As our first year together is about to conclude I wanted to record some of the lessons I have learned since embarking on this incredible journey. I wanted to make sure I documented these new treasures for myself and my children.
1. Joy and Love- My understanding of what joy and love are has deepened tremendously. I have always known what it means to be happy, but to feel real joy has been an new experience for me. For me, joy is a moment of such supernal happiness of a fire that warms my entire being. I can hardly contain it for I feel like I am radiating. It is something that touches the very nature of the human race, that elevates us to a greater state of being. This joy is found in loving my sweet heart when I am able to find a way to serve him to some how lift his burdens. When I serve him, I find that my love for him is strengthened and expanded. At times I have thought, how could I ever be any happier or love my sweetheart any more then I do now, but somehow these feelings continue to grow. Serving together in the temple is place where both joy and love are felt. I feel so close to God, that I can not help but to be lifted up to higher state of being. Knowing that my husband and I will never be separated, even by death, causes my very soul to sing praises unto God and fill my heart with unspeakable joy.
2. Knowing Spouse- Before we were married, I felt I knew Randy well, that there couldn't be that much more that I didn't know. But boy was I wrong. I have just begun to scratched the surface of this amazing man. Almost every day I learn a little bit more about his likes, dislikes, dreams, fears, desires, his strengths and his weakness. The more I learn about him, the more I fall in love with him. This is one of the things that makes marriage exciting- continuing to learn more about each other and grow better together.
3. Marriage is Hard - Being married is the hardest thing I have ever done, but it is worth it! Some days are difficult and I wonder why did I ever decide to do this. However I have learned that if I can put off the little mistakes and often imagined offenses and remember the real WHY the little silly disagreements disappear into nothingness. They are nothing in comparison to the love, joy, peace, and fulfillment that comes from being together with my best friend.
4. Working Together- I have found that spending time together resolving different types of issues from house shopping, to picking out a mattress, to picking up a million pounds of hay, to helping friends, is a great and important way to strengthen a relationship. Not only do you learn more about the other persons likes or dislikes, but it gives you another chance to spend time together as a couple. We can accomplish so much more together then we ever could apart in all aspects of life.
5. Mind Reading - Randy cannot read my mind. I have to remind myself of this daily, and often more then once. Although he is quite in tune with my mood and thoughts some of the time, it is NOT ALL of the time. I am constantly reminding myself that as wonderful as my husband is he does not instinctively know all the things that I want him to do or not do. I have to TELL HIM and not become instantly upset when he at first does not realize how important something is to me.
