I have to say first of all that I am a much better parent with Parker and Slade than I ever was when Tayler and Garrett were their ages. Now that has been said I can tell my story. My kids always come into my room after school since my surgery to let me know they are home and for me to ask my 3 favorite questions.
1. How was your day?
2. What did you learn?
3. Did you ask any great questions?
Well this past Thursday Parker came in and I asked my first question. He looked at me and said "Not so good". I of course asked why and what had happened. To say the very least it was not the answer I had expected. He said "I said a swear word today Mom". Oh my what is a mother to say. I told him that wasn't good and asked what he had said. He told me "I said the F word". His poor little face just dropped and he was so ashamed of himself. I asked him what had happened to make him say that. His reply was "Well you know how I always say What the Freak? Well (insert name here) bumped into me really hard and I meant to say what the freak but i said what the F instead. I am so sorry Mom." Here is where we need to back track to the week before this happened. Parker and I had talked and he had complained to me about a couple of girls who he has to sit by in math class. He complained that they swear and distract him all hour and that he hates it. I told him that I would have him moved. Up until today they still have not moved him. I will be speaking with the principal again tomorrow. So back to the story. I explained to him that when we say something that sounds a lot like a curse word it often makes it a lot easier to slip and say that word. That maybe he shouldn't use that phrase anymore. I also looked at him (here I think is some of that good parenting) and said "Thank you so much son for coming in and sharing that with me. I really appreciate it and I love you." What a novel idea, to be open and listen without expectations and disapproval! He walked away glad that he had told me and feeling good about himself. If only I had learned that sooner. I love my little man and couldn't be prouder!
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Parker riding with Tayler and wearing her shades to keep the sun out of his eyes. Super cute! |