There are many complains I have heard from a friend. The wife complaining that her husband is demanding too much sex: "He doesn't respect that I'm tired or upset; he isn't romantic; he wants even I'm sick". And so forth.
Husband reponds, "She never in th mood; she acts as if it's burden; she always ignore me at night; she doesn't seem to make me a priority in her life at all". They have different complains.
So the question becomes, how much is enough sex for married couple, and if you're not in the mood, should you have sex anyway?
Total strangers have sex. People who love each other make love. We seek out taking care of each other in giving each other this pleasure because God made our bodies to experience deep pleasure in sexual expression of emotional need for intimacy.
One only has sex when one is in the mood. Some people get in the mood and go have casual or completely anonymous sex. We are seeing that lately with young adults on college campuses who hook up solely for sexual release.
The goal of lovemaking is to give pleasure and sexual release to the person whose life you've committed to. There is no "being in the mood" for that. You dont even have to be in the mood for sex at all to still be loving and caretaking of your beloved's needs. However, it does seem to turn out that when engaging in sexual intimacies for the pleasure of your spouse, you'll often find yourself getting aroused also. You've experienced that for sure, the same way you might not feel hungry until you taste that first delectable morsel.
So, since strangers can have sex, but only people in love can make love, we have to stop thinking about the schedules and how we are tired from other things, and sometimes even men want to cuddle for closeness, which leads to more activity. So you better should have time to each other after those hectic schedules. Spend more quality time and don't stop saying I love you to each other.
That's what it is supposed to be like. People who love each other should look at each other as an oasis, whose flowers they tend with loving care.
