Belittling others

As'salamualaikum Dear Sweethearts~ :)

 How have you all been dear loves? I really2 hope that the life of 2012 has been smooth sailing for all you dear ones so far~ *Insha'ALLAH* :) Firstly, I would like to really2 appologize to all you wondeful sweeties out there for not updating this simple blog of mine for quite some time now~ As you all know, I am currently working while doing my ACCA *part time* and at the same time I am trying to arrange my wedding preperations :) *all at once*phewww* That is indeed a lot important matters to be juggled all together ;) hehe.

Alhamdulillah, Life has been great so far~ :) Despite the hecticness and the tiredness that I face, There's nothing for me to complain just thankful of~

If there's 1 matter that I have learnt throughout this 1 month period of working life, it is that respect needs to be earned not through the position 1 holds but from the way that 1 carries themselves. Attitude should be nurtured from small dear loves. Mainly from the upbringing of the family, it helps shape a person's outlook of life & how 1 treats another.

Mark Twain quotes

Keep away from those who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great ones make you believe that you too can become great

I love the way this "little" quote cuts right to the heart of the issue of criticism., especially the sort of criticism that is really about putting down, or belittling others. The wisdom in this quote is that when someone "belittles" another, the act is really more information about the criticizer than the criticizee. It says that the person who is belittling others is actually demonstrating a lack of (or a "little" amount of) many things.

First, there is a lack of self-confidence. People who feel confident in who they are have no need or desire to belittle others. In fact, feeling good about oneself, and choosing to spend time feeling bad about others is incongruent. People who feel good about themselves actually tend to see the best, and thus bring out the best in others.

Second, there is a lack of awareness. While nobody's perfect, the tendency to "belittle" another is really an indication of a lack of awareness about the other person's qualities and abilities. Most of us are good at some things, and not so good at others. The challenge in almost any relationship, whether personal or professional, is to find people with complementary skills and work with them to create successful families and organizations.

Finally, there is a lack of faith in the energy of love as a guide to how we perceive life. Given that finding fault in others is more about fear than love, a person who belittles is actually trusting fear as a guide to truth and wisdom. Generally, this decision to distrust love is neither truthful nor wise.

(Source)

Hence, do not ever belittle others dear ones as it is an act of disrespect. Here's some quotes that I'd love to share with all you sweethearts :)

Samuel Johnson

Great works are performed, not by strength, but by perseverance.

Mark Twain quotes

The best way to cheer yourself is to cheer somebody else up.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Insist on yourself; never imitate. Your own gift you can present every moment with the cumulative force of a whole life's cultivation; but of the adopted talent of another you have only an extemporaneous half possession... Do that which is assigned to you, and you cannot hope too much or dare too much.

Carl Schurz

Ideals are like stars; you will not succeed in touching them with your hands, but like the seafaring man on the desert of waters, you choose them as your guides, and following them, you reach your destiny.

Martin Luther King Jr.

"If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven played music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well."

Charles Swindoll

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than success, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, gift, or skill. It will make or break a company...a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10 percent what happens to me and 90 percent how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our attitudes.

♥ AsSalatu khairum-minan-naum ♥

✔ Ruginya orang handsome tak solat, Nabi Yusof yang handsome pun solat (:

✔ Ruginya orang cantik tak solat, Saidatina Aisyah yang cantik pun solat (:

✔ Ruginya orang kaya tak solat, Nabi Sulaiman yang kaya pun solat (:

✔ Ruginya orang miskin tak solat, Nabi Muhammad yang miskin pun solat (:

✔ Ruginya budak-budak tak solat, Hasan dan Husin budak pun solat (:

Solat itu tiang agama.. 

Solatlah kamu sebelum kamu disolatkan.. 

Semoga Allah memberkati hidup kita :)

ps: credits to my dear friend 

Fathiyah Firdaus :)

♥ Who says..? ;) ♥

As'salammualaikum Dear Ones~ :)

Who ever says that when a lady wears hijab & covers their aurah can't be fashionable nor pretty, then I guess they have not yet seen these beautiful ladies below~ :) Here are some of the beautiful ladies that I know of who looks truly beautiful even covered~ SubhanaALLAH~ :)

*ALIA ABD HALIM

*SHIERA FIRHAT & FARHAH FIRHAT

*BELLA

*KAK HANI from AL-HUMAIRA CONTEMPORARY 

*KAK SCHA from ANGGUN ZARA

*AMEERA ZAINI

*ADRIANI

* SHEA

* IKA from SUGAR SCARF

* HELIZA Helmi

*Aimie habban (the Knot)

There are soo many reasons why ALLAH swt had asked us muslimah to cover our aurah~ here are a few importance of Hijab in light of Quranic verses:

The word Hijab is taken from the Arabic word “Hajaba” which means to hide or to conceal. In the present society, wearing Hijab refers to the covering of Muslim women or the Muslim women dress. Today we see many non-Muslim and Muslim women asking about “Why do Muslim Women wear Hijab?” the answer to this is that Muslim women are ordered by Allah to cover their head and wear Hijab. Covering the beauty for a woman is for her honor and protection rather than suppression. Importance of Hijab and virtues of Hijab can be judged by Quranic verses. Hijab or the covering of Muslim Women is mentioned in Quran clearly. 

Verses of Holy Quran on Hijab:

Here are a few verses on what Allah says in the Quran about Hijab

1. Hijab is for Modest and respectable women:

“O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [al-Ahzab: 59]

This verse clearly indicates that Allah has made Hijab an expression of chastity and modesty. The virtue of wearing Hijab explained in this verse is that Muslim woman will be identified as respectable woman when she wears Hijab. 

2. Hijab is purity:

“And when you ask (the Prophet’s wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen: that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts.” [al-Ahzab: 53]

    The heart may become more pure with the Hijab as the sight is blocked and there will be prevention of evil actions. Another verse from the Quran sheds light on the importance of Hijab:

“And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance, and perform As-Salat (Prayers), and give Zakat and obey Allah and His Messenger. Allah wishes only to remove Ar-Rijs (evil deeds and sins) from you, O members of the family (of the Prophet P.B.U.H), and to purify you with a thorough purification” [al-Ahzab: 33]

3. Hijab is honorable:

A Muslim women’s voice is also a part of her Hijab. She should speak in a honorable manner to become an honorable woman as indicated by this verse:

“Be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honorable manner” [al-Ahzab: 32]

4. Hijab is righteousness:

“O Children of Adam! We have bestowed raiment upon you to cover yourselves (screen your private parts) and as an adornment; and the raiment of righteousness, that is better” [Al-Araf: 26]

This verse of the Quran indicates that Hijab for a Muslim woman is to safeguard her body as a manifestation of the order of Allah; rather than showing off her body. It is an act of righteousness (Taqwah) for her. 

5. Hijab is for successful women and believing women:

“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and protect their private parts and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent and to draw their veils all over (i.e. their bodies) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigor, or small children who have no sense of feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful” [An-Nur: 31]

Hijab is not meant for restriction rather it is a mean in which Muslim society may function in an appropriate manner. Islamic regulations are unique to the highest standards of the Muslim identity of chastity, righteousness, and moral uprightness. Islam protects and safeguards the individuals and the society from awkward situations. The Messenger of Allah (P.B.U.H) said:

“Verily for every religion there is a characteristic, and the characteristic of Islam is Haya`a(modesty, shyness, bashfulness)” [Ibn Majah]

Source: Virtues of Hijab or Veil 

 Here's a very VERY interesting video regarding the 

guidelines for us muslim ladies on how to dress~ :) 

Hence dear ones, Do not be afraid to make any changes towards our appearance especially when it is for the goodness :) Let us all try our very best to become a better muslims & muslimah each & everyday~ *InsyaALLAH*

Till then, take care~ & Assalammualaikum~ ;) 

~ Criticizing ~

As'salammualaikum Dear Ones~ :)

Have you ever come across a situation where you've been criticized until it hurts so deeply, you just don't know how to react..? As human beings, I am sure we can't escape from such situation as we all know that it is impossible for us all to satisfy everyone in our life~ :) 

Qyla, Me, Shiera, Aainaa & Farah :) They're all such a sweetheart to me~ love you gals soo much~ 

We should not be mad dear ones when people criticize us~ Yes, of course we will in some way feel disappointed & hurt but, we should be thankful that there are these people whom would help remind us that we are after all imperfect human beings & through these criticizes, INsyaALLAH we shall be able to grow & improve ourselves to become a better person :)

Thank You kak Hani for ALL the wonderful opportunities that kak hani have given to aimie & thank you to Meera for the beautiful friendship that meera sudi share with kak aimie~ Love u both soo dearly~ <3

Life is not so much about what happens to us but rather how we choose to react upon what Allah swt has decided to give to us all dear ones :)

Before we starts to criticize others, we need to keep in mind that we're not perfect either dear ones. At times, we might not actually realize that we are what we're criticizing others of. Hence, it is best if we can just reflect ourselves first before we start criticizing others of some matters~ Always remember that criticizing can sometimes be good 'if' the method that we use to criticize others is in a good manner & especially not made through a cynical mean~  I am grateful that my dearest Sara Mustafa recently reminded us all of such matter~ :) ALHAMDULILLAH~

Thank you again to my dearest  Sara Mustafa 

for sharing this video with us all~ :) 

Moreover, Sometimes it's easier for people to say things especially when they're not going through it or have gone through it a long time ago because experience that 1goes through differs from one another~ In my opinion we should always try to judge our actions first before we acuse others of lying & etc~ Always remember that when we accuse others of a matter, 1 finger might be pointing to them but however the rest of our fingers are actually pointing to ourselves~ :) hence, beware of what we are accusing others of~ :)

Personally, I have always believed that Mother's Advices are ALWAYS the best~ Alhamdulillah~ Mama would always remind me to not express or state my problems or dissatisfactions inside fb or  through any other social networks because we shall never know whom might be reading what we have written. If I were To be honest myself, I have actually done such mistake so often before & due to that, I have actually lost some of my friends' respect towards me. What is even worst is that there are even some of my dearest friends would actually mistakenly thought that my status was referring to them when the fact is it has nothing to do with them nor anyone else inside my fb~

but Alhamdulillah I am grateful that after being adviced & reminded by my lovely mama so often, I try my best to avoid from taking such action these days~ :) To top it up, the possibility that misunderstandings might occur is always high especially because when we express through writing, our actual intonation is unclear to our dear readers~ :)

Hence, that is why we should always be careful with what we update on facebook, twitter & etc. Beside, we should always use these social networks as a means to motivate our dear ones in a way that it can help to change ourselves & the people whom we love in the positive direction~ :)

With my dear lady Nur Soffinas aka heliza helmi look alike~ ;)

Why fret upon those whom don't really care much about our feelings when there are SO MANY OTHERS WHO LOVE US SOO DEEPLY & SINCERELY WITH ALL THEIR HEART~ People such as our Families, Spouse & Close Friends~ :) Always remember that no matter what happens, at the end of the day ALLAH swt will *InsyaALLAH* show a person's true color~ Always try to stay humble because it can lead us into people's heart. Never should we place arrogant into ourselves for it shall tarnish our relationship with people & especially with ALLAH swt~~ :)

Here's something deep that was shared by my dear

sister Maryam Anisah :) 

the Loving & Cool Aainaa~ :) kak aimie saaayaannngg sgt2 aainaa~

                                                                                   

Why spread negativity when being positive 

can help us build a happier life~ :) <3

Jgnlh saling mendengki, saling MENIPU, saling membenci, saling mbelakangi dan jgnlh sbhgn kamu mbeli brg yg tlh dibeli oleh org lain. Jdlah kamu hamba Allah yg bersaudara. Seorang Muslim adlh saudara bg Muslim yg lain. Dia tdk ptt MENZALIMI, MEMBOHONGI, dan MERENDAHKANNYA. 

Takwa itu di sini (Rasulullah menunjukkn dadanya tiga kali). Cukuplah ssorang itu dikatakn buruk jika sanggup menghina saudaany sesama Muslim:. Riwayat Ahmad no 7713 & Muslim no 2563. (credits to Nadiah Hillmee)

♥ Jaga kita aib sesama kita :) ♥

picture credits to kak ili Syazwani's Fiancee: abg Azmi Zulkafli

Jgnlah kita menyebut2 kesalahan org.. 

mengatakan DULU org itu begitu begini..
Kerana KINI mungkin dia lebih baik.. 

Jagalah kita aib sesama kita.. 

Apakah kalian tidak pernah dgr sabda Rasulullah:
"Janganlah engkau sekalian mengumpat orang2 Islam & 

jgn membuka aib mereka, (kerana) sesungguhnya orang 

yg membuka aib saudaranya yg muslim, maka Allah akan 

membuka aibnya. Dan siapa yg aibnya dibuka Allah, maka 

DIA akan membukanya sekalipun di dalam rumahnya.”

(HR. Muslim, Abu Daud dan at-Tirmidzi)

Thank you to my dearest Arxar Nadhirah for sharing this with us all~ :)

Ps: To all of you dear ones who are interested to buy VCO,
May get 1 today from our beautiful model Arxar Nadhirah~ ;)

♥ Manners & Respect ♥

♥ Personally I have always believed that there's a huge difference
between a person who's truly honest or just plain blunt ♥

To me dear ones, an honest person would tell us only the necessary 
honest truth in a nice manner just so that it won't hurt us :) 

However, A blunt person would normally speak insensitively without 

compassion with the intention of hurting the other person's feelings. 

Hence When giving out any advices or remarks, we should NEVER ever 
use a cynical method or tone because by doing so, We'll only end up
losing that person's respect towards us dear ones~ :)

Without any respect, the advice carries no value at all :)

Therefore, If we want others to respect us, we must first learn how to
control our intonation & choose our words wisely before we speak ♥

These 2 things play a huge role in differentiating a person with 

manner or simply 1 who deserves no respect :)

p/s: This is especially a reminder for myself & also for 
all of you dear ones who believe in positivity~ :)

*Lots Of LoVe*
AimieRifdi :)

♥ Make Ups ♥

I admit that I can be a lil bit fussy when it comes to make up~ :)

Maybe it is due to my sensitive skin & because I believe 

that the purpose of make up is not to conceal our flaws but 

to highlight our strengths & gifts from ALLAH swt~ <3
*ALHAMDULILLAH*

Besides, everyone have that lil something that they'd 

be more particular about when it comes to things that 

matters most to them~ Don't we all..? :)

Less is Always MORE dear ones~ :) 

*huGs* 

Dear Internet, Why are U So Mean? :)

The Next time when we wanna start treating people

badly through the internet, just because we feel like

it's just another mechanism, think AGAIN~ There's 

actually a person behind every computer who has

feelings, just like US~ :)

So, Always remember to treat others as how 

we want to be treated dear ones~ :) *huGs*

** Thank you to me dear sweet Ammal Farit 

for sharing this video with us all :) **

‎..Guys..

‎

..Guys..

If you're lucky enough to have a girl who loves you, 

dont let her slip away. 

Make sure that she knows just how much you want her, 

every single minute of the day.

Don't ever take her for granted, 

be sure to tell her how much you care. 

Whenever she needs you just stay right by her side. 

She'll feel much better if you are there, 

don't ever let her feel sad. 

Hope she forgives you each time you make her cry~ :)

~It's not about our scars, It's all about our heart~

Personally, I have ALWAYS believed that love is something that can't be Forced what more Bought~ 

To me love is actually a form of gift presented to us all from ALLAH as it is one way of knowing 

that we're appreciated by another person~ :) Thus, it should happen naturally because love 

needs no price just honor, loyalty, respect & most importantly Sincerity :)  :)

Love can be very beautiful indeed~ However, we've gotto always 

remember to love because of Allah swt as HE is Our creator~

I can't deny that most of the time, the reason being what attracts

us to another person may start of by their pleasant looks BUT

always bare in mind that looks shall not last forever. It'll fade 

away as we age~ however, the ONLY thing that will stay &

 last in a person is their characteristics & personalities~ Hence, 

find a person who knows how to treat us well &who may be

able to guide us in becoming a better person.

Do not feel sad if the love that we have for another was not accepted by that person

because InsyaALLAH, if we always have faith in him, trust HIM that HE is actually

preserving someone way BETTER for us all~ There's this saying that ALLAH is actually 

keeping the right one from us so that they can improve themselves before we actually 

find them~ :)

And if on the other hand, you are not able to accept the love of another, then always

try to tell them nicely that the feelings just can't be forced. Please dear ones, NEVER

EVER use harsh words or even be rude to another because NO ONE deserves to be

treated badly. Always keep in mind that we will definitely get back the treatment that

we've given to others. So, If we treat people with full respect then INSYAALLAH dear 

ones, we will be respected as well~ :) 

Thank you dear ones for your precious time to read this entry of mine :) 

I truly appreciate it so very much~ till we meet again  take care~ *huGs*

Here's a very special song that a friend of mine Ayesha Aqilah posted on her fb wall~

I'd really2 love to dedicate this song to me dearest fiancee, dinie rifdi~

I dont mind your odd behavior
Its the very thing I love
If you were an ice cream flavor
You would be my favorite one

Oh,I´ve loved you from the start
In every single way
And more each passing day
You are brighter than the stars
Believe me when I say
Its not about your scars
Its all about your heart

~Please Don't~

Have You ever had that 1 pimple that 

comes up out of no where, So HUGE & Red.

No matter how hard we try to be optimism
& not think about it but it's difficult :)

Especially when:

1st Scenario:

There are some people who comes up to us & ask us,

"EH, how come there's a pimple there..??"
"When Will it go away..?"

So, what kind of answers does that person expect to hear from us..? 

Because honestly, even though there are thousands of REASONS
why pimple can grow, BUT no one will EVER be able to answer for
certain, WHY it's there & when exactly it will heal.

The cause of pimples is unknown. 

The process by which a pimple develops is highly intricate. 

While we do know that a pore collapses on itself and blocks 
sebum (oil) from escaping, we do not fully understand why this 
process takes place in one sebaceous gland versus another.

Causes of adult acne and teen acne may include:

1. Hormones

The process by which a pimple develops is exceedingly complex. What we know is that a pore collapses on itself and blocks the sebaceous gland. People with acne are particularly receptive to a hormone called Testosterone; this hormone is found in both men and women. (source)

2. Our Diet

3. Evolutionary Biology 

4. Vitamins Deficiency

Shortage of substance (as vitamins) necessary to health.

5. STRESS

& many others

The real explanation may be a complex mix of many of these factors.

(source)

2nd Scenario:


People keep telling us & pointing out that
we have that 1 pimple on our face.
Sometimes it just makes us feel like telling them
"YES, dear.. We are very Much AWARE of the
EXISTENCE of that pimple on our face".

Frankly speaking, from my observation it is normal for

us humans to at times get pimples. After all, we're not 

perfect. How ever, there are some who are truly lucky, 

that has never gotten any pimples at all in their entire life~

Acne is more common in the age group of 13 - 30 years 

but it may occur or persist even beyond this age limit. 

Males are more frequently affected than females due to 

androgen activity. Females may get a pre-menstrual flare 

due to the increase in level of a hormone called Progesterone.

(Source)

Personally, I have ALWAYS felt that such actions
mentioned above are just truly insensitive & pure rude.

Because honestly, pimples does give side effects to our
confidence & self-esteem level (at least to most of us).
It is bad enough that, we feel uncomfortable with our
own skin, hence we really would appreciate
if it is not mentioned.


According to the AcneCenter, The most widespread and 
tragic thing about acne is the psychological problems that 
are caused by acne. Acne almost always causes a decrease 
in the self-esteem, confidence, and body image of individuals.


What are the 'Do's and Dont's 
in treatment of acne ?


1. Wash your face with an anti-bacterial soap at least 3-4 times a day.

2. Increase the intake of citrus fruits such as oranges, grapes, 

lime and lemon and other food stuff which are high in vitamin C and zinc.

3. Drink plenty of water.

4. Do not pick or squeeze the pimples as this causes

 infection, pigmentation and scarring.

5. Avoid the use of oily cosmetics, cleansing milk and gels.
6. Do not apply excessive hair oil if you have acne over the forehead.
7. Avoid stress factors.
8. Be patient and give medicines some time to act. 

You may have to take antibiotics for 8 - 10 weeks.

(Source)

No matter what people say, Always

REMEMBER that pimple(s) is NEVER

the measurement of WHO we are.

There is ALWAYS hope for the pimple(s)

to go away~ Because Personally, my skin 

condition was never like how it is right now~ :)

BUT, ALHAMDULILLAH due to all the 

efforts & patience, It has now recovered.

I can't deny that I do get pimples at times BUT

then, that always just reminds us of HOW YOUNG

WE STILL ARE, so.. instead of feeling sad about it,

we should actually feel thankful because it just 

proves that we're always a teenager at heart~ :) 

SO.. Who ever said that We're not beautiful just 

because we don't have smooth flawless skin..

I'd Highly recommend them to go check their eyes~ 

*wink2* 

My dear readers, Always REMEMBER that ALLAH swt

has created EACH & EVERYONE of us to be beautiful 

& UNIQUE in our very own ways~ :)

Thus, NEVER EVER allow ANYONE or any pimples

to pull our confidence, self-esteem level & spirit down.

Because YOU ARE SPECIAL my dear ones

JUST THE WAY YOU ARE  :)

Here's a song dedicated to each one of you~

Hope you'll enjoy it~ :)