Saturday, July 30, 2016

麻木的生活

生活本来应该是精彩的,很多人都在享受了人生,亲情,爱情,友情,旅游等等。。但是我呢? 只有简单的两个字 - 麻木。 不知何时,我的生活已变得黯淡,天空都是灰灰的。今天有幸看到美丽的晨空,顿时心情变得非常宁静。
 
家是很多人的避风港,最舒服的地方。但是,我的不是。现在的家是一个让我感到疲惫,心烦,有做不完的家事的地方。有时候真的很想逃跑,离开这一切麻木的生活。。。
 
我常说。。。只有我在乎的东西,我才会有喜怒哀乐,发脾气,有要求。当我对一切都不在乎的时候,我已经到了“心死状态”, 任何决定都对我无所谓了。。。很多时候,争吵是为了更了解彼此,在乎才有冲突,然后从中学习对方的致命穴。
 
在任何的争吵中,是不是都该回到初衷?而不是在乎所谓的面子或是事非对错。。重点并不是谁对谁错,怪了谁或是谁比较生气。我觉得最重要的是了解对方的立场,学会真心诚意的聆听对方的问题。很多时候,人把“听见” 和 “聆听” 给混淆了。听见不代表接受或了解,聆听对方的心才是真正的听进去了。那么以后就不会在重犯同样的问题了。你认同吗?人与人之间真的需要那么复杂吗?想一想,人生不就是那几十年,为什么要那么想不开? 能开开心心的过每一天会有多好啊。。。。
 

Saturday, July 02, 2016

心情物语

最近心情真的很烦很闷,脑子里有许许多多的烦恼但是没有人可以分享。。常常问自己为什么会走到这一步?我的人生就只能这样子过吗? 我不想这样不开心的过一辈子。。真的。。觉得很累很累。。好想放弃一切,重新开始。虽然会比其他人慢了几十年, 但总好过白白的活着对吗?
 
一般人都觉得我看起来很开心,家庭和事业都还不错,但是大家都不知道我心里常常在挣扎,流泪。。我不是一个会轻易在别人面前哭诉的人。我只会默默的在夜深人静的时候,一个人静静的哭,再勇敢得擦干泪水。。。事实上,没有一个人会永远不倒下。我常说我是一个不倒翁,但是我也有被击倒的时候。只是我常会硬着头皮逞强,不让别人看到我的软弱。说真的,我已厌倦了铁娘子的包装,只想要做个普通的女人,虽然我总是学不会撒娇,闹情绪,像个小女人依赖在身边的男人。重点是,我想我塑造的形象太成功了,没给人都觉得我不需要别人的呵护。但是,我想说的是没个人都想被自己所爱的人疼爱,照顾。为什么我就没有呢?
 
近来,我觉得自己很像个脾气暴躁,牙坚嘴厉的巫婆,对周围的人带来不便和不愉快。我真的有很努力的在控制自己的情绪了。但是脑里的繁琐思绪真的让我不得不烦躁,常会让人觉得我嘴不饶人。我真的不想的。。。 或许只有非敏感的人才能跟我相处的很好吧。我的置之不理,不以为然常常会被误会成我从没想过的后果。我应该怎么办?
 
反思了自己的三大“致命伤”以导致我的极大反应和恼羞成怒,他们就是:
 
1.  被污蔑 / 冤枉 / 误会 / 被理解错误 - 以上的共同点是我的出发点被弯曲了!
2.  个人建议或想法不被重视 - 不喜欢被当成是理所当然的,总之是在于尊重一个人的观点。
3.  没有认真思考过就回答问题 - 总觉得严重被敷衍,根本当我的问题是废的!并不是什么事都能用 “不知道” 还是 “It‘s ok” 来带过的。
 
不知道有没有人跟我一样怪,但是我认为每个人都会有几个“死穴”。激怒了就会后果不堪设想。我想我得学习一些能安抚我烦躁的心情的事吧。。。我相信这样下去我会精神崩溃。。。不想再剪短我仅有短短的寿命。。
 
累了。。。真的没有力气再往前走了。有没有人可以理解呢?我想很难吧。。。很多人都觉得我是一个很复杂的人。但我想成为一个简简单单过生活的人,能吗??
 

Friday, June 03, 2016

Peak Accomplishment of 2016

On 30th May 2016, I have finally completed the biggest event with my team at TSB with close to 300 attendees in total. Though it may seems to be small number but I cannot explain how much work has gone into the preparation of this event in the last few months. Last few weeks were madness where weekends and late nights were burnt to prepare for this event. Honestly, the feeling is quite surreal now that the event is a wrap. Happy to hear many positive feedback from the guests on the event and experience for an opening ceremony. Suddenly have this feeling of 工成身退, finally complete this race from launch in Jun 2014, endless events (big or small, local or overseas) and finally the official opening ceremony few days back. Felt so relieved that everything that I have wanted to completed for this new building is finally done. Though there are many questions on the sales from the bosses at this point, honestly it doesn't bother me anymore coz I am not the sales person. I am clear of my role of creating the big bang in the market with the exposure and presence of our brand, that's marketing! Marketing is indirectly related but not implied for direct sales due to the business nature. No one will ever sign a contract because of a successful event or good branding. Most important is still infrastructure and operation since its a long term engagement once a contract is signed. I don't understand why the bosses out there don't understand this simple concept and the key lies with the sales team and ops team to prove that we can be relied on for the long haul.
 
These few days, many thoughts ran through my mind. What's next for me? So what else can I do for this company after this last event? I'm tired, honestly tired from all the unappreciated effort put in for the last 3 years plus. Though I felt satisfaction for every successful event I have done, that does not translate to happiness and financial returns. Wondering what's the point of pushing on at this rate? The current environment really irked me with people whom I dislike and don't enjoy working with, I guess its a signal that its time to move on bah. I have started looked out months back but really no good news at all, am I losing the employability value? I am worried coz I would really want move into a new role with better progression and structure. People is the key, without good top mgmt and people, there is really nothing much to look back now. The job can be shitty but the top mgmt. must be fair and focus on a clear vision for the team to move forward. I don't see anything close to that now, in fact totally opposite. Its becoming very draining to work in such environment, not because of the endless tasks to do but more of tactfully to handle such CMI people around.  
 
Yes, I am ready to move on, hoping for a good opportunity real soon! Jia you Stareo!