Here's My Story

 “20 years from now, the only people who will remember that you worked late are your kids” ― David Clarke

  True!

Jang JaeYoung: Do you even know my name?! You'd better! Chu SangWoo: Efficient minds tend to delete worthless information.   - Semantic Error, web novel written by Jeo SuRi, illustrated by Kim Angy 😂

Nevertheless, there are times when a client will ask his counselor to keep a bit of information secret and the counselor can usually agree to do so. Invariably, though, the information will be circulating on the grapevine within hours or days, and the client himself has spread it, usually telling "only" three or four people. - "Adults on the Autism Spectrum: Leave the Nest, Achieving Supported Independence" by Nancy Perr

" It seems so basic that a person with normal or almost normal intelliegence would know that most people say what they intend to do and do as they say as a matter of course. And that repeatedltly not doing what you promise will cause ruptured relationships, anger, and loss of respect. The problem is: the person with executive deficits doesn't link behaviour with discussions of behaviour. Recall that the person with disabilities can generally do only one cognitive thing at a time. When the one thing he is doing is talking, then the action under discussion is not being engaged. When the time comes to do the action, then the talking (and thinking) will not be taking place. There is a disconneciton between talking now and doing later. So when clients talk in class about the best thing to do in a given situation, they sound smart and correct. But when it becomes time to do that very thing, they often behave as if they were on autopilot toward the most selfish or foolish possible

 

 " Many of our clients appear to be amoral or immoral at times. Their parents react with distress and cannot understand how and why they seemed to forget all they were taught at home. I believe the failures of morality stem from the most important clinical observation about impaired executive functioning: much of the impairment is a matter of not being able to do two things at once . As mentioned earlier, these individuals live primarily in the present. They don't stop and think before acting. They can't think about how to get what they want and also think about the consequences of pursuing what they want, at the same time. Therefore, they don't think about the morality of their actions unless directed to stop and think by another person who serves as the missing executive function. In that event, they often make the right moral choice. " - "Adults on the Autism Spectrum: Leave the Nest, Achieving Supported Independence" by Nancy Perry

 " The essential difference between a plan and a scheme is the difference in attention paid to the consequences. " - "Adults on the Autism Spectrum: Leave the Nest, Achieving Supported Independence" by Nancy Perry

 " The clients in my program come to know one another very well. They attend classess and groups together, they are paired as roommates at staff discretion, and they socialize together. Although they cherish these friendships, relationships that have eluded them all their lives, most of them do not hesistate to say terribly mean things to and about one another. They will tell one another that they smell bad, that they are fat, or ugly, or don't like the right music. But if a staff member intervenes and asks whether that was the right thing to do, most of our clients know, on reflection, that the comments were rude or insensitive or mean. They just aren't able to monitor themselves continuously, which would be required to prevent the hurtful and rude behaviors. Only our clients who are autistic or have Asperger's Syndrome are genuinely puzzled by our questions about the appropriateness of interpersonal behaviors. That group of clients defend their behavior on the ground

" He knew the time he was supposed to meet the others for dinner, but he didn't know how to perceive or calculate the amount of time it would consume to stop in at each store on his route. When he arrived 40 minutes past the meeting time, he was confused, hurt, and angry to see that he had been left behind. When  the interaction of sequencing and time is analyzed this way, it becomes clear that ememory is affect by a deficit in sequencing ability, and vice versa. My clients have very poor memoeries for when something happened and poor judgment for the feeling of how much time has passed since a specific event occurred. The same is true for events coming up in the future. ... They don't feel the passage of time the way we normall do. ...... In this secnario, the client will be on medication that was prescribed by a different octor, perhaps some time ago. The current doctor will want to record in her records how long the client has been on medication. So she asks the cli

" Nora and i were discussing her messy bedroom.  She said she would like it to be cleaner and neater. I asked her to picture her room and tell me what it would take to be the way she wanted it. She ticked off on her dingers, "I'd have to make the bed, and pick up all the clothes off the floor, and clear off the top of the desk, and vacuum, and throw away the newspapers and junk mail." I remarked that she knew what to do to clean the room, but she answered that she wouldn't know where to begin. So I asked her to tell me again the things that had to be done. Again she ticked them off on her fingers, in the same order. I said, 'So now you know what to do." Her list amounted ot a very competent analysis of the necessary steps to clean the room. But she looked at me with a completeley blank stare and said, again, that she had no idea how to clean the room. For Nora, a description of the room that she could picture in her mind bore no relation to knowing how t

" At the program where I work, we have members of all three diagnostic groups as clients, given that those with autism are high functioning. When prospective clients and their families visit, we like to ask a veteran client to show his or her apartment to the visitors. This is an unambiguous social sitaution in that there is a specific point to the interaction; it is meant to be friendly, informative, and brief. Our executively impaired clients have no difficulty accomplishing this task and passing for normal if the contact remains brief enough and superficial enough. They have sufficiently good social behavior to greet strangers with eye contact and a hand shake, to make small talk while walking to the apartment, and to point out obvious features of the environment (this is my bedroom and this is my roommate's bedroom). The clients who have autism or Asperger's are not able to accomplish this simple behaviour without revealing their social disability. " - "Adu

" Our PDD-NOS clients have trouble doing the socially correct thing when their focus is pulled elsewhere. Unlike a person with Asperger's or autism, these individuals are very contex-dependent; unlike the others on the spectrum, when questioned about social behaviour, they can correctly answer what is expected as long as their focus is not pulled to some other need or interest. Knowing the right answers does not guarantee the correct behvaiour when the situation arises, however. Those with Asperger's respond very differently to the same social questions. Although they don't know the correct answers, they tend to be overly confident about their interpretations, even self-righteous. And they don't accept others' interpretations even when they would obviously benefit by doing so. On the other hand, intelligent individuals with autism or Asperger's can sometimes train themselves in social behaviour to an extent that they can get by, although awkwardly, in the

"  Minister for National Development (of Singapore) Lawrence Wong had claims of not having the “luxury of the benefit of hindsight” in a news conference on 9 April, to which journalist Kirsten Han had to say, “recent developments have demonstrated that you can’t have foresight for things you refuse to see”.  " I love this quote.

Hang out with people who matter to you and RESPECT them by not being intimate with your phone.

I learned something new from Dictionary.com that's applicable to me: " JOMO noun [joh-moh] Slang. a feeling of contentment with one’s own pursuits and activities, without worrying over the possibility of missing out on what others may be doing. "

Inuyasha:   Well, it’s too late now, isn’t it?! If you didn’t want the ashes stolen, why didn’t you just scatter the ashes into the river? You stayed sentimental and kept hanging on to them and see what happened? Kaede:  Inuyasha, how do you feel about a grave? A grave is not simply a place to bury a body or ashes. A grave is necessary for the hearts of ones who are left behind. Inuyasha:   Hearts of those left behind? Cut-scene of memories of KIK. She stands on a hill, overlooking the village. Kaede:  (voice-over) My sister was born a priestess. And she used her special powers for the good of the villagers. She kept demons away from the village and battle illness and famine countless times, encouraging the people around her. Even after her demise, the villagers have not weakened, they are resolved to live. Cut to image of KIK’s grave . Kaede:  (voice-over) However, man is weak. Danger and uncertainty can weaken his heart. The grave was a place of reassurance. A place where

So, my argument is that as we become more and more scientifically literate, it's worth remembering that the fictions with which we previously populated our world may have some function that it's worth trying to understand and preserve the essential components of, rather than throwing out the baby with the bath water; because even though we may not accept the reasons given for them being here in the first place, it may well be that there are good practical reasons for them, or something like them, to be there. - "Salmon of Doubt" by Douglas Adam

I've come up with a set of rules that describe our reactions to technologies: Anything that is in the world when you're born is normal and ordinary and is just a natural part of the way the world works. Anything that's invented between when you're fifteen ad thirty-five is new and exciting and revolutionary and you can probably get a career in it. Anything invented after you're thirty-five is against the natural order of things. - "Salmon of Doubt" by Douglas Adam Hahaha.

And now we have the World Wide Web (the only thing I know of whose shortened form --www-- takes three times longer to say than what it's short for) and we have yet another exciting new model. - "The Salmon of Doubt" by Douglas Adams