Rop Ferendez (Humanity)

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Tuesday, July 07, 2009

I just feel like posting a topic today.
It's with regards to my parents.
And also my Brother aka Mentor taught me as well.
It's quoted from Prophet Muhhammad (pbuh).
Not really quote, but just the information.

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Remember the Triple Sevens.

Well, not the Jackpot.
But Remember the Triple Sevens.
In raising your child.

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From the time when he's born till he's Seven.

Give him/her unconditional love.
Don't make them feel hurt or sad.
Refrain from scolding them.
Be with them whenever you can.
Remember, Unconditional Love.

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From the age of Seven to the age of Fourteen.
If they disobey you, reason with them.
If they still disobey you, hit them.

But only with the strength of your two fingers.
Two Fingers.
Still, love them.

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From the age of Fourteen to the age of Twenty-One.
Be a friend to them, much less of a parent.
Don't block their flow of creativities.
Let them express themselves.
Don't just say "Yes", or "No".
Let them think.

Offer them into a small discussion.
Let them think, let them think, and let them think.
Give them both moral and physical support.
Maybe to the extent of financial support as well.
Reason with them more, let them think.
And still, Love them.

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Share an unbreakable bond.

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Everything needs to be in a system, an Orderly manner.
You shouldn't put step 2 first and then step 1 last.
That's why most parents are teaching their kids "Wrongly".
Kids shut their "Door of Trust" tightly against their parents.

Simply, let me put my analogy here.

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When a kid is born till he's Seven.
Love him unconditionally.
Let him make mistakes.
Don't punish him, let him be (to a certain extent).
And, Love him Unconditionally.
His Door of Trust will naturally be opened.

When he's Seven to he's Fourteen.
If he disobey, reason with him.
If he still disobey, beat him.
But only with the strength of Two Fingers.
And Love him still.
By stating reasons to him, he will understand things better.
And beat him so that he won't commit mistakes again.
His Door of Trust will quiver slightly, but however...
Little pain with more reasoning, can be a trusty servant.

When he's Fourteen to Twenty-One.
Be a Friend.
Offer him into discussions.
Support him whenever possible.
His Door of Trust will definitely, maintain, and grow overtime with you.

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It's quite a way to maintain great ties with your parents.
But I guess whenever I voice my opinions, my parents just shut me down.
How I wish they could love me in a proper way.

Sometimes, I just blame my tradition and my racial cultures.
In a way, it affects my bloodline of generations before me.
Which incorporated to conservative-ness, and traditional thinkings.

Despite saying these, it's what makes the world different from one another.
God makes different communities, not for us to discriminate differences among ourselves.
But more of sharing ideas with one another.
Which makes life interesting.

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My father told me that I should have a Girlfriend, Career...
and when I eventually have a Family,
that's when I should think of my Religion.

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But right now, I confirmed that.
I should have a Religion as my base - a strong Foundation.
So that I could build these essential Pillars of my life.
And my religion is more than a religion...
It's a deen.
It's the way of life.
My way of life.

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Credits : FlickR, Yahoo.
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When I have my kid one day...
I know what to do...

A strong Father-Son bond.

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Assalamualaikum.
May my family be a better and stronger bond within us.
May you, too.

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Diary @ ~~7/07/2009 02:07:00 AM;~~

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

I'm afraid that I'm in this ride alone.
No one telling me what to do.
Have little direction towards my destination.

No Man is an Island - a song my secondary school's choir sang before.
I don't have many friends who can stand by my side on this matter.
I don't know how long I can withstand it alone.

Though I know that I'm not alone...
It seems like there's no physical support from people around me.
Not so much of moral support as well.

Somehow I do wish there's someone beside me that can re-enforce what I'm learning.
Like a helpless bird in the sky, flying and flying.
Can't seek of a place to build a nest in peace.

I'm worried that I'm too spiritually active that I've become spiritually tired as well.
It's hard to strike out balance between my physical-self and my spiritual-self.

One part of me is striving towards my destiny.
And the other part is holding me back to prevent misery to my loved ones.
Either way, I'll lose.
I either give up what I'm pursuing, or they give in to what I wanna pursue.

Every choice requires sacrifice(s), it's whether these sacrifices are worth it.
I'm stuck up in a Dilemma.

I need someone to guide me. Really.
A brother, or a teacher.
Simply, a Mentor.

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Less than a month to National Service.
I'm not looking forward to it.
Because I'm afraid that I will be the only one in the ride for the two years.
It's scary about the unknown.

Whatever I've just said here, I'm just ranting out my problems.
Now that I've typed them out in words, at least I know how to tackle them slowly.
Hope that every decisions, every sacrifices - is worth it.

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Wassalam
Diary @ ~~6/30/2009 03:52:00 AM;~~

Saturday, June 27, 2009

Let's just talk about one hot topic now.

Yes. Let's just go through some parts of his major life events.
Not really specific but just a rough one.

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Jackson 5. that's when he was still a little boy.
All the way up till his adulthood, he become a Pop Star Icon.
A major influence to many.
Then his skin colour changed.
He was charged for paedophile cases.
He turned to Islam and became a Muslim.
He wanted to make a comeback.
But he died at the age of 50.

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I'm not defending Michael Jackson because he's a Muslim.
But let me put into logical sense that I hope I could change your "bad" thinking about him.

He was ill-treated when he was little.
He said once that he'll never to treat his child, or any others to be ill-treated.
Only a slight devotion to kids, and there goes.
News Report : Michael Jackson, Paedophile of the New Age.

His skin became white all of a sudden.
Many said he went to plastic surgery, because others believed that he means white is domiant over blacks.
Some on the other hand, said he was badly sick.
His skin slowly turned white.
He was nausea and dizzy at most of the time.
News Report : Michael Jackson, the White Dominates and the Black.... Sucks?

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News can be a dangerous and produce fake informations about life events.
Misleading you like a confused person.
It's you that can make yourself clearer by doing some cross-referencing in the net.
And believe what is true to you.

We were once kids.
Surely, kids are easily prone to a certain trauma, phobia that leads to their adult life.
Michael Jackson is one good example.
He was suffered as a kid because of his parents.
He developed a trauma that if he had kids, he'll treat them nicely.
No doubt he will treat other kids likewise.

Just take me for an example.
My brother wasn't a good brother to me when I was little.
Slowly, I started to yearn for a "brother" out there to love me.
Or find a younger "brother" so that I could prove that I could be a better brother than he is.

This kind of trauma, phobia, etc is hard to kick away.
Especially when you are a kid, and you let this tumour grow.

If a kid was taught that money can buy everything in the world.
When he grow up, he can use money to bribe people, use money to do evil deeds and so on.

Everything is linked to common sense.
I believe most of you will believe in what i'm trying to say.

Personality is also nurtured from young.
But one thing is for sure.

We are born with a kind heart.

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People just accepts what the news is trying to potray, EASILY.
People also tend to generally ASSUME.
And in the end, they just accept what looks easy to them without much thoughts.

I'll always try to be in a neutral party.
I won't deny any possibility that is logical.
So I try not to jump to conclusion whenever I could.

But sadly, people are doing the opposite of what i'm trying to do.

I feel sad for my used-to-be best friend.
He rejoiced over Michael Jackson's death because there's one less paedophile in the world.
I just feel.... a sadness from him.

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When someone dies, let all the BAD be buried/burnt together with him.
And let all the GOOD live within our hearts.

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To my once dear Best Friend... if you're reading...

When you start to humiliate others, you'll lose part of your humanity.
And when you sink in deeper, you'll be inhuman.

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Assalamualaikum.
Peace to everyone.
Peace to Michael Jackson - RIP.

Labels: Humanity, Michael Jackson (RIP)

Diary @ ~~6/27/2009 03:01:00 AM;~~