2016 Reflections

2016 said goodbye real fast this time.

Is this what adulthood does to you? Comes and sweep you off your feet away?!

Ahahaha, Being dramatic as always. So here goes my yearly reflections! I am aware I couldn't find my 2015 reflections here but I posted it in another blog. It was my most happening year in terms of travel but hey, we have 2016 and now 2017!!

Okay let's get down to it. Fun fact, did you know everytime i take the time to sit down and do these reflections, I need to scroll through my social media because I have the worst memory alive? Lol.

You know what is such a fail. I can barely remember the momentous events that took place in each individual month so I will just post an overall one.

I experienced 4 funerals. My boyfriend's maternal grandmother and paternal grandmother, my best friend's paternal grandfather and my own maternal grandfather. May all of them rest in peace.

I got to visit Seoul, Korea! That was fun! Though i lost most of the pictures but I still have one or two which I will insert here :p

We were there for work actually but it was nice cause we got to experience the K-FEVER first hand. Hahaha. I loved it. Loved the weather, the food and how nice everyone is.

Oh! How can I forget, my lovely second nephew was born in the month of February! Mason bear. The cutest grumpiest bin chau chau face alive. He's super cute and very different from the older child.

DISCLAIMER: LOL, THIS WAS NEVER COMPLETED.

Shaming on Social Media

Hello!

As we are all familiar with the uprising trends of social media, we tend to lose ourselves in our virtual identity and forget about our physical presence in the 'real world'. But then again, there will be arguments about the 'real world' just being a part of a discourse that has been made up for us to live in.

However, today's topic is about shaming people on social media.

Is it the right thing to do?

Two weeks ago, I met with a rather unfortunate incident whereby I was extorted a large sum of money.

Well, let me explain first what happened.

Basically, I hit a girl (let's call her Suzuki) from behind. The damage wasn't serious, I just broke her bumper clips so her back bumper fell slightly.

Got down the car and we exchanged numbers because I agreed to pay for her damages as it was not a huge matter.

Lo Behold, Suzuki refused to come to my workshop to get her car fixed with her reasons being that she's too busy, she works everyday, she lives too far, bla bla bla.

Okay so whatever, she insisted on going to her own workshop to get it fixed. So i said you know what you get the quotation and then get back to me.

She had the nerve to give me a quotation of MYR 2600 when the damage itself didnt even cost MYR 300-500. I would know this because her quotation said she would require a new bumper, a new license plate, change her exhaust pipe cover and what not. Whatever she stated was not true as I have picture evidence of her damage and I have consulted a lot of my friends who owned car workshops, they said she was being ridiculous.

Long story short, she reported me to the police and unfortunately, because I was the one at fault, if we didnt settle it outside of the police, then the officers had no choice but to issue a fine to me and claim my insurance.

The thing with it is that, we didnt want to lose our NCB for such a ridiculous damage.

We settled with Suzuki for MYR 1500 instead.

The unhappiness of puking out such absurd amount for such a ridiculous thing made me really peeved.

I thought about shaming her on social media since I had her car number, full name, IC number and even phone number.

But then again, I didnt want to resort to such low tactics just because I was unhappy and angry that she cheated that amount of money from us.

What would have been the right thing to do?

What would it benefit me if I shamed someone on social media?

I've seen people shaming their cheating partners on Facebook. I honestly don't know whether that act is disrespectful or not because yes, I understand you are angry but is it necessary to smear someone's name all over the internet?

I mean, my thoughts on this topic is that I dont believe its right to purposefully attack another person with spiteful words and insults.

But I guess it really does depend on the context on the reason you are shaming that person.

In extreme scenarios such as robberies, road bullies, kidnappers, etc, I would fully understand the 'expose' on social media.

Well, that's my two cents on this topic.

Life template

Now that I've graduated from University and am 'qualified' to take on the world, I have never felt more lost before.

Throughout my 24 years of living, there was always a set plan.

When I was brought to this world,
I needed to learn how to eat, drink, walk, talk and socialize.

When I was old enough for school,
I needed to learn how to read, write, memorize and socialize with people my age.

When I was done with pre-school, I was thrust to Primary school,
I needed to learn History, Science, Geography, Maths, English, Malay and Religious Knowledge.

Hence forth, passing my primary education with flying colors, I proceeded to do my Secondary education,
I studied the same subjects in Primary but with depth and expansive knowledge for each subject.
I even took on Additional Maths, Physics, Chemistry and Biology.

With the completion of Secondary education, I just turned 18 years old.

Barely knowing what I wanted to do in the future, I decided 'hey I should study more' so I chose to do a diploma course.

Hurray! The diploma course took me less than 2 years and once again, I was posed with the question,"What do you want to do now?"

Still at loss, I chose to do a double degree in Marketing and Communication.

Four years of hustling and jeng jeng jeng, I did it! I achieved 18 years of education!

So.. the question still poses.. What do I do in my life now? 

Obviously, at 24 and coming from an Asian background and also being a female, societal norms would be find a good partner, marry and pop babies right?

Nope. Without a set template in my life anymore, I am free to make my own choices right? No, not really still because you will face pressures from either family, friends or colleagues.

I feel that growing up is not a bad thing because whether we like it or not, we have to.

It's what we choose to do that makes our lives worth living for.

If you like to dance, go ahead.
If you like to sing, go ahead and belt your heart out.
If you want to become a globe trotter, take your passport and just do it.

Whatever you choose, you must bear the consequences and if you made an unwise decision, choose to learn from it and just move on.

I think this post is just a little reminder to myself and everyone else out there who is feeling lost at the moment to just remember that don't be so focused on what everyone's expectations are.

Focus on your own expectations and set your bars high.

Daily musings #1

I think the hardest part about blogging is just coming up with the titles.

So what I'm going to do from now on is just title it as Daily musings #number

I marvel at how sleep can drastically change my appearance every day.

Some days, I sleep more than 8 hours, some less than 6. I reckon it's not about the number of hours I sleep but also, the quality of sleep.

There are nights whereby I drift in and out of sleep. So if you receive replies from me in the middle of the night, I'm definitely half asleep and probably do not know what Im saying (either that, or Im brutally honest). Hahaha.

Been on an avocado kick recently! Like I constantly crave for Avocados!

I love it! And also, I've started this #projecteatclean for 2 weeks before I go back to KL because I've been ingesting too much saturated fats and I just feel icky and gross.

Ok la. Who am I kidding. I've been eating Thosai 2-3x a week now. My poor mother is sick of watching me eat Thosai or Thosai telur.

I've discovered this gem for the first time in Devi's at KL. I fell in love with it and realised that it's a lot healthier compared to the typical Roti Canai.

So what have I been doing in Brunei so far?

Nothing out of the ordinary. There has been a lot of self pampering sessions. I must say though, being on a doxycycline course is not fun due to all of its side effects. However, I am happy to say that my face has cleared up!

(This picture begs to differ what I just said above. HAHAHA)

Miss Universe Malaysia 2014

This post is specially dedicated to one of the sweetest girls I know and am glad I became acquainted with.

Sabrina, I know you've been busy preparing for the Miss Universe 2014 finals but I just wanted to tell you that you are one of the strongest person I have ever met. With your dazzling beauty and quiet confident aura, I was immediately drawn to your warm smile and cute remarks. All of us in our little group became fast friends and although you were always busy with your preparations, you made the time to hang out with us anyway. You are the true queen in all aspects; beauty, personality and aura. People criticise because they don't see the real you. They say things that we know are untrue. However, we see you for who you are. Though you are quiet, I've always seen that strong aura you bring with you when you walk into a room. We love you very much. Regardless of the results, we know you have done your best and you left an outstanding impact and bring a good name to our country.

Sending you plenty of love from Malaysia. xx