Deactivate

In an attempt to stop myself from following facebook updates of people I don't even care about, I decided to deactivate my facebook account.

Well, apparently "deactivate" is different from "delete". When you "delete", your whole account vanishes from the face of this earth. When you "deactivate", you simply make yourself invisible to the facebook world, but your account still exists. And get this, the moment you log in again, you're back on facebook, like nothing's ever changed. I mean, then why in the world have a "deactivate" option???

My whole purpose of deactivating was to create barriers for myself to get back on again, without the loss of friends/photos/info added by friends or myself. I can't bring myself to totally delete the account because some part of me already lives on facebook.

But with no barriers at all when my fingers assume a life of their own and type my email add and password to try (yes, just trying) to log in again? No extra dialogue boxes to fill out personal particulars again? No "if you deactivate your account 3 times it'll get deleted by the administrators" warning?

I mean, seriously, what is the point of the "deactivate" option?

It just doesn't make sense.

Birthday

Today I turn 31. As I lay in bed, sick with a bout of what I think should be gastric flu, I turn contemplative. Last night I received a surprise bouquet of flowers from two friends, and I was so touched I almost cried. Four years ago, I would have commented that the flowers were a waste of money because they would simply wilt and die in a matter of days. Practical me, with practical wants. Today, my heart leaps at embracing that short moment of beauty and spontaneity. A moment in time that words cannot capture, but only the heart can feel and appreciate. Sick with gastric flu, yes. I still couldn't resist the urge to walk over and smell the scent of the white lilies. I hope it lingers a while more...

Men

Jack Neo saga is the rage these days. Just waiting for woman #30 to make her appearance, ala Tiger Woods. Heard from somewhere that Jack's been appointed to make some movie for the Fathers For Life movement. Well, if that happens, it would be mockery.

We were having lunch at the office pantry a couple of days back, and my colleague shared that how children view their fathers is linked to how they see their fathers treat their own wives. Really, you could be such an involved father with the kids, but when the kids see your unfaithfulness to your own wife, how do you think they will see you? You really can't separate the two.

And then, we talked about how the Jack Neo saga has led many women to start warning their men to behave. Misbehave, and we will walk out on you - with the kids. My colleague said with a laugh, women always start with a threat right? I totally agree and I would do that too. Trust, once broken, can never be rebuilt.

The number of stories I hear of unfaithful men just keeps going up. Men, is it that difficult to stay faithful? To women, I say, protect yourselves.