This is a slow process.
We need to be patient with ourselves.
The type of people we find ourselves attracted to does not change overnight.
Being attracted to dysfunctional people can linger long.
We need to be patient with ourselves.
The type of people we find ourselves attracted to does not change overnight.
Being attracted to dysfunctional people can linger long.
That does not mean we need to allow it to control us.
The fact is, we will initiate and maintain relationships with people we need to be with until we learn what it is we need to learn - no matter how long we've been practicing differently.
No matter who we find ourselves relating to, and what we discover happening in the relationship, the issue is still about us, and not about the other person.
That is the heart, the hope, and the power of it all.
That is the heart, the hope, and the power of it all.
We can learn to take care of ourselves during the process of initiating and forming relationships.
We can learn to go slowly.
We can learn to pay attention.
We can allow ourselves to make mistakes, even when we know better.
We can stop blaming our relationships on God or other people and begin to take responsibility for them.
We can learn to enjoy the healthy relationships and remove ourselves more quickly from the dysfunctional ones.
We can learn to look for what's good for us, instead of what's good for the other person.
6 comments:
Came here from Katherine's blog.
I could not agree with you more. This wisdom is applicable to all ages ...
Currently learning this lesson. :-/
the heart, the hope, the power
thank you again
I have been struggling with this - a dysfunctional friend I've been trying to help for months - Good words
When people say "you sure can pick 'em and it's not a compliment, that's the time to examine the motives behind the people we pick, don't you think? Nice post, so glad David sent me by...congrats on the mention!
Sandi
the last line reminds me...'what is good for you, as I love you, is inherantly good for me'
Post a Comment