Forgive and Forget

Forgive, but should you forget?

Was listening to Omar Suleiman's lecture (tajuk di atas ini) and I feel like sharing some of it here.

When a person harmed himself (committed a sin), and then he seeks forgiveness from Allah, Allah will forgive him no matter how many times he did it again, as long as he seeks for Allah's forgiveness.

During the conquest of Makkah, Hatib was forgiven by Rasulullah s.a.w although he did something that can be considered as treason, just because he told the truth to Rasulullah s.a.w.  

However, in another story, there was one guy, Abd Ghurrah, who fought against the muslims during the battle of Badr and became a captive.
When he met Rasulullah s.aw., Abd Ghurrah said "ya Rasulullah, I was made to fight against the muslimin. Please forgive me and I swear I will not fight against the muslimin anymore", and with that Rasulullah s.a.w forgave and released Abd Ghurrah.
Then, in the next battle of Uhud, Abd Ghurrah was captured again, and this time when Rasulullah walked to him, he said "Ya Rasulullah, I promise I will not fight you again", believing that Rasulullah s.a.w. will do the same as he did previously. Unfortunately for him, Rasulullah s.a.w didn't do the same.

Rasulullah s.a.w. said, "A believer does not allow himself to be stung at the same hole twice". Meaning, being merciful is different from being naive.

There is a difference between forgiving and forgetting. A believer should not be naive. However, a believer should never let evil fills his heart. For example, if you fill your heart full of grudge, there will be less space in your heart for Allah's love.

And then... teringat there are people who just won't stop talking... Keep on telling me to forget what the person who wronged me did and move on, just because I refuse to speak or listen that guy's voice, or even look at him, and I also refused to be associated with him. I already cut all ties with him because enough is enough. Just because I did all those, doesn't mean I have grudge against him nor I haven't forgive him. I forgiven him not because he deserves it or not. I forgiven him because I want Allah to forgive me for the sins I've done, and I think that if Allah can forgive anyone who seeks forgiveness, why can't I, a human just forgive people? I mean, I'm in no position to say "I'm holier than thou". (nobody can say that!)  Plus, I don't want to be dragged by it. I know that Allah is just, and He will deal with the "share" later on. Not my job. And these people, kalau ikut logik mereka bahawa tak sanggup pandang orang tu maknanya kita berdendam, habis tu Rasulullah s.a.w. berdendam dengan Wahshi la when he couldn't even bear to look at him?  *rolls eye*

Fun fact, a person who has been wronged, even if the person who wronged him had been forgiven by Allah, he still has the right not to forgive that person who had wronged him. But of course, forgiving other people for the sake of Allah is better for the heart. God is all merciful and just.

Wahai bawangs sekalian, why should I get myself into that situation again? I refuse to put myself in harm. erggghhh people's logic. I'm bising-ing right now because of these people yang tak reti diam. Eh, korang dok geli lipas lah, tikus lah, apa lah tu takpe pulak. When I felt disgusted with the person who wronged me tak boleh pulak? Lipas tak salah kot! Lipas lalu je... and beranak pinak........ and then they fly..................

To be honest, I'm fine, and I think that I've been doing great lately. Alhamdulillah. I will not stop learning, and I will protect myself from the people who would harm me and others.  Ganbare jibun.