Fighting permanence

- I learned that one of the ways you build resilience is you fight permanence. You have to believe that it won't be this bad forever. But you wake up every morning with that startle, oh, my god, he's still gone. I'm still living this nightmare. It doesn't feel like it will ever lift, ever. (soft piano music) - When people face adversity, it's incredibly common for them to walk away thinking, I'm depressed. I'm anxious. This just feels unbearable, and it's going to feel like that forever. If you look at the evidence on this, most of those predictions turn out to be false. It's called affective forecasting. Affective forecasting is about your ability to predict your emotional future. So there are psychologists, like Dan Gilbert, who have studied this. And what the data shows is that people overestimate how bad it's going to be and how long the misery will last. (melancholy piano music) Sheryl wrote, I will never feel real joy again. And I called her and I said, "Sheryl, that's not true.…