It's my first day back at work after being off sick from flu. I sure didn't appreciate it when a colleague of mine started to nag at me at 8 IN THE MORNING (mind you!)regarding some work i should have handed in to her last Monday. Lets call her Si Murai, shall we? When she went on and on this morning, i just switched off and for a second i felt like i was 12 and living at my parents' and my mum was having a go at me for not folding the clothes. This personality type A Murai has a very distinctive, shrilly voice that is capable of sending you into a foul mood for the rest of the week. I always thought that one would always end up with the opposite for a partner but guess what? From what i heard, the hubby is twice of a murai than she is...and she apparently doesn't dare answer him back. I know how to hit where it hurts most, so i asked her, 'Boleh tak ko tak berleter kat sini tapi pi berleter kat laki ko???'. That shut her up.
Si Baung has conveniently forgotten to tell me that he's going to be on leave today. I came in this morning and found his leave form on my notice board begging for my signature to ganti him. And i dread the afternoon session where i will have to be at the other workplace i go to. My list of clients is as long as my sejengkal and a half and i tell you my jengkal is quite long. I wear size M disposable gloves unlike other women i know that mostly wear size xs. Anyway, yes, i do expect his participation but from what i can see, he doesn't really 'enjoy' going to the other workplace even though it's only 15mins from where he lives thus he doesn't have to beat the afterwork traffic jam. Mesti ada je hal lain: meetinglah (tak boleh buat hari lain ke?), nak bawak anak pi cucuk lah (weekends tak boleh ke?) Tapi yang kelakarnya, ada once tu he suggested to me that we should terminate the service of one of our part timers who comes in to give the lectures on special needs children just because she sometimes has to cancel her sessions due to other career demands. But this lady is the most leading expert in this field in M'sia and of course we should try to accomodate her busy schedule. When the Baung suggested that we should just take over her sessions, i was just short of gelak guling2 atas lantai. Kalau ikutkan hati nak je kata, 'Eh! Ko tu malas ikut aku pi **** (the other place we work) tapi ada hati nak take over the lectures...!' Talk about setengah orang tak sedar kemampuan diri sendiri.
So, i just hope i survive the sejengkal and a half clients this afternoon.
Thursday, January 24, 2008
Friday, January 18, 2008
Cerita ceriti
I’m tired and feeling lazy. It’s been a long week but I have what one would call ‘Friday obligation’ i.e. to make an entry (however nonsensical or pelik the ebtry might be) or risk incurring kata2 nista dan cela sorang ni.
Anyway, it’s gonna be a quick one because I vow to leave this place by 4pm. If not dok la aku kat sini kang sampai time dekat2 hantu berkeliaran.
1. My bro’s pertunangan went OK instead of him bringing a cake yg masih dlm secret recipe punya box and masih terlekat lagi pisau plastiknya pun. This is what happens when we leave it to a man (excluding my Mr Gig yg arty farty of course) to deal with benda2 pompuan ni. Not entirely our fault because dia yg cakap, dia dah order cake and this was like a month ago. I’m sure the brownie cake tasted heavenly but presentation is important..just imagine plain choc fudge icing without any decoration whatsoever. Kadawale kadawale! Seperti yg biasa berlaku, time2 kahwin ni la org2 yg pernah terkilan or wanting to relive her weeding moments akan volunteer nak in charge anything to do with the wedding..so I sort of offered (or demanded more like it) to be in charge of his gubahan hantaran. Not that I’m arty farty but ada duit semua boleh jadi ma! If only he’d tell me how many dulang he plans to have, what they consist of and apa warna tema…nanti kang last minute baru nak cakap. Oh yes, forgot to add, my dad came to the engagement eventually. He sold off two goats, footed the bill and now plan to hold a wedding reception back home (selain dpd yg my bro plan kat KL).
2. My future sis-in-law’s engagement ring was diamond (tak nampak lak berapa bijik batunya) & platinum and cost 3X more than mine..hehe..tak puashati i! Started to merengek balik kat MG tagih my kononnya 5th wedding anniversary punya diamond and ruby ring. But he came up with excuse entah apatah why I didn’t get it last year…tak ingat pun apa sebabnya. Apa2 pun 6th wedding anniversary is just next month…so…
3. I still haven’t told ustazah munah my best friend about this new baby coming…and I haven’t spoken to her since October. Somehow I feel that she knows….
4. Just to clear things pada sesapa yg ingat I kena kawin paksa dgn Mr Gig. I pretended macam I kena paksa tapi sebenarnya I syok gak kat dia. I actually spinned my web around him from the first time I saw him. Ceritanya begini….his mum and my cousin were teachers from the same school. My cousin has been trying to marry me off from A-Levels lagi. Termasuk MG, in total she introduced me to 3 guys. I have always been interested in other people termasuklah Encik Sri Siamang sebab tu la yg lain2 tu tak menjadi. MG pulak was over 30 and his mum must have been worried tengok anaknya kononnya macam tak bergofren padahal dia tak tau yang jantan tu pernah ada sejarah berdating dgn ex-schoolmate I from home yg also happened to be berbau2 petai ngan I and jatuh hati dgn my cousin yg masa tu telah berpunya you all! Main lagi scandalnya! Nasib baik I got to know all this after kahwin..kalau take eeiii..tak sanggup you!!! Habis semua kaum kerabat I dia usha dulu!
Anyway, my cousin pun bagi la email add I kat mak MG utk disampaikan kat anak terunanya (ye ke??)…tapi katanya email dia asyik kena reject…pas tu my sis sampaikan pesan my cousin mintak my add pulak pasal mamat tu komplen pasal email tak jln. Selang 2,3 purnama dapat la postcard (masa tu I tgh buat Masters)…masa tu I dok pikir, sapakah mamat 30an tahun yg desperate ni..But what the heck, I pun takde hobi nak mengisi masa lapang masa tu, so balasla balik dlm bentuk email. Yg lecehnya mamat ni tulis sebulan sekali or paling rajin pun 2 minggu sekali..dia kata sibuk tapi rasa2nya dia sibuk mengusha sedara mara aku le tu! Anyway, no harm because aku pun mengusha org lain kan..?
Setelah beberapa bulan (can’t remember exactly), I pun balik la utk summer holiday dan bertempeklah I kat rumah Ustazah Munah tu kat KL. I thought OK la, meh kita jumpa this guy. And tepon la dia utk ajak dating…the thing was, masa org dah sibuk2 berhandphone keliling pinggang, dianya takde hp. Kena phone rumah dia, pas tu dia tension bila the mum and sis pasang telinga (kalau I pun akan pasang telinga arnab lagi). So, dia kata takpe, call me at the office trow (sanggup dtg office hari Sabtu tu pasal nak kan privacy..apa kata beli je hp kan???) to finalise the place, etc. So esoknya I call and we decided to meet up at KLCC, tunggu kat depan B0dyshop. Pas tu dia letak phone. I had to ring him up again to ask, helo!!! What are you wearing, how can I recognize you?? (ish ish ‘green’ betul laki aku dulu atau pora2??). So he said he was in blue jeans and black top. Tengah dub dab dub dab menuggu tu I got confused..or was it black jeans and blue top…? Pas tu nampak some guy fitting that description, tambah ngan perut gendut and bermisai lagi..ye la..i masa tu masih twenty something lagi, so kalu yg over 30 ni I mesti kaitkan dgn perut gendut and misai melenting (no offence to anyone!!). Why haven’t I asked for his picture before? Entahlah, sama dgn case org minyak dulu pun I tak mintak gambar..probably because I would rather like the person for his mind (or wits) and not by the way he looks. (Damn, which reminds me cite org minyak tu tak habis lagi). After 10 mins, datang la this guy yg tersengih2 kat I and terus cakap, jap ye, I nak pi toilet. What? No introduction nothing..kut2 tersilap org ke…but since I thought he was cute, I stayed on la…kalu gendut bermisai cam MGR tu, I would have done a runner while he was in the toilet! Kan MG ni jenis lelaki pemalu (ataupun tangan nak bergarpu ke??..ish tak nah terfikir lak masa tu) so, he suggested that we went for a movie, so tak yah cakap2. After the movie baru makan. Then masa nak balik tu I was going to my car and I vowed dlm hati I am not going to ask for a 2nd date, kalu dia nak, seniri tanya. Nasib baik dia tanya and esoknya we went out again and kali ni gi i Subang Par@de. MG didn’t talk much (and he still doesn’t)..habis dah cerita..tak tau apa nak bagitau lagi sampai masuk bab2 kambing bapak I yg namanya Benny yg suka minum susu botol, kucing I Chot yg makan kena bersuap…ish!
To cut it short, I went back to UK again in Sept..we all tulis2 email lagi although he made a lousy email friend. Kucing sempat beranak sementara menunggu replynya. Then April the following year I came back to Msia again during a two week break. We met up twice kut, satu tu he came all the way to my parents’ house dgn 2 org bodyguardnya (yg bukak cite pasal kerang berbulu?? Apa ke mendanya??). I really spinned my web then, sampai siap baca2 jampi (legal punya la) lagi hehe..When I got back to the UK, ada sekali tu dapat email jiwang dari MG (as jiwang as he knew how to be)..but did it increase the frequency of his email??? Tak langsung! I tell you..nasib baik I ni pompuan yg sabar dan tabah (dan desperate???). Then I came back to Msia in Oct, I’ve finished my Masters, tunggu nak sit for my specialist exam je…I also had a job offer that was so lucrative..tapi kerana jantan blur sorang tu, I balik la gak. TAPI!! Even though dah mula tulis email feeling2 kat I, bila I balik tu tak la pulak feelingnya! Masih blur camtu. So I gave myself 2 months..sampai Dec..kalu takde apa2, memang I blah balik ke UK.
But of course when all this was happening, I macho je ngan my parents. I buat2 cam I tak suka kat MG. Bukannya apa, I taknak keriau2 because to them sapa pinang je I masa tu, dia akan kahwinkan. Mana le tau tiba2 I tak berkenan kat MG? Honestly speaking all I knew about him then was that he was 32, anak nombor 2, adik beradik 3 org and kerja so and so. Other than that, zilch! Then Nov came and this guy cam tu gak. Kita org keluar dating, I cakap pasal kambing2 and kucing2 I and dia sengih..that’s all! (but sib baik dia dah ada hp masa tu). Then December came and I was getting restless and frustrated…bila la mamat ni nak ‘declare’??? I pun book la flight through the internet nak balik UK, so I told him…muka dia seposen je you! Cis! That was it! Pas tu he said, eh, tak dapat ke bday card yg I hatar you? Camna nak dapat oi, kalau you tak postkan??? (ni macam trick basi je ni). So, dia kata ok, tunggu card. Ghope2nya dia confess kat dlm card tu…I tergelak besar..nyaris guling2 atas lantai lagi. Selang 2 minggu pas tu on Boxing Day I think, his parents dtg merisik and on Feb 16th we all kawin. No tuning nothing you all! Koboi sangat kan?? My parents taknak tunggu lama2 pasal takut I changed my mind. I pun takut tunggu lama2 in case I changed my mind also. If I were to do that harus my parents disown me because diaorg termakan dgn muka MG yg innocent itu. I could have gotten married to anyone off the street because even on the big day, all I knew about him was that lah..umur dia, etc. Oh yeah, and that he knew what alpha-hydroxy acid was..
That was history..and after 3 anak bulu, 1.5 anak togel later, MG still sengih more than he talks.
Anyway, it’s gonna be a quick one because I vow to leave this place by 4pm. If not dok la aku kat sini kang sampai time dekat2 hantu berkeliaran.
1. My bro’s pertunangan went OK instead of him bringing a cake yg masih dlm secret recipe punya box and masih terlekat lagi pisau plastiknya pun. This is what happens when we leave it to a man (excluding my Mr Gig yg arty farty of course) to deal with benda2 pompuan ni. Not entirely our fault because dia yg cakap, dia dah order cake and this was like a month ago. I’m sure the brownie cake tasted heavenly but presentation is important..just imagine plain choc fudge icing without any decoration whatsoever. Kadawale kadawale! Seperti yg biasa berlaku, time2 kahwin ni la org2 yg pernah terkilan or wanting to relive her weeding moments akan volunteer nak in charge anything to do with the wedding..so I sort of offered (or demanded more like it) to be in charge of his gubahan hantaran. Not that I’m arty farty but ada duit semua boleh jadi ma! If only he’d tell me how many dulang he plans to have, what they consist of and apa warna tema…nanti kang last minute baru nak cakap. Oh yes, forgot to add, my dad came to the engagement eventually. He sold off two goats, footed the bill and now plan to hold a wedding reception back home (selain dpd yg my bro plan kat KL).
2. My future sis-in-law’s engagement ring was diamond (tak nampak lak berapa bijik batunya) & platinum and cost 3X more than mine..hehe..tak puashati i! Started to merengek balik kat MG tagih my kononnya 5th wedding anniversary punya diamond and ruby ring. But he came up with excuse entah apatah why I didn’t get it last year…tak ingat pun apa sebabnya. Apa2 pun 6th wedding anniversary is just next month…so…
3. I still haven’t told ustazah munah my best friend about this new baby coming…and I haven’t spoken to her since October. Somehow I feel that she knows….
4. Just to clear things pada sesapa yg ingat I kena kawin paksa dgn Mr Gig. I pretended macam I kena paksa tapi sebenarnya I syok gak kat dia. I actually spinned my web around him from the first time I saw him. Ceritanya begini….his mum and my cousin were teachers from the same school. My cousin has been trying to marry me off from A-Levels lagi. Termasuk MG, in total she introduced me to 3 guys. I have always been interested in other people termasuklah Encik Sri Siamang sebab tu la yg lain2 tu tak menjadi. MG pulak was over 30 and his mum must have been worried tengok anaknya kononnya macam tak bergofren padahal dia tak tau yang jantan tu pernah ada sejarah berdating dgn ex-schoolmate I from home yg also happened to be berbau2 petai ngan I and jatuh hati dgn my cousin yg masa tu telah berpunya you all! Main lagi scandalnya! Nasib baik I got to know all this after kahwin..kalau take eeiii..tak sanggup you!!! Habis semua kaum kerabat I dia usha dulu!
Anyway, my cousin pun bagi la email add I kat mak MG utk disampaikan kat anak terunanya (ye ke??)…tapi katanya email dia asyik kena reject…pas tu my sis sampaikan pesan my cousin mintak my add pulak pasal mamat tu komplen pasal email tak jln. Selang 2,3 purnama dapat la postcard (masa tu I tgh buat Masters)…masa tu I dok pikir, sapakah mamat 30an tahun yg desperate ni..But what the heck, I pun takde hobi nak mengisi masa lapang masa tu, so balasla balik dlm bentuk email. Yg lecehnya mamat ni tulis sebulan sekali or paling rajin pun 2 minggu sekali..dia kata sibuk tapi rasa2nya dia sibuk mengusha sedara mara aku le tu! Anyway, no harm because aku pun mengusha org lain kan..?
Setelah beberapa bulan (can’t remember exactly), I pun balik la utk summer holiday dan bertempeklah I kat rumah Ustazah Munah tu kat KL. I thought OK la, meh kita jumpa this guy. And tepon la dia utk ajak dating…the thing was, masa org dah sibuk2 berhandphone keliling pinggang, dianya takde hp. Kena phone rumah dia, pas tu dia tension bila the mum and sis pasang telinga (kalau I pun akan pasang telinga arnab lagi). So, dia kata takpe, call me at the office trow (sanggup dtg office hari Sabtu tu pasal nak kan privacy..apa kata beli je hp kan???) to finalise the place, etc. So esoknya I call and we decided to meet up at KLCC, tunggu kat depan B0dyshop. Pas tu dia letak phone. I had to ring him up again to ask, helo!!! What are you wearing, how can I recognize you?? (ish ish ‘green’ betul laki aku dulu atau pora2??). So he said he was in blue jeans and black top. Tengah dub dab dub dab menuggu tu I got confused..or was it black jeans and blue top…? Pas tu nampak some guy fitting that description, tambah ngan perut gendut and bermisai lagi..ye la..i masa tu masih twenty something lagi, so kalu yg over 30 ni I mesti kaitkan dgn perut gendut and misai melenting (no offence to anyone!!). Why haven’t I asked for his picture before? Entahlah, sama dgn case org minyak dulu pun I tak mintak gambar..probably because I would rather like the person for his mind (or wits) and not by the way he looks. (Damn, which reminds me cite org minyak tu tak habis lagi). After 10 mins, datang la this guy yg tersengih2 kat I and terus cakap, jap ye, I nak pi toilet. What? No introduction nothing..kut2 tersilap org ke…but since I thought he was cute, I stayed on la…kalu gendut bermisai cam MGR tu, I would have done a runner while he was in the toilet! Kan MG ni jenis lelaki pemalu (ataupun tangan nak bergarpu ke??..ish tak nah terfikir lak masa tu) so, he suggested that we went for a movie, so tak yah cakap2. After the movie baru makan. Then masa nak balik tu I was going to my car and I vowed dlm hati I am not going to ask for a 2nd date, kalu dia nak, seniri tanya. Nasib baik dia tanya and esoknya we went out again and kali ni gi i Subang Par@de. MG didn’t talk much (and he still doesn’t)..habis dah cerita..tak tau apa nak bagitau lagi sampai masuk bab2 kambing bapak I yg namanya Benny yg suka minum susu botol, kucing I Chot yg makan kena bersuap…ish!
To cut it short, I went back to UK again in Sept..we all tulis2 email lagi although he made a lousy email friend. Kucing sempat beranak sementara menunggu replynya. Then April the following year I came back to Msia again during a two week break. We met up twice kut, satu tu he came all the way to my parents’ house dgn 2 org bodyguardnya (yg bukak cite pasal kerang berbulu?? Apa ke mendanya??). I really spinned my web then, sampai siap baca2 jampi (legal punya la) lagi hehe..When I got back to the UK, ada sekali tu dapat email jiwang dari MG (as jiwang as he knew how to be)..but did it increase the frequency of his email??? Tak langsung! I tell you..nasib baik I ni pompuan yg sabar dan tabah (dan desperate???). Then I came back to Msia in Oct, I’ve finished my Masters, tunggu nak sit for my specialist exam je…I also had a job offer that was so lucrative..tapi kerana jantan blur sorang tu, I balik la gak. TAPI!! Even though dah mula tulis email feeling2 kat I, bila I balik tu tak la pulak feelingnya! Masih blur camtu. So I gave myself 2 months..sampai Dec..kalu takde apa2, memang I blah balik ke UK.
But of course when all this was happening, I macho je ngan my parents. I buat2 cam I tak suka kat MG. Bukannya apa, I taknak keriau2 because to them sapa pinang je I masa tu, dia akan kahwinkan. Mana le tau tiba2 I tak berkenan kat MG? Honestly speaking all I knew about him then was that he was 32, anak nombor 2, adik beradik 3 org and kerja so and so. Other than that, zilch! Then Nov came and this guy cam tu gak. Kita org keluar dating, I cakap pasal kambing2 and kucing2 I and dia sengih..that’s all! (but sib baik dia dah ada hp masa tu). Then December came and I was getting restless and frustrated…bila la mamat ni nak ‘declare’??? I pun book la flight through the internet nak balik UK, so I told him…muka dia seposen je you! Cis! That was it! Pas tu he said, eh, tak dapat ke bday card yg I hatar you? Camna nak dapat oi, kalau you tak postkan??? (ni macam trick basi je ni). So, dia kata ok, tunggu card. Ghope2nya dia confess kat dlm card tu…I tergelak besar..nyaris guling2 atas lantai lagi. Selang 2 minggu pas tu on Boxing Day I think, his parents dtg merisik and on Feb 16th we all kawin. No tuning nothing you all! Koboi sangat kan?? My parents taknak tunggu lama2 pasal takut I changed my mind. I pun takut tunggu lama2 in case I changed my mind also. If I were to do that harus my parents disown me because diaorg termakan dgn muka MG yg innocent itu. I could have gotten married to anyone off the street because even on the big day, all I knew about him was that lah..umur dia, etc. Oh yeah, and that he knew what alpha-hydroxy acid was..
That was history..and after 3 anak bulu, 1.5 anak togel later, MG still sengih more than he talks.
Monday, January 7, 2008
Oh Mama! Saya mau kawin!
My brother is getting engaged in a few days time. In one of my previous entries (and please don’t ask me to put the link here because i ni buta benda2 techie ni), i mentioned how it went all wrong with my parents. Basically i think my parents didn’t agree to things that they perceived as ‘melanggar adat’...(what adat may i ask because i remembered when i got married, they couldn’t arrange it fast enough, fearing that i would scoot. Between the merisik and the wedding, it was less than 2 months! In fact it was so crammed in, with the nikah and ceremony being on the same day and the next day was the ceremony at Mr Gig’s and he didn’t actually live setanak nasik away...pejam celik pejam celik pun tak tentu sampai lagi.) Anyway, back to my brother, he’s nearly 40..and it’s not as if he’s expecting them to ‘sponsor’ him langsung..so, between him and his fiancee, they decided to share the expenses between them and hold the reception somewhere neutral, neither at our parents’ place nor her’s. I feel that my bro’s got the right to plan it anyway he wants...firstly, dia nak menjimatkan cost and secondly he didn’t want to trouble our parents.
The first of many arguments he had with my dad was regarding ‘jurucakap’ during the bertunang nanti. He didn’t want my uncle bermulut puaka ni to lead the ceremony which angered my dad greatly. My dad yg selalu cakap tah hapa2 kalau tengah marah, said that he didn’t want to have anything to do with the wedding and my mum trying to be the isteri mithali pun sokong 100%. It may seem so trivial that something as minute as this could have created so much rift between anak beranak. But, between my bro and our parents, the history of tidak kepuashatian ni goes wayyyyyyy, wayyyyy back. Only Oprah can solve their problem ni (kalau idak pun Jerry Springer! You know bashed it all out gittew).
Anyway, i am getting terlebih excited pulak about this engagement and subsequent ceremony...ye lah, i was deprived of all the fuss (kalau less than 2 months preparation tu kerja gila namanya, no one fussed, everyone just got down and carried out what they were supposed to do. Sampai sekarang i terkilan that the hantaran lelaki for me didn’t include any kek or kuih muih..maybe i should have asked for 11 dulang instead of 9, which were all taken up by handbag, kasut, sejadah etc. Tak taulah you all tapi i dari kecik selalu dok tey-nang tey-nang hantaran kawin org esp. the goodies and berangan bilalah i nak kawin pulak. It seems to worth it just for the cakes and cookies). My bro relented after dipujuk rayu oleh my desperate hoswipe cousin, he said, mulut puaka pun mulut puaka lah, he called up my mum to say, yes, kalau bapak nak sangat, bawakje la uncle we all tu. And being a mother, walaupun dah mengangkat sumpah nak menyokong lakinya 100%, my mum became very excited with the impending nuptial. But then last week my bro called me up to mengadu domba about my parents or specifically my dad. The fact that my dad nak bawa segala suku sakat keluarga, org kampung serta tok2 besan yg residing kat Klang Valley ni. Kalau camni satu bas mungkin tak cukup you all. The thing that irked my brother was the fact that some of the suku sakat yg nak dihangkut tu tak rapat pun dgn my brother and couldn’t care less about him. Lagipun there’s the financial implication because my bro yg paying for the catering and kat KL bukannya murah..masa i dengar ni memang i dah menggeletar, rasa tak sabar2 nak cakap ngan my mum. Until then, i have never discussed anything about my bro’s wedding with my parents because they’re both so emotional tak tentu pasal...but after my bro spoke to me, i memang dah tak boleh tahan dah! I thought apa nak jadi, jadilah! My bro has sort of back down quite a lot so it’s up to my parents pulak to compromise. But how should i tackle my parents?? Silap haribulan i pulak yg jadi baa baa black sheep. So i thought the only way to go about it is to ‘divide and conquer’. When my parents agree with each other they’re as bad as one another, but if i get to separate my mum from my dad, i would be able to make her see reason. So i told her about the financial implication of it..it’s not like kahwin kat kampung where sekor lembu tumbang org dari kampung seberang boleh dijemput! Tengok2 my mum pun tengah berkonfrantasi dgn my dad so kerja i jadi lebih senang!
Anyway, to cut a long story short, my dad dengar2 ceritanya tak nak dtg masa bertunang...my mum thinks yg dia rasa tersisih although she herself couldn’t understand this when she agreed that what my bro buat i.e. planning his wedding himself banyak menyenangkan diaorg berdua. But she definitely will be coming.....adakah bapakku tu tengah andropause??? Or poorly controlled blood sugar level yang menjadikannya weng sikit? Nasib baik my bro’s just hyperexcited about getting hitched that dia tak ambik hati sangat. Sometimes grown ups can behave so childishly...probably someone can tell him, it’s not about him at all, it’s my bro’s big day, so stop being selfish and move on.
The first of many arguments he had with my dad was regarding ‘jurucakap’ during the bertunang nanti. He didn’t want my uncle bermulut puaka ni to lead the ceremony which angered my dad greatly. My dad yg selalu cakap tah hapa2 kalau tengah marah, said that he didn’t want to have anything to do with the wedding and my mum trying to be the isteri mithali pun sokong 100%. It may seem so trivial that something as minute as this could have created so much rift between anak beranak. But, between my bro and our parents, the history of tidak kepuashatian ni goes wayyyyyyy, wayyyyy back. Only Oprah can solve their problem ni (kalau idak pun Jerry Springer! You know bashed it all out gittew).
Anyway, i am getting terlebih excited pulak about this engagement and subsequent ceremony...ye lah, i was deprived of all the fuss (kalau less than 2 months preparation tu kerja gila namanya, no one fussed, everyone just got down and carried out what they were supposed to do. Sampai sekarang i terkilan that the hantaran lelaki for me didn’t include any kek or kuih muih..maybe i should have asked for 11 dulang instead of 9, which were all taken up by handbag, kasut, sejadah etc. Tak taulah you all tapi i dari kecik selalu dok tey-nang tey-nang hantaran kawin org esp. the goodies and berangan bilalah i nak kawin pulak. It seems to worth it just for the cakes and cookies). My bro relented after dipujuk rayu oleh my desperate hoswipe cousin, he said, mulut puaka pun mulut puaka lah, he called up my mum to say, yes, kalau bapak nak sangat, bawakje la uncle we all tu. And being a mother, walaupun dah mengangkat sumpah nak menyokong lakinya 100%, my mum became very excited with the impending nuptial. But then last week my bro called me up to mengadu domba about my parents or specifically my dad. The fact that my dad nak bawa segala suku sakat keluarga, org kampung serta tok2 besan yg residing kat Klang Valley ni. Kalau camni satu bas mungkin tak cukup you all. The thing that irked my brother was the fact that some of the suku sakat yg nak dihangkut tu tak rapat pun dgn my brother and couldn’t care less about him. Lagipun there’s the financial implication because my bro yg paying for the catering and kat KL bukannya murah..masa i dengar ni memang i dah menggeletar, rasa tak sabar2 nak cakap ngan my mum. Until then, i have never discussed anything about my bro’s wedding with my parents because they’re both so emotional tak tentu pasal...but after my bro spoke to me, i memang dah tak boleh tahan dah! I thought apa nak jadi, jadilah! My bro has sort of back down quite a lot so it’s up to my parents pulak to compromise. But how should i tackle my parents?? Silap haribulan i pulak yg jadi baa baa black sheep. So i thought the only way to go about it is to ‘divide and conquer’. When my parents agree with each other they’re as bad as one another, but if i get to separate my mum from my dad, i would be able to make her see reason. So i told her about the financial implication of it..it’s not like kahwin kat kampung where sekor lembu tumbang org dari kampung seberang boleh dijemput! Tengok2 my mum pun tengah berkonfrantasi dgn my dad so kerja i jadi lebih senang!
Anyway, to cut a long story short, my dad dengar2 ceritanya tak nak dtg masa bertunang...my mum thinks yg dia rasa tersisih although she herself couldn’t understand this when she agreed that what my bro buat i.e. planning his wedding himself banyak menyenangkan diaorg berdua. But she definitely will be coming.....adakah bapakku tu tengah andropause??? Or poorly controlled blood sugar level yang menjadikannya weng sikit? Nasib baik my bro’s just hyperexcited about getting hitched that dia tak ambik hati sangat. Sometimes grown ups can behave so childishly...probably someone can tell him, it’s not about him at all, it’s my bro’s big day, so stop being selfish and move on.
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