You would have guess from the subject of this entry that we have changed our wedding date. Now, let me tell you why.
Earlier this year, we consulted a shifu in his home and asked if he was able to calculate an auspicious wedding date for us. The first time we went, he told us that the tong shu for 2017 is not out yet, hence he took down our lunar birth dates and parents zodiac. We were told to wait for his call when the dates are ready. However, 1 to 2 months passed and we did not receive any calls from him at all. Hence, Dearie and his mum went down to his place only to discover that he totally forgot about our enquiry. Well done uncle. I believe he immediately calculated on the spot for them, which was how we got our initial wedding date to be 15 Oct 2017. We gave him an angbao as a token as well.
Now, he's the first and only shifu we have consulted but I always have the idea that we will be given a list of dates for our preferred period for us to choose from, the timing to fetch the bride together with the dates for Guo Da Li, An Chuang. However, he only gave us a date which we were told was the best date for us. When I ask dearie about why the timing were not given, he mentioned that the uncle will tell us about the timing closer to the wedding date. To be honest, it felt slightly odd to me then.
With that initial date, we went on to book our wedding venue and bridal studio.
It was only recently when several things happen that I decided to relook at the wedding date. First, I had a bad dream about how our wedding day was in chaos and everything just did not go on smoothly. I couldn't remember the details when I woke but I certainly remembered how I felt during the dream, panicy as f*ck. I thought I was turning into a bridezilla and brushed it aside until I started chancing upon articles of inauspicious chinese wedding dates for 2017 in the next 1-2 days, and it happened that our initial wedding date indeed falls under that category! I was super flustered like nobody's business. So I researched like mad googling from the Chinese almanac calendar and other related platforms, with more and more sources indicating that that date was not a good date to get married, AT ALL.
I turn to the boy and told him about this. We agreed to get the date recalculated after I told him about my concerns. So I started asking for contacts from friends and googling from forums for a credible master to get our bazi recalculated.
I found one which was relatively famous and immediately emailed him with a general question whether 15 Oct 2017 is a good date for wedding. His reply was no. To be specific, he said it is not even a good date without having to calculate our bazi. It was a day for companies to retrench ppl and stuff grr. At this point, I was fuming with the shifu which we consulted previously.
It was a roller coaster ride because this particular master was so busy that his schedule for Jul and Aug was all taken up but thank god he was able to advice us over emails. He was extremely efficient to get back to us with the new wedding date within 3 days of email exchange. He also provided reports which clearly indicates the list of auspicious dates and other important chinese customs to follow for Guo Da Li and An Zhuang. It was a different level of service which was highly commendable. Concurrently, we liaised with our wedding coordinator whether a change of date was allowable. We were worried as our contract with the hotel clearly states that no postponement or change of date was allowed and we would be liable for cancellation fee and a forfeit of our initial deposit if we eventually change the date.
Thank god to the buddhas above that we managed to have our wedding date change, at no extra fee incurred. Kudos to our wedding coordinator who handled this issue efficiently and the hotel's management for being so understanding with our situation to approve our wedding date to be changed.
Amidst all this roller coaster ride, It was a blessing in disguise as what I wanted and wished for came true. We will be tying the knot on our 10th year anniversary,
23 Sept 2017 (Sat)!!
(Say Yay!)
P/s: Really thankful to the boy for being involved in this issue, understanding my worries and helping to relate our situation to the wedding coordinator. I would have been a crazy mess otherwise haha.
P/s: Really thankful to the boy for being involved in this issue, understanding my worries and helping to relate our situation to the wedding coordinator. I would have been a crazy mess otherwise haha.
