A life is a life is a life

Today, divorce has become “BINGO” word for many couples. The divorce rate keeps on increasing in every part of the world. The first and foremost reasons for divorce are “misunderstanding” and “ego”. No single couple in the world had a life without any misunderstanding. This suits for the first couple Adam and Eve to the couple who are going to come till the end of the world.

What makes some couple to lead a successful life even though they had misunderstanding and others to go for a divorce for silly chilly arguments?

The answer is very simple; it is understanding and adjustments. First of all, we have to believe in a very famous statement, “No one is perfect”. It is very true. No one in the world today is perfect. Everyone have their own merits and demerits. This suits for the couples too. Every bride and groom has some excellence of their own and some pit falls. If one doesn’t like some qualities in a person, let him or her forget the bad qualities and start loving him or her for the good qualities he or she definitely has.

Understand your life partner. If they have anything wrong with them, try to make them understand better about themselves; or if it is useless criticizing them, try to adjust with the good qualities one possesses.

If every couple starts adapting these two ways, then for sure, the divorce rate will decrease across the globe.

I have a friend of mine. He is in fact, one of my best friends; better than the best I would say. He is from Kashmir. He often says that his native is a lost paradise. He is a very energetic guy and one of the very few broad and awesome attitude guys I have ever seen in my quarter century life.

Whenever he talks about Kashmir, his face turns sad and he says only "sad, sadder and saddest" things about Kashmir. Life in Kashmir is miserable; this is what his ultimate statement about Kashmir.

Quite often we tease him like "kashmiri's are jobless; they either protest or go for a bomb blast etc., One day he asked a question to me.

-What will you do if you have a just born baby and the supply of baby food and medicines blocked for more than a month?
-What will you do if your basic needs get blocked?
-What will you do when some one fell sick and goes serious condition and you are not allowed to move out of your home?
-What will you do when everyone in your family is missing when you get up on a fine morning?
-What will you do when your only beloved sister gets gang raped and murdered?
-What will you do when your only child gets shot dead by some one for no reason?

There were many more questions. I was left without answers. The answers for above questions are a part of Kashmiri’s life.

I am answerless; In fact every one of us is. We are shameless too for our answerless state. As of now, to console him, I can only state a verse from Qur'aan, Allah says in the qur'aan like "oh! people, do you think that you can enter paradise so easily withou any tests from God?" I don't know the exact verse, I'll update you as soon as I get it.

Though it is lost, a paradise is always a paradise. Don’t worry Ilyas; at least our grandchildren "may" live in a peaceful Kashmir...

Watch the presentation about Kashmiri’s life... Join hands; raise your voice, let’s spread peace and humanity, at least to our neighbors...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XLKiyvu1o3I

Love thy neighbor

In modern world, we don't have time to take care of our own family also. But it is a good culture to have good relationships with the neighbors. As we started missing our cultures and values, this statement may sound weird. The person who cannot able to get good name from his neighbor cannot get good will any where.

The person who gives peace and harmony to his or her neighbor will be among the best person’s crowd in the world. We should maintain relationships with our neighbors such that if some third person sees it, he or she should get a doubt like "Are you going to give a part of your wealth to him in your will?"

More than everything, we should take care and love our neighbors. After hearing this statement, I have tried implementing this. It gave me a good response. I am respected and valued by my neighbors.