MEN......oh Men....

So the previous post was more into sexy in women without screaming the word slut or cheap. How about in man? Let's talk about the skin deep stuffs here and not the "characteristic" kind of thing first.

I don't fancy a man that into vanity. I mean a personal grooming is important but if his facial cream and clothes are much more fancier than mine... hmm thanks but no thanks.

I like man who can dress up for the occasion but on the other time I like to see him in the dress down casual but still have the "roughness".

For all of us, the appearance is not EVERYTHING. But it is something. It 's all started from there. Ok next will be the inner beauty. But if some one who is (become)VERY unattractive will not be any helpful in any relationship or marriage, don't they? Think about un-groomed men , unpleasant and un-sexy body odor, no dental hygiene ( ew!), nose hair, smelly feet .. OK enough details but the list continue in your own mind please! :). But again a man who keep checking himself on the mirror, enjoys pedicure more than the woman, and have facial ( very)regulary and still feel insercure is kind of turn me off)

Too bad, I never see any attractive men lately ( read as for the past 3 years and counting). Boy this city need something to make a woman happy. Don't get me wrong! No intention for cheating over here, but just to see ( cuci mata). So the last time I went to Singapore, I saw a few female and male models! Wo hooo.... that is something at least.

The most turn off for me is the man who acts like he is the most gorgeous man in the world or in the room ( bluek) and think all women will feel for him. Hmmm that don't impress me much! ( from Shania Twain song) .

I think in every relationship, the partner must reminds and motivates each other to keep a good body shapes and controlling each eating habit. My husband is one of those man , who like to reminds me if I over eat . Sometimes it is nice but sometimes it is just so annoying ( I was like: Hey relax, I don't eat like this every time). I also will remind him if I saw his belly is growing bigger than normally. We kind a of in the mood to trim and toned up a bit our tummy for more beach and bikini 's time now. :-D

So I think , I prefer men that not thinking so much about their appearance but still can manage to look good ( is it too much to ask?), a man that know what will work for him and what is not ( like pink or orange t-shirt), and man that is open to new suggestion ( new hair style or new colors) and those who is not afraid to look good . Most important of all : A man who is confident ( without being too confident and become arrogant) who is secure about himself.

Who I vote for " my own personal" winners are :

Someone who is just simply gorgeous and doesn't even care about how he look or think to shave his beard. Some one who is laid back and ride (big)bikes! :)

Someone that can manage to apprear like he is not good looking at all but yet , he is just simply irresistible and someone that is so humble but he can make a messy hair looked so oh damn sexy!

Someone who is very comfortable with himself and his sexuality , someone who make a statement and still look very damn sexy. Sexy is sexy and it is universal ! Even with nail polish and eyeliner!

Who do you think is sexy and what kind of man will turn you off?

What defines sexy?

Please note this post will contain adult language and not suitable for underage children.

Sexy is the physical attractiveness ( mostly to opposite sex). If you ask around there are unlimited definitions of sexy. But most of the time it will associate with the physical appreance of some one.

And yes most of the time the size of breasts, and the amount ( or lack of amount) of clothing make people determine the sexiness.

But it is true? For most of us , we will say NO. Because what defines sexiness is the attitude. Imagine if one woman who has lack of confidence and dressed up in little black dress, but she feels shy and hunched her back all the time. That is not sexy, sexy comes with confidence.

Sex appeal is something that someone has, that make him or her attractive. But mind you, Sexy for my term is not Trashy or Slutty. So it is the attitude and the way some one presented him/her self.

The sexiness in woman has something to do with what she wears. But doesn't mean that she must show as much as skin as possible or show more cleavage that she possibly could. Of course men will favor that very much :) . The real sexiness in woman for my personal opinion is when someone dress up with a decent amount of clothing but yet she can ooze the sex appeal with class. Someone who doesn't to show their "asset" too much or being look so cheap and desperate to impress the opposite sex.

We also need to be more considerate on what to wear and where to wear it. A micro mini skirt dress for a wedding dinner might not be a good idea. That is more like a hooker at the wrong place and at the wrong time . ( Ha ha ) .

Being married and being over certain age, that doesn't mean we can't be sexy or look sexy. The trick is that to look sexy without being trashy. Or in appropriate for certain age.


And yes women with larger bosoms might want to be extra careful. Specially in Asia. That doesn't mean you must hide it. But be more considerate not to "flash" it and send the wrong vibes to the (pervert)men out there. Yes those who talk to the breasts rather than to the face. My bosoms size has reduced due to 2 pregnancies and breastfeeding. So I don't have to deal with those pervert breasts obsessed men out there! ;)

Hey but those with much more flat bosoms , that doesn't mean you can't be sexy. You can be sexy as well. I know many woman with smaller breast still can look sexy , So flaunt it ladies!:)

It is easy to look sexy with a much daring clothing to get attention. Have you ever see in the mall , some women put on the rarely there short pants and is actually racing up with their undies, and it made you wonder, is it panty or is it a pair short? is it there or is it not? But I appreciate someone who can dress decently, but yet being ultra sexy at the same time. Those with long pants, or knee length skirt, a extra cool top, or just plain t shirt but the sexiness never leave them . ( thinking of Angelina Jolie?)

My personal style of sexy has nothing to do with show off a lot of skin. I like simple white tank top with skinny jeans and killer heels. I don't need to be in a skimpy , strapless, mini dress to feel sexy. A messy hair can be sexy, even a short hair can be sexy, or long tousled hair as well. A bare face can be sexy and so does the smoky eyes, or just simple daring red lipstick or even just a pedicure can be sexy. even woman in man t-shirt can be sexy too, and pregnant woman can be sexy as well.



What is your sexy style ?