Self-confidence and self-compassion

- After Dave died, Sheryl was going around and just apologizing to people constantly. - I felt guilty. I blamed myself for Dave's death. I blamed myself for how much I was inconveniencing everyone. And Adam said to me, "You're saying the word 'sorry' all the time. "I've been here an hour and you've apologized for 10 things. "Stop saying the word 'I'm sorry.' "It's not your fault." (uplifting music) - We started talking a little bit about this research on self-compassion, which is all about how we constantly beat ourselves up for things that may be mistakes but may also just not be our fault to begin with. Kristin Neff, a great psychologist, defines self-compassion as approaching yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would show to a friend. I think one of the things that a lot of people don't anticipate is when they face hardship in one domain of their life, it can affect their confidence in all other domains. Psychologists actually call this secondary loss. So…