Tuesday, March 14, 2023

Elle Woods!

The Profound Characterization of Elle Woods in Legally Blonde

by Annalise Jones


Legally Blonde is one of the most clever films of the early twenty-first century. But this is more than a funny movie just to get a laugh; the literary elements in Legally Blonde are striking! There's conflict, irony, symbolism and meaningful themes we can all relate to. But most remarkably, this film portrays a brilliant character arc of Elle Woods. Elle Woods is an unforgettable character, making Legally Blonde a timeless story and worthy piece of literature.


The story begins with Elle Woods as a brainless college student majoring in fashion. She lives up to every stereotype about blondes! And for this reason, her boyfriend dumps her, in search of a more serious "politician's wife." Elle Woods is well characterized as a love sick puppy, willing to do just anything to win back the affections of Warner.


As Elle studies diligently and gets accepted into Harvard Law in her fierce determination to win back the boy, she proves herself to be deeper than we first thought. Although she still wears pink every day and carries around her companion pup, she is intelligent and insightful. 


Elle also proves herself to be a true friend, and compassionate to those not "in her league." As somebody very misunderstood herself, she holds no prejudice against those less than her. She is loving and kind to Paulette, the hairdresser, encouraging her and backing her up in her time of need.


Having shown her work ethic and creative thinking, Elle is chosen for a special internship. But then she really gets put to the test: will she hold her head high when the shallow head attorney shames and resents her, even firing her unfairly? And will she betray the trust of the client, the defendant in the case? Once again, Elle proves herself to have depth of character: poise, confidence, loyalty, and integrity.


The ultimate test of Elle's character, and the triumph of her character arc, comes when she is sought after once again by a humbled Warner. This is what she has been determined to achieve, her focus for the previous couple years, the very reason she went to law school in the first place! But during this time, she has learned so much about herself and grown in her confidence, that she can now stand solidly on her own two feet and be with associates who truly respect her as an intelligent woman who has much to contribute. So she rejects him! Way to go, girl!


Elle is a kind, caring woman who helps a lower class beautician find her confidence; but ironically enough, it was Elle herself who needed to establish her confidence all along. The victory of Elle Woods is portrayed in the irony that her "blondeness" actually doesn't preclude her from being a worthwhile, rich character; and the further irony of her rejection of the boyfriend she did all this for, serves to validate her intelligence all the more. 


Through the course of the story, Elle Woods makes some significant changes and shows so much growth. But her kind and tender heart, and her quick wit and practical intelligence were there all along. She is an unforgettable character in modern American literature.

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Sunday, January 24, 2021

Men, stewardships, and spirituality

When I became a Mom, my relationship with my own mom became stronger as we shared that bond, United in that experience of the feminine. 


I was reflecting on that today as I witnessed my son have a similar rite of passage, of manhood, with my husband. They both blessed the sacrament together for the first time. It was so sweet and I was touched by this beautiful experience of the masculine. 


Without the Priesthood, I can't think of what masculine activity they would call their own. My husband doesn't build or do "manly" projects with his hands—he has nothing of that sort to share and pass down to his sons.


But he has the Priesthood, and that is his experience of manhood to pass down to his sons.


I'm so thankful for the priesthood and I'm so Thankful that these keys and offices have been entrusted to men. I think it's important for them. It's a push, a reason for then to heighten then spiritual awareness and soften their hearts to service that doesn't come naturally to most men, the way it does for women. I've seen men in my life become much more than they would be on their own, when entrusted with this sacred responsibility of service and love. 

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Thursday, April 09, 2020

Enduring Trials Until Happiness Arrives

April 9, 2019

In 2 Nephi 5:27, Nephi reports that he and his people are now living after the manner of happiness.

At this point, the Nephites have finally been separated from the Lamanites.

The ceaseless attempts to take Nephi's life have stopped.

They have found a permanent dwelling place and have begun to build a city.

There is an abundance of gold and silver.

And Nephi is the King (he said he didn't want to be, but he is still the leader regardless).

....Yeah that sounds pretty happy to me!😆😆 I have no problem with this whatsoever. 

The fact is, Nephi wrote about his happy lifestyle AFTER his problems were gone. Nowhere in the Book of Mormon does it say he was happy during all the crap.

The truth is, something life STINKS. And we are anything but happy. 

I recently spent a 3-4 weeks mostly in bed crying, absolutely drained, unable to eat, exhausted and devoid of life, recovering from the most traumatic and heartbreaking experience I've yet to endure. 

I'll be the first to admit that sometimes "the manner of happiness" seems hopelessly out of reach. 

I know some of you feel this way, too.

Life has a way of sneaking up when we think everything is mostly okay, and throwing us on the floor, and stomping on us with glee.

Guess who else felt this way? 

Nephi.

For Nephi, the happiness came after the refining period. Or perhaps we can say, the happiness came only BECAUSE he had previously undergone a whole lotta crap in his life. 

(Because I know some Kings who have plenty of gold and silver, and they aren't happy. It's not the riches that make you happy. It's the relief and the comfort only in comparison to what you have previously known. It's the realization of promised blessings for which he valiantly endured to see.)

If you could have had a conversation with Nephi when he was tied up on a ship for three days, starved and beaten, I don't think he would have said "Hey let's look on the bright side of this! I'm just gonna choose to be happy anyway!" No. The scriptures never say that.

If you could have visited Nephi when he was wearing the bloody garments of an evil man whom he has just been commanded to kill against his will, and then the only remaining logical thing to do was to kidnap the witness, I don't think he would have said "This is peachy! I'm so happy!" (No, I think he felt just as yucky on the inside as he felt on the outside in those bloody clothes! Sometimes doing the work of God is yucky—but that's a post for another day.)

No, I don't think Nephi was happy.

You know what I think? I think he was TIRED. I think he lay awake at night worrying about his wounds and would they heal? Or worrying about his next meal, or how much longer he could remain safe, or how to comfort his wife, or whether the hearts of his brethren would ever be permanently softened, or when the promised blessings would EVER COME. 

Rinse and repeat, for EIGHT YEARS.

Guys, Nephi wasn't a Pollyanna. 

But Nephi was a hero. 

Nephi was an excellent example of what to do in times of trial. How did he react to these hardships? No, he didn't say "Life is peachy! Let's pretend everything is okay!" But he DID...

•Continue to praise the Lord
•Continue to trust the Lord
•Continue to obey
•Seek revelation 
•Avoid exaggeration and dwelling on the negative 
•Forgive (frankly)
•Serve when everyone else moaned
•Journal
•Study the scriptures
•Give himself pep talks

That last one might be my favorite 😁😁

(Bonus points to anyone who can find the references for each of those!)

In this recent stint of depression I went through, I did NOT have joy. In fact, I listened to Pres Nelson's talk "Joy and Spiritual Survival" and it didn't resonate with me ONE BIT. 

No, I didn't have joy.

...But I had MEANING.

I didn't have joy, but I prayed every day. I talked to God continually about what I was going through. I cried out to Him for comfort, for lessons and growth. I sought revelation and was taught sacred things. I journaled. I ugly cried as I ugly journaled (scribbling out raw emotions and brain dumping every single negative thing that comes to mind!)

...And I felt the LOVE of my Heavenly Father like never before. 

As I battled every accusation and negative comment that others said about me (real and imaginary), my Heavenly Father expressed His unending love and approval. I knew His opinion of me, and I had to let go of everyone else's (still working on that...maybe a lifetime pursuit).

As I battled difficult truths from my entire life story, He reassured me "There is a reason for this."

As I battled my humiliation and loneliness, He told me "You are never alone. And you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of."

"You are a chosen daughter."
"I'm with you all the way."
"These things will be made right. You will receive the things you've longed for."

My suffering became very sacred. Why? Because my relationship with God is sacred. My life lessons are sacred. Growth is sacred. Communion is sacred. 

And there's no better way to achieve these things than to go through a bunch of crap!

I believe that Nephi knows about this. I believe that Nephi was prepared in the furnace of affliction so that he could lead his people. He was a King in the making, and boy, the growing pains of a King can be royally painful. 

And so I leave you with just one question: 

Do you intend to be royalty one day?

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2 Nephi 8
11 Therefore, the redeemed of the Lord shall return, and come with singing unto Zion; and everlasting joy and holiness shall be upon their heads; and they shall obtain gladness and joy; sorrow and mourning shall flee away.
12 I am he; yea, I am he that comforteth you
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Friday, February 14, 2020

Be Intentional in Associations

I completely agree that it makes such a profound difference to surround ourselves with positive influence. How do we balance this concept with reaching out to those who are struggling, or not on a high vibe? I strongly feel that "inspired" or "high vibe" people should not abandon them. For me, I need to firstly be aware of who is who, and then be aware of the ratio, and then be aware of who are the necessary sheep for me to be involved with and which ones I can trust to someone else's care (whom they will find on their own). 

Also, separate from ministering, sometimes we attract a certain social circle. We need to be aware of our limiting beliefs and why we might be doing so. Several years back, I found myself surrounded by idle, "drama queen" or otherwise low-vibe type of friends. After a lot of drama with a string of these friends in a row, I asked myself "Why am I friends with these people? Why am I attracting them?" and received the answer that I needed to work on my self esteem and gain the spiritual knowledge that I was worthy of good company. So I prayed for this. There was one woman in particular that I desired a friendship with—I even referred to her as "out of my league." But I started making some efforts and before long we had a great friendship and I was even able to mentor her in business matters (imagine that! I had something to offer to someone who was "out of my league"!) and from then on, all the low-vibe people fell out of my life and I continued to attract more wonderful, inspiring friends. It completely changed me!

Some of us who are overly compassionate just need to be aware of our own tendencies to surround ourself with people we feel sorry for, in the name of "helping" them, but all we are doing is feeding our own limiting belief of our low self worth. Contrary to our belief, that really isn't a high vibration to offer them. Pity is not a service for anybody. Form friendships with people you truly respect and admire. Stretch yourself and make some contacts with people who are out of your league, and pray to know you're worthy to be their associate. 

...and then continue to serve and love those who are less fortunate ❤️❤️ ... in ways that actually benefit the both of you. Find ways to respect and admire them sincerely—after all, we all have Divinity within us. But draw the boundary before it begins to sap you! You will know by how you feel after you've been around them. A true service—true compassion—will lift you and bring you closer to the Spirit. So even if the person themself isn't inspiring, the Spirit of true, appropriate service will be!
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Creation and Rest

My son had a sick day yesterday and spent it lying on the couch. Today he told me he felt like he wasted a day because he didn't do anything. I responded "Rest is not a waste! Your body accomplished so much today!"

Secondly, I had a conversation with someone recently about how it's normal and good to experience some downtime after a surge of creation. This may be physical creation such as childbirth or any mental, social, emotional exertion. It's okay for us to withdraw from a project or a relationship and take a break. In 2018 I was super busy with a couple highly involved projects. And with both projects, I felt it come to an end, and it was OK to let it go.

After God created the Earth, He rested. Even God needs downtime! Rest and recuperation is a Divine concept.

And then a third witness came to me today, a friend sharing on Facebook about   stillness. How important it is to stop our busy energy and just be still! 

Rest can be taken one day out of the week, or a weeklong vacation out of the year, or a morning meditation each day. For me, with children, my best bet is smaller, more frequent blocks. Like 5 minutes every hour, just turn the noise off and breathe. But I think we need to work all of these variations in. 

Another thing to ponder is that we have multiple components to ourself and they all need rest in different ways or different seasons. Sometimes we might even build one aspect of our lives in order to rest from a different one—such as working out to get a break from studying, or the opposite, reading a book to get a break from physical activity! Sometimes we need to take a break from our internal world and go be with people; other times we need to push pause on our social life and spend some time alone.

Also, being reminded of this concept allowed me to have grace for myself since I haven't been as "productive" as I like to be in a while. I'm like my little boy saying "Ugh all I did this last year was lay around growing a baby and now caring for her. I feel like I got nothing done!" And I need to remember, you got plenty done and you are doing something amazing. 

A time and a season for everything. Make sure to get those seasons of rest and stillness, whatever that might look like for you.
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Tuesday, April 09, 2019

After the Manner of Happiness (part 2)

Yesterday I wrote about "living after the manner of happiness," and making the best out of circumstances you cannot control. However, I admitted to taking the verse out of context. So today I have a different message—a different interpretation—that may be more accurate.

But this is not the rosy interpretation. You've been warned.

In 2 Nephi 5:27, Nephi reports that he and his people are now living after the manner of happiness.

At this point, the Nephites have finally been separated from the Lamanites.

The ceaseless attempts to take Nephi's life have stopped.

They have found a permanent dwelling place and have begun to build a city.

There is an abundance of gold and silver.

And Nephi is the King (he said he didn't want to be, but he is still the leader regardless).

....Yeah that sounds pretty happy to me!😆😆 I have no problem with this whatsoever. 

The fact is, Nephi wrote about his happy lifestyle AFTER his problems were gone. Nowhere in the Book of Mormon does it say he was happy during all the crap.

The truth is, something life STINKS. And we are anything but happy. 

I recently spent a 3-4 weeks mostly in bed crying, absolutely drained, unable to eat, exhausted and devoid of life, recovering from the most traumatic and heartbreaking experience I've yet to endure. 

I'll be the first to admit that sometimes "the manner of happiness" seems hopelessly out of reach. 

I know some of you feel this way, too.

Life has a way of sneaking up when we think everything is mostly okay, and throwing us on the floor, and stomping on us with glee.

Guess who else felt this way? 

Nephi.

For Nephi, the happiness came after the refining period. Or perhaps we can say, the happiness came only BECAUSE he had previously undergone a whole lotta crap in his life. 

(Because I know some Kings who have plenty of gold and silver, and they aren't happy. It's not the riches that make you happy. It's the relief and the comfort only in comparison to what you have previously known. It's the realization of promised blessings for which he valiantly endured to see.)

If you could have had a conversation with Nephi when he was tied up on a ship for three days, starved and beaten, I don't think he would have said "Hey let's look on the bright side of this! I'm just gonna choose to be happy anyway!" No. The scriptures never say that.

If you could have visited Nephi when he was wearing the bloody garments of an evil man whom he has just been commanded to kill against his will, and then the only remaining logical thing to do was to kidnap the witness, I don't think he would have said "This is peachy! I'm so happy!" (No, I think he felt just as yucky on the inside as he felt on the outside in those bloody clothes! Sometimes doing the work of God is yucky—but that's a post for another day.)

No, I don't think Nephi was happy.

You know what I think? I think he was TIRED. I think he lay awake at night worrying about his wounds and would they heal? Or worrying about his next meal, or how much longer he could remain safe, or how to comfort his wife, or whether the hearts of his brethren would ever be permanently softened, or when the promised blessings would EVER COME. 

Rinse and repeat, for EIGHT YEARS.

Guys, Nephi wasn't a Pollyanna. 

But Nephi was a hero. 

Nephi was an excellent example of what to do in times of trial. How did he react to these hardships? No, he didn't say "Life is peachy! Let's pretend everything is okay!" But he DID...

•Continue to praise the Lord
•Continue to trust the Lord
•Continue to obey
•Seek revelation 
•Avoid exaggeration and dwelling on the negative 
•Forgive (frankly)
•Serve when everyone else moaned
•Journal
•Study the scriptures
•Give himself pep talks

That last one might be my favorite 😁😁

(Bonus points to anyone who can find the references for each of those!)

In this recent stint of depression I went through, I did NOT have joy. In fact, I listened to Pres Nelson's talk "Joy and Spiritual Survival" and it didn't resonate with me ONE BIT. 

No, I didn't have joy...But I had MEANING.

But I prayed every day. I talked to God continually about what I was going through. I cried out to Him for comfort, for lessons and growth. I sought revelation and was taught sacred things. I journaled. I ugly cried as I ugly journaled (scribbling out raw emotions and brain dumping every single negative thing that comes to mind!)

...And I felt the LOVE of my Heavenly Father like never before. 

As I battled every accusation and negative comment that others said about me (real and imaginary), my Heavenly Father expressed His unending love and approval. I knew His opinion of me, and I had to let go of everyone else's (still working on that...maybe a lifetime pursuit).

As I battled difficult truths from my entire life story, He reassured me "There is a reason for this."

As I battled my humiliation and loneliness, He told me "You are never alone. And you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of."

"You are a chosen daughter."
"I'm with you all the way."
"These things will be made right. You will receive the things you've longed for."

My suffering became very sacred. Why? Because my relationship with God is sacred. My life lessons are sacred. Growth is sacred. Communion is sacred. 

And there's no better way to achieve these things than to go through a bunch of crap!

I believe that Nephi knows about this. I believe that Nephi was prepared in the furnace of affliction so that he could lead his people. He was a King in the making, and boy, the growing pains of a King can be royally painful. 

And so I leave you with just one question: 

Do you intend to be royalty one day?
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Monday, April 08, 2019

After the Manner of Happiness (part 1)

This morning when my "plans" were (not unusually) interrupted by kids with sudden, bright ideas, I found myself reflecting on "living after the manner of happiness" (2 Nephi 5:27). 

I've always found that verse fairly vague—any meaning you derive from that is your own interpretation .... So here's mine.

*For me,* it sounds like a mental lifestyle. It sounds like making small choices within the small confines of what I can control. For me, I'm happiest when I don't have much of a calendar and I'm able to fly by the seat of my pants. 

Or should I say, my kids pants?

You never know what energetic, brilliant, creative kids (who are home with you all day!) are going to throw at you. You just can't predict ANYTHING. I can't predict when I'll get a chance to shower, or when I can respond to a text, or when I'll have a quiet window to do some personal study. I can't predict when the toddler will allow us to do a read aloud. I can't predict when my older kids might suddenly decide to follow instructions previously given multiple times. I can't predict my own moods or energy levels, which flunctuate far more often than I'd like to admit. And to top it off, I have no idea when my husband will be home (and checked in with us).

This is not all complaint. To some extent this delights me. I am NOT one for schedules and boring, mundane days on end. I enjoy spontaneity and making a supportive place for my kids' (or MY—let's be honest) big ideas (which sometimes need to happen TODAY!)  

Today the big ideas were: a mother-daughter jog in the park; making homemade bread and selling it to the neighbors; and memorizing 2 monologues by this afternoon, to prove that the double load can be handled. Plus whatever the three year old comes up with on a moments notice, whether it be doing the dishes, or inviting the chickens into the house, trying on a dozen outfits, or bathing a pet rabbit (there is no such thing as a tidy activity for this girl). Somewhere in there I hope to see some showers and chores but with this crowd, you never know. Maybe after 15 reminders.

I have chosen to unschool 4 children who all have some sort of mental/emotional challenge. That makes for a very busy, crazy life! Structure is not a forte in our house, but creativity is. A clean house is very rare, but excitement and ideas abound daily! Emotions in our family are rarely even keel, but we pick up the pieces and learn from each other.

For someone like me, living after the manner of happiness means controlling my stress level, remaining flexible, and minimizing my calendar (as well as expectations) so that there can be a POSSIBILITY of joy *within these circumstances.*

Living after the manner of happiness is the difference between being stressed, frustrated, and resentful, or being excited, goofy and thrilled—in this exact scenario either way!

To some degree, Nephi and his family had to learn to roll with the punches. Living in the wilderness (and having his life continually threatened)*, they could not afford to have high expectations for much of anything. But they needed to find joy in the journey regardless. They needed to focus on what they COULD control, to make room for the tiresome journey to be seen as an adventure, or as an investment for wonderful times ahead, or what have you!

Life is full of inconveniences, disappointments and frustrations. How can we work within those given confines, within our current circumstances, to make it a more positive and joyful experience?


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*I'm not being exact with the timing and placement of the "manner of happiness" verse, but I'm making a point so give me some grace 
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Monday, February 11, 2019

He that is greatest among you

Scriptures can sometimes be ambiguous and lead way to confusion, misinterpretation, and ultimately a weakening of faith. In Sunday school today we discussed the fall of Adam and Eve, and I was particularly struck with this "curse" (actually a blessing) that was given to Eve: "He shall rule over thee" (Gen 3:16)

Adam is to rule over Eve, in Righteousness. She is to look to Him as He looks to the Father.

The world has gone is a tailspin with misunderstanding over what it means for a man to "rule" over a woman. Admittedly, to "rule" is a bit of a trigger word for many of us, but that is because we associate it with examples of unrighteousness ruling. Adam was (and all husbands and ecclesiastical leaders are) commanded to rule in righteousness. 

To understand what is meant to rule, we need to think no further than the Great Ruler is the Universe himself. Is He a dictator? Does he rule with an iron fist? No, rather He is kind, patient, gentle and loving. But I would go even further and say proper Righteous ruling is more than a nice demeanor. 

Matthew 23:11 says "He that is greatest among you shall be your servant."

Ruling is about serving!!!!

The Lord Jesus Christ says himself, "Behold this is my work and my glory, to bring to pass the eternal life and immortality of man." His reign as ruler is not measured in conquest or domination; it is 100% measured in serving us, lifting us up, and giving us life and joy. 

This is exactly what the Priesthood itself is. Like Ammon, who technically had Priesthood stewardship over King Lamoni, said to him, "I will be thy servant" (Alma 17:25) and spent his days in Lamoni's fields without pay. 

Likewise, all Priesthood holders from the deacon to the living prophet are servants, and do not receive any pay or glory for their leadership. The men who hold the priesthood lead by essentially making themselves subservient to the women and others they preside over, often sacrificing many hours a week in servitude.

King Benjamin is another great example of righteous ruling. In Mosiah 2:10-16 he explains,

"I have not commanded you to come up hither that ye should fear me, or that ye should think that I of myself am more than a mortal man. But I am like as yourselves, subject to all manner of infirmities in body and mind; yet I have been chosen...that I should be a ruler and a king over this people; and have been kept and preserved by his matchless power, to serve you with all the might, mind and strength which the Lord hath granted unto me.

"I say unto you that as I have been suffered to spend my days in your service, even up to this time, and have not sought gold nor silver nor any manner of riches of you...and even I, myself, have labored with mine own hands that I might serve you, and that ye should not be laden with taxes, and that there should nothing come upon you which was grievous to be borne--and of all these things which I have spoken, ye yourselves are witnesses this day.

"Yet, my brethren, I have not done these things that I might boast, neither do I tell these things that thereby I might accuse you; but I tell you these things that ye may know that I can answer a clear conscience before God this day. Behold, I say unto you that because I said unto you that I had spent my days in your service, I do not desire to boast, for I have only been in the service of God."

From these examples you can plainly see that ruling in righteousness means serving. And what woman wouldn't want a man humbly serving her, looking out for her best interest, working for her gain, providing her temporal needs, supporting her emotionally and leading her spiritually? God says "my house is a house of order," and stewardship is clearly the proper order of righteousness. 

I hope this helps you see that being "ruled over" is not something to be feared or fought against. To desire otherwise would be to desire anarchy, and essentially, to have no God. For God is ruling over us, which is 100% a blessing and solid support to our eternal welfare. Anything following that model is likewise a blessing. 

I am so thankful for my husband, who is my servant, who is humble, gentle and very generous. His service lifts me up and enables me to become something beyond my own abilities—the mark of a righteous ruler, without fail.

In conclusion I would like to point out that when scriptures are ambiguous and we don't quite grasp how the words can be a good thing, we have the opportunity to make a choice: we can either follow the world's interpretation which usually stirs us up to anger and contention, or we can seek further light and knowledge and ask Heavenly Father what it truly means. Confusion is not a fruit of the spirit. I know that when we are meek and teachable, when our hearts are softened, we can experience peace with anything in the gospel that is difficult to understand. Peace and reassurance is the fruit of the spirit; I have felt this in my own life, and I know that the Lord wants us to gain knowledge and have this peace, an increase of joy, and a strengthened testimony.

I chose this picture because it shows the King and his Crown of abasement. He is humble and never self seeking. He is a true King, a true Ruler and Servant.
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