think simple

Recently it feels like I am, again, walking through another phase in work-life. It suddenly hit me real hard last week, even though changes started to take place some time 3 months ago. I wished life had been easier and simpler, but often much things just don't work the way you expect them to.

Efficiency at work is once again challenged nowadays. It seems like covering the workload of 3 people in the team is draining all the energy from me. Learning point number one, let go. Delegating task to others can help lessen the load, even when that means you need to spend time coaching and checking through their work. From me, I get to off-load and provide opportunities to others. However it takes time to loosen your grip on the responsibility that has been on you all these while.

Managing people is another key learning for me. Learning point number two, talk less. The difference between 'talk-less' and talk less is that the latter creates fewer 'troubles'. No man is an island; no office is gossip-less. Trusting a colleague is never easy, furthermore to throw rants and complain about stuff. Keeping all emotions to oneself might be the only way, but of course try to offload them somewhere if not mental health will soon be damaged. I need to further improve myself in this area just so that I don't end up going crazy.

Last learning point of today, learning to say 'no'. This has got to be the hardest for me right now, voicing out my concerns. Managing one's own expectation versus boss' expectation requires all parties to have a clear mind, set objectives, agree on a common pathway and the passion to follow everything through. Its just tiring to be doing all the extras and no one appreciates/remunerates your effort, especially when you are already de-motivated and your progression has just been delayed. 

KISS: keep it simple stupid! :)

City beat

Ever since a very long time ago, I knew that I need to live in a city. It used to be the pace of the hectic life that amazes me, the kind of invincible stress that comes from trying to be socially acceptable. Being a tourist to many cosmopolitans in the world (such as New York, Tokyo, Singapore, Shanghai, Hong Kong...), I still find city life interesting.

And it happens that the city that I now stay in has a slightly different beat as compared to other major cities in other countries. Unlike the convenience of MRTs or subways, I go thru a daily frustration of getting stuck in traffic a.k.a. the traffic woes encountered by almost every Malaysian. Of course having to drive a four-wheeled also means that extra financial burden of parking and toll fees. Unlike in films and dramas ,where a rich guy will have his own chauffeur or drives a very cool car, can pick up girls from random roadsides after work. Also this means that all gatherings we get to used common excuses to be late, 'traffic jam la...' 'cannot find parking leh...' 'I spent 10 minutes walking here from where I park'.

Comparing, as most humans do, one can find the different city beats to have its own captivating moments. Dubbed with the different cultures and do's-don'ts, this is what makes the world round. I am not here to complain about how bad my country is, just ranting randomly about how different Kuala Lumpur (being the capital and most developed city in Malaysia) is. Especially on the traffic part, I think this is what makes Malaysians so 'good' in driving and not-so-good in walking since places are not exactly of close proximity to each other.

And so, I continually look forward to more chances to feel different city beats from different perspectives.

Source: images.search.yahoo.com via Darlene on Pinterest

礼物

下个周末要过二十四岁生日, 心情颇为复杂. 今年家人有约, 要去拜山扫爷爷的墓. 回想起来去年这天爷爷和我同桌吃大餐, 看着这些年他亲手写给我的生日利时, 真是有些感伤.

昨晚和嬷嬷吃饭时, 她竟然关心起我的感情生活. 有被小吓到... 虽然口头上敷衍带过, 但事后还是要认真反省烦反省. 二十四岁的我, 完了... 以前大大声说一个人生活, 现在慢慢发觉一个人不可能. 不能再赖说没准备好, 只能怪说没遇到. 就算有感觉的, 也会因所谓的矜持而裹足不前. 都不知道要怎样 can?

怎么办? 我也会期待浪漫, 同时也会怕现实的残酷. 想要给自己的礼物 和想收到的礼物? 或许就是给自己一个机会, 勇敢去在乎该在乎的吧!

死猫

在大机构里上班, 每天都有新鲜事, 每天每天都能学习到不一样的事物.

每日一训: 查明事情经过 察言观色后才汇报

面对同样的问题, 或许你我他所想要听的答案都不同, 重点在于怎样回答和利害间的严重性. 举例你我可能只想明哲保身, 他却将猫硬是摆在你面前. 不可能再伤及无辜, 所以选择性需将猫弄成半死状态, 再想办法活活咽下. 你我虽都有责任, 但分明我只是死错隔籬. 真是的 下次最好不要乱站, 不然无端端受流弹殃及.

另外要洞悉老板心情才汇报, 不然猫来到面前一定是死了的. 若心情不佳, 任何小事都会被拿到显微镜下细细研究后架成很大很大的一齣闹剧. 只因为职位较高就能暴粗失仪态, 我倒要调适一下对你的尊敬. 后来才发觉38收料的重要性, 可能稍微迟了一点吧...

最近常觉得自己长大了不少, 也许就因为在公司里接触到太多不同的人了吧. 人与人之间的沟通, 如何维持工作和私人关系, 这些都是一门门考功夫的学问. 想想分分钟人生还需要花多四十多年钻研这些学问, 不禁有些无奈啊!

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home, feels good.

Being outside for so long, it took me several years to understand why home feels exceptionally good. I never thought that I'd be making this statement looking back at how I used to blame my parents for being naggy.

Work has been bitchy these days and more and more to learn for me this little potato. Adults do live in a complicated world and is so messed up you can't find any truth or innocence anywhere. There are so many upcoming threats that constantly finds you while each lesson learnt can cost a lot (of time and opportunities). Age has been working on all of us so effectively that we were often not allowed time to reflect.

So the rare chances where I get to go on leave, apart from leaving the country for holidays, I now find myself wanting to go home. Not just to laze around or to gather with friends, but to spend those times living with my parents doing the everyday buts with much higher appreciation than before.

This is home, truly, where I know I must be.