Angry Birds

Since the past few months, I have been tested at my weakest point, that is, le temper. So last night was one of those moments when I was tested for my patience. I do not consider myself a patient person though I did manage to restrain my anger whenever needed. I just did it because I am afraid of what might happen if I don't, and I am sure Allah won't be at all pleased at the idea of me slapping someone across the face, because yes, some people just deliberately test your patience when they know you won't flip when they do whatever they like to you. I pray you guys don't need to face these kind of people because they're just the worst.

Anyway, as I was crying, feeling helpless for not being able to channel my anger, I had a deep thought and somehow the word 'kids' just came to mind.

I was perhaps just desperate trying to find a good way to deal with my anger management problem that I came up with that idea.

Whenever we see kids get upset over something, they straight away tell you about it and when we advise them for the better, they won't sulk but they will try to improve instead. 

I realized that as I grow in age, I have lost that sensible part of me due to my fear of being reprimanded and ostracized for voicing out what I really felt. 

I hope I'll be able to implement that innocence now that I know, but yeah, I guess it won't work unless I have no conscience at all of what other's are feeling.

We adults get upset too easily don't you think?

I guess the best thing to do is try to channel it in another way. Oh and yes, reciting the Quran helps. 

I'm still tired, perhaps with the loads of work which may have contributed to my increased irritability this week. Just hope I will be able to be strong, if not for others, at least for myself. After all,

The Prophet (saws) said: 

“The strongest man is the one who, when he gets angry and his face reddens and his hackles rise, is able to defeat his anger.” 

(Reported by Imam Ahmad, 5/367, and classified as hasan in Saheeh al-Jaami‘, 3859)

Oh, and you can read about defeating your anger here. Salam alayk and peace out.


ps:  From here.

Following the Prophet’s (saws) example in the case of anger:

The Prophet (saws) is our leader and has set the highest example in this matter, as is recorded in a number of ahaadeeth. One of the most famous was reported by Anas, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: “I was walking with the Messenger of Allah (saws), and he was wearing a Najraanee cloak with a rough collar. A Bedouin came and seized him roughly by the edge of his cloak, and I saw the marks left on his neck by the collar. Then the Bedouin ordered him to give him some of the wealth of Allaah that he had. The Prophet (saws) turned to him and smiled, then ordered that he should be given something.”(Agreed upon. Fath al-Baaree, 10/375)

Another way in which we can follow the example of the Prophet (saws) is by making our anger for the sake of Allah, when His rights are violated. This is the kind of anger which is praiseworthy. So the Prophet (saws) became angry when he was told about the imam who was putting people off the prayer by making it too long; when he saw a curtain with pictures of animate creatures in ‘Aa’ishah’s house; when Usaamah spoke to him about the Makhzoomee woman who had been convicted of theft, and he said “Do you seek to intervene concerning one of the punishments prescribed by Allah?”; when he was asked questions that he disliked, and so on. His anger was purely for the sake of Allah.