dear sister

I’m somehow on the side of TikTok (yes I am over there, but only as a lurker) where couples consisting of one partner who had siblings and another who was an only child tell horror stories. The sibling stories alway make me laugh, because no matter how outlandish or annoying the antics seem, I think to myself “yes, that tracks.” I’m the oldest of five, and being an older sister will NEVER not be part of my identity. Author Alison McGhee and illustrator Joe Bluhm's middle grade graphic novel Dear Sister is a sweet, middle-school-type tale of a new big brother’s relationship with his baby sister, told through his notes and drawings to and about her. And let me tell you, this book is packed with emotion and hilarity.

What do you do when you have an incredibly annoying little sister? Write her letters telling her so, of course! From New York Times bestselling author Alison McGhee comes a wickedly funny, illustrated, heartwarming, and searingly honest collection of letters from an older brother to his little sister.

Whininess, annoyingness, afraid of the darkness, refusal to eat lima beans, and pulling brother’s hair. These are the criteria on which little sisters are graded. Inspired by the notes Alison McGhee’s own kids would write each other, this heavily illustrated collection of letters and messages from an older brother to his little sister reveal the special love—or, at the very least, tolerance—siblings have for each other.

 

Sister arrives when the narrator is eight-years-old, and the book unfolds as a series of notes and drawings both to, and eventually back, from sister. As they age, both siblings’ drawings and penmanship grow in sophistication, and there are occasional spreads where the whole family is depicted as well. Brother provides progress reports on items like whininess, annoyingness, being afraid of the dark, and the unfairness of being forced to eat lima beans. Meanwhile their parents are the wardens, who punish him when he is unkind to Sister. Over the course of the book, annoyance slowly changes to grudging fondness, and eventually to brotherly love (but still with annoyance mixed in because no one is perfect!). 

McGhee’s narrative succeeds because it feels so authentic. Brother is typical in some ways, leaving messages like “Leave me alone” and “I don’t want to talk about it,” but these messages are mixed in with genuine worry when his little sister gets appendicitis. The ending is moving – maybe what you’d expect or maybe not – and the book ends when Brother goes off to college. Themes throughout are adjusting to a growing family, and learning how to be a good big brother, coming of age, and how friendship changes over the course of life no matter what. 

Bluhm’s art is mixed media, with most of the notes that make up the majority of the text in pencil or pen. As mentioned above, the illustrations and penmanship become more complex (and hilarious) as Brother grows older. The palette of blues and blacks pop against a white background, and Bluhm does a great job of letting the letters and notes themselves take center stage, and using illustrations for comic effect and to add to the overall meaning. It really feels as if you get a view into their life, but that the epistolary nature of the text still takes center stage.

In all, Dear Sister is a poignant, true-to-life illustrated take on becoming an older sibling and all that entails. Its portrayal of the funny, honest, and you’re-annoying-but-i-love-you realness of sibling relationships (without the rivalry aspect) is spot on.

Recommended for: readers ages 7+ (especially those with siblings of their own), aspiring artists, and fans of epistolary storytelling.