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Kemanisan cinta / the sweetness of love (as loosely translated as it is..)

Its been a long time that I have thought about the word love and even built a tall sturdy wall upon, but my lil bro came up with a topic for me to think over and blog about..

He asked, “Kak, apakah maksud sebenar kemanisan cinta?”

Tough question, really.. For someone who’s been there.. done that.. got one helluva man and then lost him.. I would really have to consider if I can even write on this topic with ease.. But for you lurve, I’m sharing as close to experiences in life as it is..

Love is supposedly be diabetically sweet?

In all the normal circumstances.. love is always potrayed as being sweet. I think if you were to use logic and ask around from the experiences of ‘veterans of love’ of which equates to our parents and all those who managed to go through the weals and woes about marriage, it’s a bit of everything.. Manis, masam, pahit jerih and masin all amalgamated into one.

To me the sweetness comes after taking every lil quarrel and squabble and all into stride. Working together as a couple to make sure ends meet and you are able to live in a cosy comfort zone of life.. and that needs greatly confident individuals to do that…

Like some individuals, they fall out of matrimony once, unfortunately.. but they find solace with another marriage and am glad that things work out the second time round..

Sometimes we've gotta give ourselves another shot at things.. then only you find the correct meaning of love.

Sacrifice.

I think love needs a substantial amount of sacrifice.. You will need to sacrifice some ‘personal’ endeavours and make it some kinda common with your significant other in tow.. In love, especially in the context of a marriage, both parties need to work out some kinda agreement to adapt to each other’s habits.. Bad HABITS inclusive!

Trust

Trust. It takes courage to have this. And a good amount of positive hunches. Cos if you’re not able to trust your partner, pls stay and do not move into the next round till you have developed this ability. You wouldn’t want to end up in an asylum wont you?

But to think of it in a very positive way, a lil amount of doubt is good. Jealousy too. It makes us realize that we love our partner, more than anything. But janganlah sampai jealous tak tentu fasal, itu mintak kena kompang!

Faith

You’ve gotta have faith. Constantly hope and pray for the better of the both of you. In all aspects.

Challenges

Challenges are something we would be facing through and through in life. In relationship and beyond. In pain or pleasure.. hwahahahaha. (you think love’s as easy as A B C.. you think again)

Emotional, mental, psychological challenges are part and parcel of love. Take it or leave it.










I’ve just shared what has gotta be done when you’re in love..

But just what is love?

I spent my good 29 years finding it.. I’m still finding, if you all should know..

This would be what I found out in my life’s experiences..

Love is not just man-woman relation. Its not about the first kiss. Or the first time we held someone’s hand. Its just not the fuzzy feeling that we used to get when we happen to sit at one subject that we kinda like or adore in school.

Love is more than that, truly and almost definitely.

As researched in my course of life.. love equates to HIM. For he is the ever Knowledegable and ever Loving.

Its with HIM that we feel LOVE. So its divine.

We breathe, our hearts beat in life, we smile, we talk, we sing, we dance, we work, we walk, we sleep… its LOVE. Its HIS Love for us..

In the most concrete statement that I’ll make in love.. when we find someone that we wanna spend our lives with.. its His Call. Its called FATE.

Much ado about LOVE.

Love is something that comes au naturale yet needs lotsa Tender Loving Care.

Love is loving oneself and putting an effort to love another.

Love is having heart for one and all. Like what we see on Hard Rock’s emblem..

LOVE ALL SERVE ALL!

Love is all about sharing. Good bad or ugly.

Love is something that makes you complete, yet you want more! and More! and More!

Love is what you want it to be. You mould LOVE!

And if you’re able to achieve all that.. that’s called the Sweetness of Love.. It is an all rounded feeling.. Its complete. Love in all the purest of state.. is UNCONDITIONAL.

Its not easy to come to that stage though.. even the best of humans have Nafs… rite?

So being humans, we are required to live within our means and ‘manipulate’ the obstacles in attaining that level of things.

So adik sayang… did I answer your question or least addressed your issues?

I sure hope I did…

And have fun in searching for your love.. I’ll always pray for your well being.. that’s how much I can do and thats the most conscious effort that I can do as your sista.. ~hugs~

“We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it.” – John Lennon

a short blog for whoeva who's into the whining game rite about NOW!

Flirting is an art.

Either you have it or you dont!



Such a beautiful loosah u are..



Been there, done that. got DA MAN!



I flirt.. you sulk and you boy you're good at that..

~sticks out tongue~

friend (noun) : one attached to another by affection or esteem

friendship (noun) : the state of being friends, the quality or state of being friendly


what can we derive from these 2 words? it shows that we can affliate friends to people we chose to be around and those we lurve to have for company rite?

perhaps some of us have no difficulties of making friends as our personality speaks but I believe some of us would have some issues opening up to strangers too.

It depends, on individuals.. really.

So what happens after friendships are forged? We go lepak2 together.. we travel together. We learn from each other and perhaps share other activites together.. That’s what friendships tend to offer.

So, what happens if we happen to have differing thoughts and approaches to things? Should we talk it out? Should we just accept and adapt or should we just walk away and erase them from our listing of friends?

Okay, now that we’re friends.. but how do we maintain it?

In my honest opinions, we should be accepting the differences BUT also talk to our friends if we dun kinda like what there are doing.. or perhaps if they continue doing it, it’ll strain the friendship totally.

At the other end, our friend should take comments with an open heart.. cos friendships are meant to better ourselves, in another word, motivate us to achieve some goals/dreams that we used to think its not achievable within our means.

And what happens if we kinda quarrel or perhaps have some addhoc issues in that friendship?

I’ve always believe in being honest with my friends. “Open table talks” with them helps. But we’ve gotta have a very clear mind in doing this move. Never feel confronted if this happens cos I believe as a friend.. we’ve gotta keep E.G.O on a low and move forward with everything with a common goal, of which keeping the friendship for life.

Personally, I have friends whom I keep since primary school days and naturally lost some along the way too. But losing a friend doesn’t mean being nasty, BUT its much more of sifting out those we kinda know its not worth keeping and that perhaps fate has it that we learn from those failures.

We are humans, most definitely. Like in life, we make mistakes in friendships too. We’ve gotta really pick our bad notches and move on.. slowly but surely.

Owell, what I’ve just wrote is my most humblest take on maintaining friendships. For all of us to pause and ponder whether we whom we have in our mobile contacts list, messenger services contact list or even our own reliable filofax are those we wanna keep as friends, just plain pure acquaintances or just business partners or even just online contacts.

Till then, happy Thursday blog community… with lurve that is!

Dear lil bro.

of the topic you've asked me about.. lemme share and perhaps it would address the quandaries that you have..

i’ve always been a fan of your thoughts and ideas, despite you being younger than me… but you’re actually a deeper analyst than me. That one, I really take my hats off you.

U see, sometimes when we engage ourselves in deep thoughts/muhasabah.. its mainly a conscious effort to better ourselves and to rethink motive in living life.. some people would do it more frequent than others..

“People who fails to plan, plans to fail”

On that same benchmark, human beings who are given the honour of having brains and its masses are also given the opportunity to make better decisions their lives.

You’ve asked me why people think too deep and why some just dun?

It’s a choice, really. It’s the same scenario of having just butter on ya toast, when you can have peanut butter and a whole lot other..

A thought, complete with a way to achieve it.. is a virtue, at all levels.

In an industry, we have the Research and Development to innovate, the Sales and Marketing to market the products and the Post Sales to address the aftermath issues, rite? I

In the same context, our way of thinking should be of that level too.

We have to plan thoroughly, see to things properly and follow up with due diligence of any decisions that we take in life..

We are very lucky aint it? We have an opportunity to have the comfort of having a complete education and much more luxuries that we have as of now.. but some people, due to some constraints and all are not able to have those in their lives…

Of that cause, we would also better our life’s economy. We would get a better pay to maintain the family’s expenditure and all.. So our way of thinking helps us to path the routes that we take in life.. although its also a conscious effort to pray and supplicate to Allah for the better too. ~winks~

In the same line, we would need to look into our personal attributes too. We have to make sure we dun lose ourselves when we continue to achieve success in life. I’ve known of people who suddenly develop an “attitude” after a lil ounce of rezqi befalling on their laps of comfort.

But thinking too deeply causes ta’aksub too.. You get too much into the thick of the matter and think that you’re superman or perhaps another recruit from the bunch of HEROES that are already casted for.. that’s another problem.. HOUSTON.. we’ve got a problem!! ~nee nong.. nee nong~

So lil bro, in due diligence… we think whats within our circumference. And when doubts arises, go back to the Al Quran and sunnah or perhaps consult a person that is of a better position to advise.. And if we need further follow ups, we can try to isythikharah-ing. Perhaps, the route would be given to you in your thoughts and May Allah grant you a smooth journey to achieve what you want in life..

Warmly,

Your Not-So-Perfect Sister