Just had to share what I came across on Amy fabulous site here
A girl is attracted to boys. A woman is attracted to men. Now, this
has nothing to do with the actual age of a person. I’m referring to
maturity, life vision and stage of life. In fact, some people regardless
of their age, will never really grow up.
If you are a girl (lack independence, are ruled by insecurity, lack
self-respect, throw tantrums, have princess syndrome, don’t have strong
values or boundaries and can’t hold yourself on your own) then expect
that you will attract only boys. However, if you are a woman
(independent, ambitious, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral
compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let
insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a man. And
if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.
1. A man knows what he wants, and goes for it. A boy may have
somewhat of an idea, but not really. He doesn’t think too much about it,
and even if he does, doesn’t exert much effort to get it. A boy is
passive, a man is assertive.
2. A man plans for his future and is working towards building a
foundation and infrastructure in order to have a family (at some point
in his life). A boy lives only in the moment and his plans are mostly
around which bar he’s going to hit up on the weekend.
3. A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive,
grounded and encompasses a shared set of values when choosing a partner.
A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.
4. A man knows a good woman when he meets one and will take
initiative to get to know her. A boy may make an attempt if you’re
lucky, but gives up before ever really trying.
5. A man has the courage to have uncomfortable conversations. He is
honest with his intentions and lets people know where they stand. A boy
avoids. He ignores confrontation or any serious talks about feelings.
Instead of dealing with a situation, he runs away from it or creates
drama or excuses to mask the fact he’s not that into you or a
relationship.
6. A man knows when to invest in a woman and jump in with two feet. A
boy is always “testing” – he doesn’t fully commit because he never
knows if he is quite ready. But the truth is, because he is a boy,
regardless of who he meets, he will never be ready due to the stage of
life he is in.
7. A man knows how to have a good time and be social, but is often
busy making strides in his career and building his life. A boy is
getting crunk with his buddies at the bar every weekend.
8. A man takes the
time to reflect on the type of man he wants to be, the example he wants
to leave and the vision for his life. He has put thought into his
values. A boy has not established his moral compass or values and
consequently, is often inconsistent.
9. A man has integrity. He means what he says, and says what he
means. He has follow through and actions his promises. And if he can’t
he has the guts to tell you why. A boy makes promises but doesn’t follow
through.
10. A man is afraid
of rejection but will put himself out there anyway. A boy is afraid of
rejection and acts passive so that his pride and ego won’t ever get too
banged up.
Now, a lot of these
differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if
the apple of your eye is indeed a man, or a mere boy. However, one of
the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this:
11. A boy plays games. A man doesn’t.
Girls, I hope you've got a man, not a boy.
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