Our NT Scan did not go well as planned ... not happy with the doctor

Today is Sunday, 22 Oct 2017
15 weeks 0 days


NT Scan is actually done to detect whether baby has any chromosomal abnormality.
It is ONLY accurate if done in between week 11 and 14 gestational age, if done after week 14 it wont be of no use.

During my first pregnancy haritu, we did this test 3 times.

The first one was at RIPAS, tho it was a very brief check, sekajap saja di check nya. atupun she did that after we requested *pff* otherwise she would have not done it.

Inda puas hati, so the second test was done arah Dr Ding Yayasan, machine quality wise was superb ! So tarang. Clean and clear. His explanation pun patut di puji lah. Worth the money walaupun mahal sikit, but memang sangat2 berbaloi.... let me recall ah, if not mistaken he charged us in between $80-120

Third test, we did arah CY Lim Clinic di Gadong. tho machine nya inda berapa tarang, but we really like the way this one particular doctor membari explanation, very friendly lagi we were so comfortable being with her and she was never karit to give us the printouts banyak2. was charged around $50-75, sorry inda berapa ingat. oh ya, the doctor's name was Dr Emy, but unfortunately she is no longer there, kana replace by Dr Faridah. She's okay.

So.........

This current pregnancy, we did arah CY Lim clinic sebab kan save cost *😋*

We went there on Tuesday night, 10th October 2017, kalau ikut perkiraan I was about 13 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

Side note: by right kalau ikutkan the first day of my last mensus, I was supposed to be 14 weeks and 2 days pulang hari atu, but our two earlier scans measured a week behind, so we assume it to be 13 weeks and 2 days lah ah...

Went there, Dr Faridah was on leave for a month, so I had to choose this Chinese female doctor lah im not sure what was her name, lupa sudah 😅

The moment she saw us, Mayra time atu was on the weighing scale, so she just stood there and observed. She asked me, how old was Mayra , so I told her lah coming 1 yr 10 months. She asked my husband, what was her weight. Husband said 9 point something. She said "haaaa??? she's underweight !" while pointing to Mayra. Dalam hatiku, there goes again.... *sigh* ....Mayra is  a very picky eater, very fussy, memilih makanan, and she eats too slow...pokok pangkalnya, anak ku ani inda suka makan but she loves to play. Very active lil girl.

Kalau Dr Joel, a Paediatrician (dont mind the spelling pls?) from JPMC he would not and will never say something like that to small kids apatah lagi to the parents. He actually prefers small babies, asalkan active katanya. and he would not suggest any medications or supplements.

But this chinese doctor from CY Lim, sigh... sudah tah serious mukanya mcm kan makan orang 😝, then she asked me to give Mayra supplement mcm Appelin and apakah lagi satu atu I cant remember.

Sorry doctor, not that Im against those ubat2an, but I rather not have my kids mkn synthetic drugs unless kalau banar2 perlu. actually before pregnant dulu I rather opt for homeopathy punya ubat2an for my kids but nak buat mcm mana kan... Dr Zainal sudah passed away 😭

She said to give Mayra Appelin until she reaches 10kg, after that can stop lah. DUI ALANG2.... she was around 9.6kg-9.8kg at that time, then 10kg stop?? I actually had the urge to laugh at her face but of course, I slowly rejected her offer. I said to her, I came to visit her bukan pasal mayra, but it's about my baby in my belly, wanna do NT scan. sigh.... (oh by the way, today Mayra punya weight 10.1kg sudah)

Cut story short, pasal ngaleh sudah typing, baby was measured at 14 weeks 3 days !!! a week and a day ahead !!! woahhh....baby is growing up so fast....slalunya kalau scan ia slalu a week behind.

So the doctor refused to do NT scan pasal it's above the recommended gestational age, instead she only did routine and anatomy test saja, mcm measure kepala, badan, check to make sure all the organs are there, making sure baby is all well and normal.

But one thing yg we dont like about this doctor, she acts as if she knows everything and that she's always right, seolah2 patient ani should have no say. sorry, but no sorry...

We were so hampa when she said this...

"Actually NT Scan should only be done on week 11 and that's about it"

Then I said to her "But doctor, isnt NT scan can be carried out from week 11 to week 14"

she said "no no no, only around week 11 you should do NT scan. if now you want to do NT scan, only through blood test"

paning ku....

even DR DING ever said to me, NT Scan can be done as long as it does not pass the 14th week mark.

this indian doctor from RIPAS also said the same thing, from 11 weeks to 13 weeks 6 days only ujarnya.

we didn't know baby would be of that gestational age, because we were pretty confident baby time atu only around 13 weeks 2 days 😔

apa tah salahnya, check kan tah saja dulu......apa jua 3 days late (since baby measured 14 weeks 3 days) and since we were there and we were paying...but ia mcm inda mau buat...sedih ku eh....

never knew there's a blood test for NT tho....never heard about it...and it costs around $500ish...government clinic pun ada buat, she also said she can make a referral letter, kataku no need lah...menyamal ku sudah...

so now...we tawakkal saja lah, we can only pray that our baby is all well and he/she will lead a very healthy life nanti...

sorry ayat beterabur...it's already late, and I'm so sleepy.

will post another time...

Homeopathy Doctor

Remember I had announced a doctor of homeopathy whose pills worked like wonders?

http://bruneittc.blogspot.com/2014/07/homeopathy-brunei.html

Dr Zainal, passed away when I was 7 or 8 months pregnant...

Al-fatihah...

What we did differently this cycle that leads to our 5th Pregnancy

Today: 18 weeks 4 days

Before I forget, let me tell you a story pasal DR ZAINAL, HOMEOPATHY. Actually I know him since I was a little, my mum and aunty pernah bawa kami kesana pasal my aunty ada masalah dalaman. I was around 10 yrs old that time, so his clinic has been here so long sudah, well established. and dont be surprised, EVEN doctors dari RIPAS came and see him, pasalnya doktor pun tau ubat drugs clinic nda bagus untuk d makan for long term, pasalnya I ever saw this one doctor from LEE CLINIC went there and ask for his consultation. Mostly all the doctors d RIPAS pun kenal ia. EVEN almost all of my colleagues pun pernah jumpa ia.

The interesting part is......that, my sister in law, they got married in 2011 and she ever got pregnant ONLY ONCE (atupun ectopic pregnancy, need to be terminated, and now she's still trying). That one time ia pregnant was after she ate ubat from DR ZAINAL. Amazing kan.... so after we heard about it, we went there somewhere in 2013 and immediately we got pregnant also lapas mkn ubat atu, but I miscarried, possibility pasal my husband punya sperm chromosome inda bagus (how I knew pasal from his semen analysis result, his morphology was only 3%, maksudnya spermnya cuma 3% sja yg normal, selebihnya smua cacat). My husband did 4 times of semen analysis. The latest result showed his morphology increased dramatically from 3% to 85% which I guess made the baby in my tummy possible. What are his medicines? I will get to that later.

Pasal babu Masna dari sinaut ani, banar2 selulu mengasi to me. Because previously I went beurut with Babu Hjh Tiong di terunjing (she's quite famous tho) but she massaged skajap saja coz her other customers/patients are waiting in queue di luar. She always said my left ovary malar teturun. Ive been with her for 5-7 cycles before moving on to URUT TRADISIONAL di kiulap and di salon, oh my salon atu, jangan cakap lah, I guess my uterus got bruised lapas kana urut, sakit rasa peranakan terasa untill few months after.

Alhamdulillah, I came to know this person, who recommended Babu Masna. So I went and see her. She said my ovaries dua2 subur, but uterus a bit licak. Im not sure licak because of the bruises I experienced masa beurut di salon or because of the clomids I took (pasal I heard clomid can actually shed your uterus thin).

I started beurut arah babu masna bulan December 2014. and I started GAIA bulan January 2015.

December 2014 - peranakan licak and shifted ke kiri

January 2015 - pernakan licak and shifted ke kiri

February 2015 - we skipped, didnt do any massage

March 2015 - she said something amazing, "Eh, timbul sudah peranakan mu ani, bila2 masa saja boleh betian ni, menunggu hari saja lagi"

SEKALINYA banar.......4th April positive OPK, and 6th April 2015 I ovulated conceived, and first got my faint faint line on PT on 16th April 2015 (10 days past ovulation)

We made love on 3rd April and 7th April. I guess sperm from the 3rd of April made its way into the egg (kalau ikutkan gender my baby now hehe).

Ok, below are the things that we did differently that made us this far into our pregnancy:

WIFE:

1. Started on GAIA - since January 2015

2. Started folic acid - since few months before we got married

3. Met DR ZAINAL on the day my OPK was positive (4 April 2015) and I guess his ubat yg buat my baby lakat in the first few weeks, coz ubat tu dpt fix my hormonal problem.

4. Evening Primrose Oil (EPO) - consumed few days after my mensus started, my first day of my last mensus was on 28 February 2015, so I ate EPO early March 2015. Oh I forgot to tell you, on March I didnt get my mensus, pasal I ovulate akhir in April 2015, on DAY 38. Selalunya I ovulate on day 16-20.

5. Doa dari indung, coz I got positive OPK two days after mymum doakan depan kaabah masa ia pegi umrah. If ada rezeki lebih, boleh pegi umrah otherwise can ask somebody to pray for you di sana. Alhamdulillah doa my mum kana naikkan.

6. Started Zinc supplement from Guardian - 10 days before my positive OPK. I guess it helped me with the egg releasing. Consumed zinc until end of first trimester because zinc helps to increase progesterone level and helps in building the right DNA.

7. Beurut arah babu Masna in March 2015.

8. Did not exercise eventho I am obese. Ppl esp doctor always said, pls lose weight otherwise you wont be able to get pregnant, I am a living proof that you can get pregnant even if you are overweight, slightly obese or morbidly obese. In terms of makanan, I ate as usual.

HUBBY:

1. I made him eat Zinc supplement from Guardian also, to increase his sperm's quality and quantity.

2. Obvious change - he started JOGGING since January 2015 coz according to him, JOGGING can increase his sperm MOTILITY. (activeness) coz before his motility was just at the borderline, 60% so maybe his sperm time atu couldnt make it to the egg. So I guess after he started jogging, his sperm then became active and can swim faster. That's his logic. Ahaha... But Alhamdulillah, one factor that contributes to our current pregnancy

3. Every morning he will drink milo with honey. He stopped drinking his coffee and tea, coke and pepsi during our TTC period.

4. And I made him ejaculate every 2-3 days. Otherwise his sperm wont be as fresh. I dont want old sperm to enter my body. Old sperms means slow swimmers, or none, bad quality of chromosomes and will be of no use, coz even if I got pregnant from the old sperm, I will face another miscarriage.

Basically, we did not have sex for the sake of having a baby. Dulu yes, first year, second year, sex was a routine. I did not get pregnant in 2014. Sudah tah terpaksa make love, ended up mensus, we got even more pissed off. Marah2 and somehow it really gave a bad impact on our relationship/ But when we stopped stressing about having to have sex to have a baby (kesian my hubby, kdg2 kana paksa buat lol), sex was enjoyful. We did it in the morning, afternoon, night, subuh, anytime we liked with no strings attached. Dulu, we even had timetables on when to make love. LOL.... thinking back, it was a huge mistake.
 

Ppl always say "the moment you get pregnant easily is when you stop thinking about it" YUP....I have to agree with the statement. Moving on after our 2 years of marriage, I did not cry if I had my period. I didnt give a damn when ppl asked me about my fertility. I look on the positive sides of everything. I no longer get jealous to hear pregnancy announcements. All I think was "If it's meant to be, it will meant to be"

Rule number one. Do not get stressed out. It messes up with our hormones.

Wish you good luck. May Allah bless you with lots of beautiful children. Aamiin....

Additional Note:
I have a friend who ate EPO before she conceived. Her main reason was mainly to beautify her skin, alhamdulillah she got pregnant soon after that. So I wanted to give EPO a try !
I ate EPO, if I remember correctly, from cycle day 7 to 16 and I stopped. Because I heard that you should not be on EPO after ovulation. Right about the same cycle I started eating EPO, I got pregnant, and sticks till now, 20weeks+ ^_^ give it a try !

Indeed, I was ovulating

Today : 10 April 2015
Cycle Day : 42

Positive OPK : 04 April 2015
Suspected Ovulation : 06 April 2015

Baby dance on 03 and 07 April 2015 because now hubby is not feeling well.

DPO : 4

I started to feel mild sore on my right ovary. Most food that I ate got no taste, I dont know why.

Oh ya....just for an update, I went to see Dr Hj Zainal again, expert of Homeopathy on Tuesday, 07 April 2015. If you read my previous blog I said I had enough of him. Thinking back, my cycle went back to 28 days after I ate his medicines, and I had a chemical pregnancy soon after, and this also happened after I started doing Atkins diet.

Refer to the links:

http://bruneittc.blogspot.com/search/label/homeopathy

http://bruneittc.blogspot.com/2014_08_01_archive.html

So I started to consume homeopathy medicines too. and Gaia. and Zinc. and Folic Acid.

So lazy to type. Bye!

Homeopathy

In case you were wondering, I quit it.
I dont think he knows what he was talking about tho. Sorry.

Homeopathy Brunei

We met a homeopathy doctor last week for the first time. It's our another alternative to conceive.

I stopped taking in stupid supplements like Shaklee and the others, coz they made my thyroid problem even worser.

We came to know about this doctor from my sister in law. They hv waited around 3years to conceive. She went to see this doctor and got pregnant right away. But unfortunately it ended up as Ectopic..

So we went into his office, he asked my husband to cut a few strands of my hair, which later was placed on this machine, and with the help of a crystal hovered on my hair he was able to know my BP, sugar, cholesterol and thyroid level. Surprisingly they were pretty accurate.

My bp and sugar were always normal.
My cholesterol was on a borderline (6)
And my thyroid level was unexpectedly Good. Good to know.

Accordingg to him, both of us are normal. I can get pregnant anytime. Hm he made it sound so easy.

The homeopathy medicines were cheap too. Including consultation we were only charged for $30. Hoping for the best!

By the way, it has been long time I didnt catch a fever or cold. But today, I feel so different. My temperature was around 37.68degrees which was a bit higher than normal. What normal for me is around 36.5 degrees.

Crossing my fingers...

For you guys who would want to try another method of conceiving, you may kindly contact Dr Haji Zainal thru his phone line 875 4856. His clinic address:.No.6 First Floor, Spg 646, Hj Embran Building, Bunut