Wednesday, September 30, 2009
long distance relationship
By: Darren Ng & Nichole Tin :p
This is a topic that I’ve always wanted to write, but I never had the mood or time to begin with. Firstly, I will start off with a disclaimer... If u (= readers) don't agree with what I’m going to write...too bad. I don't care. This is my view, my opinion, my blog.
There are many type of views when it comes to long distance relationship...Some say it’s rubbish and will never last, some say it’s kind of exciting, while some say if u are tough enough once, the distance passes u, it will last longer than ever. But mostly, the one I often hear of is: It wouldn't last. (Obviously not my friends, they are very positive! Extremely!~) I saw this online "Distance can make the heart grow fonder, but too much distance can make the heart wander", it makes me wonder whether it’s true. Many stories I’ve found online and heard live are happy ones, of course there are the sad ones too, and some even worse...the sadder ones. Me? Someone told me before, it would be tough, but no one told me it will be that tough. But...I still love her...
Long distance relationship will give you your happiest and your saddest moment. Never cried or experience at the verge of crying in an airport before? LDR will give you that chance. Never been upset or cried before because you won't see your love one for months after that day? LDR will give you that exact chance. With LDR I am able to see things in different perspectives. In the past, I never understood why some partners do certain things (like cheating) despite having a very loving other half (some are still pure bastard/bitches though), but I finally do understand a little. LDR is not for the weak-hearted ones. If you don't really love someone strong enough, sooner or later you’ll be exposed. There are no doubts that there will be times where you will feel lonely and there are no doubts that your love one will not be there when you are experiencing your lowest moments of your life, but are these the best excuses one can come up with if you even dare to swear u love your partner with all u have in the first place? If you really do think these are the best excuses ever, it only shows how pathetic you are and you should just die in a earthquake or some other sort.
When people tell me how much they miss their other half, despite it being just a few days or 1-2 weeks, I often joke that, “What about me...” and laugh about it. Yet deep inside, how I wish I were them. Things that are not a big problem in a normal relationship will increase tenfold, misunderstandings might happen easily. Then, patience and understanding becomes more important than ever.
So should anyone get caught up in a LDR? I would leave it open-ended. If you really love someone, give it a try and try to make it happen. Three important essences to make LDR work: FAITH, TRUTH and COMMUNICATION. You will experience something that you will never would; you will feel love that you will never have. It may be tough but at the end of the day, if you truly love her/him, it’s worth it. When u finally meet up after awhile away, trust me...it is magical and WOAH!
For me, there are people who don't meet each other for years; therefore I am not that bad...a t least, if u try to think in such a positive way. For normal couple who are happily together and meet often, appreciate each another’s company always and never take love for granted. :)
P.S. I love you dear♥ , Nichole
P.S.S. I love you too dear ♥, Darren
This is a topic that I’ve always wanted to write, but I never had the mood or time to begin with. Firstly, I will start off with a disclaimer... If u (= readers) don't agree with what I’m going to write...too bad. I don't care. This is my view, my opinion, my blog.
There are many type of views when it comes to long distance relationship...Some say it’s rubbish and will never last, some say it’s kind of exciting, while some say if u are tough enough once, the distance passes u, it will last longer than ever. But mostly, the one I often hear of is: It wouldn't last. (Obviously not my friends, they are very positive! Extremely!~) I saw this online "Distance can make the heart grow fonder, but too much distance can make the heart wander", it makes me wonder whether it’s true. Many stories I’ve found online and heard live are happy ones, of course there are the sad ones too, and some even worse...the sadder ones. Me? Someone told me before, it would be tough, but no one told me it will be that tough. But...I still love her...
Long distance relationship will give you your happiest and your saddest moment. Never cried or experience at the verge of crying in an airport before? LDR will give you that chance. Never been upset or cried before because you won't see your love one for months after that day? LDR will give you that exact chance. With LDR I am able to see things in different perspectives. In the past, I never understood why some partners do certain things (like cheating) despite having a very loving other half (some are still pure bastard/bitches though), but I finally do understand a little. LDR is not for the weak-hearted ones. If you don't really love someone strong enough, sooner or later you’ll be exposed. There are no doubts that there will be times where you will feel lonely and there are no doubts that your love one will not be there when you are experiencing your lowest moments of your life, but are these the best excuses one can come up with if you even dare to swear u love your partner with all u have in the first place? If you really do think these are the best excuses ever, it only shows how pathetic you are and you should just die in a earthquake or some other sort.
When people tell me how much they miss their other half, despite it being just a few days or 1-2 weeks, I often joke that, “What about me...” and laugh about it. Yet deep inside, how I wish I were them. Things that are not a big problem in a normal relationship will increase tenfold, misunderstandings might happen easily. Then, patience and understanding becomes more important than ever.
So should anyone get caught up in a LDR? I would leave it open-ended. If you really love someone, give it a try and try to make it happen. Three important essences to make LDR work: FAITH, TRUTH and COMMUNICATION. You will experience something that you will never would; you will feel love that you will never have. It may be tough but at the end of the day, if you truly love her/him, it’s worth it. When u finally meet up after awhile away, trust me...it is magical and WOAH!
For me, there are people who don't meet each other for years; therefore I am not that bad...a t least, if u try to think in such a positive way. For normal couple who are happily together and meet often, appreciate each another’s company always and never take love for granted. :)
P.S. I love you dear♥ , Nichole
P.S.S. I love you too dear ♥, Darren
There is no reason to love...
Lady: Why do you like me..? Why do you love me?
Man : I can't tell the reason. But I really like you...
Lady : You can't even tell me the reason... how can you say you like me? How can you say you love me?
Man : I really don't know the reason, but I can prove that I love you.
Lady : Proof? No! I want you to tell me the reason. My friend's boyfriend can tell her why he loves her but not you!
Man : Ok..ok!!! Erm... because you are beautiful,
because your voice is sweet,
because you are caring,
because you are loving,
because you are thoughtful,
because of your smile,
because of your every movements.
The lady felt very satisfied with the man's answer.
********
Unfortunately, a few days later, the Lady met with an accident and went into the coma stage. The Guy then placed a letter by her side, and here is the content:
Darling,
Because of your sweet voice that I love you...Now can you talk? No! Therefore I cannot love you.
Because of your care and concern that I like you...Now that you cannot show them, therefore I cannot love you.
Because of your smile, because of your every movement that I love you...Now can you smile? Now can you move?
No, therefore, I cannot love you.
If love needs a reason, like now, there is no reason for me to love you anymore.
Does love need a reason? NO!
Therefore, I still love you...And love doesn't need a reason
With love always,
Forever yours.
*******
Relationships are hard to handle......might even seem impossible at times.
There will be many fights and many quarrels,
many disagreements and many tears.....
The easiest thing would be to give up.
But if we spent half the energy we use in fighting with each other,
and spend that energy in fighting to keep the relationship strong, then that is love……
Remember, in a relationship, giving up is not the solution Disagreements, fights and quarrels will always be there.
But you must always fight harder to stay together.
Some fights are truly worth fighting.
Man : I can't tell the reason. But I really like you...
Lady : You can't even tell me the reason... how can you say you like me? How can you say you love me?
Man : I really don't know the reason, but I can prove that I love you.
Lady : Proof? No! I want you to tell me the reason. My friend's boyfriend can tell her why he loves her but not you!
Man : Ok..ok!!! Erm... because you are beautiful,
because your voice is sweet,
because you are caring,
because you are loving,
because you are thoughtful,
because of your smile,
because of your every movements.
The lady felt very satisfied with the man's answer.
********
Unfortunately, a few days later, the Lady met with an accident and went into the coma stage. The Guy then placed a letter by her side, and here is the content:
Darling,
Because of your sweet voice that I love you...Now can you talk? No! Therefore I cannot love you.
Because of your care and concern that I like you...Now that you cannot show them, therefore I cannot love you.
Because of your smile, because of your every movement that I love you...Now can you smile? Now can you move?
No, therefore, I cannot love you.
If love needs a reason, like now, there is no reason for me to love you anymore.
Does love need a reason? NO!
Therefore, I still love you...And love doesn't need a reason
With love always,
Forever yours.
*******
Relationships are hard to handle......might even seem impossible at times.
There will be many fights and many quarrels,
many disagreements and many tears.....
The easiest thing would be to give up.
But if we spent half the energy we use in fighting with each other,
and spend that energy in fighting to keep the relationship strong, then that is love……
Remember, in a relationship, giving up is not the solution Disagreements, fights and quarrels will always be there.
But you must always fight harder to stay together.
Some fights are truly worth fighting.
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Sunday, September 20, 2009
"It takes more courage to suffer than to die." - Napoleon Bonaparte
i feel so emotional this few days...i have no idea why...first time ever...to this level...i just feel so bad...i become bad-tempted and feel so shit like suffering frm some shit...thanks god there is someone always with me chatting with me every night (sometime during day) to make me happier always...if not things will be worst...
i feel so emotional this few days...i have no idea why...first time ever...to this level...i just feel so bad...i become bad-tempted and feel so shit like suffering frm some shit...thanks god there is someone always with me chatting with me every night (sometime during day) to make me happier always...if not things will be worst...
Saturday, September 19, 2009
i constantly have to remind myself about this...let just hope i am right and things will be fine.
Newton's third law: To every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction
and something I saw online, kind of make me feel down...I hope it wrong.
"Distance can make the heart grow fonder" "Too much distance can make the heart wander"...
*Update: Upon seeing this...I just can't sleep. It troubling me...
Newton's third law: To every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction
and something I saw online, kind of make me feel down...I hope it wrong.
"Distance can make the heart grow fonder" "Too much distance can make the heart wander"...
*Update: Upon seeing this...I just can't sleep. It troubling me...
PM promises to review immigrant policy under mounting pressure
This article is interesting as I totally agree with it. Can anyone remind me what the benefits of being a Singaporean again? I seem to have forgot about it. Okay I admit, there is some benefits but wait, is it worth it for the cons we receive? But there is something I have to agree with him. Dare to dream, if u don't than don't blame anyone else than yourselves if at the end of the day all u have is a boring 9am-6pm job. Bill Gates, Warren Buffett, Richard Branson...They started their empire by DREAMING.
"Dare to dream, surprise yourself with what you achieve and create a better future for all of us."
In the face of rising discontent and disgruntlement on the ground and with the prospects of an election looming over the horizon, Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong said that he will “review” the government’s long-standing pro-foreigner policy.
"Dare to dream, surprise yourself with what you achieve and create a better future for all of us."
In the face of rising discontent and disgruntlement on the ground and with the prospects of an election looming over the horizon, Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong said that he will “review” the government’s long-standing pro-foreigner policy.
During a dialogue with 1,500 undergraduates at the National University of Singapore yesterday, Mr Lee said the rapid influx of foreigners will slow down as the economy is not expected to grow at the exceptional pace it did for several years until last year.
There will also be ’sharper’ differentiation in the way the Government treats citizens and permanent residents (PRs), he promised. However Mr Lee did not elaborate more on how the government will implement these changes.
Mr Lee’s stance did not differ greatly from previous ones when he reassured Singaporeans that their rights will be protected by the government while reiterating the importance of opening Singapore’s doors to foreigners to keep the economy competitive.
His father MM Lee said in the aftermath of Singapore’s 44th National Day that foreigners are “vital” to Singapore’s economy and urged Singaporeans to “embrace” them.
Mr Lee echoed MM Lee’s views again when he emphasized that in a competitive and integrated world, a ’sustained, calibrated inflow’ of immigrants is necessary to ’safeguard the long-term interest of Singaporeans’.
While most Singaporeans understand the need for foreign workers to take up jobs shunned by locals and to boost the flagging population, many are becoming increasingly discomfited by the relentless influx of foreigners in recent years which has helped to push the prices of HDB flats to record high.
Letters began appearing in the Straits Times Forum complaining about the language skills of the newcomers, the unfair competition for jobs with NSmen who have to serve 4 weeks of reservist per year as well as competition for Primary 1 registration places.
The general perception on the ground is that citizenship confers no additional benefits over PRs other than slightly less subsidies for healthcare and education and the right to vote and stand for elections which is of little relevance since less than half the electorate gets the opportunity to vote during the elections.
Mr Lee claimed he “understood the concerns that locals have – ranging from fears about the competition posed by newcomers, to irritation about the latter’s different habits, accents and weak command of the English language.”
“I understand and empathise with these concerns. Worries have grown because of large inflows in the last few years,” he said.
Mere empty rhetoric is not enough. Mr Lee should follow up on his words with concrete action to safeguard the interests of Singapore citizens who are becoming increasingly short-changed and marginalized by the government’s liberal policy towards foreigners.
A clearer distinction must be made between foreigners who sincerely wish to contribute to Singapore’s growth and make Singapore their home and those out to milk the system for their own benefits.
Friday, September 18, 2009
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Monday, September 14, 2009
I have been pondering about something in the recent days. And ironically it was inspire from a module I never like. Principal of Marketing. What are needs and wants...
Needs: State of felt deprivation including physical, social, and individual needs
Wants: Form that a human need takes, as shaped by culture and individual personality.
Wants + Buying Power = Demand
So if something's value is based on demand, if it does not meet the needs and wants of someone, no matter how good or useful the something is, it will still be worthless and will not meet your satisfaction. So it never about how good something is but whether it meet your own personal needs and wants. The world is so xian shi...and that how life works.
Happy 3rd Month...
Needs: State of felt deprivation including physical, social, and individual needs
Wants: Form that a human need takes, as shaped by culture and individual personality.
Wants + Buying Power = Demand
So if something's value is based on demand, if it does not meet the needs and wants of someone, no matter how good or useful the something is, it will still be worthless and will not meet your satisfaction. So it never about how good something is but whether it meet your own personal needs and wants. The world is so xian shi...and that how life works.
Happy 3rd Month...
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Friday, September 11, 2009
Tuesday, September 08, 2009
i am currently at a prominent fast food chain regional director office to work on her computer. her office so big, so cool!! :) There even a small garden kind of thing next to her office. If I ever work in office, wish my office is as nice and simple as hers. :)
yesterday if u people realise about my facebook status...i am very sorry...it was just suppose to be playing around but Starhub decided to play me too by giving me trouble to access FB itself. But I can tell u is...for now why would I do that? I love Nic so much...It not possible. She my beloved dear dear. :P So if you are thinking that that could happen any soon, I have 3 words for u..."Tan Gu Gu". Anw, if it really happen, check out my blog for comfirmation...Cause I never once never blog about such stuff, my blog is like the moderated version of my life... =D
one more thing...is AirAsia has agree to my request to visit their academy in KL!! WOAH! :) It a dream come true? Maybe...Just a small little little step to achieve my dream as a pilot. Will learn more about how it like to be pilot.. =D
Wheresoever you go, go with all your heart - Confucius.
yesterday if u people realise about my facebook status...i am very sorry...it was just suppose to be playing around but Starhub decided to play me too by giving me trouble to access FB itself. But I can tell u is...for now why would I do that? I love Nic so much...It not possible. She my beloved dear dear. :P So if you are thinking that that could happen any soon, I have 3 words for u..."Tan Gu Gu". Anw, if it really happen, check out my blog for comfirmation...Cause I never once never blog about such stuff, my blog is like the moderated version of my life... =D
one more thing...is AirAsia has agree to my request to visit their academy in KL!! WOAH! :) It a dream come true? Maybe...Just a small little little step to achieve my dream as a pilot. Will learn more about how it like to be pilot.. =D
Wheresoever you go, go with all your heart - Confucius.
CANT MY FREAKING DNS SERVER JUST GET IT ASS TO WORK....IT JUST SO IRRITATING TO RECEIVE 100 OVER EMAILS A DAY TO PROVE THAT IT FAILED.
*I am so not going to work with my current designer anymore...he is delaying all my clients and i have to clear his crap...
i have so got to relax...i can't be thinking of leaving this country all the time whenever i am stress and mess up...
*I am so not going to work with my current designer anymore...he is delaying all my clients and i have to clear his crap...
i have so got to relax...i can't be thinking of leaving this country all the time whenever i am stress and mess up...
Monday, September 07, 2009
Somehow when I first listen to this song, I kind of like it...I don't know why...
Time After Time - Cyndi Lauper
Lying in my bed I hear the clock tick and think of you
Caught up in circles, confusion is nothing new
Flash back warm night, almost left behind
Suitcase of memories
Time after sometime you pictured me
I'm walking too far ahead
You're callin' to me
I can't hear what you've said
Then you said, "Go slow, I fall behind"
The second hand unwinds
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you, I'll be waiting
Time after time
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you, I'll be waiting
Time after time
After my picture fades
And darkness has turned to grey
Watching through windows
You're wondering if I'm OK
Secrets stolen from deep inside
The drum beats out of time
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you, I'll be waiting
Time after time
You said, "Go slow, I fall behind"
The second hand unwinds
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you, I'll be waiting
Time after time
Time after time
Time After Time - Cyndi Lauper
Lying in my bed I hear the clock tick and think of you
Caught up in circles, confusion is nothing new
Flash back warm night, almost left behind
Suitcase of memories
Time after sometime you pictured me
I'm walking too far ahead
You're callin' to me
I can't hear what you've said
Then you said, "Go slow, I fall behind"
The second hand unwinds
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you, I'll be waiting
Time after time
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you, I'll be waiting
Time after time
After my picture fades
And darkness has turned to grey
Watching through windows
You're wondering if I'm OK
Secrets stolen from deep inside
The drum beats out of time
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you, I'll be waiting
Time after time
You said, "Go slow, I fall behind"
The second hand unwinds
If you're lost you can look and you will find me
Time after time
If you fall I will catch you, I'll be waiting
Time after time
Time after time
Sunday, September 06, 2009
yahooo!!! i saw my letter in living room. is my frequent flyer card frm air france/klm. actually is just a ivory card...(mean the lowest level in their club)...but at least this means i have at least one point!
if u wonder i got fly airfrance or klm to europe? nah...i only flew with Malaysian Airline...they are partners... :p
*P.S...Hope my request to visit AirAsia academy will be accepted!! Finger cross! :X
if u wonder i got fly airfrance or klm to europe? nah...i only flew with Malaysian Airline...they are partners... :p
*P.S...Hope my request to visit AirAsia academy will be accepted!! Finger cross! :X
i realise my own blog is great to vent my feelings...quite fun...can spam somemore...it soon to be the non-explicit version of my own personal blog.
sometime i wish i will remain a solo soul, leave whenever i want, fly whenever i want, no need to worry about others, no need to think of others, i wonder how it will be like...
people often say no point running away from the problem...what i say is...if u can run away from the problem, than run away la...knn...face the problem for what...one less problem is one less thing to think about.
meanwhile, back to thinking of my business plan...i am motivated to make it success by hook or by crook. i can do it!
sometime i wish i will remain a solo soul, leave whenever i want, fly whenever i want, no need to worry about others, no need to think of others, i wonder how it will be like...
people often say no point running away from the problem...what i say is...if u can run away from the problem, than run away la...knn...face the problem for what...one less problem is one less thing to think about.
meanwhile, back to thinking of my business plan...i am motivated to make it success by hook or by crook. i can do it!
Saturday, September 05, 2009
a new day a better day. even my spolit water heater by miracle somehow work. this afternoon i feel i have finish quite abit of delay project/things i always wanted to do but somehow i failed to even start. at least it starting now... :) great!
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”
Friday, September 04, 2009
i am seriously confused about everything. to sum up my life, i am walking without direction. no idea where i am heading to...u know something is wrong with u, when u start to wonder why are u living for, u start to hope that u could just sleep forever, when u start avoiding reality and basically hope u don't exist. i have nothing much to rmb this year, while my happiest period happen this year but sadly my lowest point cover it up...bad moments are one too many, happy moments are one too little.
the though of oversea make me happy! i am tempted to add one more itinerary to my fullfilling trip of year 2009! PENANG or KUCHING! short-haul yes but who cares! i just love to take planes and I love to explorer...that all that matters! :) Jetstar shld be having a promo this fri...$8 trip again? I will take it this time!! :P No doubt!! Date shld be between the first two weeks of Nov, weekday most likely, weekend AIR TICKET SO EXPENSIVE. Reason is simple. After that two weeks is peak season, Hotel will be expensive like shit and it will last till end of DEC! I SHALL NOT BE RIP OFF!! NO WAY!! WAHAHAHAHAHA...HOLIDAY SO EXCITING!!
Thursday, September 03, 2009
after alot of months of break, i am finally back to golfing. i wanted to touch the clubs only next month but it just seem too tempting! it like the holy grail! and convice myself that i probably i can use this as a test to see what going wrong. and straight away upon hitting, firstly my swing is off off and off...expecting additional distance but crap...like expected, my fitness is not there anymore. i can't swing effortlessly high tempo no more. it just getting tiring tiring to swing this way. time to get my lazy ass to build up my fitness to be ready for 2010 last junior season (i will be 18 after all)! haven played a junior tournament since last year?...missing out all the games!! my handicap maybe near single...but the way i play now is far from it!!! damn it!!!! AHHH!!!!! need to train hard!!! i just got a set of japanese drama frm Alicia (NONG TIME NO SEE!!) just a moment ago!! can camp at home tmr le!! WOAH!!! i heard it good!! =D Golfing make me happy!!! :)
i also realise i have two golf items for sell...i will post them on ebay...i want them off my house...waste space!!! and plus extra cash $.$...i want to get new gloves and practice tees (which sadly been disappearing frm my bag)
TARGET: BACK ON COURSE NOV/DEC!! =D SCORE: 85 and below!! :P
Wednesday, September 02, 2009
Tuesday, September 01, 2009
o ya! before i forget, yesterday was hell of a day!! managed to go back to meet teachers and meet old friends! at night, the buffet was hell!! will be part of my childhood. laugh like siao. how to hide food to prevent food wastage? flatten it between two plates. :) And of course!! The battle of the Nonya Kueh! Will post more details later in the day. Very tired!! Last time sleep 2hours (and Tiger Woods failed to win! DAMN IT)...Why am I still awake now? To force myself awake to chat with dear just now. And now GO TO SLEEP!
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