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Wednesday, June 17, 2009
How to Spot a Liar by Their Eye Movements
STEPS::
#1 Have before you the image of a person in front of you when you start this tutorial. Pretend that you are there talking to them.
#2 Imagine If that person moves their eyes to THEIR left; this would be to your right. But you will be doing these directions from the other person’s perspective. So when you read that the person’s eyes are to the left and up, this would mean they would be looking right and up, from your perspective.
#3 Try to think about this from the other person’s eyes.
#4 Bear in mind that the eye signals you will read about are not 100% accurate. Only use the person’s eye signals to how they react to what you say or ask them.
#5 Know that basic questions are unlikely to elicit eye signals. When speaking with someone and you ask them about how their day has been, they usually will reply “Oh, it was fine. How was yours?” You won’t see a lot of eye signals from this; these are almost preprogrammed responses.
#6 Take notice of the eye signals when the topic is important to the other person. When engrossed in a conversation with someone and the topic you are talking about has some impact on them, or they are fully giving you their attention, you will generally be able to receive unconscious eye signals that will allow you to get a deeper insight into what is going on in the other person’s head.
#7 Consider first the eye signals that look to the left hand side. The left hand side is predominantly to do with accessing material from your past, like images and sounds:
* Imagine for a moment that you are speaking to a friend of yours. You are discussing the plans for the weekend and what you want to do.
* You mention to your friend about a new disco that opened recently, downtown.
* Your friend looks up and to the left and says to you that he has been there already and that he had a great time.
* You ask your friend what the music was like the night he went to the disco.
* He looks left, towards his left ear, then says the music was great and he really enjoyed the night out.
* So what has popular psychology told us about the responses from the friend?
* Well firstly he looked up to the top left. This reaction tells us he is looking up to access images in his memory. This means he is “looking” at images of his time at the disco, a strong suggestion that he is telling the truth. Up and to the left signifies accessing images, therefore it has happened in the past.
* Be careful though, as he could be accessing images for “downtown” so make sure you pick your questions carefully. He may say he hasn’t been there and still look left, thinking of “downtown”.
* You asked your friend about the music at the disco. He looked left towards his ear. This tells us he is accessing the audio part of his brain and is trying to recall the music.
#8 Try out this good tester. Ask your friend to describe to you what their door bell sounds like. Watch as their eyes move level with their left ear as they access the audio part of their brain. Even if they don’t have a door bell they will still look left, looking for a sound that they may have had.
#9 Consider now the eye signals the right hand side has to offer:
* Imagine for a moment you are talking to your friend about your car that you lent to him for the weekend.
* He hands you the keys and doesn’t mention anything about the smashed headlight.
* You ask him about it and he looks to the top left. This suggests he is looking for images to associate with the smashed headlight. He then immediately looks to the top right. Now you await his response.
* He tells you someone must have reversed into him at the supermarket and driven off.
* Looking to the top right suggests the creation of images. This is a strong indication that he is lying to you.
* Bear in mind that your friend may not react in this way, as he may have had a lot of time over the weekend to conjure up an excuse. In this case, always try to ask something that they may not necessarily be unaware of, like were they smoking in your car, as there is a cigarette hole in the seat. See how the eyes move!
* Next take a look at creating sounds; yes, you guessed it. Looking to the right ear is a strong indication your test subject is creating a sound.
* There aren’t any strong examples that can be used in this context, only that you should be aware of it happening.
* You could try asking your friend to imagine a really loud noise, the loudest noise they could ever imagine, and watch their eyes move.
#10 Please note that what you have read may not be 100% accurate and that people vary immensely. This can be used as a guide only, to help you with your investigations.
#11 Remember that just because someone looks to the right, this does not automatically mean they are lying or making something up. They may be a nervous person, easily distracted, have seen something to their right or whatever the case may be. So be careful if you are going to accuse anyone of telling fibs!
[http://www.wikihow.com/Spot-a-Liar-by-Their-Eye-Movements]
How to Deal With a Liar
Liars. So difficult to deal with, yet so easy! This article will teach you some tips on how to deal with liars, and possibly how to make them crack.
When dealing with truth, liars and suppression of truth, or where a crime involves a conspiracy, or conspiracy to cover-up, accuse those guilty of the later freely. They (both those deliberately seeking to lead you astray, and those who are simply foolish or misguided thinkers) generally run for cover when thus illuminated.
1. Remember that, when dealing with a liar, the best policy is blinding truth. Liars always are shown in the end for what they are.
2. Keep your words soft and hold your tongue. At times this may be the hardest thing to do when presented with a lie, either to you, or about you. Simply state the truth. Do not use harsh words. Do not get angry.
3. Let the lie be seen for what it is in time.
4. Make sure you do not lie, most importantly. If you are known as an honest person, who never fails the truth, when a lie is said the other will be known as false. "False words are not only evil in themselves, but they infect the soul with evil". -Plato
5. Keep in mind that if one speaks lies about you, then say nothing back but the truth. Even if it hurts sometimes. "Anger at lies lasts forever. Anger at truth can't last". Greg Evans
6. Remember that truth really is the best weapon for fighting a lie. "Truth is generally the best vindication against slander". Abraham Lincoln
7. Ask an elder for help in the matter. No matter what you are, be you 7 of 75, there is wisdom that comes with age, and presenting your problem to an elder, will often lead you to a result. Never forget that they have lived already and have the wisdom that accompanies that.
8. Understand that if a child lies that's considered immaturity, if an adult lies thats considered having an evil tongue.
9. Reflect on the quote: "Words are cheap, but all the money in the world can't buy back an exposed lie!" -Noel Gallagher.
Tips::
* Speak nothing but truth. Liars hate to hear the truth because it exposes them to their reality (they have no real control over others) and that forces them to surrender control over the situation. Ego shattering!
* Focus the confrontation on the betrayal of trust and how it impacts your relationship.
* Think about why they might have lied. They may be asking for attention, not always a dismissable excuse, or they may have a problem that they're too scared to deal with.
* If you are feeling angry at a liar you only have to remember that the reason they lie is that they cant handle the truth so get them back by knowing that you CAN handle the truth!
Anger and harsh words only leads to more hate, and proves the others harsh words correct about you. Don't be manipulated into making yourself look like a jerk this is a huge payoff (desired outcome) for a liar who backstabs and undermines others.
Monday, May 19, 2008
Yesterday, with its mistakes and cares, its aches and pain, its faults and blunders.
Yesterday has passed, forever beyond our control.
All the money in the world cannot bring back Yesterday.
We cannot undo a single act we performed, nor erase a single word we've said.
Yesterday is gone.
Let go of the past and grab hold of the present.
We've to act wisely for every passing second, we're making history.
Labels: The Heart matters
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
What do I want..
I thot I know wat I want.. but sometimes its seems like wat Im asking for is not practical, non realistic~ I got lost.
With all the works/ sch/ family committments piling up.. whenever I feel low, I've to pick myself up and resume back to normal level asap. I do not have the time to ponder over it. I cant let myself sink in too deep. I cant let myself be too affected. Cus when I allow myself to feel low, I cant concentrate on anything at all. I simply go into 'withdrawal' state.
R/s hasnt been stable lately.. There's a kind of restriction in me.. refusing to be bothered.. refuse to see what really really went wrong... Those kind of feelings abt r/s.. no longer like b4 (past r/s). In the past, I can do a hundred things for my dearest.. but now~ do I want to? Or do I even bother to?
Seems like backing off is an easier choice than trying harder.
What's the matter with me?
Labels: The Heart matters
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
Well well... finally there'll be peace!
The bitch has moved out of the house, TOTALLY!
Now, let's see hw long she can tahan this time.
Wednesday, March 05, 2008
Wa ha ha ha~
I got my way to surf net in Office again! Tips provide by my friendly ISD guy. Cool~
He taught me how to edit the settings so that I can have access to internet, as only manager level etc can access internet only. *lame*..
Coming up nxt.. my class gonna start.. hmmm, hopefully get into the Yoga class too...
Be going fishing Mar-end.. dot dot dot..
I jus foresee bz bz bz bz.... for the coming months~
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Saturday, February 23, 2008
不满足，我不满足我现有的状况。
为什么， 有些人可以完全没有罪感的踩在人上面，得到自己想要的东西。可以逆来顺手， 可以无理取闹， 可以处处逼人， 可以 。。。 却没有人会站出来说一声。
＇亲人致上＇～ 足以盖过一切的不理智和罗辑？ 是吧？
在错的情况下， 继续纵容，偏袒 也还是里所当然？
－ － － － － － － － －
好不开心。
我有的不多， 没有的不少。 每天绕着绕着，都是在四面墙之内。 满脑都是钱。。
＂以后，我带你去那里那里。。＂
＂以后，我会怎样怎样。。＂
＂以后，我给你什么什么。。＂
以后～ 这些［以后］ 并不能代替 ［现在］ 吧。
我在以前的感情比现在有趣，以后的也不应该会比现在的差吧。我却没有试着改变。 不是因为＇爱＇，是因为＇懒＇。懒得从新开始， 懒得找，懒得等， 懒得分。 太逊了。。 *叹*
在这样的无聊关系里, 人就算再好， 我也没办发的识而不见。装作爱幕和满足只会让我更纳闷。
［闷］～ 就是把＇心＇锁在＇门＇里了，怎会不闷呢？
我的心想跑， 留不下了。
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Tuesday, January 15, 2008
*yawn*
Soooo long didnt updated.. in fact, nt tt impt anymore.. Nothing much to update actually.
Just had dinner with family @ Pearl River Restaurant @ Suntec.. Its a buffet dinner.. Had spent near 200buck on the dinner.. Dots.. Its ok, hardly bring mama go eat.
& also, been spending alot.. on duno-wat.. thats the prob. Money dun come easy, but go very easy.. -_-"
And my "very-clever" sis jus use this chance to knock the hell off me.. kns. Nvm la, once a while..
Recently, still wrk loh, as per normal. And I've registered for my course le.. awaiting acceptance. (Hope it does!)
Hmm.. wat else.. nthing elso le.. waahaha~ 1am le.. got to go slp now..
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