Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts

Friday, June 3, 2016

The Kind of Man You Should Marry

Marry a man who chose you out of love, but not out of duty and responsibility.

A man who is determined to spend the rest of his life with you, throughout all possible adversities and hardships.

A man who can grow and learn with you through the experiences you go through together in life.

A man who wakes up and tell you how beautiful you are, and would spend the rest of his life admiring your beauty. 

A man who is excited for a long-time adventure you are ready to take on.

A man who appreciates your humor, your silly jokes and your hysterical laughter which would eventually be the music to his ears. 

A man who doesn't promise not to make you cry, but would wipe your tears and hold you in his arm if you ever do.

A man who is serious in life, yet still knows how to have his fair share of fun.

A man who is ready to take your hand and explore the parts and parcels of this beautiful planet.

A man who takes you to places you have never been and feeds you delicacies that intrigue you.

A man who may have a different set of ideology, yet still able to see the world from you perspectives.

A man who teaches you how to be a better person, yet without changing who you really are.

A man who would always take your side, especially when dealing with bitches.

A man who sees no one else but you as the apple of his eyes.

A man who prioritizes your needs and respects your opinions. 

A man who would never do things that could potentially hurt you, regardless how minor it may be. 

A man who is never afraid to apologize for his mistakes, and who promises to be better next time.

A man who never raises his voice at you regardless how heated your argument may get.

A man who includes you in his plans and considers you before the decisions he makes.

A man who holds on to you and never ever leaves you. 

A man who loves you, and stays in love with you, always and forever. 



Sunday, May 29, 2016

Should You Marry Someone of Different Religion?

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Growing up, I have always been taught to respect everyone regardless of race or religion. I was born into a Buddhist family who were later on converted into Christians. My dad remained a free thinker, but he always uphold the highest respect for each and every one of our belief. Despite his tendency to lecture us on how our destiny is not controlled by the spiritual being but is within our own hands, he still played badminton with some of our church members, never had problem having short talks with our pastors and sometimes would even gladly attend the events held at the church if he isn't too busy with work. Although he has never truly believe in God, I am glad that he has never once discriminate. And likewise, we would never look down on or distance ourselves from our relatives who are of different religions. And neither would we force them into believing what we deem is is the true path, as we know that they have the rights and freedoms to their own religious beliefs.

It's a shame that religion which is meant for the better good of the world could become a reason for discrimination. My previous encounters have always been us Christians discriminating (sort of) against other religions, as we were continuously taught to only marry someone who believes in God as the basic rule to a happy marriage and blessed family unit. I totally understand where the concern is coming from, as couples of different religions may have arguments later on in life due to their differences. I never really stick to that advice, as I did not want to limit my choices within that religion :x (Besides I don't really meet that many Christians in life. Partly because I don't really go to church lol. But ask my bestie who attends church regularly and she would tell you the same) 

However, sometimes the discrimination comes from other religions who prefer to distance themselves and to avoid marrying their offsprings to Christians because they think that all Christians are evangelists who would constantly persuade them into joining the church and force them to pray before meals and sing worship songs during family gatherings wtf.

(God forbids blasphemy) I couldn't care less if one goes to heaven! I know pastors, devoted Christians and probably even my mum would frown at this selfish thought but really, it's everyone's choice and I seriously don't care. Of course, some people may feel obliged (church pressure lol) to share the gospel at any opportunity they could get because they are constantly reminded to do so, and by doing so they believe that they will be rewarded by His grace and mercy. Can't say the same about me though. 

Okay before I divert too much into sensitive insights which will probably stir up discomfort, the question is should you marry someone of different religion? *deep thoughts emoji*

By now you should have realized there is no right or wrong answer, but merely a matter of perspectives. There is a correlation between the outcome and the level of respect from one another as well as the degree of compromise from each partner. Some may ask, why start something when you foresee problems ahead? Why not go for someone that requires lesser effort? Because sometimes we just can't imagine being with anybody else but him/her. After all, they say love is unconditional. 

So, what should you do when you are being discriminated by your potential in-laws?

1. Break up with your partner
Only if you aren't sure that he is the one and if you can't tell whether he is worth the effort.  Better now or never.

2. Get married after your potential in-laws enter the grave wtf
But unless they are already sick and old and lying on their deathbed, this option may not be applicable to all.

3. Sever ties with your potential in-laws
Who in the right mind would do that though? Remember filial piety! It runs in Asians' blood. Unless you marry an ang moh :/

4. Give up on your religion
Sorry but can you say the same about giving up sex or rice? No means no lah. Even philosophies don't anyhow change overnight. 

5. Respect each other and live in harmony
Of course, this option may be easier said than done. It certainly takes a significant amount of effort from both parties. If you believe that it would work, then by all means make it happen. But if you believe that it would fail, then your relationship will no doubt crumble. 

What would you do? 


Thursday, March 24, 2016

[ADV] ck2 - a scent for #the2ofus


You appreciate my whimsical ideology of life

While I take pride in your plans of world conquest

You make fun of my obsession in astrology forecasts

While I disregard your skepticism in worshippers’ faith

You find joy in the simplest pleasure of life

While I dream of my topsy turvy glamorous show


# Strangely we connect #


For you, I will climb the mountain and sail the sea

Getting lost with you away from the concrete garden

Sometimes it feels like just you and I against the world

As you take my hand and embark on the adventures

With you I find thrill of life


| Bold | Diverse | Free | #the2ofus



Introducing ck2 – a dual-faceted unisex perfume that celebrates every connection despite their differences.

It balances two opposing forces: the strike of spicy electric freshness and the warmth of magnetic woods (an epitome of me and you ^^)

The urban woody fresh fragrance consists of 3 main components:

top:     wasabi, mandarin, violet leaf absolute
mid:    wet cobblestones, orris concrete, rose absolute
dry:     sandalwood, vetiver, incense




We love how the scent is cool and natural with a hint of complexity. As the components merge, together they create an exuberant, intimate and contrasted connection.

As we tested it outdoor, the solar heat complemented the fragrance and multiplied the electric freshness.



ck2 is packaged in a clear container with the concept of minimalism.

Complex on the inside, yet simple on the outside.




Being a gender-free fragrance, the 2-part design unites the male and female element.

Like the connection of 2 people, the sleek rounded bulb of glass and the solid square cap create 2 pieces perfectly in-sync and connected to each other. Truly designed for #the2ofus



ck2
eau de toilette spray                                     100ml                         RM289
eau de toilette spray                                     50ml                           RM219
deodorant stick                                             2.6oz/75g                  RM89



ck2’s launch will be happening at Mid Valley Centre Court from 21st – 27th March 2016. Remember to drop by to be the first few to get your hands on ck2 fragrance! Be ready for the fabulous deals and exclusive experiences! 

Thursday, March 17, 2016

10 Reasons Why You Should Never Date Older Men

Recently, I stumbled upon a post from Goody Feed on 10 Valid Reasons Why an “Uncle” Boyfriend is the Best Boyfriend Ever, which I presumed was either written by an uncle or a young girl who is dating an uncle.  I do agree with some of its contents, but let’s for once put ourselves on the opposing side and think about the cons of dating an uncle.

Inspired by that article, I have then come out with 10 Reasons Why You Should Never Date Older Men, or rather, 10 Valid Reasons Why an “Uncle” Boyfriend is the Worse Boyfriend Ever:

1. You are both at different stages of life
He is at the peak of his career path, whereas you are still struggling to climb up that corporate ladder. It won't be as easy to comprehend each other's priorities as compared to couples who are working together towards the same goal at the same stage of life.

2. His superiority complex would surface when faced with decision-making situations
For the fact that he has lived a longer life than you, he would always think he is right hence would expect you to do it his way all the time.

3. He has dated way too many girls than you did men
 He is used to the fact that girls come and go. And to him, you are no exception.

4. You did not go through the toughest time of life with him
You weren't there for him when he struggled to build his career. And now that everything is stable, it is as if you have been sent from hell to crush it.

5. He wants kids, while you want to travel the world
Considering his age, he could be eager to start a family whereas you want to take your time to enjoy your sweet honeymoon before reality kicks in. Something major to compromise!

6. Communication barrier with your friends
Sooner or later, you will start dreading having him and your friends together under one roof, because there is absolutely no common topic at all! To him, they are a bunch of clueless kids who have yet to figure out on the reality of life.

7. You risk getting judgmental stares from the public
Oh look, that girl must have found herself a sugar daddy! Otherwise, which young girl in her right mind would want to date someone old and frail?

8. He would retire before your kids barely graduated from college
That is, unless you date someone who is self-employed and has a small reserve of wealth. How long can your savings continue to support your kids after his source of income comes to a halt?

9. He will die sooner than you
Why prepare yourself for heartbreak when you can choose to marry a young bloke and grow old together?

10. Last but not least, there must be an obvious reason why he is still single
Is he afraid of commitment? Is he the type who secretly never wants to get married? Or is he a psychopath? Be careful what you're getting yourself into :/

After reading the 10 reasons above, do you still think it is a good idea to be dating an old man? Teehee.

For a side note, a few OOTD photos from last weekend.




Disclaimer: The article above represents the author’s stereotypical views and shall not be applied at all circumstances.


Wednesday, June 10, 2015

What Went Wrong

When you log onto your Facebook and watch all your primary school mates taking turns getting married, and you are just still lying on your bed clad in your Hello Kitty pyjamas reading relationship tips articles, alone, without a boyfriend. You can't help but think, what exactly went wrong?

But hell no, getting a man to be married to should be the least of your priority right now!

You are at the peak of your youth, the time of your life to pave your career path, to experience the new excitements in life and to take on a little adventure to discover your true self.

In a few years' time the Millennium babies will enter the work force. Perhaps then you may consider settling for your happily ever after.

I look fabulous


Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Men's Shitty Excuses in Avoiding a Committted Relationship

When you know that a man really likes you, but does not like you enough to be in a committed relationship with you, there could be only 2 explanations:

a. He has not played around enough.

b. You really aren’t the one.


The silliest mistake that we girls often make is thinking that the problem lies with us.

Maybe he feels that I am not pretty?

Maybe I should lose some weight?

Maybe I should be more attentive to his needs?

Maybe he will like me if I allow him more space?

Maybe I am not good enough for him?

Trust me, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you! A man who does not like you for who you are now will never learn to like you no matter what changes you are willing to sacrifice for his sake.

There is really no need to change anything just to make him fall for you because that will never ever happen.

Wake up girl, he does not want to be with you. Maybe he seems interested at times. You can’t tell. That’s because he doesn’t mind keeping you around while waiting for that dream girl to appear in his life.


Some shitty excuses a man could give for not wanting to be involved in a committed relationship:

1. I don't think I am ready to be in a committed relationship (and he didn’t even bother with the explanation)

2. I need to focus on building my career (most commonly used excuse! the next thing you realize he is holding another girl’s hand)

3. I have been in a bad relationship. I am afraid of getting hurt again (c’mon, we all have had our shares of heartbreaking past! Don’t play the sympathetic game :/)

4. I think you deserve someone better than me (aww, don’t be fooled sweetie, that’s just his polite way of indirect rejection. He does not want to be with you, and he means it!)


5. Sorry I will be too busy at work to reply your text (A man who cares would have keep you updated while he is at the loo)

6. I don’t wanna get married until I am 35 (you are simply not part of his future)

7. I am the type who will never get married (he's a fcking liar)

8. Maybe one day, but not now (maybe one day, one day when he gives up his hopes of meeting someone better)



Forget about how much he says he misses you and how he utters those sweet words that linger on your mind.  Don’t even begin your wistful thoughts of him being the father of your child. Think about the ugly truth, the truth that he really isn’t that into you.


You deserve someone better.

One last cheongsam photo of the year just so I could complete this post.

p/s: I am not bitter :P

Saturday, February 14, 2015

Valentine's Day - My Expectation vs Reality

1.
Expectation: Getting off work early and head for a pre-valentine dinner.

Reality: Got off work early and headed home so I could watch the last few episodes of The Empress of China.


2.
Expectation: Candlelight dinner with him at a fine-dining restaurant with a view.

Reality: Cooked myself some really awesome pasta. Plain pasta with cili-padi kind of awesome :/


3.
Expectation: Sipping wine with him while watching a Jazz live performance.

Reality: Drinking milk in bed with Taylor Swift playing on Youtube.


4.
Expectation: Receiving a love letter in the mailbox with cheesy Valentine messages.

Reality: Wrote myself words of encouragement on my yellow sticky note.

5. 
Expectation: A surprise bouquet delivered to the office.

Reality: Nothing on my desk except piles of working paper. Colleague next door received flowers! Maybe I will snap a photo and pass it off as mine wtf.


6. 
Expectation: Cuddling to sleep and waking up to him wishing me Happy Valentine’s.

Reality: Cried myself to sleep as I cursed my hatred upon St. Valentine for having invented this day :’(


7.
Expectation: Sharing a pack of chips with him on the couch while discussing the name of our future child.

Reality: Ate my half-pint leftover Baskin Robbin ice-cream from last month. All on my own, bitch!


8.
Expectation: Foreplay so passionate that left a hicky on my neck.

Reality: I accidentally scratched my neck during shower resulting in a strawberry-like mark :(


9.
Expectation: To perform 50 Shades of Grey weekend challenge and try out all plausible BDSM positions.

Reality: 50 Shades of Blood: Fuck-Me-Not-Because-I-Am-Having-My-Period!!! :(

Just kidding, I don’t have period. I just have no one to try out the weekend challenge wtf.


10.
Expectation: Showing off photos of my Valentine gift.

Reality: This blog post.



Still, Happy Valentine’s Day regardless! <3 div="">




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