Valentine's Day: A Guide to Lingerie

Valentine's Day is a great opportunity to get a new outfit for the bedroom- especially if you haven't added to your collection in a while or are just needing to start.

If you're skeptical about lingerie, here are some great reasons to try it out:

• It can help get you in the mood
• It helps increase the anticipation
• It helps increase desire
• You can feel sexy
• It adds a little variety
• It will get him more excited
• You can feel beautiful
• You can feel "dressed up"

If you're thinking, but I'm not one of those tiny girls with huge boobs that should wear lingerie, then get that thought out of your head. Those girls are very few and far between. Your husband married YOU. Your husband is attracted to YOU. YOU need to show that you love and appreciate your body how it is. YOU need to take control and give yourself some positive messages about how you look. Embrace the Muffin Top (we all have)!  Plus size women still look sexy and can order lingerie. Be daring and try some out!

I've been ordering most of my lingerie through Yandy for a couple years now. I love them because it is good quality, inexpensive and usually take about 3 days for it to arrive at my house and their return policy is great if something doesn't work out.

If you're having a difficult time knowing where to start, here are some descriptions and links to help you out.

BUSTIER

$9.95
NOTE: Yandy usually includes the garters, underwear and stockings

• Intended to accentuate curves.
• May have a little extra help and support in the bust line
• Tend to push the breasts up and together to create cleavage
• Note: May take a bit of time to get adjusted and sized once you receive it
• Prices start at $7.95

CORSET

$23.95

• Intended to give a smooth line
• Cinch in the waistline to suck in the tummy
• Note: May take a bit of time to get adjusted and sized once you receive it

BABYDOLL

$35.95

• Flowing and feminine
• Open over stomach
• Some have supportive underwire, others don't
• I think these are great for when you're pregnant and your belly just needs space, but you still want to feel dressed up
• Prices start at $4.95 at Yandy

CHEMISE

$19.95

• No buttons, snaps, velcro or zippers. Easy on. Easy off.
• Looks like a very short dress or long shirt
• Can be fitted or loose at the waist
• Usually a delicate fabric
• Great if you're a bit self-conscious of your mid-section
• There are longer gowns too
• Prices start at $5.95

ROMPERS

$27.95

• Basically like a one-piece swim suit with a lot less fabric or coverage
• Great if you want to be a tease
• Take good care of it or else you'll be untangling it whenever you want to wear it
• Prices start at $13.95 at Yandy

DRESSES

$37.95

• Great for dressing up to go out
• Simple sexy

Bra & Panties

• Simple and easy
• Basic coverage
• Matching
• $20 Sets at Yandy

Bra Top Sets

• The top is a bra, the bottom could be a skirt or thong or boyshorts or fishnets etc.
• The bra isn't a supportive, every day bra
• Prices start at $5.95

Pasties

• Just covers a small area in the middle of your breast with adhesive

Teddys

• Usually a thin lace or silk fabric
• Generally cut in a shape hugging V-shape to minimally cover breasts and crotch

Costume Lingerie

• Great for variety or role playing or fantasy fulfilling etc.

Don't forget Robes and Shoes, too.

What's your favorite style of lingerie and why?

The Game of Love

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If you missed out last year, make sure you create your very own Game of Love for Valentine's Day (It's in 24 days, by the way!).

You can just use a flat sheet so you can put it on your bed whenever you're ready to go if you don't want to use a fitted sheet. Then, create your own game board. The number of squares will be the number of "moves" you'll have to fill in. Basically, you come up with some moves to get him in the mood, tease each other a bit and have some fun. You don't have to wait until Valentine's Day to give him this gift, either.

In case you're wondering, here are The Official Game of Love Rules:
1. The player will roll a die, but the highest number can be 3 (so divide by 2 or the game goes too fast!)
2. Each square has a 1 1/2 minute time limit
3. No getting carried away- you have to stop at 90 seconds and roll again (the hubs might fight you on that one)
4. Only one person "plays" your role is just the game "facilitator"
5. The Final square is "Score" and you can't skip ahead (if ya know what I mean)

You can steal some ideas from Monica here or this list:
Shoulder rub
A little peck
-1 piece of clothing
1st base (pic of base)
Strawberries/Grapes
I love you because...
Head massage
Forward # spaces
Lose a turn
??? (roller’s choice of what you do-but remember you are doing it for the other person) 
French please!
Love the ladies (whoever rolls this the girl wins ;)
Choose your lotion (back rub…)
Mini make-out
Foot rub
2nd base
Outfit choice (you choose what the other will wear)
Back one space
Music
Free touch
+1 piece of clothing
Whipped cream
Sexy dance
XOXO…
Kiss every inch
???-your choice
Look, but don’t touch…
Forward two spaces
I love you because...
Trace/Draw on me…
Talk to me
9x8-3=??
I like mine French
"Head" massage
Close your eyes
3rd base
Chocolate pudding
Lose a turn
SCORE!!! (make sure this is last. I may have made my game go a bit odd and required lots of arrows to ensure this was last...)

If you want some toys go here. If you want to find some new, affordable lingerie go here. It could be a fun tradition to get something new (at least) every year.

Has anybody tried out this game? 

Did you actually make it through?

Halloween Costume Sale

The Halloween Costumes are on sale over at Yandy.com. If you want a sexy costume for next year or for your husband's private viewing pleasure, head over there and score a great deal.

It could even be fun to dress up in something like this while you're going about the mundane tasks around the house and see how he reacts- or something like this under your clothes to surprise him with at bedtime once the kids are in bed. Happy Shopping!

How to do a Sexy Lap Dance

Celebrate the holiday by making a few fireworks of your own and putting on a show for your man!

Lap dance tips:

• Use a chair that has a higher back and no arms
• Tell him he can't touch you while you are dancing. Make sure you tell him before hand because he will probably try at least a few times which could throw off your groove.
• Tell him that you might reposition him and that when you do it he should obey so it doesn't sow you down
• Have confidence and look him in the eye.
• If you can't look at his eyes, look at his forehead between his eyes
• Mix things up. Stand close to him or on the chair, then back away or walk around. Keep him guessing.

You can go here to subscribe and watch actual videos of the moves. Just go to Lessons and then Lap Dances. There are also instructional videos for pole dancing. Wow! Now, that's a workout!

Make your lap dance even better by getting a little special something to wear (Up to 80% off!). 

Remember to keep it fun and be confident!

Here are some moves to get you going:

Walk around drag: Walk around behind him and lightly drag your hand up his arm, around his neck, and back down his other arm.

Kiss Miss: Psych your guy out so he thinks you are going to kiss him. Kneel with your right knee between his legs and place your right arm around his neck. Place your left knee on his right thigh. Most of your weight will be on the chair. Use his neck for leverage and lean back and slowly come in, scooping forward as if to kiss him but glide right past his ear. Kiss or bite his ear or whisper something if you want to.

Leg show: place a foot between his knees. Slowly caress your leg with both hands starting up at the top of your thigh going all the way down to your foot.
Grind: Sit either with your back to him or your front to him. Maintain eye contact if your front is to him. Grind backwards and forwards or in circles while you’re sitting on his lap.

Stand up: Place right foot between his legs and stand up, placing your left foot on his right thigh. With your left hand jerk his head down, gyrate your hips, push his head back and step down.

The Melt: Sit with your weight on him and your cheeks touching. Slowly slide down his body, like you are melting to the floor. Keep your right foot on the ground and fold your left leg so you are kneeling on it. Then when you get to the ground you will be able to crawl away easier
Chest Press: Crawl up to him and place a hand on each thigh. Slowly press and drag your chest up his knees and lower thighs.

Zipper Shock: reach down and grab his jeans zipper between your teeth. Jerk your head back several times and try to lower his zipper some.


If any of you know of some other moves or of good instructional videos, send them my way or post in the comments!

Get Lucky

Who's getting lucky on St. Patty's Day?

Check out a few of the options over at Yandy.

You can still get your order in time.

Choosing the Right Underwear

The right underwear can make me feel like a million bucks. Nothing like being perky, shapely, feminine and sexy-right?! Plus, it's always a bonus when my bra actually matches my panties. Yandy has some great sets for a decent price.

Have you heard of How to Look Good Naked. I love perusing the videos and checking out tips to look and feel better.

Here's a clip about choosing the right underwear for your body type:

What's your favorite style to wear?

Do you have a favorite brand?

Make sure you check out the tips for choosing a bra that fits.

Feelin' Sexy Friday -- Go Commando

I hope you and your man have a hot date planned this weekend. If not, start planning and setting one up. Get all dressed up to go and forget about your underwear or if you're a bit more shy just put on something sexy underneath. Then, during dinner you could accidentally have your shirt fall off your shoulder bit, or pull up your skirt to show him your garter, give him a glance and tease him a bit.

Enjoy the weekend!

Christmas Lingerie

Most men go crazy over something red in their woman's bedroom wardrobe. Christmas is a great time to find good deals on holiday and basic red lingerie.

Yandy has an assortment of lingerie and costumes for everyone and most are 50% off right now! {There's free shipping for orders over $70 and same day shipping so you have time to get these before Christmas. Returns are easy and delivery is discrete.}

They have this for $119 and this for only $19.95 and whole variety of items in between. You could even slip something like this under your dress for the annual Christmas party and give him a nice surprise when you get home. This would also be perfect for spicing up The 12 Lays of Christmas.

Remember to find something that accentuates your best features, have confidence in whatever you wear and enjoy taking control. Most women said wearing something sexy and acting flirtatious helps boost their libido so give it a try!

How do you best enjoy wearing lingerie?

What tips do you have for those that are a bit shy about it?

Costume Lingerie (and a sale!)

Hello ghosts and ghouls! I hope you had a fabulous and sexy Halloween! Last year I blogged about Halloween being a great opportunity to spice thing up in the bedroom. Costumes and specialized lingerie can be intimidating purchases, especially if they have a high price tag. Yandy is having a post Halloween sale with prices up to 80% off, a perfect time to try shaking things up if you ask me! Yandy offers discreet billing and shipping making it my favorite lingerie go-to.

It certainly does not have to be Halloween to play cops and robbers. This sexy little number, originally $53.95, is on sale for $37.77! I love a good deal.

How often do you change up your lingerie routine? Is it the price tag that prevents you from trying something new or embarrassment? Maybe it's just easier to get right down to naked?Have you talked to your husband about lingerie?

Benefits to Lingerie:

• Lingerie can make you feel sexy and help you to get "in the mood."
• Lingerie can help you feel more confident and comfortable. If you have a part of your body that you feel self conscious of, cover it up with a cute negligee!
• Taking the initiative in purchasing lingerie can show your husband that you are interested in and care about sex. It's a great way to show him you think about and enjoy your sex life!

What are some benefits of lingerie you've noticed in your marriage?

Get A Bra that Fits

80-85% of women are wearing the wrong bra size!

Are you one of them?

Signs your bra doesn't fit:

1. You "pop out" the top of your bra. Your breasts are spilling over the cup. Put on a tight tshirt and test it out. Does your breast look round or is it lumpy spilling out of the top of your bra?
2. Your bra puckers and wrinkles in the cups. You can grab a section of your bra and not have any breast in there. Or you bend over and your bra is falling out of your bra.
3. Your bra band rides up your back throughout the day. You shouldn't have to readjust and pull it down.
4. The under wire isn't flat against your ribs or skin. Even in the middle between your breasts, it should lay flat.
5. It's digging into your shoulders or back and causing the look of major back or shoulder fat.

Discovering your bra size

1. Using a soft tape measure, measure around your rib cage just below your breasts. Add 4 inches and round up to the nearest even number.
2. Using a soft tape measure, measure around the largest part of your breasts over the nipples.
3. Subtract the difference between this number and your band measurement.Then find the match: A=1", B=2", C=3", D=4" etc.

For example, if you measure a 27" around your ribs then your band size is likely a 32. If your breast size is is 36" then you'd be a 32D.

Wearing the right size bra adds so much confidence. Plus, it can make you look like you've lost weight (10-20lbs for some!). There are certain styles, fabrics and types of bras that are suggested depending on your size and body type. Go meet with a professional for some suggestions or check out The Lingerie Handbook for some tips.

Feelin' Sexy Friday: Boudoir Pictures

I realize Boudoir Photos could be controversial.

Do you think it's okay to show so much skin to somebody who is not your husband?

Have you had a good or bad experience?

What about your husband?

Boudoir Pictures could be a great gift for your spouse and seem to be becoming more popular. Recently, I've seen a lot of deals for these on my local Groupon and other deal sites.

These are a great gift for a spouse that's going away on deployment or a business trip, a memento of your young body, a fun surprise, or an idea for a girls night.

There can be a lot of variety in boudoir pictures.

If you're a bit camera shy you could just do some digital pictures with your girl friends or ask others about photographers they've used.

You could even set up timed pictures and do them yourself. If you're doing them yourself, turn the flash off and maybe have some candles or soft lighting. It'll leave a soft, subtle glow and be forgiving of any imperfections you worry about.

You choose the level of nudity you are comfortable with. I've seen some really classy boudoir photos where they're still sexy but have some mystery.

You can choose the style you'd like. For example, vintage pinup style may be better for those of you that have a few more curves since that's the style anyway.

You can do them inside, use your bedroom, outside or in a studio setting.

Mix up what you're wearing. You could gradually lose clothing in each picture or just have a variety of outfits you wear or don't wear.

It's all about attitude. Be confident and comfortable. If you feel sexy, you'll look sexy.

Adding a Little Variety

• See how many days in a row you can have sex. And how many times you can have sex in just one day.
• Let him bring you to orgasm as many times as he wants.
  
• Have secret words so you can imply what you want in front of the kids (e.g. ice cream=sex).
  
• Have slow sex. See how long you can go before climax.
  
• Have gentle sex.
  
• Have a quickie.
  
• Have rougher sex.
• Get a hotel for a weekend and stay in the room all day.
  
• Don't wear underwear under your clothing. This may work better-or at least feel more comfortable-with a dress or a skirt.
  
• Do a strip tease. Wear layers. A shirt and a shirt with buttons is a good idea. Wear sheer fabrics. Almost show something, show it quickly and cover it before uncovering it. You can touch him, but he can't touch you.
  
• Wear some sexy heels or cowboy boots during your encounter.
• Play some sex games. Get some dice, play strip poker, twister, wear the twister mat and use it. Do a search for sex games.
  
• Have sex with all of the lights on.
• Try new oils and lubricants.
  
• Look up new sex positions and try them out.
• Have sex in new places- the kitchen, the living room, shower, outside, the car etc. (Remember privacy and obscenity laws, though.)
  
• Get a copy of the Kama Sutra and learn more about the Eastern perspective on sexuality.
• Use sexual toys. There are so many things out there beyond the standard vibrators, rings, sleeves, furniture to help get in a better position, pheromone enhancers etc. Take a look. Do your research.
  
• Engage in mutual masturbation. Either stimulate yourself in front of your partner or guide him to what feels good to you.
• Be verbal when you have sex. Tell him what feels good, better and best (and not so good if necessary).
  
• So some role play. Recreate a first date or wedding night. Flirt, tease and have some fun. Try some sexy costumes when you role play if you'd like.
  
• Take boudoir pictures. Hide them around for him to find or give him a photo book.
  
• Take erotic pictures of each other. (Any good ideas of how to keep them away from children and others?)
• Share your sexual fantasies with each other. Everybody has fantasies. You can go a step further and see if you can fulfill them in any way.
• Keep eye contact throughout the entire sexual experience- especially during orgasm when you naturally want to close your eyes. This could be one of the most intimate moments you've shared.
  

Ask the Audience -- Lingerie

Some women tell me they don't like to wear lingerie. When I dig deeper, a lot of them just don't know what style of lingerie to wear or what looks good on them. I'm not a style expert so I thought I'd ask you what you've found.

I think if you feel comfortable and sexy, it will show in how you carry yourself and you will look sexy no matter what you're wearing- or not wearing.

There are lots of different styles and fabrics. For example, I've noticed that lace and sheer fabrics can be really forgiving of stretch marks and other skin imperfections and baby dolls can be worn throughout a pregnancy.

What do you suggest for different body shapes?

To get you thinking...

Here are some body shapes:
Triangle
Inverted Triangle
Rectangle
Hourglass
Rounded
Diamond
Pregnant
Nursing

And here are some lingerie styles:
Baby Doll
Slip
Thong
Boyshort
Halter neck
Chemise
Peignoir Set
Negligee
Camisole
Garter
Bodystocking
Corset
Teddies
Lace
Opaque
Silk
Cotton
Knee length
Floor length
Asymmetrical

Comment with your suggestions and findings.

Let us know if one of you experts wants to do a guest post about this!

Valentine's Day Lingerie and Sexy Gifts

Sure the Valentine's Day Date is fun, but Valentine's isn't really about the date -- it's about what happens in the bedroom AFTER the date. So let him take care of the romantic diamond ring you've been eying and the fancy dinner downtown and you worry about the fun part. Your gift to him doesn't even need to be wrapped because, ideally, it should be wrapping you! Valentine's Day Lingerie is what your man is secretly hoping for (trust me, I know these things.)

Hide a little number like this under your little black dress and he'll be squirming all night! He'll love this gift more than a box of chocolates or a pair of basketball tickets. Lingerie is the type of gift that keeps on giving. Men are visual creatures -- so give your man something to look at!

And if you're looking to step it up a notch, try something sweet like this chocolate body paint. It's a fun way to switch up your routine.

Have you ever tried giving a sexy gift for Valentine's Day or have you always stuck with a new tie? Give it a try. He'll be quite pleased :)

Dressing Up the Married Way

I recently did a post about dressing sexy for a private, bedroom Halloween party. I thought I would share with you a little Q&A that transpired in the comments of that post:

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Question:

Anonymous said...

Is it possible to get more comfortable with costumes? I would love to liven things up but every time i think about a costume I laugh. Even sometimes I put on my lingeire and feel awkward. I am self confident and would love to move past this and suprise the crap out of my husband. any tips?

October 11, 2010 1:42 AM

Answer:

Anonymous said...

(To)@anon 1:42

I did the dress up thing...and basically giggled the whole time. It was insanely embarrassing but still fun. I've found the more you do it the easier it is to hold the giggles in, practice makes perfect right? But even if you cant hold back the nervous laughter, so what!? Its all about having fun sometimes silly love-making is the best :)

October 13, 2010 3:34 PM

What a perfect answer! I completely agree. Laugh. Have fun! Lighten up! Sex doesn't always have to be a serious candlelit experience. That is the WHOLE IDEA of a sexy, private-party, Halloween costume. And if it doesn't work out, you'll have fabulous memories of bunny ears and bunny tails to laugh about.

Sexy Halloween

In college, Halloween seemed to be a free pass for girls to be skanky for a day. Girls seem to have this inner desire to express their sexuality. The girls who were brave (or perhaps scandalous) enough enjoyed themselves and the boys ate it up. I may be wrong, but I think most of the girls who didn't flaunt it on Halloween secretly wanted to. Well, now that we are old, boring, married people, I would encourage you to channel your inner sorority girl. You've got a willing and eager guy, and no one to brand you a skank.

Of course I don't recommend hitting the club in a bra and panties declaring you are a lady bug. No girls. Those days are behind you :) Try hosting a private Halloween party for two! You can be the sexy nurse (kit for only $9.95) and he can be your patient. Or you could be a cop and he could be a robber. If you've been nervous or reluctant to branch out from your generic pink frillies, then Halloween may be the perfect opportunity for you to go out on a limb.

{I highly recommend Yandy.com for your sexy costuming needs. This is the most affordable site I've found making it easy to give things a try for ten or twenty bucks. They are great with returns and discreet with deliveries.}

Holidays offer a perfect opportunity to spice things up in the bedroom. It's easy to get stuck in a routine, skip the lingerie, or worst of all, skip the sex all together. Try thinking of holidays as more than celebrations for children. Think of them as excuses to try something new in the bedroom!

Back To School Shopping

Whether you are going back to school this September or not, this is a fabulous excuse to spruce up your wardrobe and give a fresh new look to your love life. But instead of (or maybe in addition to) new boots and that rockin' pair of skinny jeans you've been eyeing, head for the uniform. Neck ties and plaid.

"How could Gwen possibly think I would feel sexy strutting around the office/mall/movie theater in a drab and plaid school girls uniform?"

Umm, hello?! You won't be wearing your new back to school uniform to the park/restaurant/school. This is bedroom attire, girls. Have you not seen this Britney Spears video?!

Boys go crazy for this stuff. Seduce his pants off sister. Do you remember our talk about Victoria's Secret? Well, this is one of those items that Victoria may not have lying around for you. I've found the most affordable and most adorable sexy school girl outfits here. But whether you create your ensemble out of his old work shirt and tie or you buy a sassy little thing, try creating a back to school experience for your husband that he'll never forget. And it's ok if you feel a little bit silly. It'll be fun to have a good laugh together. Step outside the box, girls, and learn something new this school year :)

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If I remember right, school is a fabulous place for flirting...

Sail Away into Lingerie

The summer of love is coming to an end. So sad. With Fall approaching, it will be too chilly to strut around your husband in your bikini. So jump out of that sexy suit (or slightly-sexy-mostly-modest suit if you're like me) and into your lingerie. You do wear lingerie, right?

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What kind of a lingerie girl are you? Do you like to buy your unmentionables in store or online? There are pros and cons to both:

In Store (Victoria's Secret, Fredricks, etc.)

Pros:

• Try things on for size before purchase
• Returns are easy with a trip to the mall
• Knowledgeable employees to help you out. I believe the Victoria's Secret girls offer free bra fittings.

Cons:

• Smaller selection (stores and products)
• Less discrete
• May be uncomfortable, especially in the more spicy stores

Online (3 Kisses Lingerie, Red Carpet Lingerie, and my favorite, Yandy Lingerie)

Pros:

• Discrete shopping. Great for first timers or shy types
• Easier to shop for sales
• Big selection including more options for plus size lingerie (i.e. Torrid, Always For Me)

Cons:

• More difficulty with returns. (However, I have returned items to Yandy Lingerie, and the process was surprisingly simple.
• Inability to try items on before purchase

What do you prefer? In stores, or online? Have you dared to stray from the comforts of Victoria's Secret?

Husband's Very Own Calendar Girl

Some days, don't you just wish you could be a steamy calendar girl? They're so confident and sassy. Of course you would be strictly husband's calendar girl, but a calendar girl just the same. So why not? Do something crazy and out of the ordinary. Let your hair down. Tonight, be husband's star!

Pick out something sassy, throw on your lip gloss, and take husband on the hottest photo shoot he'll ever attend. Be sure to stay on the right side of pornographic so you can comfortably upload them on VistaPrint.com to create and order your calendar for FREE! (Don't worry girls, I verified this one ;) only pay $5.67 for shipping.)

{F.Y.I VistaPrint.com is celebrating their 10th anniversary by offering 10 free products: business cards, self inking rubber stamps, photo flip books, totes, mugs, and a mouse pad. But they had me at Calendar Girl. *Two day promotion, so hurry!}

Thanks for the heads up Krazy Coupon Ladies :)

My Idea of Father's Day

Father's Day is a big deal around my house. It's not only an opportunity for me to show my gratitude for him as the father of my children, but my appreciation for him as a provider and protector. I celebrate Father's Day a bit differently than most, however. No barbecue tools for my man. I go the more intimate route.

This year I ordered this sneaky little tie clip from Red Envelope. The front is engraved with a nice, classy monogram and the back holds a secret hidden message. For the more conservative route choose "Love ties us together." But if your a little more daring choose "I want to tie you up" like I did. He'll be thinking about you all day at work. Plus I found a Red Envelope promo code for 15% off at checkout: SRCHSave15

I've spent a lot of time searching for a good lingerie company. Something more racy than Victoria's Secret and with a good price tag. I found Yandy Lingerie. Some sites I've seen are pretty pornographic and while I wouldn't want my husband surfing around on this site, I felt comfortable looking through their inventory.

I chose this little number to make his blood boil after the kids go to bed. It was on sale for $21.95 and I also found a coupon code for 10% off, SUMMER.

P.S. My boobs are not that big. but the top is adjustable so I think I'll be ok.

I just put my order in this morning and both companies have promised arrival by Sunday. I think he'll feel more loved by this gift than a boring old tie, don't you?