the three-month rule.

so maybe things didn't work out. just days after the breakup, you move quickly from deep pain to flirting with anything that walks on two legs, talks and appears human. you distract yourself from the pain of your sorrow without taking the time to heal. welcome to the world of rebound relationships.

why do people get into rebound relationships? when the pain is so deep, one feels the need to be with someone who can replace his/her ex. and it doesn't matter how good or bad the replacement is. again, as long as he/she can walk and talk. practically anyone who can temporarily take away the pain, offer the slightest sympathy and tiniest bit of care. usual targets for rebound are friends of the opposite sex, workmates, or any person you see everyday. rebound relationships may be a quick answer to getting over that bitch who broke your heart, but its either you or the reboundee will eventually feel its adverse effects.

i remember watching the john lloyd-bea movie before, "one more chance." i rarely watch local films but this movie hit me with john lloyd's line, "Hindi mo ba alam ang three-month rule Basha? Bakit hindi mo sinunod? Bakit?" apparently, the three-month rule is a 90-day grace period that one must give oneself after a breakup. it is not advisable to date and recommit with someone else after a breakup because you are most vulnerable after a breakup especially if it did not end well. thus, dating within the 90-day grace period is considered rebounding.

i'm not exactly pro-rebounding nor con, but i do understand people who do that. as long as the reboundee is made aware of your emotional status, then why not? a person on the rebound is usually isn't in a healthy state of mind because they haven't had the time to "mourn" the previous relationship. as time goes by, they move towards a healthier state of mind, thinking things over and began to do what is right. this can turn out to be a rough turn of events for the reboundee. they can work it out for the best, or can be no longer needed and cast aside.

all i know is that rebounding and dating within the 90-day grace period is not a sound strategy for finding a long term relationship. one will end up getting hurt. and oftentimes? its YOU who will.