleep. Well either can I!!!!!!
She tried to go to bed last night because today she went over to her friend's house and she needed to get up before 2:00pm. She had a hard time going to sleep, well duh she is my child. She was asleep about the time I went to bed.
Anyway she woke me up, she was hungry, I was cranky... Then I fed her and we both tried to go back to sleep. As I lay in bed feeling extremely lousy, that time of morning is my absolute worse. I'm not one of those people that can get up then I have to go back to sleep or my whole day is shot.
Around 9:00am the dogs start barking, guess who has to let them out? Then the internet went out, I stream music all night, I can't sleep without it, so I had to fix that, oh and adjust the curtain cause the light was peeking in.
I think I fell asleep somewhere around 10:00am then the dogs were barking again at 11:00am and I ignored them as long as I could.
So I figure that I got about 5 hours of sleep during this fiasco I call my night.
It is typical for several things to wake me up several times a night. It is a wonder that I am fairly sane, I said fairly :)
You know I have a hard time falling asleep as it is, but once I am asleep I seem to get woken up constantly. It takes me so long to fall back to sleep, it's a vicious cycle. I need to sleep, preferably 8 hours, in a row would be heavenly I don't think I've done that since I was pregnant with Kieran, boy did I sleep a lot...
Example, this is last night, I went to bed at 1:30am, I am trying to go to bed earlier that 4am :)
I was still awake at 3:30am, got up to pee, then the next thing I knew it was 5:46am. Then Cassie woke me up at 8:3o claiming she couldn't sleep. Well either can I!!!!!!
She tried to go to bed last night because today she went over to her friend's house and she needed to get up before 2:00pm. She had a hard time going to sleep, well duh she is my child. She was asleep about the time I went to bed.
Anyway she woke me up, she was hungry, I was cranky... Then I fed her and we both tried to go back to sleep. As I lay in bed feeling extremely lousy, that time of morning is my absolute worse. I'm not one of those people that can get up then I have to go back to sleep or my whole day is shot.
Around 9:00am the dogs start barking, guess who has to let them out? Then the internet went out, I stream music all night, I can't sleep without it, so I had to fix that, oh and adjust the curtain cause the light was peeking in.
I think I fell asleep somewhere around 10:00am then the dogs were barking again at 11:00am and I ignored them as long as I could.
So I figure that I got about 5 hours of sleep during this fiasco I call my night.
It is typical for several things to wake me up several times a night. It is a wonder that I am fairly sane, I said fairly :)
Saturday, December 22, 2007
Trying to go to bed early...er
Is an absolutely insane proposal in this house. I have tried in the past to turn us around, just a little earlier. I am a night owl, I don't do mornings, apparantly so are my children.
I mean we unschool, we are free, we can sleep when we want, right!
Just once in awhile we have a thing to do that would make a need for us to get going sooner than usual.
I try once in awhile to go to bed early say around 2am, no I'm not kidding.
Jason says I need to do it every night for several nights, I know he is right but it just doesn't happen.
So.. I have an appointment tomorrow at 2 pm (well today I guess)
I suppose for most people that sounds pretty easy. I am sitting here blogging at 3:30am which is pretty typical and I just put Cassie to bed. She is so much like me in the sleeping department, it will be no easy task to wake her by noon. I don't sleep more than a few hours at a time so I can get up, doesn't mean I want to or am rested just means I can.
I don't believe in forcing bedtimes(duh) we never do things in the morning and that is by my choice. Hallelujah, I finally have a choice! All of those years being forced to get up for school even though I just went to sleep totally sucked. My nighttime habits have not changed, even when I went to school, I was sent to bed but did not fall asleep until the middle of the night.
Even on the nights I go to bed at 1am I'm not asleep until 4 am and then I wonder why the hell I went to bed in the first place.
Sheesh!
Well I'll quit blabbering so I can go to bed.
I mean we unschool, we are free, we can sleep when we want, right!
Just once in awhile we have a thing to do that would make a need for us to get going sooner than usual.
I try once in awhile to go to bed early say around 2am, no I'm not kidding.
Jason says I need to do it every night for several nights, I know he is right but it just doesn't happen.
So.. I have an appointment tomorrow at 2 pm (well today I guess)
I suppose for most people that sounds pretty easy. I am sitting here blogging at 3:30am which is pretty typical and I just put Cassie to bed. She is so much like me in the sleeping department, it will be no easy task to wake her by noon. I don't sleep more than a few hours at a time so I can get up, doesn't mean I want to or am rested just means I can.
I don't believe in forcing bedtimes(duh) we never do things in the morning and that is by my choice. Hallelujah, I finally have a choice! All of those years being forced to get up for school even though I just went to sleep totally sucked. My nighttime habits have not changed, even when I went to school, I was sent to bed but did not fall asleep until the middle of the night.
Even on the nights I go to bed at 1am I'm not asleep until 4 am and then I wonder why the hell I went to bed in the first place.
Sheesh!
Well I'll quit blabbering so I can go to bed.
Monday, November 26, 2007
No bedtimes!?
This is always a hot topic, not as hot as video games but popular nonetheless.
It has been brought up twice this week on christian unschooling basics, I did reply once but I find I'm much better at blogging because then it's not personal, it's just my opinion, my perspective, my experience.
Technically my kids have never had bedtimes, I breastfed and co-slept and moved them on to their own bed when the next baby came. We just slept when we were tired, while nursing or whatever. I am a night person I always have been, my kids are pretty much night people but my oldest is a little earlier than the rest.
We did have a period of time when our routine would end up sending the big boys to bed around 10pm, we never thought anything of it. One day Kieran asked me why he had to go to bed but his little sister didn't. Light bulb moment! She just naturally was running around at midnight :)
I had already been on unschooling groups and read many posts and said well you don't HAVE TO go bed if you aren't ready.
At first they pushed themselves, later and later each night, Jason did get a little annoyed, but I asked him to trust the process. I am blessed with a husband who trusts me and gives me lots of leeway with the kids.
They ended up tapering off after several weeks and started to go to bed anywhere between 10pm and 1am. Cassie and Jared were still up later but the difference was they decided when to go to bed, not me.
Although now my kids are up half the night, it ebbs and flows and times do vary but now it's more like between 1 and 4 am but they are older now, 12,9,8,5.
They go to bed when they are ready plain and simple.
My husband has to get up at 6am to go to work, he goes to bed anywhere from 10pm to 1am usually an average is midnight. The kids know that whenever daddy goes to bed it's quiet time, sometimes they get too loud but most of the time they do pretty good.
We don't believe that everyone should go to sleep and wake up at the same time, nor be hungry at the same time nor go to the bathroom at the same time, see where I'm going?
We all have our own schedules and routines and nobody should make us something we're not.
My husband has no problem getting up in the morning, I do, I am physically unable to get up in the morning but when I did work I worked swing shift.
Don't let any naysayer tell you that your kids will never learn how to get up and go to work, that's a bunch of BS. If they don't do mornings who the hell cares the world revolves around a 24 hour time period each day, thank God for that. I spent my years getting up early and being miserable, I was exhausted and suffered migraines. Just because I had to go to bed did not mean I went to sleep and then I had to get up for school, oh the absolute misery.
I will not make my kids go to bed or make them get up for anything, especially school. If we learn to listen to our bodies and find the natural rhythm early on we will be so much better off in the long run.
This is not say they they don't get up to go places that they WANT to go because they do. The point is thay are in control of their own bodies, they know when they are tired.
If you are just lifting a restriction, I would do it gradually, a little more yeses each night until they are the ones putting themselves to bed. My kids tell me they are going to bed.
I realize that many people will never do what I do, I mean the whole damn package, it's not easy to get over the engrained shit BUT it is so worth it. Let go, move on, embrace your life right this moment and don't listen to people who tell you it can't be done.
"In a nutshell, people whose lives are hard, boring, painful, meaningless—people who suffer—tend to resent those who seem to suffer less than they do, and will make them suffer if they can. People who feel themselves in chains, with no hope of ever getting them off, want to put chains on everyone else." —John Holt, Teach Your Own, Introduction.
It has been brought up twice this week on christian unschooling basics, I did reply once but I find I'm much better at blogging because then it's not personal, it's just my opinion, my perspective, my experience.
Technically my kids have never had bedtimes, I breastfed and co-slept and moved them on to their own bed when the next baby came. We just slept when we were tired, while nursing or whatever. I am a night person I always have been, my kids are pretty much night people but my oldest is a little earlier than the rest.
We did have a period of time when our routine would end up sending the big boys to bed around 10pm, we never thought anything of it. One day Kieran asked me why he had to go to bed but his little sister didn't. Light bulb moment! She just naturally was running around at midnight :)
I had already been on unschooling groups and read many posts and said well you don't HAVE TO go bed if you aren't ready.
At first they pushed themselves, later and later each night, Jason did get a little annoyed, but I asked him to trust the process. I am blessed with a husband who trusts me and gives me lots of leeway with the kids.
They ended up tapering off after several weeks and started to go to bed anywhere between 10pm and 1am. Cassie and Jared were still up later but the difference was they decided when to go to bed, not me.
Although now my kids are up half the night, it ebbs and flows and times do vary but now it's more like between 1 and 4 am but they are older now, 12,9,8,5.
They go to bed when they are ready plain and simple.
My husband has to get up at 6am to go to work, he goes to bed anywhere from 10pm to 1am usually an average is midnight. The kids know that whenever daddy goes to bed it's quiet time, sometimes they get too loud but most of the time they do pretty good.
We don't believe that everyone should go to sleep and wake up at the same time, nor be hungry at the same time nor go to the bathroom at the same time, see where I'm going?
We all have our own schedules and routines and nobody should make us something we're not.
My husband has no problem getting up in the morning, I do, I am physically unable to get up in the morning but when I did work I worked swing shift.
Don't let any naysayer tell you that your kids will never learn how to get up and go to work, that's a bunch of BS. If they don't do mornings who the hell cares the world revolves around a 24 hour time period each day, thank God for that. I spent my years getting up early and being miserable, I was exhausted and suffered migraines. Just because I had to go to bed did not mean I went to sleep and then I had to get up for school, oh the absolute misery.
I will not make my kids go to bed or make them get up for anything, especially school. If we learn to listen to our bodies and find the natural rhythm early on we will be so much better off in the long run.
This is not say they they don't get up to go places that they WANT to go because they do. The point is thay are in control of their own bodies, they know when they are tired.
If you are just lifting a restriction, I would do it gradually, a little more yeses each night until they are the ones putting themselves to bed. My kids tell me they are going to bed.
I realize that many people will never do what I do, I mean the whole damn package, it's not easy to get over the engrained shit BUT it is so worth it. Let go, move on, embrace your life right this moment and don't listen to people who tell you it can't be done.
"In a nutshell, people whose lives are hard, boring, painful, meaningless—people who suffer—tend to resent those who seem to suffer less than they do, and will make them suffer if they can. People who feel themselves in chains, with no hope of ever getting them off, want to put chains on everyone else." —John Holt, Teach Your Own, Introduction.
Monday, October 15, 2007
What is the meaning of life?
LOL! Beats me, let me in on it if you know!!
Ok so I haven't been online much lately, 2 computers 6 people, do the math!
I have tried to go to bed early well for 2 days anyway. One night by 1:45am still awake until 4:00, the next night by 12:30 awake until 2:30am. So my theory remains the same, going to bed earlier does not insure more sleep or even rest for that matter.
My kids also went to bed earlier but Cassie came in at least 3 times to tell me she couldn't sleep. Jared who sleeps in our bed did not want to stay up without me so he came to bed and babbled for like an hour. He asked me all sorts of questions and I told him that I was really tired and couldn't talk, LOL! So he finally falls asleep and there I am still awake, sheesh.
Everytime I try to go to bed earlier it backfires, but I figure I'll give it a shot :)
The truth is we were more tired and definitely had some cranky issues. So I say go to bed when you want and wake up when you want! I have always said that but sometimes I do these little experiments to keep me on my toes.
So much to say where to begin? Well you all know that we love unschooling, we love the freedoms we have. Case in point, our new friends who are unschoolers and free in other areas also... Our kids will talk on the phone while playing computer games until well into the night. Usually our phone battery dies then they have to say good-bye. The freedom to do that is really wonderful.
Last weekend our neighbor's went out of town and the grandma stayed with the kids. The boy called up Brenny and they were playing Runescape and talking on the phone and he said his grandma didn't care if he was up and that he wanted to stay up all night. This is no big deal to Brennan who goes to bed when he wants but it was huge to W, he told Brenny that it was *my day* so funny he is 8 years old and partying while mom and dad are away... They stayed up until 6:30am.
Such a small thing to us but a huge thing to him to stay up all night like it's something magical.
Actually Brennan just told me that W said that he is going to homeschool his kids that he doesn't ever want them to go to school, he is 8!!!
I know that we are having a profound affect on these kids lives and are showing them a glimpse of how things can be. They practically live here, just tonight another example of someone else's rules... They spent all day here from like 12:30 to 5:30, then they went somewhere and W came back around 6:30 and said that he could play in our yard, front or back but not in the house. Brennan told me he didn't feel like playing outside right now, of course I told him he didn't have to but he needs to tell W.
Shouldn't it be up to me whether or not they are in MY house??? Oh well so W went home, and tomorrow is back to school, they have had a 2 week break.
More and more my kids realize how different things can be from one house to the next, I always knew. The thing is if the opportunity doesn't present itself I really have no business saying anything. That is what is so hard even with our own friends we really have to be careful what we say but we can definitely be examples.
Ok so I haven't been online much lately, 2 computers 6 people, do the math!
I have tried to go to bed early well for 2 days anyway. One night by 1:45am still awake until 4:00, the next night by 12:30 awake until 2:30am. So my theory remains the same, going to bed earlier does not insure more sleep or even rest for that matter.
My kids also went to bed earlier but Cassie came in at least 3 times to tell me she couldn't sleep. Jared who sleeps in our bed did not want to stay up without me so he came to bed and babbled for like an hour. He asked me all sorts of questions and I told him that I was really tired and couldn't talk, LOL! So he finally falls asleep and there I am still awake, sheesh.
Everytime I try to go to bed earlier it backfires, but I figure I'll give it a shot :)
The truth is we were more tired and definitely had some cranky issues. So I say go to bed when you want and wake up when you want! I have always said that but sometimes I do these little experiments to keep me on my toes.
So much to say where to begin? Well you all know that we love unschooling, we love the freedoms we have. Case in point, our new friends who are unschoolers and free in other areas also... Our kids will talk on the phone while playing computer games until well into the night. Usually our phone battery dies then they have to say good-bye. The freedom to do that is really wonderful.
Last weekend our neighbor's went out of town and the grandma stayed with the kids. The boy called up Brenny and they were playing Runescape and talking on the phone and he said his grandma didn't care if he was up and that he wanted to stay up all night. This is no big deal to Brennan who goes to bed when he wants but it was huge to W, he told Brenny that it was *my day* so funny he is 8 years old and partying while mom and dad are away... They stayed up until 6:30am.
Such a small thing to us but a huge thing to him to stay up all night like it's something magical.
Actually Brennan just told me that W said that he is going to homeschool his kids that he doesn't ever want them to go to school, he is 8!!!
I know that we are having a profound affect on these kids lives and are showing them a glimpse of how things can be. They practically live here, just tonight another example of someone else's rules... They spent all day here from like 12:30 to 5:30, then they went somewhere and W came back around 6:30 and said that he could play in our yard, front or back but not in the house. Brennan told me he didn't feel like playing outside right now, of course I told him he didn't have to but he needs to tell W.
Shouldn't it be up to me whether or not they are in MY house??? Oh well so W went home, and tomorrow is back to school, they have had a 2 week break.
More and more my kids realize how different things can be from one house to the next, I always knew. The thing is if the opportunity doesn't present itself I really have no business saying anything. That is what is so hard even with our own friends we really have to be careful what we say but we can definitely be examples.
Wednesday, August 22, 2007
Summer colds
What an oxymoron, it all started with Tina http://www.caffeinefreedom.blogspot.com
Her family had colds a few weeks ago, I thought it was odd.
It's been over 100 degrees all month you would think that viruses would be dead.
So earlier this week Cassie has a sore throat and stuffy nose, then Kieran, then Brennan, now me and Jared too. I have a sore throat!!!!
Kieran also has three internet friends with it too. This gives new meaning to *computer virus*
No sleep last night because Jared was wimpering because he didn't feel good, then the dogs barked all morning.
Some days I think I would be better off just staying up, sleep is overrated, of course I don't get any.
Her family had colds a few weeks ago, I thought it was odd.
It's been over 100 degrees all month you would think that viruses would be dead.
So earlier this week Cassie has a sore throat and stuffy nose, then Kieran, then Brennan, now me and Jared too. I have a sore throat!!!!
Kieran also has three internet friends with it too. This gives new meaning to *computer virus*
No sleep last night because Jared was wimpering because he didn't feel good, then the dogs barked all morning.
Some days I think I would be better off just staying up, sleep is overrated, of course I don't get any.
Monday, July 16, 2007
Freedom in sleep habits
As unschoolers we truly have many freedoms that others don't, mainly because others won't allow themselves freedom from have to's and should's and should not's.
The other day my friend Tina at http://caffeinefreedom.blogspot.com/ was talking about bedtimes and have to's and she inspired me.
I have been living with some pretty different sleeping hours since Jared is so sporatic. I posted last week about him taking a nap and being up, well I didn't finish, he was up until 6:30 am last Saturday night.
This whole week he has been up very late or early I guess. The past 2 nights it's been 4:30 am before he konks out. Last night he went to sleep at 4:30am and woke up at 9:30am, um HELLO, I need SLEEP!!!! So he got up and thankfully Jason was home, he went back to sleep from 1:30pm-5:30pm .
So here I am posting again about sleep or the lack there of. I was telling my friend about this tonight and I said that I am so glad that we have the freedom for this. I can't make my son sleep, I can't make myself sleep. I am just so glad that we are able to accomodate his habits and not try to force unnecessary harm to him or us.
So many parents just set a time and make their kids go to bed without choice or discussion, of course many have to go to SCHOOL at the crack of dawn for some dumbing down and mind numbing lessons.
Well lately I have been up until the crack of dawn and sleeping all morning, I am just so thankful for these options and choices.
Everything is a choice we don't HAVE TO do anything!!!!!
The other day my friend Tina at http://caffeinefreedom.blogspot.com/ was talking about bedtimes and have to's and she inspired me.
I have been living with some pretty different sleeping hours since Jared is so sporatic. I posted last week about him taking a nap and being up, well I didn't finish, he was up until 6:30 am last Saturday night.
This whole week he has been up very late or early I guess. The past 2 nights it's been 4:30 am before he konks out. Last night he went to sleep at 4:30am and woke up at 9:30am, um HELLO, I need SLEEP!!!! So he got up and thankfully Jason was home, he went back to sleep from 1:30pm-5:30pm .
So here I am posting again about sleep or the lack there of. I was telling my friend about this tonight and I said that I am so glad that we have the freedom for this. I can't make my son sleep, I can't make myself sleep. I am just so glad that we are able to accomodate his habits and not try to force unnecessary harm to him or us.
So many parents just set a time and make their kids go to bed without choice or discussion, of course many have to go to SCHOOL at the crack of dawn for some dumbing down and mind numbing lessons.
Well lately I have been up until the crack of dawn and sleeping all morning, I am just so thankful for these options and choices.
Everything is a choice we don't HAVE TO do anything!!!!!
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