Saturday, September 20, 2008

写给你的, “安娣”


刚好与朋友聊了两个小时,听了她的感情小烦恼。 忽然记得之前从《男人来自火星,女人来自金星〉读到这一部分,觉得献给这个好姐妹最适合不过了!


<男人,你要学会倾听>
男人不了解女人,可能帮倒忙。女人傍晚下班回家,和男人谈起某些问题,只为倾诉一天的感受,体验舒适和亲密的感觉,却不一定需要答案。
现实中,女人诉说感受时,男人却在想;“好,是时候了!这件事很简单,我可以帮她解决!”于是,她打断女人的谈话,针对女人的问题和困惑,开始提供一系列的解决方案。比如


女人:我公司的事情好多好多。怎么做也做不完!
男人:你还是放弃那份工作吧,何必让自己那么辛苦呢?你应该做你想做的事。
女人:可是我不讨厌我的工作。问题是,大家对我的期望太高,希望我在短时间内改变一切!
男人:不要听他们的。做你喜欢的就是了!
女人:我知道。对了,你知道吗?我今天忘了给我妈回电!不知道我是怎么搞的!
男人:别担心!你那么忙,他会理解的。
女人:你不知道,她可能真的有什么急事找我。
男人:你也太操心了,所以才不快乐。
女人(生气):我只是偶尔不快乐。你可以不可以不插嘴,听我把话说完?
男人:(不高兴):你还要我怎么样呢?我不是一直在听你说话吗?
女人(心烦意乱的摇摇头):可我为什么还那样苦恼呢?

男人不了解女人的特征。他不知道,专注、耐心地倾听,对女人来说是多么的重要!其实他只要扮演好聆听的角色,同时带着感激、体贴和深情。女人的倾吐,应当在他的心里引起共鸣,得到他的理解和体贴。
如果对话是以下这种情形————


女人:我公司的事情好多好多。怎么做也做不完!
男人:(暗暗地作了深呼吸):“亲爱的,你今天一定很辛苦吧?
女人:大家对我的期望这么高,希望我在短时间内改变一切!我真的不知能不能做到。
男人没说话,只是“嗯”;了一声。
女人:我今天忘了给我妈回电!
男人:(皱皱眉头):这似乎不太好
我妈如果真的出事,我很过意不去的。
男人:你是各有爱心的人,这我早就知道。亲爱的。。。到我这里来,我想抱抱你!
男人深情的拥抱了女人。在他的怀抱里,女人深深的呼出了一口气,霎时间全身放松。
女人:亲爱的,我喜欢喝你说话!我现在好多了!


其实,感到舒适的不单是女人。男人发现因他恰当的倾听,让女人快乐。他知道男人和女人的差异,就不急着给于解决方法。



那个拥抱来得真是时候,连想都觉得那么温馨。(好想也来一个哦:D)有些时候,一个小小动作, 例如一个温暖的拥抱, 胜过一万句话

SOO sweet!!*HUGZ*

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Judge urself


GOSH!I saw this on bee's blog and it's simply soo true!!Though some parts sounds a bit too 'angelic" for me!Decided to get rid of the mould on my blog and post this!!HAHA!

A Sagittarius woman lacks tact and her flat, on-the-face statements may make you feeling like running away from her. Then, suddenly, she will say something so charming that you will feel as if you are on the seventh heaven. There, you go again! You will be trapped in her charm once more. Once you have been enamored by a Sagittarius girl, you will be staying with her for a long time. She is pleasant, friendly, outspoken and very talkative. Her forthrightness comes form the fact that she has no illusions about the world.She sees it exactly as it is and says what she sees.

At times, you may wish that she were not so honest. But then, she would be like any other girl, wouldn't she? In all probability, you will not like it. A Sagittarian female is very optimistic, but she is not irrational. She will judge the entire situation as per the facts, analyze its probable outcome and still believe that things will get better. Usually, she is very calm and composed. However, when you become rude to her or offend her, she may become like the fire-spitting dragon.Sagittarius women are quite independent and love their freedom. They are attached to their family, but not too much. If you want to get something done from a Sagittarian female, just ask her; don't order. She will never ever do it. She is your better half and don't you dare forget that. On the other hand, she doesn't want a sissy for a husband or boyfriend. He has to be a real man, who has his ego and won't stand for nonsense. So, you will be expected to balance politeness with firmness.I know it's difficult - but then, since when was winning someone easy.

With a Sagittarius girl, you will never have to guess. She says what she thinks and how she acts shows what she feels. This bluntness may cost her heavily at times, even to the point of ending the relationship. Still, she would act as if she's not hurt at all and it is just one of the many harmless flirtations she's had. People will even believe all this, while inside she will be weeping and nursing her wounds. All this time, she will be analyzing what went wrong and when.

The word 'marriage' makes a Sagittarian female a little nervous and you will need to tempt her in order to make her settle down(Serious??!haha!). She is a little hard to catch and tends to be one of the boys all the time. That doesn't mean she looks or acts like a man(Very true!haha!)! Infact, she is as female as any other girl is. The society and its norms do not matter to her. She can never be the hypocrite that some people are and tend to wiggle a few tongues. Her honesty and brusqueness further add to the negative opinions.Don't be fooled by them. Look deep inside a Sagittarius female and you will find a woman who is so enthusiastic about life and who trusts easily. Infact, this extreme belief makes her heart vulnerable and defenseless. It gets broken too often, but then, she knows how to move on with life. You will be tempted to care for her. It's natural. There are hardly any people who can resist the bright and charming disposition of a Sagittarius girl. She will not be too good with money and will most probably be on the extravagant side.

She is very sentimental and emotional, though it seems otherwise. It just that, where her feelings are concerned, she becomes too shy. After marriage, your house will always remain sparkling clean, even if you don't have a maid to do that. She cannot stand sloppiness, it doesn't appeal to her sensibilities. She may not be too good at cooking, but she will also not burn your egg every day.

A Sagittarian girl may pass the most sarcastic comments when she is angry, but she will forget the resentment soon enough. Then, she won't understand why are you so upset.As a mother, she will be very friendly with the kids. Infact, she will be more of a chum, than a mom. Only, you will have to teach them to take her bluntness with a pinch of salt. Apart from that, she will be wonderful and make them as independent as she is. She will be a lovely hostess to guests and make them feel at home.

Just let her be what she is. Don't try to change her and don't curb her individuality. She will brighten your life with her optimism, boost you with loyalty, trust you blindly and shower her affection on you. She will encourage you to see dreams and help you in making them come true!

Saturday, April 05, 2008

天使

每个女孩一生出来就是个天使。
还记得那纯真笑容给多少人到来了欢乐。

随着她的成长,

女孩开始渴望,
私人空间、房子
没有父母束缚的自由。
这样别人会说“你真是幸福!

物质上的满足,
一整橱的prada, gucci, LV, Versace的衣服,包包、鞋子。
最新,最in 的IMAC.
她要一分煞人的高薪工作来供她
那么周围的人都会说“你怎么这么本事!

精神上的需求
完美、爱她的男人。
她爱不爱他是次要,
重要的是他爱她。
要换来的是朋友们“真的好羡慕你哦!”

逐渐,他那宽敞的房子变得好空,
豪华的装饰品并不能使屋子增添任何色彩。

以往无话不说的好朋友,现在一个星期sms一次都嫌麻烦。
她的心空虚,不踏实。
以往那份对事情的热情、对朋友的多一份关心、对小动物的多一份爱护
渐渐被虚荣、世故的恶魔给吞噬了。

以往单纯的笑容去了哪?

现在成了一只外表光华丽的, 内心空洞,没有翅膀的天使。

Monday, March 24, 2008

Love affair

This is call 默契!we juz took a Lulu's pic at Raffles city on Sat and that night when I was lookg at bee's Sweden pics, I saw the LULU in the snow.
Felt that tiny winy bit of sweetness well up to know that we're being missed at 1am in the morn(haha!Sweden is 7hrs different fr sg)and thousands of miles apart !

Sooo sweet!

Love affairs
This whole month, Love is IN THE AIR!!
Sooooooo many of my friends are getting attached!
So far I know of 4 NBS frens(dun ask me who:D) who just officially ended their singlehood!!
Is it just the gradauatg phobia or isit simply the season of love!!!
If it is, spread some to meeee and my jie meis!!hOHO!

sweet love♥.sharpened heart.I hate u.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/northernstarandthewhiterabbit/sets/72157600102665902/

Sunday, March 23, 2008

sinful indulgence


Menotti The Original Italian Café
252 North Bridge Road #01-17 Raffles City Shopping Centre
*Must try: SOFFIATO - S$7.90(after 10pm.all cakes 1/2price)

Thanks to Ack's recommendation...as usual(she can have her own gourmet show le:D)!!!

We had a sinful indulgence at Menotti cafe at Raffles city!

The soffiato(the cylinder cake with a hole in the middle), a warm dark choc cake

served with choc chip ice-cream.It's simply irresistable!!Trust me!

The contrast of warm and cold created the most delightful sensations on my taste buds!

Even the thought of it made me drool...

What could have made us take the risk of having ack's car clamped?Soffiato!:D

and...What else could have made me go back the next day wif my lulus, Ruu and Qiao e to the same cafe again?yes!!Soffiato!!haha!

So muz try!!



Absolute Haven

Prinsep Street (near The Cathay)

After spending the restless Good Friday afternoon at TCC (Boat Quay),trying the shift the bean bag to the most comfortable positions we can, the 4 muggers, Jojo, cw,Ack and I were craving for sth unique!So started googling for good places to eat!

Ack's recommendation..yes AGAIN!!haha!

We ended up at Absolute Haven cos it was supposed to be good!

Alrightz, ambience there is something to gush about when we 1st stepped in – neat, creative, casual.Bt we thought the sound was too contained, very noisy!!

food: the starter was nice, HOTTT spicy buffalo wings!*Finger licking good!*:D

Main course was a bit too healthy for our likely!Jojo's Fish and chips has this unique taste and overwhelming aroma.It is unique but abit too much!

I tried the chef's recommendation,Chicken Roulade ($20) – crispy, oily chicken stuffed with soft bacon and spinach. Add flavour to the chicken by dipping it in the cream sauce it comes with – thick, slightly sweet and slightly pungent. It came with a mashed avocado salad..taste really ...special.Ack's face cringed when she tried while cw was frantically searching 4 sweet avocado!haa! Overall, I will give it 3 out 5 stars.

Cw's pasta was the best so far cos ack's chicken pie tasted abit like diluted chicken curry.

And my indulgence didnt stop here...seriously i thk I'm a piggy^(00)^!! I bought 1/2 dozen of J&co donuts cos i was lured by the long queue!

I always gt this mentality, long queue=great food!The almond donut was delicious!!

The 2 whole days of indulgence has made my pocket suffer a big hole and me a ^(00)^!

Monday, March 03, 2008

Mario fanatic!

OMG!!Look at this!!!The car owner must be some Mario fanatic la,

but actually it's kinda of cool!Hmm, if I were to revamp my car, I'll
change it into a lil farm with a lil cottage grown with sunflowers.Chicks,ducklings(yah, nt chickens n ducks, too noisy:P)and sheep running all ard!haha!Bt I'll make sure I dun drive it into CBD area!too AA..muahha!





A mini mario world!!



Gosh!!Is Tt's e same car boot!!



I couldnt stop laughing while looking at all the pics,

cos it reminds me of some1...my teammate QIYU!He resembles Luigi to a similarity level of 90%!

Dun believe?!!Scroll down!Heheh..I purposely cropped the cap out and paste it on his pic...it looks good huh!haha!Better dun let him see this!









Sunday, March 02, 2008

Exciting term break!!!


wOOhh..2 new experiences,2 exciting days!
1st time attending a 21st birthday on a yacht at Sentosa cove.
1st time being a facilitator for a corporate company with MAD.The yacht
Ah bee's party marked the last 21st party for the 86batch, Vian's party marked the 1st for the 85th batch!Hmm...that means, bee been in Sweden for almost 3mths le!Attached to a handsome SBC! envious ah..:D
Missing her lots!^(00)^
The journey to Vian's 21st party at Sentosa cove was no easy task!That place is wat I call ulu but it gona be the next BIG thing in 2010!!We took the normal bus fr harbour Front into Sentosa only to be told tat we should have taken another bus tt goes directly into Sentosa cove.So changed to yellow line and waited for the blue bus (nt the Sentosa blue line,it's an internal shuttle) for 20mintues..no luck, grew really pek chek!!

At his pt, a black jeep pulled up beside us and the pretty lady driver asked whether we need a ride.Of cos we said yes!!Tt mt,We really wanted to give her a hug.Like wat Jl said, this simple gesture of the Information and comm manager, Bernette had made 7 ppl forget abt all the unpleasant exper they had before that. She had made them love Sentosa, love Singapore services...isnt it simply heart warming?

Beautiful night scenery 1 of the rooms with double-deck beds

The night view at the dock, the delicious fd and the comfortable beds of the yacht just added on the great night...sitting on front of the boat, enjoying the sea breeze. Playing mj on the rocking boat, the stupid act of fighting for the last longan from the dessert tray cant beat the xperience of dragging the drunk Vian fr the toilet bowl!The whole toilet bowl shifted cos she refused to let go!hahaha!!bt at last we managed to get her onto the bed!


Love the floorballers!


Facilitating job

Facilitated a day programme for MOE HQ officers under MAD!Guess wat we did?? build sandcastles!!! 10 huge and solid ones linked together with a great wall of China!!When I 1st heard it, I was clapping with joy la!ohh..bt the joy didnt last long, cos our job was to help build the bases for the sandcastles. Which involved shovellg, mixing the sand with water and piling them up into huge foundations!

Just try picturing those bangahs at the construction site mixing cements!!YES!We looked just like them just without safety helmets!My back nearly broke from the shovellg and carryg of the huge buckets of water!Hy's finger became purpleish after all that!But nonetheless,had lots of fun laming with e fun bunch of MAD facil. Lookg at how much fun those mostly almost 30yrs old participants were having mixing and piling sand, was quite fun too!!HOHO!



I never knew mousetraps could be so fun!!They used the authentic mousetraps 4 a teambondg game.U know those kind that snapped with a very loud "piak" and ur whole thumb swells immediately if it get trapped.Ouch!! soo it was quite a hilarious sight lookg at MOE officers screaming and jumping, while the participants tried to stack up a 4 lvls high tower becos the traps deactivate, snap and fly as when they drop.Of cos there' s trick to it!Huiyi and I were praying that it wot slap when we did the demo,heng ah... they didnt!!

MAD fed us well, and I mean really well!:D 4meals including a $14 fried rice for lunch, beer during debrief and even gt fd to dabao home!haha!Have to admit they're very welcomg to new crew and certainly make u feel like one of them very fast.Pay is nt bad either!hehe!