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Friday, February 19, 2010, 7:21 pm Something about crushes and relationships
Acoording to the iPhone app Dictionary.com, crush, in an informal way, means an intense but usually short-lived infatuation. Relationship (noun) is a connection, association or involvement.

So how do we decide what is a crush and how we can elevate this to a relationship?

It's easy for me to say, for example, I have a crush on...err...(thinking of a Hollywood actress)....ah...Scarlett Johansson. There must be a reason why we have such crushes. Is it her talent, velvetly figure or just above the waist we are so interested in. Don't bother having a poll on this. To be honest, yes, I do have a small crush on her, however, as the definition explained, the key phrase is short-lived. Now, I have moved on. I do have some favourite actresses I love to watch them on the screen but I won't be mentioning them for now. In real, I do have a crush on someone during my poly days. Even some of my mates found out too, but eventually, I simply have no cojones to say directly to her that I have a crush on her. I still do think about it once a while. However, with all of us busy with our lives, there's limited time for us to meet and remiscent on the poly days. Hey, everybody's doing their thing with others but what about me?!

Moving to the next stage to a relationship is not as easy as you think. On the contrary, it'a a complex operation of trust-building and preparing the foundations for a long-term stint as a pair. More so when a crush becomes a relationship. You made it clear you admire her (or vice-versa) and now its time to take it to the point where not only feelings for each other will be tested, also factors like knowing in depth about each other, knowing the things that each other want to know and the high point is meeting up with the folks. It's good if the accept the relationship but if otherwise, it's now a priority or an objective to convince them that each other is the right for each other. If that falters, then the inevtable will have to happen, the break-up. That I really hate. I'm not going to comment if that happens because either one are unfaithful. What I do concern is that happened because the folks simply said 'no', despite your feverous efforts. How are you going to move on and how you want to end it? It's simply so damn difficult.

OT, I wonder if I believe in love at first sight. I thought it was simply bullshit. Especially when I'm not exposed to such situations. One look like in the movies and there's attraction? Hey, did not happen to me. They say love takes time. Ya. Anyway, I would take the chance and let it takes its course. If it happens, it happens. Otherwise....well, like the old adage, "Life goes on."
Friday, January 29, 2010, 9:05 am Thoughts about life
Just before work today, I was going through my FB and for some particular reason, I went straight for the Friends section. Going through my existing contacts I began adding friends from secondary school, some of whom I have not met up for over 5 years or so, to NS buddies, whom I served with. Through their profiles and pictures I saw how they have evolved since. Some were having good careers, studying and some even got married. No one person can have the exact same lives. Some are pleasant, others are not. It's all depends on how we adapt to it and how we can make the best of it, so as to make it pleasant, to a certain degree.

What about me? Well, I'm quite content with what I have now. Not spectacular but generally fine. Could have been much better but can't be brooding over missed decisions all the time. That would amount to excess emotional baggage. That, is the reason Anakin Skywalker, turned to the Dark side in Star Wars. Not that he was evil, his emotions and attachments were used against him. What's my point, exactly? Well, not much. It's just what I reiterated earlier (or did I?), let go of the past and adapt to the ever-changing dynamics of life.

Eventually, good things will come for everybody. We just need to keep positive of life and strive to improve the best we can.
Thursday, January 14, 2010, 1:03 pm What they are looking for?
As I sit down wondering what to post, I wonder what I have to do to get the job that I want. Thus, tjat's what I'll be talking about.

Recently, I went for an walk-in interview for a job near town and I was surprised with the turnout. Last estimates put it to around 1.5K applicants. Kept waiting for 4 hours only to end disappointed in just 10 minutes. My first guess is did I did something wrong during my 2 minutes to describe myself. The interviewers are not in the liberty to explain. So I leave it as such.

What exactly does the interviewer look for in the job?

Qualifications? For me, maybe. Depending on the job, it could be a specific diploma or a general diploma. I usually look out for jobs whose qualifications is a diploma in any discipline. I'm very flexible in my search but seems like everytime I look around, a hot job usually wants a degree. Like I didn't want a degree. I do! Just that I'm not in a position to do, and even so, what discipline I want to take?

Personality? What I gathered about myself is that I always seem to have a slight lacking trait in the personality area. Sure I love to talk but 70% of the time is just general chat without going to details, except on topics I'm very familiar with.

Experience? Ok, I truly lack the relevant working experience. However, I look at it at a positive way. Like I previously mentioned, I'm open to new experiences. I learn and I apply. I operate by this mentality and I will stick to it as it is of great benefit to upgrade your skills and ability.

+++? The +++ are the problematic problems. There's always the something which I lack/do not have. Problem is I don't know what. That's the thing. How I'm going to improve if I do not know the direct cause of my unsuccessful application. There's some traits which others do not have but that always seems to be insufficient.

The moral of the story is that for all your efforts in promoting yourself to the interviewer, in the end, they have the as to whether you make it or not. Try telling that to the Idol wannabes who didn't go through to the next round. I mean, accept it and learn from there. It's not worth it to continue singing off-key and ended up being escorted out and your antics shown on national TV (unless you really wanted your antics shown on TV, but that's a different matter). OK, OT.

In my case, I just have to move on, learn from my unsuccessful tries independently and move to the next job application.
Tuesday, January 05, 2010, 10:00 pm All new!
Starting the new year by re-formatting this blog. It will cover topics which comes out at the spur of the moment, afterwhich I will air my views.


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