I have been in charge of getting photos of the women in our ward for a video on Visiting Teaching. Kelly's idea was to video-tape the older sister talking about Visiting Teaching. She wanted still shots of the rest of the women in the ward. There are 120+.
I didn't even know how to use our camera, but decided I could try to help. We tried to get people to email us their pictures, but that didn't work too well. I think we got two. I'm a pathetic photographer, but I tried. I tried to catch people at church. I tried to catch them at the High Priest Dinner, Personal History class, Empty Nestors, and Board meeting. I wandered the streets with camera in tow.
It was quite a learning experience. People were so different. I would offer to show them the picture I had taken, so we could vote on whether they were blurry or had their eyes closed. (They would look great on my small view, but be unusable once they were on the "big screen".) One said, "Oh, I don't care what it looks like." All the others would run for their lipstick, tell me "You are SO NOT taking my picture - I just woke up," or say, "You really can't take my picture because it is Friday, and I don't wear makeup on Friday." I heard the same thing about Thursday. One woman said, "Oh, I'll send you one. PLEASE delete the ones you took. I look horrible." Another woman said, "I am NOT participating. I just don't do pictures."
This is a picture of the daughter of one woman in the ward. She was dressed in a fairy costume when I dropped by her house. You can see a glimpse of her wings behind her back. She was so thrilled to have her picture taken. She didn't run for her makeup, fix her hair, or make excuses. She was delighted. I have several pictures. In some, she is even airborne.
So, what happens to us as we age? How does it happen that we lose that self-confidence?