Loves
Anime+Chocolates
Eating+Sleeping+Playing
Kelly.Poon+Han.Ji.Hye+Younha
Well, I decided to return to writing, because even if I shared with others how I felt after becoming a mom, they wouldn't understand.
Don't pretend that you understand, because you don't.
And that's what I hate most.
Non-mom friends implying how I have so much free time at home, when I can't even use the toilet in peace.
They don't understand how much cleaning up, running around, carrying, and preparing stay-at-home moms have to do, while having a kid following, whining, or undo-ing what you just did. I dare you to try it, and try not losing your temper.
They don't understand how tired is tired, and how even more tiring is telling someone how your day went, or how even more tiring is being already tired and having someone diss what you did the entire day with "You could have just done this...". If it could be done, we would have done it, thanks. You do not use simplistic solutions for multi-dimensional problems.
They don't understand how much you would like to avoid cleaning up another person's mess, after having to clean up a small person's mess for 7 days a week. They don't understand how much you would like to avoid an overtired and sleepless toddler, after being sleep-deprived for 7 days a week. Gathering at my house? No, thanks. Late night out? No, please.
Seniors giving "advice" or dismissing what you do to your child as "wrong" just because they have had experience taking care of children, when their knowledge is outdated.
They don't understand that what was acceptable then may not be acceptable now. Knowledge has advanced. Please do too.
They don't understand that what worked for their kids may not work for our kids. There is no model solution when it comes to kids.
They don't understand that we cannot settle for satisfying our kids' needs now without thinking for their future. You could fill their stomachs with food, but they may not grow up to be healthy. You could keep them happy with toys, but they may grow up never being happy with what they have. You could do everything for them, but they may not be able to survive without you.
They don't understand that we can learn what we do not know. But if you do not learn what you do not know, then someday we will overtake you as seniors in parenting.
It's just... don't pretend that you know better, because you don't.
And the more you act like you know better, the more you would be seen as arrogant and ignorant.
24 Dec 2011 to 1 Jan 2012
Decided to embark on another trip alone to re-define my perspectives of people, of things and of what-nots, to 重新寻找自己. Already miss having the freedom I had there. Looks like I won't have the time and patience to organise and pen my thoughts for the trip, so I shall let my pictures do the work, haha.
Places visited
Kamakura
Kawagoe
Karuizawa
Toyama
Hotels stayed
Hotel Edoya
APA Hotel Karuizawa Ekimae
Comfort Hotel Toyama
Expenses
Air Tickets: SGD 1219.10
JR East Pass: SGD 427
Travel Insurance: SGD 46
Hotels: SGD 783.54
Food/Drinks: JPY 11814
Admission/Transport: JPY 14180
Miscellaneous: JPY 3174
Souvenirs: JPY 29047
Exchange Rate: SGD 1203.40=JPY 71000
Total: SGD 3462.34
说者无心，听者有意。
tOrtIz, 8:15 pm.