A Question & An Update

First, the question..My friend C, who's son died just 10 days ago, after only 25 days of life, seems to not be grieving. I know, everyone grieves differently, but she seems to not be doing it at all. I know that he had congenital heart defects, and only had a 50/50 chance of survival after surgery, but still. This was her child, that she carried for 38 weeks, her son. Doesn't one grieve regardless of how hard of a start at life? Lulu was born not breathing, and was resuscitated in the OR, she stopped breathing once in my arms in the NICU, had the worst happened, devastation would not even begin to described how I would feel. How I would still be feeling. How I think any parent feels when loosing a child, no matter what the age. So the question is, do I ask her, how she is doing? Does it matter in the grand scheme of things if she is grieving? Is there a way to ask this question? Or do I just go about my business, continue telling her I'm glad it seems like she is doing so well, and that if she needs anything to just call me? I'm just at a loss. I don't know what to do.

A short & sweet update..In bullets, of course..

• Miss E will be 11 weeks old tomorrow..Uh, where has the time gone? This means she is almost 3 months old, time is not supposed to be flying like this. She is getting so big so fast, I just can't believe her EDD was just over a month ago, that technically she's only 6 weeks old. That I have to go back to work soon. Her time in the NICU is kind of a blur now. Those first 4 weeks, w/E still in the academy, getting the hang of breastfeeding, being up every 90mins-2hrs. I thought it would never get better. It has, in spades. I would do all of it again in a heartbeat..Well maybe skipping the NICU part, but if it meant being the mother to this amazing girl, then I'd do it.
• My appetite is still wacky...and I don't mind too much. But I seem to be waaay overeating when I do eat my one meal a day, and mostly, it's crap. But I have started cooking again because I don't want to gain my weight back. I'd like to stay this low to be at a healthy weight for the next pregnancy. I really don't want to have to go back on the met.formin, the side effects of that were awful. 
• The PPD seems to (finally) be abating. I still had my sad/anxious moments, but nothing like what it was. Pro.zac is fantastic. Oh, and did I mention I had bronchitis last week? Well I did, I still have a really bad lingering cough, in fact, I'm gonna call my PCP tomorrow to see what to do about it. But anyway, she started me on Topa.max for my migraines and it seems to be helpings. I was having one a day for a week. I'm supposed to up my dose next week. I take them at night, because one of the side effects is nausea, and I don't do barfing, as you well know. I've also started taking folic acid again and glucosamine chondrontine (for my bad knees). Can't hurt. I guess I'm also supposed to continue taking my prenatal vitamin? But since we aren't "actively" trying..and I'm obviously not ovulating, I don't think it's necessary. As soon as there is activity in my uterus again, I'll start them right up.
• Miss E seems to be hitting her milestones. She's holding her head up almost by herself, she absolutely hates tummy time (mostly because it makes her barf) so she usually does it laying on me, she loves to sit up supported by the Boppy her being held under her arms on my lap, she smiles all the time at her daddy, and she smirks at me, we haven't heard her laugh yet, she "talks" constantly, she is feisty, she moved up to 5oz of formula/cereal tonight, she is gaining weight and growing out of her clothes. I'll post pics soon.

Okay, thats all for now. She'll be up for her 12am feeding soon. Love you all!!