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August 31, 2018

A call to all fathers

A few months ago I met a new friend —after speaking at a church—who approached me and asked if I would be interested in sharing my message with a big group of business men. At first I thought, “what would I have to offer a bunch of men?...” and then he proceeded to tell me about a statistic he keeps finding every where he looks. When asked what is most important to them...he finds most business men instantly say, “my family” but after more conversation he learns that most of these same men only spend about 1% of their time with their families. 

The past few days I have been reminded why that statistic is something I am passionate about changing. Fathers...we need YOU. This video and post are about a little car ride and a note in the night that helped me remember a message I can’t hold back any more. 







After a car ride with six thirteen year old girls I spent the next two days struggling with some hard truths. There are a lot of kids with the same story.

This message is to all Fathers. You are valuable and your kids need you.

They  need your strengths and your gifts. They need you to wrestle them and throw the ball to them. They need your time and your love.

They  need you to show them what a real man looks like. If we want our daughters to find a man that treats them right and honors their promises, then we have to show them what that kind of a man looks like.

Love their mothers. Be kind to the woman in their life.

Respect and honor your family. Not by working your life away or running from your problems, but by showing up every day.

With love and honor and virtue. Live your truths. Be the kind of man you want your daughter to want to marry someday.

Yesterday would have been Emmett's 38th birthday. If he were here I know there are many things he would say to all the fathers in his life. And I am sure as he watched his five children celebrate, for the 7th time, without him . . . Emmett wants all Father's to remember this:

We only get one chance to raise them. Don't waste your days making extra dollars or bigger muscles, use your days making extra memories and more smiles. 

Children deserve a father who teaches them how to use grace, we don't need to be perfect, just humble. Children deserve a father who is there for them. Chose choices that keep you safe and go home every night. Children deserve to see their parents as often as possible. Children deserve peace. Do all that you can to give them stability and consistency. 

Be their friend, but also their father. Teach them to love others over themselves. Show them how to find their purpose, tell them every day that being their dad is one of yours. 

Believe in your kids. Encourage them, tell them they are good. Use words to lift them up, but always use actions to help them believe your words. Don't spend your days wishing they were different, I promise you will wish this time back someday. 

Live for them now, so you don't regret the life you didn't get to give them. Don't let the darkness make you loose sight of what is important, no amount of money, or flattery, or praise from the world will make up for the broken hearts who needed you. 

Never put another person, including yourself, above your family. They deserve the best parts of you. Your family will always remember the person you are today, but the man you show up to be tomorrow, they will never forget. Don't die with regrets . . . that is hell. And to live with purpose, that is how you find heaven. 

God gave you this gift of fatherhood, make it count. Take control of what really is important to you, and be that man today. We have enough fatherless children, go home and tell them you love them. 

Now is your time, please, please don't wait. Before it is too late. Make it right. No matter how far you have gone away, turn back and start again. 

No regrets. Love them unconditionally, that is the greatest gift they need right now, not money. The most important gift you can give your children today . . . is YOU. 

Be the man you always wanted to be. I promise you won't regret it. 


What do you want your children's story to be? Today they are writing it. No matter where you have been, I urge you to figure out your crap and go show up as the one they deserve. I know it is possible!!! Fear will tell you it doesn't matter. But it does. Today we act for ourselves, instead of living out of fear. Fear is what takes a father away. Fear they need to make more money to be valuable. Fear they need to be perfect before they can go home and be the father their kids deserve. Fear they aren't enough, stops them from being anything.

To the many children who have felt abandoned, forgotten, or alone. This was not your fault. You are still lovable, and worthy of an amazing life. Forgive the one who didn't give you all you deserved and believe in the future. You didn't choose this story, and you can decide how it ends. Be everything for your children, and the people in your life, that they weren't for you. Turn it into good. You have the power to change their story.

The parts of our stories we can't control, are only a fraction of the ones we are meant to live. You can make a difference, in your story, and in the story of all the people you were born to love.


May 28, 2017

Your story


Less than a week and we are in Nampa. What I love most about these events are the hugs I get, and the connection I feel to each one of you. A place to come where people understand, where I never feel alone.

Every single person that walks in those doors has a story. A story of heartache . . . a story of pain, and fight, and bravery. A story of triumph and failure. A story of fear, and loss, and overcoming. Because that is what life is: a battle of light and dark. A journey to find our purpose and connection to something greater than ourselves . . . finding strength beyond our own despite the traumas we face and the mountains we are asked to climb. We each have a story, as unique as our souls.

I never thought mine would be one I could tell out loud. And then one day I knew I had to. Not because it was going to be easy, or fun, or inspiring for anyone else . . . but because I knew I couldn't hide from it any more. Before I could write a new story with grace, I was going to have to love the broken girl I had been hiding from. For me, this journey has been the path I never knew I would need to heal the parts of me I thought I had lost forever.

So if you have a story . . . one you didn't plan, one that is still breaking you, one that you wished you could write again . . . come join us next Saturday, cause we have been there too. And I promise you some of the stories you will hear and tools you will learn will change you. These presenters are amazing and truly speak from their hearts. Stories of triumph, fear, pain, and overcoming . . . just like yours.

I am so thankful for each one of you. Thank you for helping me each day to find my purpose and strength. The support I have received these past six years has been empowering. I can't tell you what the kind words, encouragement and support has meant to me. I believe in each one of you, and am so humbled to be part of your lives in some small way and to be able to connect to something that is so much bigger than me. We are all united, and I feel your strengths. Thank you for helping me find mine.


For more information about presenters and the event please visit www.areasontostand.com

April 2, 2017

Weekend Inspiration

In our church, every six months we get the opportunity to hear amazing speakers present truths. This year I decided to challenge myself to take notes on each one and write down the things that stood out to me. If you are in need of some new truths to think about, here are my notes from the last two days. No matter what your faith or religion, I know these talks can help you on your journey to healing from trauma and overcoming fears.  It was incredible to hear each person, for two days, testify of Christ, the role He can and does play in our lives, and the purpose of His life and mission and what it can teach us about our own. 
To listen or read their full presentations click here: Conference April 2017


General Conference

Henry B. Eyring
Heavenly Father’s plan. Christ would offer himself as a sacrifice to rescue us from sin and death. Our task is to accept the Saviors sacrifice—and rejoice in it. We were not sent here in the dark. We were sent with the light of Christ—we can sense in our hearts what is right and wrong.

Some take opposition as evidence that there is no God, or that he determines in advance who will make it through. But we know that Heavenly Father wants us all to make it—God loves us all.

Learning about your past—the history of your ancestors—can teach you a lot about yourself. Doing work for your ancestors can help you feel closer to your families and closer to Jesus Christ.


Joseph Brough
Obedience to our parents. Heavenly Father will guide us, lead us, and walk beside us. He knows our needs, and has developed a personal care package for each one of us. It includes His Son, families, the Holy Ghost, and leaders. All to help us along the way. When we do what God commands us to do, we will be safe and full of peace.

Praying for answers doesn’t always happen right away. Sometimes it comes as a prompting to do it another way. Sometimes he uses another person to assist him. He will stretch forth His hand in His own time and in His own way.


Weatherford Clayton
We are all brothers and sisters and children of our Heavenly Father. We must repent. Sin requires us to suffer. Because Christ atoned for our sins, He never leaves us alone. When someone dies, they are not gone . . . but have returned home. Moments when time stand still and seems unfair, we can find comfort in knowing Christ is there.

“Live for the moments when time stands still”

Daryl G. Renland
The Savior’s compassion in our struggles draws us near Him. Mercy and empathy help us change. How does Jesus react when faced with our sins? The Savior loves all of us . . . even all of us sinners. Compassion and mercy is what the Savior uses to help us change. The Savior will not save us in our sins  . . . but from our sins. He cannot save us in our sins. We must first abide the conditions of repentance.

Bullying can happen on all levels—including not allowing others to believe contrary to what we do. Everyone has the right to express their opinions in the public square. How sad would it be if we were to treat others as we have been treated?

Ulisses Soares
How do we use the atonement—grace—so we do not waver in our day? Mortal life is a period of testing to prove that we can do all things that the Lord commands us. Knowing and trusting that God will provide for our needs. Jesus lived a sinless life, and then suffered terrible pain beyond any description—but He stands ready to help us with every burden. His mission is to help us find peace on earth.

He that keeps the commandments is he that loveth me. Faith is living with divine purpose and eternal perspective. We need to be willing to do anything that Christ and the Father ask of us.

In moments of trial, the adversity is always on the lookout. He tries to convince us that it is useless to keep the commandments. Satan is your enemy and fights against light continually. If we are steadfast and not wavering in our faith, we will have the capacity to overcome all obstacles in our way. Place your trust in God and the teachings of the prophets.


Mark A. Bragg
Even in the most difficult and darkest of times, there is light and goodness around us. That which is of God is light. The light grows brighter and brighter until the perfect day. Receiving light is what we were created to do. Seeking the light is in our spiritual DNA.

There is light available to us.

1. Light of the church.
Seeking after it will quality us for even more light. The light of the church will shine brighter and brighter.

2. Light of the gospel.
Families can resolve misunderstandings and challenges. Can be healed through forgiveness and repentance.

3. Light of Christ.
The light of the world brings light to the world. Helps us see others through the Saviors eyes. Help us see how we all fit in to that great loving plan.


Russell M. Nelson
It was foretold that the advisory would stir up anger in the hearts of men. And lead them astray. Heavenly Father sent His Son so we would have access to the power of the grace. The power of our Lord and Master Jesus Christ.

We learn about His ministry and mission, the more we know the more we can see that He has the power we need in our lives. We can call upon the Atonement for our healing—so we may live with hope in this life. When we use His grace, our doubts and fears flee. Faith motivates us to action.

We increase the Saviors power in our life when we keep our covenants with precision. Reach up with diligent focused effort. Spiritual stretching.  When we draw His power into our lives, both He and we will rejoice.

Saturday afternoon

Robert D. Hales
Where is your intention? When we strengthen our attributes like Christ… the other qualities are strengthened and we help those around us. Power in Him. What am I supposed to learn from this experience? Endure with patience. Fathers who are patient teach children to be patient. Greatest of these is charity. Cannot be part time disciples. Stand strong in these last days.


Jeffery R. Holland
The songs we all must sing.
Some days are difficult. Days that show us a lack in us, others, and life. Whatever reasons they rob us of the songs we sing. Draw strength from the splendor of the music around us. Sometimes those who can’t “sing” for a time have to get close to someone who has the notes. Jesus has the perfect pitch. Stereotypes driven by a consumerist culture . . . we lose our purpose. We must sing in our own voice. Not someone else’s. Don’t abandon your role in the chorus.

It is hard to be upbeat when we see so many suffer. Guns and fighting are not the way to deal with human conflict. The more excellent way will always be the gospel of grace and Christ. 

We live in a world where too many songs we cannot or will not sing, but we have to stay in the choir and savor the most precious song of redeeming love.

Christ has room for all of us. Room for those who once questioned their faith—and those who still do.

Gary B. Sabin
“If I didn’t roll out my sleeping bag I wouldn’t have to roll it back up again”
Spiritually cold. Give head to the words of eternal life. Out of sync with God’s will . . . out of sink with happiness. No peace to the wicked.

Punching bag man kept coming back up. “He is standing up on the inside” How can we stand up on the inside? If walking isn’t working . . . maybe we need to run. Let go of the world so we can hang on to eternity. Follow the creator… not the crowd.

Don’t fear. Just live right. It will work out in the end.

Valeri V. Cordon
Language loss. Eternal language. Never lost if we preserve it.
1. Be diligent at home
Parents need to spend time teaching their children. Parent’s who make a conscious effort will succeed. Daily family prayer and scripture study. Words mean nothing, unless our actions are the same. The son can do nothing but what he sees the father do.

Traditions. As families we need to avoid traditions that keep us from keeping the Sabbath day holy.  Make traditions that use the scriptures. Help them find their identity their purpose and their relationship with the Savior. Imperfect people trying to learn a perfect language.


Neil L. Anderson
Receive the Savior. Put your trust in Him. I don’t want your time or your money or work… I want you. Christ wants us. Asking for forgiveness and pledging to remember Him. Church opens the door to a week full of time to apply the lessons we have learned. Turning ourselves outward. Happiness of spouse is above our own pleasure.

The world, “Look at me, look at all that is mine. Look at me”
Overcoming the world will always mean we have some beliefs that are ridiculed. If it hates you. You know it hated Christ first.

Overcoming the world is becoming less concerned with our online connections and more concerned with our connection to God. I knew that God knew that I knew I have been blessed. Overcoming the world doesn’t mean we have a protected life.

M. Russell Ballard
Knowing where you are going and how you expect to get there can bring accomplishment to life. Goal is a destination. Plan is the route in which you get there.
Goal setting is where you want to go. But first you have to find out which of them really matter. Heavenly Father’s plan gives us a way to become more like Him. Focus on the eternal path. Goals and plans for our careers, education and golf. Marriages, families church counsels and callings. But our greatest and most over riding goal should fit into Heavenly Father’s plan. Experts say the simpler and straightforward a goal is—the more power it will have.

Return and receive. Return to his presence. Receive his blessings. Rely on His merits. Satan tried to modify our Fathers plan. Satan can neither return nor receive. He uses every possible enticement and temptation to bring us down and make us miserable. He uses deceit and small voices. He uses the world to bring darkness into our life so we get distracted from our goals of eternity. They seek to destroy our faith and divert us from the path.

How am I doing?  Who knows you better than you know yourself? Find time to review your life goals and plans. Make sure they align with God’s plan. Prayerfully think about what adjustments are needed to help you keep your eye single to the glory of God.

Christ is the center of our plans.

Come unto me all ye who are heavy laden. I will give ye rest.



Sunday morning session

Thomas S. Monson
How to apply his teaching in our lives. Sin and evil in the world today. We will be protected by a testimony of Jesus Christ. Read the book of Mormon with a sincere desire to know its truth. Get your testimony now, to be prepared for difficult times. The testimonies of others will only carry you so far. We will hear the voice of the spirit. 

Joy D. Jones
Resilient children. Understand their identify and feel God’s love. Children who struggle to stand stead fast. Need reinforcement and support. Rage a war against sin. Mighty conflict. We are at war. Fatal casualties. The war continues and touches all of us. Opposing forces causes a need in us to learn new strategies. The Lord has asked parents to teach children faith, repentance, baptism, gift of the holy ghost, pray, walk uprightly.

Universal guidelines to live by. Understand our—and their—divine purpose. Help them know they are sons and daughters of God. Understand repentance and resisitance to sin. Becoming sin resistance comes from constantly resisting sin. True at all times—keep the commandments of God. WE go to war carrying Christlike qualities. Courage is needed every single day. Our children put on personal armor as they learn daily discipleship. Start early and be steady. Begin at early ages. Articles of faith. Primary songs, hymns and our own personal  testimonies.

Integrity. Make and keep sacred covenants. Heart and soul of our purpose of mortality. Satan knows this… so he obscures the concept of covenant making. How do we prepare our children to make and keep sacred covenants….by helping them be honest and behave appropriately. Help them keep promises. Keep promises longer and longer. “I kept my promise because I said I would”. Consistent practice of keeping promises prepares children to keep covenants as adults.

WE help children taste success in small bites. Rewards come by keeping promises. Hold your little ones close, show them what it looks like to live promises and covenants. They are watching you. Example is the best teacher.

Christ atoned for the sins of the world…because he said he would.


Yoon Hwan Choi
Come unto Christ. Linking ancestors. All of us are in the middle of an eternal family. Our role can change it in negative or positive ways. How can you be sure you will be a strong link in your eternal family?

The gospel is perfect…but members are not yet. Do not lose your faith, because of the people around you. Build your relationship with Jesus Christ. Look unto Him in every thought. Doubt not, fear not.

Go out in the rain, look up to heaven. Open your mouth, drink it. Look up when you face challenges.

Children are blessed through parents faithful work and diligence. We see inconvenience, loss, and loneliness. It is harder to see blessings and light. Look up. Look to Christ. If you choose to leave the gospel of Christ, what will you do? What will you lose?

It is never too late to look up. Repent, make right your wrongs. Change… and look up. He hasn’t forgotten you.


Ronald A. Rasband
The spirit of the Lord teaches truths. Father. Son. Holy Ghost.

Father knew we would face challenges, disappoinemtns, turmoil. He provided the Holy spirit—that binds us to the Lord. He promised He would bind us to Him. Peace in heartache, courage in fear. We may always have His spirit to be with us.

1. Live worthy of the spirit.
Spirit does not dwell in unholy temple. He will dwell in your heart.

2. Listen to the spirit
Their hearts were open, they did understand in their hearts. Voice is still and small. The Lord is not in the wind, the fire, the boom. He comes after, in the still small voice.

3. Do the work of the Lord
Be about your fathers business

4. Act on the first prompting.
Be lead by the spirit. Go and do. You will get it right nine times out of ten. Do not expect fire works and celebrations because you listened. Family and friends in particular need you to follow those promtings. To teach, to help, to comfort, to support, and to rescue. First responder.

Let the Lord know in our morning prayers that we are ready. He will call on us time and time again. We will become spiritual first responders. Pay attention to the promptings that come to you, you will grow and receive more direction. It will lead you to do good. He leads us by the Holy Ghost. Act upon the first promptings, they come from God.


L. Whitney Clayton
With God nothing is impossible. Do what God asked. Mary committed before she knew why. She accepted God’s word unconditionally and in advance. At first she felt inadequate…but did His will.

When we decide to align our mission with God’s will we pray with real intent and follow what He asks of us. Simple habbits of belief transform into great faith. Rooted in Christ, brings steadfastness to our souls.

Sacrifices…I know not, save the Lord commanded me. Obeying the Lord without knowing why. God will always bless us for our steadfast obedience, but he rarely shows us the whole picture in advance. Faith, hope and trusting in the Lord comes in. No easy answers or quick fixes in heaven. Perfect love and perfect timing in the Lord. Stay true to daily practices of faith. We choose who we will serve every day. The Lord promises to direct our paths, but for Him to do that we have to walk. When we trust and follow him. He knows the way, because He is the way.

Dallin H. Oaks
First vision Joseph Smith saw two beings. God the Father and His Son—two different beings. Nature of God, and our relationship to Him is the key to this life. Life eternal, that we might know Him.

It will be a while after you pass through the veil before you know all of the knowledge of exaltation. Three members of the Godhead are separate and distinct beings. Holy Ghost is a personage of spirit… or else it could not dwell in us. Our relationship to the Godhead comes from the plan of salvation. It is all answered there.

Spiritual death is being cut off from the presence of God. Knowing the purpose of God’s great plan, we consider the roles of the 3 in the Godhead in that plan. Love of God the Father, the mission of Christ, and the fellowship of the Holy Ghost.

God. Father’s supreme position, our relationship to Him, and His role in the creation. God and Father of Christ, as well as all of us. The first fundamental truth from Christ: above and overall there is God of heaven and earth. We learn of the Father as we learn from Christ. His mission was to reveal to mortals what God is like and reveal the true nature of our Father in Heaven. Jesus was the express image of the Father. We are His children and He loves us. All He does is for our eternal benefit. His plan achieves His purposes.

Christ. First born of all the children of God. Create worlds without number. Save the children of God of death by his resurrection. Jesus’s mission was to bring to pass the imortaily and eternal life of all of Father’s children.

Holy Ghost. Teaches all things. Guides us. Protects us. Comforts us. Blesses us.

Our relationship to the Godhead gives us the ultimate road map and assurance through our journey through mortality. We know who makes it possible.

Essential to the plan of salvation is our Savior Jesus Christ. Don’t just believe in Him and His mission. We have to work and live them. Receive His saving ordinances. Only by believing and living truth can we be eternally saved.

Deiter F. Ucthdorf
Falling for manipulation. Or using manipulation. Fear to motivate others, including ourselves.

Fear. Determining our actions and behavior. But it only has the power to be temporary. Never transform us into people who want to do what it is right. Angry, resentful. Leads to mistrust. Defiance, even rebellion. Condemn in others but they cannot see it in themselves. They become the exception of the rules, but they condemn others who do the same.  They become harsh, thinking it is for the good of others—but they do not realize that their anger will not do anything but create more fear in others.

Father’s love for us, His children, surpasses anything we comprehend, but that does not mean He does not want us to change. He wants us to change our hearts, take firm hold of our fears and bravely step forward and upwards along the straight and narrow path. He wants this change, because He loves us. This is the way to happiness.

He sent His Son to show us the right way. He motivates us through love unfained. He trusts us to learn from our missteps and make correct choices.

Satan wants us to manipulate others. Man’s inhumanity. Corruption is unique and alarming. Satan wants us to fear there is no good at this time on earth. But that is not the truth either.

Prepare ourselves to receive the Savior. Do it with confidence and humility. Never looking down on another person. Study the word of God, heed the voice of the spirit. Don’t be ignorant of the challenges in the world, do not burden yourself or others with constant fear.  Focus on the infinite goodness and power of God. Trust Him. Prepare with a joyful heart. We need not be paralyzed by fear because bad things might happen. As we approach the challenges—and opportunities ahead. He will be with you. He will not fail you. He will fight for you. You shall hold your peace. In the face of fear, let us find our courage and faith. In the world you shall have tribulation, but be of good cheer. He has overcome the world. God has promised all things shall work together for your good. If you walk uprightly. Set aside your fears and live with joy, humility and hope and confidence that the Lord is with us.

Living in fear and anxiety or causing fear in others . . . we may become liberated from this fear by the pure love of Christ. Perfect love casteth out fear. Christ’s love allows us to walk with confidence, humility, and faith to press through our fears and place our complete trust in our Heavenly Father and His Son Jesus Christ. Let us replace fear with Christ’s perfect love. Replace burdens with blessings.

Be not afraid, only believe. Abide in Christ’s perfect love.


Sunday Afternoon

D. Todd Christopherson
Watchman. Hear the word and warn them. The warning is to turn away from sin. If you don’t warn them, they will die in sin. If you warn them, and they chose not to do…you have delivered thy soul, by doing your part. If you trust your own righteousness, and not in God . . . all your righteousness shall pass away. Wicked find strength in the Lord, and the righteous must continue in trust in the Lord. Wickedness never was and never will be happiness. Desire to share truth with others to help them learn how to live eternally.

Parental duty is to warn… and share joy of walking in obedience. Conversion doesn’t just come by warning…it comes by sharing joy. Jesus warned. Not just any path leads to heaven. Enter in the straight gate. Love demands warning people about what can hurt them. Shame culture. In a guilt culture your conscious leads you. In a guilt culture you know you are good and bad by what your culture tells you you are. Guilt culture can be harsh. Shame culture is unmerciful for those who disagree and those who don’t fit in.

We cannot be neutral. Warning voice is a joyful noise. Disservice is staying silent. Practice what we preach. Preach what we practice. Help your fellow men embrace those truths. Great is your reward in Heaven.

Repent now. Watch and pray continually. Be lead by the Holy Spirit. Have faith in the Lord. Love of God in your hearts. I have not hid thy righteousness within my heart. I have declared faithfulness and salvation.

Joaquin E. Costa
Lessons on the path to baptism. Meeting the missionaries. Go to church. Read the Book of Mormon. Alma Chapter 42. Pray to God. Remember spiritual feelings. Experience Repentance.

Nothing draws you closer to Christ, than a desire to change. 

S. Mark Palmer
Expectations. “I just don’t like people” Mark Chapter 10. How do we change the hearts of those who don’t want to be obedient? Jesus loved him. Because of this love, and with this love…Jesus asked more of him. It is our heart as well that needs changing…not just the ones who are troubling us. How can I be filled with Christlike love for those who aren’t meeting my expectations? See them with all the love Christ has for them. Because I love you I care about who you become. I invite you to change the things that are hard for you and become the person God wants you to be. Pray with fervent faith before each interaction with them.

1. As we learn to see others as the Lord sees them, our love for them will grow. So will our desire to help them. We see potential they might not see in themselves. Perfect love casteth off fear. Those hardest to love need it the most.

2. No teaching or learning will happen when done in anger. No change will occur when anger is present. Atmosphere of trust.

3. Love should never be withdrawn. When expectations are not met. Jesus still loved them perfectly.

4. Because He loves us, the Lord expects much of us. If we are humble we will repent, sacrifice and serve as evidence of His perfect love for us. Invitation to repent is the same as an invitation for peace and love.

When we are asked to do something hard. Put aside worldly pursuits, forgive, put God first, He loves you. Let it go and follow Him. Thank Him for loving you enough for inviting you to do more.


Gary E. Stevenson
How can the Holy Ghost help you? “How did you know the snake was there?” The Holy Ghost helps us. Third member of the Godhead. We have the gift of the Holy Ghost after baptism. Unexpected events cause sadness pain and disappointment. The Holy Ghost offers peace and comfort. He is called the Comforter. Peace and comfort comes at our greatest time of need. Forgiveness, love, and healing come through the comfort of the Holy Ghost. The spirit feels our heart and comforts and reminds us of the truth that we know. Testifies and bears witness of the Father and Son and all truth.

The comfort of the truth can bring peace and comfort we are desperately seeking after trauma and fear. Listen the Holy Ghost will whisper. Listen to the still small voice.

C. Scott Grow
God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son. Begin to know God through prayer. Pray with faith, you will feel God’s love as it speaks to your soul. God knows you personally. As you pray, you will come to know Him. Scripture study, personally and with family. Teach your children to live with faith. Worthiness is essential to becoming like Christ. We start with repentance and forgiveness and He cleanses our souls. As we strive to become like God, He could make of us, more than we could ever make ourselves.

Benjamin De Hoyos
The Lord speaks to prophets to give us a standard to follow. The Lord reveals His will to us, but in His own timing. I love you Mom. Love Tytus

Light grows and becomes visible when we return home with the feeling of forgiveness. It comes as we partake of the sacrament. We feel a greater love and appreiciation for the Savior. Keep the Sabbath Day holy. Shine as an ensign. Teach as the Savior taught.


Quinten L. Cook
One layer at a time. First steps. Physical development….baby steps. To obtain our ultimate physical stature. Ten thousand hours of practice is required to achieve “world class expert” title in anything. Less emphasis is placed on spiritual growth. There is no substitute for individual spiritual growth. Faith to heal. Personal prayers can bring blessings into our lives beyond anything we can comprehend. Adversity should not be viewed as a withdrawal from the love of the Savior. We will all receive challenges that will refine and define us. Give us experience and be for our good. Fear not what man can do… for God should be with you forever and ever.


We receive strength according to our faith in Christ. #princeofpeace

September 23, 2016

Mission Statement

I have been working on some things for my conference coming up and tonight I felt impressed to write a mission statement. I am so humbled to be part of something that is so much bigger than me. What a blessing it has been to build a community of fighters who know the pain I have felt in my life and who are still so brave and beautiful. Every story that has touched my life has changed me for the better and I am so thankful for friends I have never met who have carried me so many days out of my own dark fog. I love each of you. Your stories are as beautiful as you are.


August 25, 2016

With Grace


 Though I wrestle with the impressions to have to share hard things, I know that these truths come from God. And for that, I am thankful for the opportunity to learn and relearn them. I believe in His plan, though there are so many things I don't know I will ever fully understand, maybe that is all part of the test of life. 

What ever your story, and the pains that you carry. You are enough for Him, and He loves you. 

August 22, 2016

Bullet Proof

Ever since the first time I heard the song Titanium by Sia, I have always felt very connected to it. A few weeks ago during a family reunion all the kids were doing a talent show/karaoke party. Bailey sang this song when it was her turn.

Just listen to these words.

You shout it out
But I can't hear a word you say
I'm talking loud not saying much
I'm criticized but all your bullets ricochet
You shoot me down, but I get up

[Chorus:]
I'm bulletproof, nothing to lose
Fire away, fire away
Ricochet, you take your aim
Fire away, fire away
You shoot me down but I won't fall
I am titanium
You shoot me down but I won't fall
I am titanium

Cut me down
But it's you who have further to fall
Ghost town, haunted love
Raise your voice, sticks and stones may break my bones
I'm talking loud not saying much

[Chorus:]
I'm bulletproof, nothing to lose
Fire away, fire away
Ricochet, you take your aim
Fire away, fire away
You shoot me down but I won't fall
I am titanium
You shoot me down but I won't fall
I am titanium


So here is the deal. We are all fighting for something. Hoping to make it through stronger. Don't you ever quit. Hard times, good time. Be you and don't let anyone, or any gun, or any fear stop you. 

I am so proud of this girl, who despite all she has been through will get up on a stage or stand in front of a room full of cousins and aunts and uncles and grandparents to share her gift to sing from her heart and testify of her strength. I see it in all of them, each one of my kids. Overcoming and not only standing tall, but fighting to never let it bring them down.  






The girls are starting a little fun channel on Youtube for preteens if you have any girls who want to check it out:
Twins Youtube channel

May 18, 2016

Who are you becoming?

 Who Are You Becoming?
By Nathan Ogden

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.”
— ZIG ZIGLAR

WHEN LIFE HITS YOU SQUARE IN THE JAW, you are confused. While taking in your surroundings, trying to piece together a plan of action, your ears are still ringing from the impact. What just happened—is this for real? I hurt all over. I can’t deal with this right now. I’m scared and don’t know what to do.
It’s okay to be confused in these situations. It’s perfectly normal not to have an answer when asked, “What do we do now?” I know I didn’t, and I still don’t have all of the answers. Choices I make for one situation don’t always work on another. It’s an ongoing process that if you want to succeed, you must continually make purpose filled choices that allow you to move forward. Even if it’s just making the decision that you won’t give up. This is a step forward and that gives you a direction to go.
Deep emotional injuries, feeling completely broken inside and wanting to quit, have been companions of mine for some time. My life was mirroring perfection until I was abruptly blindsided and thrown into a world I had only heard of, but never thought I’d experience. I couldn’t imagine this nightmare would ever happen to me. We never do.
14 years ago I severely broke my neck snow skiing leaving me paralyzed throughout most of my body, adopting a new title of “quadriplegic”. Over the next year with tremendous hard work I regained almost half of the function I lost. I was going to walk again and I knew it! My life would be normal again.
Just over a year after my skiing accident I came down with a critical case of pneumonia and was rushed to the hospital unconscious. While getting x-rays of my lungs I was dropped off the table and broke my neck again. This time higher up. I lost the use of my hands, triceps, and any movement I had regained in my legs. As much as I’ve tried over the years none of that physical movement I lost that fateful morning has returned.
Life can be hard! It can be paralyzing and make you feel powerless! I fought so hard to progress that far in my recovery only to have it ripped out from under me. After the second neck break I was not only suffering from another physical impairment but was agonizing about my future mentally as well. So many others looked up to me as their example of strength and courage by how I’ve handled these situations.
I asked myself, “Am I strong enough to keep pushing forward? What do I do now? How do I keep the hope and faith that everything will be all right? I still want to walk again!”
Life is an endless process to become someone. Every experience you have and every choice you make is molding you into the person you are becoming. Are your choices creating the person you want to be, in the life you want to live?
You might think you didn’t want to become the person you are today. When you were younger you had a whole different plan in mind of what you would be when you grew up. You didn’t choose this life and the struggles you’ve faced. That’s out of your control, right?


There is a lot of truth to that. We don’t always choose the trials we’ve had to endure. However, we have made relevant decisions during those trials that are continually shaping ourselves into what others see, and more importantly, what we see in ourselves.
Who do you want to become, and what steps will it take to get there? If you want to be known as an honest person that consistently tells the truth, no matter how uncomfortable and embarrassing the consequence, you can choose to do that. If your dream is to live a long happy life married to the same person, then put your spouse’s needs first and never let your eyes wander. If being financially successful is your goal, then put in the energy, sacrifice and hard work ethic so you can attain that dream.
When you know where you want to end up, then it helps to create a roadmap of what you must do to get there. The path we take in this life is rarely the one we hoped for. There will be roadblocks, disasters and even sinkholes that will make you feel your desired path is no longer available.
Zig Ziglar put it best when he said, “When obstacles arise, you change your direction to reach your goal, you do not change your decision to get there.”
Sitting at home with a second crippling broken neck was devastating. I was staring at the realization that I would most likely never stand up taller than my wife again. There would be no need for her to get on her tippy toes to kiss me.
Imagine all the activities you use your fingers for each day that make you productive and happy. Playing the piano was so inspiring and relaxing to me when the pressures of life weighed heavy on my shoulders. That peaceful remedy had now vanished. Throwing a tennis ball into a local pond for my black lab, Sage — one of my best friends—was no longer an option. I particularly loved bending over and holding hands with my 2-year- old daughter before church. She felt like a princess in her pretty white dress and ponytails as we danced around the family room together in our pretend castle. Truth be told, she made me feel more special than I ever did her.
Of course there’s much more to it than this, but these are some of the little joys in life I will miss. All these tiny snippets of wonder are now gone and I can’t choose to bring them back. Only through my mind’s eye will I re-live these very ordinary experiences that have now become extraordinary memories.
Now what? Do I quit and let others run my life because it’s too hard, or do I push forward?
I stumbled through every emotion imaginable, from feeling completely indestructible to a brief thought of suicide. Hopelessness, remorse, resentment and despair, were all invited to my party. On the surface everyone saw a very positive and driven individual who wouldn’t give up. Deep down I’m not sure if anyone, even my wife, knew the terrifying doubt and fear I was suppressing.
“This is not who I wanted to be. People expect more of me. I expect more of me.” Though I felt a great deal of loss, I never did lose one thing — my faith. Faith that life could be better. Faith that I can do more. Faith that I can become the person I’ve always envisioned.
I’m not saying that all pain, suffering, and feelings of despair have good that come from them. I don’t believe this to be true. There are terrible acts of destruction to the mind, body, and spirit out there. I do believe that even though these instances may occur, there is an opportunity for growth and strength to come from them. Making the most of these experiences can be extremely difficult and challenging to comprehend. It is up to you to sift through the rubble, find the good, and decide to apply those learned principles in your life.
Life hit me square in the jaw and it hurt. It hurt bad! Not many people will break their neck on two separate occasions, leaving more of their body paralyzed each time. I came to realize this was all part of my purpose, that there was a mission I needed to accomplish. What that mission is, has been an ongoing process to discover.
What are your aspirations in life, and are you on track to accomplish them? Don’t expect this transformation of becoming who you desire, to happen overnight. It takes time and discipline to change thoughts and behavior. Always be willing to say, “Bring it on,” because you are capable of greatness, and no one can generate this forward momentum but you. You must believe in yourself and have faith that your life will become everything you’ve ever dreamed of. It’s time to live a life unfrozen!
Ask yourself these two questions to get yourself started:
1-   Who do I want to become and why?
2-   What three changes will I make in my life to get there?



My name is Nathan. I will never physically stand again in this life, but I choose to stand unfrozen. 




Thank you so much Nathan for sharing your journey with us. Please go check out Nathan's new book UNFROZEN. It gives superior systems to move from paralysis to progress. Allowing yourself to not be mentally paralyzed and start living unfrozen. #livingUNFROZEN

Check out his website www.NathanOgden.com. You can even get an autographed copy. Select the “buy now” button. It’s also available on Amazon and Kindle.

Here is a great video of his family that shows just how strong they have all been using these tools and living life unfrozen. 








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