How do you define infidelity? or at what stage you'll consider your spouse action is infidelity and unacceptable?
I was a strict follower. I never believe in there is pure friendship between opposite sex, not to mention maintaining one after married. Likewise, I am expecting my spouse to think the same.
However, some people may think otherwise. However again, if between the couple, they have established a mutual trust and proper communication, I think that is fine.
Saying that, my hubby used to receive sms from female friends. And I know of a particular slut lady has been frequently sending sms to him also. Although those are some mass circulation sms, but when the contents include "missing you", " thinking of you", "take care" etc... Do you still consider that normal sms? and the time can be as early as 7am in the morning and as late as 12pm at night. Do you still consider that normal sms?
Definately I not magnanimous, so I confronted the hubby. And guess what the hubby say? "c'mon lah, dont make me ma lu, she sms to everybody, there isnt any agenda, you want me to go and tell her off not to include me in her list? People will think that you are petty!"
... ... ... He called me petty?!!! My heart was so hurt then...
Years passed, thought now I dont see those sms already...
But I am still sceptical as - his monthly phone bill reflected his outgoing sms= 900 nos... and the no. of times he sms me is probably less than 10 in a month. So where are those 890 sms sent to? - and then the less than 10 sms I received from hubby, sometimes also have those loving circulation sms... he may thought that I will find those sweet but I was thinking where on earth he received such sms from? Definately not a guy friend. He is damn careless enough! -_-
Anyway, I find it no point to persue the matter... we will ended up quarrel and he will accuse me 没事找事吵. Though refuse to comply but I just have to widen my range of acceptance.
The one night the hubby was sending me to attend a friend's wedding function. On the way, hubby's phone rang, caller ID reflected an unfamiliar number. Hubby connected the line handfree and answered in a stern voice... hubby: " HELLO !" a slut lady voice: " So fierce for what?!" hubby: " Who's that?"
silent...
the voice: " B squared... " (some sort of passwords? I raised my brow.) hubby: " Huh?!! Who? "
the hubby: " Who's that hah?" me: " slut xxx lah. " the hubby: " She called up for what lah?"
Me?
Most probably as years passed, my accumlated rancour has somehow turn still. Sometimes I was thinking why do I always have to be so concern will he turn unfaithful to me while I think he never worried about me will. So what if he really has an extra affair ? I will pitty the slut lady then... most probably a man like this wont remained faithful to her either. If she wants such man, she can has it.
For a moment I thought I was so 潇洒... then I realise my heart was so sour and the eyes rim were watery...
Anyway... yes, simply from that I dont jump conclusion but definately I will guard up. I'll make sure the 狗男女 die very UGLY!!!
Eh... but how ah? How to make them die ugly hah? Anyone? Please help contribute idea.
Last night my maid told me our neighbour below our unit was angry with her and accused her for dumping food out of the kitchen window and stained her cleaned laundry. But my maid told me very firmly that she did not dump any food out of the kitchen window.
"How ah?" I asked my maid. "I would like to trust you but we are staying at the top most floor and aunty just staying below us? There are no others suspect except us?"
" I also dono why but I didnt throw..." said the maid very firmly.
I am very sceptical but from what I know of her, she is very honest and obedient... " Alright, I will look into it..."
Then when we were having diner, our door bell buzzed... Is our neighbour, brought with her the evidence... there were some rice stained and a... SNOW PEA! That was one of our tonight veggie... so coincident?
The maid saw the snow pea too and remark " Yah ha? Why got same as our dinner? " but still she denined.
We felt sorry for what had happen on our neighbour but at that moment, we really cant do anything except to reassure her that our maid is aware that she cannot throw things out of the window.
Luckily the neighbour didnt persue further...
I cannot understand why the maid will want to throw the food out of the window... I called up my mum and no, not possible my two cousins as mum saw both of them finished their dinner.
Then just now, mum called me telling me that my cousin saw my maid last night glazing at the kitchen window with my girl's bowl in her hand, she had just finished feeding my girl.
OMG!??? I cant help but being paranoid! Is she suffering from illusion! How am I possible to put my girls' safety on this was honest and obedient maid ???
I had bought some sticker books for the girls and we were doing the stickering on the correct picture. Then I so-called, the right brain dominant Clarabelle actually stick'em up-side-down! (The top right corner is Clara's masterpiece!)
Furthermore, when usually people use the hand to write, this trying-to-be-funny Clara like to use her foot to write.
Well, you call this thinking-out of the box? I dono but she is definately one that like to bend the rules or do something differently from the norm...
The girls were lying on the bed drinking their milk with their legs wide opened...
me: " Girls... close your leg. Cover your modesty." Clara showing me her closed her leg... "mummy see, cover your modesty..." then she open her legs wide apart again... " dont open your modesty..."
Yes... -_-
One evening I advanced notice the maid not to cook my dinner as I want to eat my "Abalone & Chicken Flavour" 生面皇!A-r-r-h! Gourment from the heaven... what a stress relief element, after a day hard work, nothing beat a bowl of piping hot "succulent" noodle, slur-r-r-r-p! Then the two greedy girls though eaten their dinner but always like to crowd around me hopfully can scavenge some out of my dinner...
me: " No! This is mummy's dinner. You girls had eaten yours." The girls knew that they wont have any chances, then Abella took a deep breathe, filled her lung with my "Abalone & Chicken" aroma... "Mummy, smell so good!"
Clarabelle received the cue, also took a deep breathe, filled her lung with my remaining "Abalone & Chicken" smell... "Mummy, smell so good!"
How do you define infidelity? or at what stage you'll consider your spouse action is infidelity and unacceptable?
Furthermore, when usually people use the hand to write, this trying-to-be-funny Clara like to use her foot to write.
