I wasn't going to post this but what the heck. Everyone has their ups and their downs, so let it all hang out.....................................Yesterday.........................
HIM coming in from getting the mail after a long day at work looking at what came……………….
HIM: I didn’t know you had a bank account in only your name.
HER: I think that it’s the property account for San Jose.
HIM: Just in your name?
HER: Yeah, why?
HIM: Why is it your name alone?
HER: Uh, cause I opened it that way?
HIM: Well how many accounts do we have?
HER: Well, we have the regular checking, the savings, and the property account.
HIM: So all the accounts are under both our names except for the property account? Why?
HER: I think I opened it that way almost 20 years ago when we moved to Modesto and I rented the house out in San Jose. That’s why.
HIM: So you opened it in your name only?
HER: So what’s wrong with that? I’m the one who handles the property account and I wanted to keep it separate from the other accounts.
HIM: I can’t believe this, I thought we had everything together?
HER: Uh….we do, don’t we? I mean what’s the big deal. I have other accounts in the credit union under my name alone that I used when I was doing real estate, you never said anything about that.
HIM: Yeah but this is for the house in San Jose and I don’t have access to that account? What if something happens? How will I have access to the account?
HER: It has been this way since we moved here. I’ve made the payments for the house when the rent was mailed and taken care of whatever costs with that account and you question it now, when the house has now sold? The only monies in there were for the house payment and petty cash. Once it closes escrow, I’ll cancel the account, close it out. What’s the problem?
HIM: I can’t believe it! I thought everything was in both our names.
HER: I have a right to have accounts in my OWN name. I bought the house in San Jose so I have a right to have the account under just my name. You were at work when I opened the account so that's one reason your name is not there, you are the beneficiary.
On and on and on and when will it end. So you thought I didn’t have any problems at all did you? Well a night has passed and the silent treatment has begun and what the heck did I do wrong.
I wonder what this means, do you have any idea? Could it be greediness kicking in? Not on my part, that’s for sure.
It too shall pass, so I worry not. What will be, will be. I'm actually smiling right now because it's rather silly to be upset about something that I think is so trivial. If I turned the tables I would probably have told him, well you could have let me know that the account was only in your name. At least that way I would have been aware of it. Actually I did say that to him, but by now he was seething with what looked like greed to me. I can't believe that after 27 years I see greed in this man. How UNFASHIONABLE of him. lol.