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“What the hell is it that you’re even doing, exactly?” Fair question. A coach is another type of provider who supports one's mental and physical health. A coach is to a therapist, like a massage therapist is to a physical therapist… does that help? I have personally developed a 12 step program to equip folks with the practices necessary to create and maintain healthy holistic change in their lives. (Check out my website for full info on the 12 steps and more.) I work with folks on the things that they have identified in their lives as needing change. Especially if they’re feeling stuck and in need of some guidance and accountability to keep taking the steps needed to create sustained and sustainable changes. Most of my clients are career coaching clients, naturally, but I am open to working with folks on any of their stuck points. I use my skill set of being incredibly intuitive and mindful AND my skill set of being highly organized and driven. This is what makes me different from many coaches. I think it’s most beneficial to approach problems from both a mindful and tactical standpoint. I pull from my extensive corporate experience and successes as well as my years of Sociology and Psychology work and education that has drastically improved my own life. I utilize practices I’ve gathered from RO-DBT, Somatic Therapy, Somatic Expression, IFS, the Enneagram, and Insight Meditation when walking my clients through the 12 steps. You can offer me support in any and all of the below ways: *Follow me on TikTok and Instagram and like/share my content. I am pushing myself to get more comfortable sharing content that feels both helpful and light-hearted. Your support through likes and shares would mean the world to me from an emotional support standpoint and as a means to help me get my name out there. Hit that follow, heart, and thumbs up, please! Instagram & TIkTok: BodyInformedCoaching *Keep me in mind for friends who you think might benefit from coaching (ahem, everyone), and share my info. I see clients virtually, so it doesn’t matter where they live! *Hire me! I’m really good at this. I love seeing the incredibly empowering changes that can come from this work and want to share it with my loved ones. *Keep me in mind for any needs that the corporation you work for might have. I put on group workshops in addition to offering 1:1 coaching for corporations. I pull from my decade as a corporate and executive recruiter to tailor my programs to the high-pressure environment that is Western Corporate Culture. My specialties are DEI, Candidate Experience, and Hiring Process Improvement. *Just respond. Cheer me on! I’d love to hear from you even if it’s just to say “I see you! Keep it up!” Starting my own business has been the scariest and most rewarding thing I’ve ever done, and the encouragement of my support system is the gas in the tank, for sure.

As a professional coach now for 17 years I agree with these wonderful tips. @Rebecca Fensome published this article in 2007, the information and tips remain the same 17 years later. Personal development, curiosity, self-awareness, self-care plus the motivation to keep moving forward in your private life as well as in your working life are vital to a satisfying and successful life. I can confirm this as a 68 year old as well as a professional coach.

Coaching tips for everyday life 9/17: “I” come first I have heard this phrase on a business brainstorming today and I could have said it in my meeting-up with new ladies last night. In the first instance, a team of entrepreneurs reminded the attendees of their masterclass that “I” should always come first.  Before your children, partner, parents, friends, business, you name it. Because “I” should always be the center of your world.  I often repeat it to my children, telling them that they’d better love themselves because they are the only ones they are sure to live their entire life with. In a business environment, it can mean not accepting a meeting before 8am of you are not a morning person. Not answering this email or call when you are looking at your daughter’s soccer practice. We all have responsibilities and need to put food on the table so maybe you would have slept another hour but you couldn’t. I get that. But if at the end of the day, accepting those small things on a regular basis will not make you the employee of the month. It will only show your lack of boundaries and may lead you straight to a burn-out.  In the second instance, I met ladies yesterday around a mocktail to get to know people in my new town.  Most of them were mothers and I have heard some things like “I have spent the last 11 years taking care of my family and my business and I have decided that I wanted to have a life for my own now”.  This is not unusual to hear those things. List how many times today you have put someone before yourself.  Once again, if you have a family, you have responsibilities but that should not prevent you from living your own life also. Remember that you cannot fil anything from an empty cup. If you forget yourself, you will lightly dissolve and be to no service for anyone.  So put yourself first. Here are simple first steps to take to put yourself first: 1.     Make a list of things you love to do. It can be really simple things like taking a bath (not environmentally friendly, especially those days, I know), dancing in your living-room or eating chocolate. Hence, better if there are more really simple things, your wallet may appreciate…! 2.     List those things and assess the time you need to do them and their feasibility in your life today.  3.     Put at least three in your calendar each day of the week. I mean it. Literally mark and block your calendar with “chocolate chip cookies time”, “yoga practice”, “petting my dog” … 4.     Tell the people you live with about that.  They must know that you will not be available between 4 and 4.30 because you are calling your best friend. And they have to respect it  and should not interrupt (unless there is blood, or the house is on fire). 5.     At the end of the day, fill a gratitude journal and thank yourself for the time your have taken for yourself. So, what was your kiff* today? *kiff: nice, cool thing to do (at least that is how we use this word in France!) #coaching #parenting

$^%&£* A NOISY MIND HAS NO CONFIDENCE £($*%& One thing that I teach my clients to do is to calm and quiet their mind. In fact, very often in coaching sessions, a lot time is spent in silence. This is because a noisy mind has nothing to offer. Nothing. The noise represents stress, anxiety, indecision, doubt, blame, resentment, judgement, inadequacy, pompousness, vanity, uncertainty, insecurity, lack. Thoughts coming from noise create results that reflect noise. It is the lowest possible level that our mind can function at. And yet, many brilliant people spend much (if not most) of their time operating at this level of mind. I did! I spent YEARS operating at this level, believing it was all there was! And here's the thing: I still achieved what most people would consider success. I built and ran a business for 10 years, bought a house, supported my family, worked with cool clients. My clients are the same. They're already successful. AND they know that there's so much more to them. AND they know what they've achieved isn't even a FRACTION of what they can achieve. Like me, they LOVE growth. They want to be living into their potential. They desire constant momentum, it fuels them. And so accessing the greater levels of their mind is a skill that I develop with them. These evolved levels of mind are able to manifest and consciously create anything, are in a constant receivership of inspiration, ideas and innovation, and it is the mind that already knows that everything is desires is already done (I love to call this 'pathological certainty' - a phrase I picked up from Steve Hardison, The Ultimate Coach). This last level of mind develops a certainty of being which enables them to transcend the thrashing of all external circumstance and become completely responsible for who they are being and what they are creating on a moment by moment basis. If you want this level of being, I have more options for you than 1:1 coaching. On March 20th I'll be starting the second round of my Quantum Calls, hour long calls which happen every day Monday - Friday for 19 days. They will set you up for discovering and staying in an elevated state of being like no other... In my pilot month in January, my client results ranged from one who went from 0 to 6 clients in one week, another who moved to her dream home in another country, and another who secured a $25k a month contract. I also have a 6 month group coaching container starting in April (and the Quantum Leap Calls are included as a bonus). More info coming soon. The investment is from £1,500 - £5,000 for the latter two (my 1:1 coaching is from £15 - £27k). The spaces will fill, so if you want to know more, drop me a message. Stay creative. Stay inspired. Create amazing results. Elisa #quantumleap #solopreneur #ceomindset #ceoinsights #ceoinspiration #womeninbusiness #womenentrepreneurs #femalefounder #spiritualbusiness #holisticsuccess #mindset #mindsetshift #mindsetmastery

What would it be like for you to have a pattern for creating trust? This question is an interesting one if you have a pattern for anxiety. Once you have the answer, you can begin to see where you want to get to, rather than what you want to leave behind. At DBL, our coaching is aimed at you leaving the problem state (anxiety) and reaching your desired state instead (trust). Trust and anxiety have a commonality in that they are both part of an internal strategy to manage the unknown- ‘I trust everything will work out fine’ or ‘I fear how things might work out.’ Anxiety often starts with doubting yourself and the world around you. Do you think in terms of ‘what if’? Do you question yourself and then question how people will respond to you? We all have some level of doubts that can be helpful, but if your pattern is to create doubts that are unfounded and hold you back, then you may need to have a new strategy. One way to bring this to life is to think about how trust could be readily available to you. If it was, for example, filed in an internal cabinet then you could start by picturing the drawers and imagine opening each one. Coaching is a way to help you fill these drawers ready for you to use. Imagine opening drawer one and finding ‘belief’ inside. This drawer holds the kind of belief that supports you and helps you manage your inner state, moving you forward towards goals that you know are right for you, and tells you that all experiences have something to teach you. Then you move onto drawer two, ‘self-assurance’, which is not about knowing all the answers, it’s about knowing your self-worth and feeling comfortable being open and curious. Drawer three is ‘engaging’, which allows you to connect with your capabilities, who you are and your purpose, so that you no longer spend time ruminating on future events and can stay fully associated in the present. Drawer four is ‘enabling’, this is when you become aware of the mind and body connection. When we tell the body that we are at peace, it listens to us. Drawer five opens and you find ‘do it’. You now have all our drawers open and using their contents you can choose to act. At DBL Coaching our mission is to guide you to move forward. Our creative and thought-provoking tools will give you new ways to have awareness and management of anxiety. Want to know how to move towards your own outcome then please dm me.

A Coaching Christmas Countdown…6 sleeps to go A growing body of evidence supports the positive effects of coaching on well-being as measured by an increase in positive emotions, engagement, relationships, meaning and achievement. Who wouldn’t want that? One important thing (OK, its not so important but it helps....) BUY YOURSELF A LOVELY JOURNAL or NOTEBOOK and get scribbling.. So, as we continue our countdown to the big day I am sharing more "positive psychology interventions” AKA tools and activities that deliver that desired increase in positive thoughts and feelings. Here is today’s, its called “The imagined self”… ✅ Imagine yourself in the future, living the life you have dreamt of – with all the people you want to share it with. ✅ Imagine that you achieved everything that you are struggling for now, and you are proud of your achievements. ✅ Immerse yourself into that imagined self of yours and try to impersonate the happiness and positivity that you think you might feel then. ✅ Next, ask yourself what tiny first step you can make to get to that stage in life, note down everything you could do. Repeat this exercise daily for a week until you have looked at the options from all angles (think micro, tiny, bigger, huge…). ✅ Look back and choose one thing to do today then do it. It can be the tiniest, infinitesimally small thing that moves you forward. ✅ Make sure you congratulate yourself for taking that step, however small. ✅ Now take the next. Hit a block? Forgive yourself, What happened? What did you learn? Get going again…. And if you want more of that…. On January 2nd I am kicking off my first ever 3-month group women’s group coaching programme focused on delivering ‘My Best Chapter Yet’. The programme will support you to: 💥 Visualise and define exactly where you want to be this time next year (and beyond). 💥 Plan how you will get from here to there identifying what resources you will need for success. 💥 Explore, reconnect, celebrate and utilise your unique strengths and skills to propel you forward. 💥 Build confidence to dream big and ride through the bumps to land firmly where you wish to be. All with a small group of women who will support each other to delve deeply, share courageously and move forwards bravely with humour and warmth. The course will run 7:30-9pm via Zoom fortnightly on a Tuesday evening. As my first programme of this kind, I am setting a low price of £315 for 3 months of coaching! Contact me now for a no-charge, no-obligation conversation. I look forward to meeting you. ❤️ Your coach, Victoria www.beyond-the-noise.com victoria.j.higgins@gmail.com

Coaching sessions are highly structured to help clients achieve their goals. The beginning is important because it helps us hone in on what you want to get out of the session. Here’s how I do it. When we meet, we start by seeing where you are. That means checking in to see what has been going on in your life since the last time we talked and exploring what you might have been learning from any commitments ("experiments," in yesterday's post) you made at the end of the previous session. This debrief is important for any number of reasons. It helps us settle into the conversation. It helps me see where you are so I can come to you. It might also be an opportunity to coach gently around any loose threads that might be dangling. And it sets up the first big question for our time together: “What do you want for yourself out of our conversation today?” Sometimes clients can answer this question right out of the gate. Other times, they might have two or three questions vying for attention. And other times, they might not know what they want, maybe because they’re tired or overwhelmed. Or maybe they don’t know how to answer that question because no one has ever asked them what they wanted. Ever. All of those answers are OK. We spend some time refining or defining the goal to help us both understand it better. (Sometimes, depending on where you are on that day, setting the goal might be the goal of the session.) But whatever that goal is, two things remain important: —It’s always going to be your goal, not mine. —That goal might change and shift as we get to know it better. Once we get something more concrete, we move to the second big question: “How would achieving that goal change your life?” This question helps you think about the results you truly want and how you’ll know when you reach them. From there, we'll know where you want to start and where you want to go. We’ll follow that line throughout our hour together. At the end of this part of the session, I want you to feel like you’ve been seen and heard. I want you to feel safe and focused. And I want to help you begin to connect with yourself in ways that might surprise you. The first one or two times, this starting ritual might seem difficult. But helps you practice the fundamental questions we need to be asking ourselves every day: What do you want? Why do I want it? How will I know when I get it? In the first 15 minutes, we’ve already started to change your life and leadership. Want to learn more? Connect with me or book your free Discovery Session here: https://lnkd.in/eWmTSrrG Subscribe to my newsletter here: https://lnkd.in/eHC69NGz #coaching #leadership #coachingagreement #growth

Late night scribbles. 1. People Pleaser Coaches struggle to coach people. 2. Because they will always be worried they are not pleasing them. They will be worried their clients are mad at them. 3. Even if the People Pleaser Coach gets good feedback that they are a good coach, they will be afraid of losing the status of good coach. So much pressure. 4. Even if the client gets amazing results, the people pleaser coach, is afraid their clients aren’t pleased. 5. The People Pleaser Coach is never fully satisfied. 6. If they actually please a client —The people pleaser Coach is only temporarily pleased with themselves. 7. The People Pleaser Coach will always be wondering if they should say something or not. They will be paranoid it’s not good enough. 8. The People Pleaser Coach will hesitate and hold back. They will not tell their truth. 9. The People Pleaser Coach will be afraid of silence. And be concerned that their client is not okay with the silence. 10. The People Pleaser Coach will overthink everything. Over complicate everything. All in the name of pleasing the client. 11. The People Pleaser Coach will get less sleep. Staying up late racking their brain how to please their clients. 12. The People Pleaser Coach will over-prep, over-step, and underperform. 13. The People Pleaser Coach will spend a lot of their family time, or free time to give to their clients. Way out of balance. 14. The People Pleaser Coach will feel pressure to perform. And be extra nervous. They will be nervous way before a coaching call. 15. The People Pleaser Coach will need to seek advice and strategy more often in order to please people better. Which can leave them not knowing what advice to go with. 16. The People Pleaser Coach will interpret everything their client says as not being pleased. They will think every gesture, facial expression, and microtones means they are not pleased. 17. The People Pleaser Coach will be afraid of bothering people. They will invite them to coaching less often. They will charge them less money or not bill them at all. 18. The People Pleaser Coach is more likely to quit coaching. And bow out. Only to people please people in another profession. 19. The People Pleaser Coach will complain about circumstances and situations that get in the way of pleasing people. 20. The People Pleaser Coach will not have good boundaries. They might abandon coaching to be their friend. 21. The People Pleaser Coach will beat themselves up to motivate themselves to please people better.

Coaching Enlightened Individuals and Experiencing Mutual Awakenings My Daily Reflections: Personal musings shared for those who find a connection with them. September 24, 2023 Coaching an individual with profound spiritual depth brings about a unique set of dynamics that can be profoundly transformative for the coach. Engaging with someone whose insights and perspectives consistently challenge, enlighten, and inspire can feel like a mutual journey of growth. In life, we all are both teachers and students at any encounter. When the client possesses such depth and insight, their presence can act as a mirror, reflecting the coach's strengths, beliefs, and growth areas. This dynamic is a co-creation of understanding that enriches both parties. It is akin to two musicians, one classically trained and the other self-taught, jamming together and discovering harmonies they didn't know existed. The passing of such a client can feel like a profound interruption to the coach's personal and professional evolution journey. It is akin to losing a fellow traveler with whom the coach shared many enlightening moments. As with any form of grief, the coach needs to process these emotions and understand the depth of the client's impact on their life. This could involve seeking supervision, engaging in personal reflection, or even seeking therapeutic support. In the realm of projection and transference, the coach might find themselves seeking similar depths in other clients or projecting attributes of the departed client onto others. It is essential to be aware of these tendencies and to engage with each client as a unique individual while cherishing the memories and lessons from the departed client. The coach who inspired this reflection is yours truly. And my client, whom so many times I affectionally nicknamed the “Enlightened One,” passed away two days ago. I just know deep inside that she wants us all to celebrate life. In her physical absence, I embrace the duality of the loss in being grateful for the oneness of our shared and continuing spiritual journeys. And that takes me here to share this sentiment with you, Dear Reader, in celebration of Life, pebbles and feathers… Just as pebbles cause ripples when dropped in water, her insights and lessons continue to spread, impacting my life and the lives of those I interact with. Feathers, for me, symbolize lightness, freedom, and transcendence, echoing her current state and the profound lightness of being she brought into our sessions. I hope this reflection reminds us to cherish interactions and relationships, recognizing the potential for growth, understanding, and enlightenment in each encounter. Best of Energies! #mindbodymedicine #positivepsychology #psychology #coaching #integrativemedicine #integrativecare #characterstrength #NBCHWC #NBHWC #boardcertifiedhealthcoach

What I (preach) coach For those who might be curious what it is that I do when I am not hanging out on LinkedIn Wearing two 🧙♀️ nowadays: as a coach and a founder. Both driven by: -- my curiosity about the human mind -- a desire to be a more fearless and capable player in my mental game Here is on my coaching "hat" Two types of coaching / training, I now focus on: First, If you are a seller I have a special offer for you as of lately (Resilient Sales) I can teach/ coach you in the communication and stress-management skills like: –switching off –active listening –aligning word-talk with body talk –improving focus (also with ADHD) –riding the emotional ups and downs I am offering these as one-off sessions. Send me a DM if you are curious. ------------------------ Second, If you are a founder, or solopreneur -- Driven to perform, solve problems and move at high pace And asking yourself: -- whether the cost on your health, relationships might be too high -- whether there is something more to life, that you might be missing -- how long you would be able to run the marathon at this speed and effort Chances are we could get along. I help cultivate three core states, essential to running the marathons of problem-solving and venture-building: Resilience. The one I am after and teach others to build is fluid. It's about expanding the range (of emotion, effort) that doesn't knock you out. Peace of mind. It's about having an island of safety and certainty in the midst of high uncertainty and unhumanly fast-paced life. Coherence. It's this feeling that your mind, body, and the problem you are solving are all somehow aligned and cooperating. Our work would be tailored to your unique needs and imply a certain duration. We discuss specifics a half-an-hour Q&A and chemistry call. As I only give a third of my time to coaching nowadays, will be taking two coaching clients in the next month. ----------------------- About me: I see myself and you as someone living in this novel environment in a thousands-year-old body that has its ways. I believe a lot of challenges we face come from us idolizing the brain and trying to think and talk our way of problems. That's why in my work besides transformative coaching I draw from disciplines like breathwork, embodiment, somatics, neurobiology. Let's hear that 15-thousand year-old-body out! I am obsessed with experiments: from breathing to cold exposure to survival trips. I enjoy my diverse parts, two of which are a hustler and a hippie. As a hustler, I got back to work in a Silicon Valley startup two weeks after having my son (not proud of it). As a hippie, I worked at Greenpeace, hugged trees, and connected to the universe. A question I like to ask: If you are thinking or feeling something, how do you know it's true? -------------- Thanks for stopping by. This was a long read... DM me if you have questions. Would love it if you shared an intro. What are you up to nowadays?